SEX

[yeayea]

Not that I did an in-depth seach...I tried to at least twice, and it didn't work. Excuse me if there is...ehem...but you people seem to shy away from sex-talk. WTF?

SO...here goes some questions I'm expecting answers to:

1. How often?

2. Biggest turn-ons?

3. Biggest tun-offs?

4. What kind?

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?

8. What does it mean to you?

9. Are you promiscuous?

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?


That's enough for now I think.

 

[Melkor]

Well..I always had this little fantasy...


about me....

and you...


and a tent in the mountains...


but I don't wan to talk about it....

 

[Fukyo]

You do realize that some people aren't interested in talking about the subject.

 

[yeayea]

Pa sta da ti kazem?? Ako neces da odgovoris...onda neogovoraj.

 

[Fukyo]

Stvar je u tome,sto vecina ovde nece hteti da deli licne stvari,sta da ti kazem...takvi smo.

 

[loveofreason]

yeayea.... this is an INTP forum... I don't quite know how to tell you...

we're all virgins...

 

[Seducer of the Homeless]

I will answer ones i can and am willing to....

2. Biggest turn-ons?............Inteligence.................. right right,
pretty face, any physical body in the range of 'fuckable', but pretty face

3. Biggest tun-offs? ugly face, overly pale skin, *stupidity, harlotry*

 

[chocolate]

You do realize that some people aren't interested in talking about the subject.

It's not something I'm going to talk about in the way that you've put it. I don't mind if other people talk about it, but I'm not going to read this thread either anymore, especially because I don't want to see myself in the turnoffs. e.g. I have pretty pale skin (it's winter 8 months of the year here and I don't do fake tans) so what's so great about knowing that turns people off! (no offense to whoever posted it, of course that's your taste and you're entitled to it!)

 

[flow]

I was promiscuous my first 2 years of college...but I no longer have the energy to engage in one-night stands...and a serious relationship is beyond complex, so I'll worry about that later in life.

 

[Ghost1986]

1. How often?

i have a very high sex drive

2. Biggest turn-ons?

physical domination but not BDSM

3. Biggest tun-offs?

piss, puke, skat

4. What kind?

of what?

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

still have the curse

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

huh?

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?

da?

8. What does it mean to you?

physical pleasure.

9. Are you promiscuous?

most likely will be.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?

get laid.


there happy

 

[FF]

Not that I did an in-depth seach...I tried to at least twice, and it didn't work. Excuse me if there is...ehem...but you people seem to shy away from sex-talk. WTF?

SO...here goes some questions I'm expecting answers to:

1. How often?

2. Biggest turn-ons?

3. Biggest tun-offs?

4. What kind?

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?

8. What does it mean to you?

9. Are you promiscuous?

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?


That's enough for now I think.

I can't answer any of these questions. Neither have I had, nor have I cared to have sex. It's just...dumb.

Unless you know for sure that your significant other is yours permanently. And I've met a lot of assholes who I didn't even want to speak to the next day, so...

btw stds? no thx.

 

[Dissident]

It's just...dumb.

Unless you know for sure that your significant other is yours permanently.

Why?

 

[FF]

Why?

1) I don't want to be viewed as a whore.

2) It has no meaning. I will never allow myself to be used. If I have sex with anyone, that guy has to be MINE. I would never have sex with anyone I suspected was cheating on me...

3) ...because that usually leads to STDs.

4) And sex shouldn't be someone's number one priority. Their studies and work should be.

 

[FacetiousPersona]

1) I don't want to be viewed as a whore.

2) It has no meaning. I will never allow myself to be used. If I have sex with anyone, that guy has to be MINE. I would never have sex with anyone I suspected was cheating on me...

3) ...because that usually leads to STDs.

4) And sex shouldn't be someone's number one priority. Their studies and work should be.

I respect you for being modest.

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

Sexual interest waxes and wanes. Especially for INTPs I suspect. In the past 24 years since my first time, I've gone through periods where I've had lots and times where I've gone more than two years without. I don't think INTPs consider it all that important. Not like other types. It's okay though.

 

[FacetiousPersona]

I feel uncomfortable discussing sex due to personal reasons. No one's receiving any information regarding my sex life.

 

[yeayea]

Oh man...this IS a lot harder that I imagined.

Thanks for those who input at least a little.

edit: Actually, all the imput is informative in one way or another.

 

[mm1991]

I'm a virgin, so this doesn't really apply to me.

But I echo FastFashion, I'll be interested in sex the day I get married.
Until then, my sex life is null and void. What's the point?

 

[Artifice Orisit]

Wow, hard hitting questions, uncomfortable ones too.

5. What age did you lose your virginity?
I'm 18, still haven't... well technically, very technically... what counts exactly?

8. What does it mean to you?
Aspects of trust are of course involved.
Without contraception I would agree with FastFashion.
With contraception, it's a means of pleasure to be shared.

9. Are you promiscuous?
Do I have male urges, of course.
But everyone just assumes I'm the "safe" guy, the "brotherly" guy, the nice guy.
I hate this.

 

[fullerene]

*cryptonia suspects ulterior motives from the ESTP who said she's trying to learn about INTPs because of a guy she likes

I don't mind answering, but I'd throw off your investigation quite badly. I've never known another guy like me, so you definitely wouldn't want to use my answers as little windows into your INTP's psyche.

 

[yeayea]

What kind of ulterior motives?

I ask these because...I basically asked him somewhat of the same...and he basically answered with a "meh". It wasn't a blow off, just like he didn't place too much into having specific turn ons, or things he liked. Basically straight up sex. Which is fine, and by all means refreshing.

I just wanna see if there's a general consensus out there amongst ur types, of things you (guys) like. I just wanna rock his world.

 

[echoplex]

1. How often?
Never have.

2. Biggest turn-ons?
Intelligence, consideration for others, humor, childlike curiosity, willingness to debate, and a nice ass.

3. Biggest tun-offs?
Penises.

4. What kind?
Any of them. Wait, what are you asking? 42? Imaginary orgies? Bah!

5. What age did you lose your virginity?
62,117.2

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?
Breathing, being very horny.

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?
Breathing, being very horny, dying.

8. What does it mean to you?
Nothing....and everything.

9. Are you promiscuous?
No, but I refuse to commit to any one hobby. Does that count?

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?
Worldwide food fight!

 

[Artifice Orisit]

You want us to give you ideas?
Dominatrix! With plenty of torture equipment and... a gimp suit!

Of course I'm not being serious, but hey try it if you want to.

 

[didyouknow]

I ask these because...I basically asked him somewhat of the same...and he basically answered with a "meh". It wasn't a blow off, just like he didn't place too much into having specific turn ons, or things he liked. Basically straight up sex. Which is fine, and by all means refreshing.

I just wanna see if there's a general consensus out there amongst ur types, of things you (guys) like. I just wanna rock his world.

YOU JUST MADE MY DAY. (Or wasn't that meant to be funny??)

I'd have to agree with him, 'basically straight up sex' sounds pretty good to me.

To answer your questions:

1. How often?

Virgin

2. Biggest turn-on's?

Intelligence, Honesty, Humor. Physically I have an inclination to like guys with longer hair than average *shrugs* I'm not picky. Also I'm inclined to at least a little tan, really dark skin is cool too.

3. Biggest turn-offs?

Stupidity. Violence. Immaturity. Physically I can't handle really super-skinny people... freaks me out.

4. What kind?

Ventilated. Wait... what?

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

Virgin, again.

For most INTPs, this should have been the first question. Me? I think if you're at the stage in your relationship where both of you are prepared to be married (but not necessarily have to actually get married) then you can have sex.

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendencies?

*runs away*

7. Post-sex behaviours/tendencies?

Strenuous activites often involve a long nap afterwards.

8. What does it mean to you?

It should be saved for later on in the relationship when you already have a strong emotional and spiritual connection. A purely physical relationship is bound to fail. It means a stronger relationship and I'm pretty sure I read somewhere married people that have sex more often are more likely to have a happy marriage

9. Are you promiscuous?

Does 'promiscuous' mean avoiding ever having the possibility of it looking like I was attracted to someone of the opposite sex? No? Then no.

10. Something you've always wanted to try... but never had the balls to be up front about it?

Memories of Dr.Noddy's clinic!! Help!!

*flees!!*

 

[Melkor]

Hrm....my conclusion...


This lady should quit while she's ahead.


If you have to ask, then you'll proabbly bore any Intp to hell...


No wait..

ons econds thoughts, there can never be too many intp's in hell!

 

[mopo1]

Ooh i went fine til 33 as virgin until i found a wife and now i m happily married. And she was 29 and virgin a perfect couple we are.

 

[Ogion]

Sorry yeayea, but you won't hear something new from me either.
I'm 22 and also am a virgin.
Of course, being male, i have my fantasies, and i do notice beautiful women on the street, but i don't see that as a reason to "go out and search for sex". I can't imagine myself doing that. A friend of mine (some ESTJ probably, although i dunno exactly) sometimes calls me "asexual" and sees it as an insult, and also from time to time he, jokingly, tries to convince me to visit a brothel some day. For me that would be totally senseless. I mean, sure i want to have it some day, but definitely not just for the sake of having sex.
Which leads to the other thing. I also never had an intimite relationship yet. Same principle though. I don't want a relationship just for the sake of having one. So "go out and search for a girl for a relationship" is not my priority either. I can only imagine myself getting into one in principle when knowing the girl already for some time, letting it grow nearer and nearer.

So, sorry to not have advice closer to your mission goal, but that's it

Ogion

 

[yeayea]

Thanks lots again...ya'll seem to have a simliar outlook (including to my INTP). I guess understanding the reasons/outlooks is more important really than the questions I posted.

I mean no harm obviously...it was just blunt. (as per)

 

[FF]

You want us to give you ideas?
Dominatrix! With plenty of torture equipment etc etc etc

OHH GOD THAT WOULD BE SO MUCH FUN.

 

[yeayea]

Some have mentioned tanned skin as a turn on (I assume since paleness has been mentioned as a turn off...NOT THAT ITS BAD, it's just what I'm taking from the forum...simmer!)​

With that being said...I think my INTP has a similar like (since seemingly I believe he has an affinity for more exotic women than anything) yet he rags on me for going tanning (fake-n-bake). WTF?? ​

I get the health reasons behind it...but whatever...everything's unhealthy now-a-days. ​

Just sayin'....as a GENERAL observation, people tend to (particularly men) oggle, post picutres on walls, check out, get excited, etc etc ETC all these air-brushed, fake-parts, surgeried up, this and that women in magazines, or super hot high-maintenance chicks. The majority of the same people who are guilty of this, bitch about chicks who are "high-maintenance" or put time and effort to look a particular way. Really...on that point, why is it so? I'd like to know, because out of these two which would you rather date/bone? Be honest...​

Lets use a celebrity for analysis because googling and using random non-public figures could potentially bring up some issues (highly unlikely..just don't wanna deal with it in case it does) .​

How about this "pretty woman" in real life and images (however, her "pro" photo isn't THAT highly unattainable in real life. It's reasonably low in make-up and what not (in comparison to most) I think you get my effing point.​

 

[Ghost1986]

i was never aware she was a good looking woman. being on here is not going to get you the info you want. sex is a simple personal opinion. i hate being a virgin. other people have no problem with it. i like rape porn (sexual orientation is irrelevant) but most people dont. once i start bedding women, i will most likely go after men too. most people wont. its all personal preference.

 

[yeayea]

i was never aware she was a good looking woman.

That is not the point im trying to get across here. Perhaps if you read the post as literal more than interpretational you'd get what I was saying Ghost.

 

[mopo1]

Ha ha if id posted this that i was virgin until 33 o n an ES forum i would have raised a ruckus that would have rocked heaven.

 

[yeayea]

It is a little WTF...but to each their own. I personally think it's important to be sexsually compatible. I NEED to know, sex is going to be great, at least good to the minimum, before I would even consider marriage. (I have an anti-marriage view as it is, due to the new social-norm/fashion called divorce). IT IS a huge part of a relationship, and I if I could every day...you know it!

 

[truthseeker72]

A few observations:

1) I certainly do not want do date a "high-maintenance" woman, and I imagine most INTP men share my opinion. Sure, we appreciate a naturally beautiful woman, but not someone who spends over an hour in front of the mirror;

2) I never considered Julia Roberts attractive either;

3) When I mean "high-maintenance," I'm excluding exercising and dietary habits, since I'm pretty particular about those two things myself; and

4) even though I have an olive complexion, and enjoy tanning myself, I actually am drawn more to fairer-skinned, light-eyed women. I think this preference varies with each individual.

 

[QSR]

I want it all--I like dark skin, but I think tanning is dumb (and unhealthy), and I like real boobs but think fake ones just look like balloons. I'm actually not that picky about most things, but I'm more drawn to faces than bodies.

I guess I never considered that personality type has much to do with sexual desire. I think it makes a big difference when it comes to your ability to find a mate. I should go check out some of the extraverted forums to see what their sex lives are like. I think for the most part, women get to have whatever sex life they choose. Men have a lot more challenges. (Yes I know women have different challenges.)

For me, a regular relationship would be fine, but marriage has limited appeal. I really don't like limiting my options.

 

[yeayea]

I like real boobs but think fake ones just look like balloons. .

Saggy real-titties or perky fake ones??? AHHAHA

 

[Ogion]

Yeayea: Maybe i am not the right one to answer this, but one thing in that question you had could be this: Men like to "ogle" at pictures that are highly aimed at that purpose (like from a professional photograph, in a photo-shooting, with photoshopping afterwards...) because they know that only watching these images cost them nothing. Yet in terms of their actual girlfriend priorities change and then the priority of staring at a made up face is just not high enough.

Ogion

 

[yeayea]

because they know that only watching these images cost them nothing. Yet in terms of their actual girlfriend priorities change and then the priority of staring at a made up face is just not high enough.

Ogion

In what way do you mean? I don't want to assume...but I will anyways. My perspective of that is: it leaves them to have to try as well? (in terms of aesthetics)

Maybe I'm just shallow, but I do put effort into the way I look, by means of (fairly) healthy eating, working out, hair/make up, tanning etc. etc. So yes, I do spend an hr in the mirror every morning. It's really not about insecurity, it's about my personal taste for aesthetics. It makes me look better, it makes me (more importantly) feel better, and I know I have an upper hand when out and about in society. I like to be overall presentable. I don't look like Mimi off of the Drew Cary Show...just eyeliner and that sorta thing. I consider it to be a lot of make up, most people don't because it suits me. See what I'm sayin'?

 

[Ogion]

Well, nothing against you wanting to do that.
There are just different kinds of attraction and appreciation a man has towards a woman.
There is the ogling-part, which is just plain "attractive, compatible for reproduction"-instinct of the male brain. But that has noo 'meaning' in psychological terms.
But when psychological impotance comes to it (like in a girlfriend) then other things than these instincts come to importance and these instincts loose importance.

Ogion

 

[Sugarpop]

The by far best way of getting information about him, would be to get it from him. You might see some similarities between us, but you're bound to see many differences too.

The first thing that struck me about this thread, is that you ask for a lot of highly personal information from us without surrendering some of your own first. Many INTPs have issues with trust and, as an extrovert, you might not fully understand that.

Make it a two way street in a friendly city - don't rush the traffic.

 

[Artifice Orisit]

OHH GOD THAT WOULD BE SO MUCH FUN.

... Every now and then my attempts to mess with people backfire,
Congratulations FF, you shocked me.

Physical attraction and emotional attraction are different things in the male mind, but they both provide influence,

 

[Kuu]

Some have mentioned tanned skin as a turn on (I assume since paleness has been mentioned as a turn off...NOT THAT ITS BAD, it's just what I'm taking from the forum...simmer!)​

With that being said...I think my INTP has a similar like (since seemingly I believe he has an affinity for more exotic women than anything) yet he rags on me for going tanning (fake-n-bake). WTF?? ​

I get the health reasons behind it...but whatever...everything's unhealthy now-a-days. ​

It's a matter of authenticity. I like many kinds of women, both in the physical and the personality sense. But I dislike them trying to pretend or to become something they're not. I like them specifically for who they are, their individual uniqueness, and if they change that... (of course there is the extremely rare exception of liking someone precisely because of their inherent mutability...)

Just sayin'....as a GENERAL observation, people tend to (particularly men) oggle, post picutres on walls, check out, get excited, etc etc ETC all these air-brushed, fake-parts, surgeried up, this and that women in magazines, or super hot high-maintenance chicks. The majority of the same people who are guilty of this, bitch about chicks who are "high-maintenance" or put time and effort to look a particular way. Really...on that point, why is it so? I'd like to know, because out of these two which would you rather date/bone? Be honest...​

Dating and sex are completely different things. If I were looking for a one night stand, sure, I'd try to look for the most physically attractive girl I could find. But if I'm looking for a serious, lasting relationship, I would most certainly hold much lower aesthetic standards in favor of more relevant aspects such as personality compatibility, mutual understanding, individuality, intelligence, inquisitive mind, reliability, honesty... and high-maintenance girls usually don't fare well on any of those departments...

 

[Oblivious]

I probably am a very strange person. However, I find violent, angry and bitter women very attractive. Of course this is likable to a factor multiplied to their physical attractiveness. I actually have a song on my psp which includes a woman furiously scolding another woman using harsh words and various expletives. And I thoroughly enjoy it.

YouTube- [IOSYS] Border of Extacy SUBBED

Long version: YouTube- ã€ã‚¨ãƒ­æ³¨æ„】 ボーダー オブ エクスタシー ã€å‹•ç”» Full Ver】

(Long version has important parts the short version does not)

 

[cheese]

^

 

[truthseeker72]

I probably am a very strange person. However, I find violent, angry and bitter women very attractive. Of course this is likable to a factor multiplied to their physical attractiveness. I actually have a song on my psp which includes a woman furiously scolding another woman using harsh words and various expletives. And I thoroughly enjoy it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fHindeuNmYg&fmt=18

Long version: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W-cy5LUYzq4&feature=related

(Long version has important parts the short version does not)

Women like that provide short-term entertainment, but are absolutely hellish to live with.

BTW, I like the avatar.

 

[FF]

Congratulations FF, you shocked me.

I'm sorry, it's a fetish I can't deny I have

Not like I would actually do something like that though...but you never know

 

[Artifice Orisit]

No need to apologise, we're all open minded here,
Just stay at least 6ft away at all times

 

[dwags222]

i'm just going to go ahead and be an ass-hole because i think it will be better for you in the long run, but i'm pretty positive this relationship just isn't going to work out and so i wouldn't get your hopes up too high.

 

[naberus]

yeayea.... this is an INTP forum... I don't quite know how to tell you...

we're all virgins...

She has a point you know, this applies to all us reident INTJs as well.