SEX

[Dominguez]

I'm still a virgin myself but came very close to losing it while I was in high school when I had my first "serious" girlfriend. She was the one who pursued me-albeit I didn't understand why she was so fond of me-but I went along with it. Of course it wasn't a deep relationship but it got very sexual very quickly. Very promiscuous girl she was.

Everytime we were alone we would be all over eachother and I would make extensive use of my fingers....but never further than that. I just wasn't ready for sex yet, given I was a lil self conscious about body image issues...I know

Now that its 5+ years in the past I regret I didn't lose it with her. We were only together for ~9 months until she moved to another state. I guess the physical bond/opportunity to explore that I had with her was so great that I was willing to wait for her til she finished high school. We had a long distance relationship for at least a year. I was madly in love with her. lol i shouldn't have been so disillusioned knowing she was a promiscuous girl so we stopped talking after a while, but she did tell me one gripe about our relationship...she said I wasn't aggressive enough, basically saying I didn't go for sex right away like she did.

I'm 20yo now and find myself being turned off by the sex-first approach by the opposite sex and I don't wanna get that close to someone unless I've truly felt a compatibility with them. Once they pass that "stage" in my head/heart, then I become wildly attracted to them. What I'm finding now, though, is in my time to intuitively feel something for them I haven't given them any real signs of interest and I think that's causing them to withdraw. My perspective on that is I wouldn't have even kept this up or we wouldn't talk the way we do if I weren't interested...I know this fact for myself because the last girl who did the sex-first thing was always yelling at me for not calling her and standing her up. While the prospect of sex was exciting and gave me a lot to fantasize, our connection was lacking, so the prospect stopped looking so good.

Now that I've found a woman I share a GREAT compatibility and attraction to, I feel like she might not be that interested in me. I would like to give her some physical signs that I like her but I haven't had an opportunity to have that type of conversation with her over the phone. Added to the fact I hate trying to verbally express myself, I'd rather do it in person but god knows whens the next time I'm gonna see her.

Geez I've been so used to women approaching me but those have been the women I don't really want. Apparently I'm gonna have to suck it up and go after this one...which I'm willing to do...once I can get her on the phone!!

 

[FF]

No need to apologise, we're all open minded here,
Just stay at least 6ft away at all times

Don't worry, I don't bite

 

[yeayea]

i'm just going to go ahead and be an ass-hole because i think it will be better for you in the long run, but i'm pretty positive this relationship just isn't going to work out and so i wouldn't get your hopes up too high.

Why so positive that it wouldn't work?

My hopes aren't as high as it might come off on here.

 

[Artifice Orisit]

I suppose most if not all INTPs & INTJs have natural practices that prevent us for encountering the normal oppertunites for sexual relationships. To put it simply we are all introvets who scatch our social itch via our computers; like on this forum for example.

I'm sure any of use could go through the nessecary steps to have a one night stand or something.
-Clean up
-Dress up
-Get a haircut
-Go to a bar, club, some place
-Socialise
-Find a partner
-Take them home, hotel, some place
-Socialise further
But frankly being a little horny just isn't the motivation nessecary to do all this.
Also we have integrity, one night stands arn't supposed to be planned.

Dammit FF don't flirt with me; thats just not acceptable here.
Also, what's wrong with bitting?

 

[mopo1]

Ooh i went fine til 33 as virgin until i found a wife and now i m happily married. And she was 29 and virgin a perfect couple we are.

And by the way she is most probably an INFJ or ISFJ Havent quite made it right yet requires more observation.
She has little of both.

 

[Melkor]

Don't worry, I don't bite

This, is false.



Ha....

This topic's still alive?

Hrm...


Very sad...very sad indeed..

oh no not the material, just the things it suggests...

 

[FF]

This, is false.

Correction:

I don't bite. Unless you happen to be Melkor.

*NOM NOM NOM*

And now Melkor is a uniped.

 

[FF]

Dammit FF don't flirt with me; thats just not acceptable here.

Maybe I should post that I do that rather frequently in the Un-INTPness thread...

Yeah.

 

[paradoxfromthebay]

I'm new to this forum, and knowing my own social tendencies I'm not entirely surprised there are so many virgins on here. Overly intellectual but socially inept people have a hard time getting laid, and thus probably don't have as much experience.

I have slept with 18 women, but I still feel like a loner. Most of the women that I've been with were overweight, some of them have been unattractive (two of them were really pretty), and all of them had low self confidence. I tend to end up with these type of women because I myself don't have high self confidence, and they make it easier. Sexual selection is dependent on social status and "survival and replication value". I'm not perfect, but good looking enough to get better women than I do.

Most of my relationships have been brief, primarily due to the fact that an INTP has little tolerance for intellectual inferiority. I'm not saying this to sound cocky, but if you're dating an INTP man, he's probably brilliant in his own way, and I hope you are too in order to maintain his interest in conversation. No matter how you look, it's ultimately your mind and personality that will win a long term relationship with an INTP (or at least me).

INTP's have a hard time trusting people. I don't trust women easily. If I am sexually intimate with a woman, I feel like I can open up and be myself. I can be a very good lover once we've crossed the barrier of intimacy, but before that I have a hard time expressing healthy interest or emotional warmth. There are plenty of women who are interested in me at first, but I always get too deep or intense conversationally. Even when I am in a position to get together sexually with a woman, it often doesn't happen, because I have a hard time making the first move unless I'm drunk. Etc..etc.etc...

In my attempt to figure out why I get labeled in the "just friends" category, I eventually happened upon the mystery method and other seduction techniques. Some people on this site may object morally, but learning to master the mating process is part of the INTP analysis of universal patterns and systems. Application comes slow, but I would recommend studying this material for INTP's who are still virgins and don't want to be. Also read "The Lucifer Principle" by Howard Bloom for a page turning expose on the natural genetic origins of human evil and sexual selection.

As for you, yeayea... I would imagine individual turn ons and turn offs vary greatly between different INTP's. As men, we were genetically built to play the dominant role in relationships, but changing gender politics in society and natural INTP introversion makes me unable to act dominant or powerful enough in real life. As a result, I have fantasies of being dominant (although not kinky BDSM in my case). I'm also attracted to younger women (again, being in control and for their innocence / purity), older women (for their nurturing qualities) and other things (all legal) which I will not get into too much detail about, as this IS a public forum.

My short list of suggestions would be to treat him like a king, make him feel appreciated as a man and be interesting and intelligent yourself.

 

[Beat Mango]

I don't mind talking about it except I don't really have that much to say about it. My experiences seem pretty INTP typical:

1. How often?
Don't care, really. Can easily go long periods without it bothering me. At the moment is a year and a half. I won't do it for its own sake, I have to have a connection with the chica.

2. Biggest turn-ons?
I think this will be fairly INTP typical: I like to be desired. If a girl sees me the way I see myself (genius, rockstar etc) and is turned on by it, enough to be submissive towards me, then that's big. Usually they have to have some intelligence for this to happen. I love a chick who is feminine, sexual but not promiscuous and kind of shy but talkative. Physically, I have pretty typical male tastes. I like brunettes and chicks with glasses.

3. Biggest turn-offs?
Skanks. Dumbasses. Feminists.

4. What kind?
Well in my mind it's usually spontaneous, unplanned, unrestrained animalistic passion, etc.

5. What age did you lose your virginity?
23

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?
Don't know

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?
Don't know, probably sleep

8. What does it mean to you?
In itself, very little. It has symbolic importance though, it shows that I am desired and it deepens the connection with someone

9. Are you promiscuous?
No, couldn't be if I tried probably.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?
Nothing

EDIT: and Yea, you should have posted your own answers ffs (typical extrovert - no mindfulness)

 

[lindsayo09]

sorry i do that but that is between me and my boyfriend i never talk about that to anyone on any kind of thread....

you must really be a loser if you are talking about this or a virgine who hasn't had any fun yet

 

[Jennywocky]

Here, I'll be daring.

1. How often?
Have gone through periods where I had none due to lack of opportunity and did okay. Based on my behavior when I've had the opportunity, I think 2-3x week would be probably my preference.

2. Biggest turn-ons?
Intelligence, imagination, kindness, perception, artsy, sense of humor, open-mindedness, initiating, brave/committed, humility, spiritual/deeper reality sense, someone who delights in me and who I feel safe around... I like guys who are similar body size or bigger, as far as the physical goes. No one is all these things, but the more the better.

3. Biggest tun-offs?
Close-mindedness, smells bad, stupid, no sense of humor, no imagination, stiff/straight-laced, timid, non-committal, deceptive, controlling, mean, braggart. Anyone one of these things could end up being a deal-breaker if they suck at the good stuff too.

4. What kind?
Het sex, but pretty much anything goes -- I like to explore and experiment. (I can get into mild sub/dom, I'm a sub and I like being held down, but not much into the pain thing as a focus.) Still, I just like to feel the weight of someone on me.

5. What age did you lose your virginity?
19

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendencies?
Flirty, play, banter, light-touching (all very very presex). Then I like a lot of kissing and touching, lots of body contact even with clothes on. Then it goes from there. = I'm imaginative, I like to play and hint at things, i like to try things and see what effect they have, and I like to immerse myself in the experience ... so that drives everything.

7. Post sex behaviours/tendencies?
Cuddle, kiss, stay close under the sheets, body warmth is good.

8. What does it mean to you?
Sex? It feels good; it's a chance to stop THINKING all the time and just be in my body and feel things and respond to sensation; it's a creative time with someone I love; it helps me feel validated as a woman and feel desirable, although it's not the only way I do that.

9. Are you promiscuous?
Not really. I can be tempted to do something just because it's a unique opportunity, I'm an experimenter... but I'm also not stupid, I'm aware of risks, and I like sex better if it is with someone I really care about and who I know loves me.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?

Geez. Do I need balls now?
I dunno.

- Sex in an elevator.
- Sex in a moving vehicle.
- Sex while people are watching through a one-way mirror.
- Sex in a church.

You'll just have to wonder if other things are not on my list because I'm not interested in them or because I've already done them.

 

[Carnap]

Edit : I had to erase that, I can't share this info, I'll get yelled at ! And it is shamefully personal, and I don't like to identify myself with those of you who seem to take sex so lightly and live in fantasy world.

 

[Jennywocky]

Edit : I had to erase that, I can't share this info, I'll get yelled at ! And it is shamefully personal, and I don't like to identify myself with those of you who seem to take sex so lightly and live in fantasy world.

...probably for the best.

 

[Yozuki]

1. How often?
I'm known to stand back and stare a bit, then rub my hands on her body before getting to work. I'd say it's about once a week at the moment. This should change in the future as the newness factor wears off.

2. Biggest turn-ons?
Turning the key in the ignition, body kits, pumping the clutch, body kits, backhanding the stickshift, body kits, yanking the parking brake, body kits

3. Biggest tun-offs?
Euro cars, junkers, cars with excessively high mileage, nasty looking engine bays, spinner rims

4. What kind?
Japanese rice burner, American muscle, Euro exotic, in that order.

5. What age did you lose your virginity?
I owned my first car at 24.

6. Pre-sex behaviours
Lusting after a sports car, hanging around Integra owners, gawking at Hondas.

7. Post sex behaviours/tendencies?
Hot waxing, engine revving

8. What does it mean to you?
She's a beatiful woman

9. Are you promiscuous?
I still lust after other cars

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?
Drifting

 

[Insanity]

You're a car guy too, eh? What do you drive? I love my ride, constantly modifying it and also want to get into drifting.

 

[Yozuki]

You're a car guy too, eh? What do you drive? I love my ride, constantly modifying it and also want to get into drifting.

I drive Chrstine, a 1991 MR2.
http://gallery.yozukidrive.com/albums/me/mr2/momo.jpg

 

[RobertJ]

There are plenty of women who are interested in me at first, but I always get too deep or intense conversationally.

Good post.
I find this part to be especially true for me, because when I'm trying to find out how I feel about a girl I will always try to explore her psychologically. I'll get the ball rolling on a conversation or debate and I will get more intense in the discussion... then she'll eventually say something like, "this is depressing me".
Then my interest has gone out the window.

 

[Anticitizen]

I think there's some misinterpretation to the 'biggest turn on/off' questions. Some people are answering as if the question is about what attracts you to the opposite sex. Given the title of the thread and the nature of the OP's question, I get the feeling that the intent was to ask 'what is your biggest turn on... in bed."

 

[FacetiousPersona]

I think there's some misinterpretation to the 'biggest turn on/off' questions. Some people are answering as if the question is about what attracts you to the opposite sex. Given the title of the thread and the nature of the OP's question, I get the feeling that the intent was to ask 'what is your biggest turn on... in bed."

It's their INTP nature. Leave the emotional 5 year olds alone.

 

[Carnap]

It's their INTP nature. Leave the emotional 5 year olds alone.

What? Me, emotionally retarded???

 

[echoplex]

I think there's some misinterpretation to the 'biggest turn on/off' questions. Some people are answering as if the question is about what attracts you to the opposite sex. Given the title of the thread and the nature of the OP's question, I get the feeling that the intent was to ask 'what is your biggest turn on... in bed."

The answer might be the same though. After all, I'd prefer my partner take their intelligence and sense of humor with them to the bedroom too. Their inhibitions, not so much...

Of course, I'm an emotional 5 year-old. I will be starting emotional kindergarten later this year.

 

[Insanity]

I drive Chrstine, a 1991 MR2.
http://gallery.yozukidrive.com/albums/me/mr2/momo.jpg

Cool ride, like the red/white theme. I drive a 05 350Z, been modifying it since day 1. Nothing is more fun than working on my car.

http://memimage.cardomain.com/ride_images/2/3264/1841/20658420072_large.jpg

 

[FacetiousPersona]

I'm physically, intellectually, and emotionally retarded. God help me!

 

[Jennywocky]

<crazy code deleted>

I'm physically, intellectually, and emotionally retarded. God help me!

Aw, it can't be THAT bad.

(at least you spelled "retarded" right)

 

[Legionnaire]

1. How often? Well depends if I'm with anyone. Usually whenever they come over.
2. Biggest turn-ons? If your actually interested in "doing" it with me, I'm already turned on. Just the slightest reference to sex or what your wearing, makes me turned on.
3. Biggest tun-offs? Red lip-stick or too much make-up to the point where they look like a clown, I hate clowns.
4. What kind? Almost anything as long as it doesn't involve blood, eating feces, or going up my rear.
5. What age did you lose your virginity? 12, was not raped.
6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?
Lets get a move on.
7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?
I guess casual.
8. What does it mean to you?
Well my body is just but a vessel for my brain, which is my true self. But since it signals to my brain that sex is pleasureable, I'm all for it.
9. Are you promiscuous?
I can be, but prefer not to. I'd rather have my focus set to one thing.
10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it? Well I have the balls to but I've never been given the chance to. I wouldn't mind "doing" it with a shemale. They are beautiful creatures, as if me a satyr talking bout a nymph.

 

[Legionnaire]

1. How often? Well depends if I'm with anyone. Usually whenever they come over.
2. Biggest turn-ons? If your actually interested in "doing" it with me, I'm already turned on. Just the slightest reference to sex or what your wearing, makes me turned on.
3. Biggest tun-offs? Red lip-stick or too much make-up to the point where they look like a clown, I hate clowns.
4. What kind? Almost anything as long as it doesn't involve blood, eating feces, or going up my rear.
5. What age did you lose your virginity? 12, was not raped.
6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?
Lets get a move on.
7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?
I guess casual.
8. What does it mean to you?
Well my body is just but a vessel for my brain, which is my true self. But since it signals to my brain that sex is pleasureable, I'm all for it.
9. Are you promiscuous?
I can be, but prefer not to. I'd rather have my focus set to one thing.
10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it? Well I have the balls to but I've never been given the chance to. I wouldn't mind "doing" it with a shemale. They are beautiful creatures, as if me a satyr talking bout a nymph.

Obviously no one got the joke reference for #5.
YouTube- Virginity - Red Dwarf - BBC comedy

I lied actually bout most of the things listed or if you will was being sarcastic. Only #2 & 3 are mostly true. I have yet to lose my "virginity". I'll probably end up being like that guy in that movie "42 year old virgin". #4, just casual, please nothing kinky. As for #10, don't get me wrong sometimes you can't tell between genders but if I were given the chance, I'd prefer a real woman to half and half.

 

[pussinboots]

i'm not at all bothered about talking about sex, in fact, i enjoy it a lot.....from jokes, puns and double entendres to discussing quite seriously the issues pertinent today (porn, ED etc). i respect that not all peeps may be comfortable with my disclosure and i would never urge somebody to share if they aren't inclined to, but personally, i find it a compelling and revealing topic and if my attitude to it can aid others in some way - all the more better.

SO...here goes some questions I'm expecting answers to:

1. How often?

roughly about twice a day.

2. Biggest turn-ons?

being desired, intelligence, playfulness, courage, connecting with my lover, dress-ups (nurse, sexy showgirl lingerie, patent leather stilettos), power play, light bdsm (japanese bondage, spanking, rough play, blindfolds and binds), sensual massage and erotic play (honey dust and feather applicator, massage oil candles, japanese wax bondage candles, edible lotions and potions), al fresco, exploring beyond our boundaries together with my partner in a safe and dignified space.

3. Biggest turn-offs?

i'm pretty open-minded and am up for trying most things once, most things may be enjoyed if open to in the appropriate context, but skat is definitely a turn-off.

4. What kind?

most kinds.........i like my sexual repertoire to consist of about 80% loving, connecting 'sex' and the remaining 20% to be devoted to kink.

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

19, but i held out since i was about 16 as i read somewhere that cervical cells didn't mature till 19....i dunno, nerdy i know, but i'm glad i waited.

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

an hour-long wrestle with kisses/intellectual volleying between me and my lover/loads of eye contact and non-verbal communication suggesting.......

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?

afterglow from the petit mort and a loving, emotional exchange with my darling/respite for a brief period/spooning/absolute and utter contentment.

8. What does it mean to you?

it can mean many things to me but first and foremost - it is a chance for me to express my feelings to the person i love....i'm fascinated with the role oxytoxin plays in sex/orgasm and i'd rather commit my time to sharing such intimacy in an environment that will allow our union to flourish and strengthen. of course, i indulge in solo acts too and that's quite ok - as to be in touch with yourself allows you to become acquainted with your needs and wants and to explore your own fantasies within is very healthy also and.....as a stress relief - it's pretty effective.

9. Are you promiscuous?

nope, i wouldn't classify my ways as ever being promiscuous as i don't think i was ever indiscriminate.....i've had sex with boyfriends and friends primarily, never really having sex with 'strangers' per se but i don't see anything wrong with it either.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?

have done it all and thank god it happened when i was younger and cockier......probably wouldn't be able to pull it off now. i'm more interested in just further exploring my trigger points now.


ok, hmmm............hahaha, you kids know quite a lot about me now.

 

[pussinboots]

oh, i've just read a few of the posts prior to mine and okay i'll chime in where i've left something out.............

personally, i have bedded some conventionally, gorgeous, pertaining to the laws of symmetry peeps.........and it was ego boosting, visceral and fun but........in my experience now - i find looks to be not particularly important (shared interests, intelligence and sense of humour are more attractive to me). you see, apparently men are attracted first by a woman's looks and primarily choose to chase based on that (to some extent) and a woman, tends to see her partner as more physically attractive after they've become a couple.

my boyfriend is reasonably good-looking i'd say, but now as i know and love him more - he's the most beautiful man in the world to me.

seriously.
so, don't beat yourself up.
we all stand a chance

 

[Prof_Pointless]

1. Every 2 - 3 days
2. whatever
3. over-thinking it
4. you know, positions and stuff
5. 17
6. physical , rarely talking (although it has it's moments)
7. lay around
8. pleasure, stress release
9. no
10. i suggest things, she draws the lines. honestly not big on crazy shit though

 

[XIII]

hmmm, well:

1. How often?

Usually a few times a week, but not if I've just had a relationship and broken up.

2. Biggest turn-ons?

Alcohol

3. Biggest tun-offs?

BDSm

4. What kind?

I don't understand this one.

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

Well I've always been quite open and forward, so 14.

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

Kissing

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?

Cuddling

8. What does it mean to you?

Love and sharing and excitement

9. Are you promiscuous?

I suppose so, I think I'm just friendly and I get on with people.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?

uh... I'm usually open and honest about things.

 

[Felan]

Let me first premise this with my particular dysfunction: its very rare for me to climax during intercourse (usually have to masterbate).

I think each INTP will create an unique tapestry around this subject area with little regard for social norms or regularity.

INTJs do the same thing I think as I once had an INTJ friend tell me he would like to marry someone but not have sex with them preferring instead that they have sex with others; he reason was that he didn't want to despoil the purity of love. He has since changed that view for which I happy for him.

1. How often?
Push the buttons right and I'm there. If I have initiated and been declined its easy for me to fall into a deep crevase of doubt. Then when I think about initiating I try to analyze whether she is open to it and in the end I usually doubt myself out of initiating. More than most types I think this is a caution area, though is a problem for men in general.

2. Biggest turn-ons?
witty, imaginitive, and teasing dialog; I had a girlfriend once tell me at dinner that she was pantiless. Start the spark in my imagination and then fan the flame for awhile and I'm putty. Whispered thoughts and desires are great. Its easy for me to get carried away in this she would have to be diplomatic and skilled at tempering the pace, without killing the coals.

3. Biggest tun-offs?
Large breasts (greater than C), morbid obesity, lipstick or excessive makeup, and interacting with others when I getting interested it becomes intense and deep and intrusions from others is a quick buzzkill and even leads to resentment (I hate that resent, its so irrational) so if an acquaintance comes over it is best to keep it as brief as possible

4. What kind?
Four is my lucky number. Generally I prefer to start missionary and at some point enjoy laying on my back while she is cowgirl, so I take in a relaxed appreciation of her beauty in the moment.

5. What age did you lose your virginity?
18, after 2 weeks of intense snuggle-sessions

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?
snuggling and talking is nice

8. What does it mean to you?
I feel connected to someone for awhile.

9. Are you promiscuous?
Nope, I have had six partners but I go for long stretches.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?
I've suggested and been turned down for things, but I've always been willing to express them.

 

[Ghost1986]

you dident talk too hard. been here sense febuary and remember seeing 3 or 4 sex topics.

1. How often?

never. trying to deny my sex drive and become asexual. i decided i really dont want a partner so far as a relationship goes and i dont have the money for a prostitute.

2. Biggest turn-ons?

good looking women. really good looking guys.

3. Biggest tun-offs?

body fluid of any type, and hair, and real sluts.

4. What kind?

of what?

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

still have it at 22

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

u drop my pants and grab...

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?

take a shower

8. What does it mean to you?

physical pleasure

9. Are you promiscuous?

some times i use the other hand. does that count?

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?

torture. and not in a sexual way.

 

[The Fury]

1. It's been a while but usually once or twice a week.

2. Talking dirty, nice ass.

3. BDSM, feet

4. I've always been a fan of the reverse cowboy.

5. 19

6. kissing, soft petting

7. talking, eating

8. pleasure and a sense of attachment

9. rarely

10. animals...I'm kidding, I usually talk about any fantasies

 

[ArcusDog]

I would venture a guess that you are more concerned about this topic than your boyfriend is. But I'll answer the questions I feel like answering. Perhaps it will offer a bit of insight. Perhaps not.

1. How often?
Depends. Different factors and circumstances influence the amount of sexual drive I have. When my drive is heightened, once or twice per day is adequately satisfying. When it's low, once or twice a week is fine. I am also comfortable going long stretches without having intercourse.

2. Biggest turn-ons?
Intelligence (especially if the person is very knowledgeable or has expertise in a subject about which I know little), foreign languages, physical attractiveness, sexual thoughts and images within the confines of my own mind, humor, impressive talent or ability - especially musical, depth of character, and many more...

3. Biggest tun-offs?
Stupidity, tendency toward being clingy or requiring my constant attention/stimulation, talkativeness, excessive body fat (and I use the term "excessive" lightly), lack of passion, promiscuity.

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?
A great deal of physical contact, kissing, hugging, running of hands over body parts, removal of clothing...

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?
Sleeping or resting.

8. What does it mean to you?
I often ponder that question.

9. Are you promiscuous?
No.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?
If I want to try something, I will be up front about it.

 

[ChristopherL]

SO...here goes some questions I'm expecting answers to:

1. How often?

With a steady partner?
Every night.
Otherwise, whenever I get it.

2. Biggest turn-ons?

Nice butt, Her smell.
Sexual Openness

3. Biggest tun-offs?

Bad Breath (shocking how many cute women have this affliction)
Bad Attitude

4. What kind?

?que

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

18

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

I'm lost.

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?

I always want something sweet.

8. What does it mean to you?

Nothing at all, fun to be had for sure and if I were so inclined I could use it to manipulate a womans feelings.

9. Are you promiscuous?

Depends on how you define it.
I don't chase women, but I am good looking and capable of being charming and because I see it as a pastime I have no qualms to have sex with a woman and all her friends, unless I like her then I'm cognizant that she may place value on what seems to me a largely meaningless act.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?

Have the balls, need the extra girl. It would have happened already if I were more social.

 

[QSR]

With a steady partner?


Nice butt, Her smell.


Bad Breath (shocking how many cute women have this affliction)

Just wondering if these items are inter-related.

 

[ChristopherL]

Just wondering if these items are inter-related.

No.
Sexual chemistry seems to correlate with body odor where I'm concerned.
Women I enjoy usually have a certain scent to their sweat and juices, I like to inhale them. If thats not there then it'll just be a sport fuck unlikely I'll revisit.

 

[Enne]

1. How often?

i have a very high sex drive

2. Biggest turn-ons?

physical domination but not BDSM

3. Biggest tun-offs?

piss, puke, skat

4. What kind?

of what?

5. What age did you lose your virginity?

still have the curse

6. Pre-sex behaviours/tendancies?

huh?

7. Post sex behaviours/tendancies?

da?

8. What does it mean to you?

physical pleasure.

9. Are you promiscuous?

most likely will be.

10. Something you've always wanted to try...but never had the balls to be up-front about it?

get laid.


there happy

 

[Venture]

I feel happy right about now..........

 

[vash22]

Oh God, we INTPs really are all virgins. Why God? WHY?! You curse me with a genius i cant share, but now THIS?!

turn on? intelligence & the ability to question things (less common than you think. "Keep the off grass" signs wouldnt exist if the dumb people who did what the sign told them didnt exist.) An average face and body are my perfect.

turn off? see: Blonde stereotypes.........and people who like to hate other people for the sake of it.

im still a virgin, and lazy too, so i cant/wont answer the rest of the questions. have a nice day

 

[Venture]

Oh God, we INTPs really are all virgins. Why God? WHY?! You curse me with a genius i cant share, but now THIS?!

turn on? intelligence & the ability to question things (less common than you think. "Keep the off grass" signs wouldnt exist if the dumb people who did what the sign told them didnt exist.) An average face and body are my perfect.

turn off? see: Blonde stereotypes.........and people who like to hate other people for the sake of it.

im still a virgin, and lazy too, so i cant/wont answer the rest of the questions. have a nice day

It's have a nice night.........................


Yeah, maturing sucks.................

 

[Carnap]

You curse me with a genius i cant share

lol aren't we a little grandiose, as my mother would say if i insinuated the same thing (lol she joked about wanting to report me for delusions when I was going on and on about my dream job : dictator).

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I'm sure if you did have sex you'd just want more and more and more. Just wait til you find someone that is not going to piss you off later. It'll save you the drama.

 

[Ghost1986]

Oh God, we INTPs really are all virgins. Why God? WHY?! You curse me with a genius i cant share, but now THIS?!

i wouldn't be if i knew how to talk...i could have at least 3 women if i knew how to small talk.

 

[ArcusDog]

And what's wrong with being a virgin?

 

[Ghost1986]

And what's wrong with being a virgin?

nothing in theory. but if you live in the US guys are seen as a freaks if they dont lose it before 16. the younger the better. some how the makes you more of a man. as for women, the US tends to value virgins and shun women that lose their virginity before 20. women are also shunned if they have more than one partner. the are instantly sluts and people start treating them that way. at least that's the impression Ive i gotten in my few 22 years.

the US is a very stupid society.

 

[Anthile]

It's the same game in Europe. Also: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AManIsNotAVirgin

 

[QSR]

Do yourself a favor and lose your virginity before 25, even if it means you have to work really hard at it or have to lower your standards. Seriously girls will treat you like you're made of plutonium if you don't lose it by then.

 

[echoplex]

If you listen to what others tell you, you'll often be hearing a very inconsistent narrative. Being a virgin is both good and not good. Even the same person will imply both notions within a small period of time, usually depending on who they're talking to and the situation at hand. Perhaps there is truth to this though. Maybe it is both good and bad. After all, there are pros and cons to both virginity and experience. If you look at it a certain way, both are indeed good. However, I definitely think there is a certain naivety at play when someone acts like your virginity is some kind of wonderful adorable thing. They are obviously failing to see the totality of it all if they really feel that way.

It's not great, it's not terrible. It just is. Context colors perception.

Do yourself a favor and lose your virginity before 25, even if it means you have to work really hard at it or have to lower your standards. Seriously girls will treat you like you're made of plutonium if you don't lose it by then.

Why that number, I wonder? How does society determine its social mandates? Seriously, the "do it by this age!" people annoy me even more than the "wait until marriage!" people.

I'm trying to imagine how plutonium could be an aphrodisiac.

 

[QSR]

The problem is that it becomes exponentially harder to get laid if you're a 30 year old virgin.