Re: INTP Parents
My parents are ISTJ (Dad) and ISFP (Mom). I don't know what it is with xSTJ's and having INTP children either...
It's not that complicated.
STJs comprise
according to the wiki page potentially 19-26% of the population. And since you have two parents, there's an even higher chance at least one of them will be STJ.
(SFJs are seemingly 18-27%. Again, not a rarity to have one for a parent.)
In contast, INTPs make up 3-5% max... and I'm wondering how many of us marry... or, if we marry, choose to have kids in the first place, esp compared to the SJs.
My parents are ESTP (dad) and ISFJ (mom).
My sister is ISFJ.
I don't think parents "produce" types, they either accentuate/support the natural type or they undermine it and create issues by dominating the child. Good parents (IMO) perceive who their child is, accentuate the good stuff, and help shore up the weak stuff without trying to shame the child for being their natural self or change the child from the natural self.
My parents are about as anti-INTP as you can get and have never understood me. My dad no longer talks to me, and my mom and I have trouble relating -- not because I'm not approachable but because they don't understand my life decisions and how I think and they have put up boundaries preventing communication. The one thing my parents did do for me that fits with INTP was open the world of knowledge for me: They helped teach me to read at an early age and always took me to the library weekly or more. Still, I was already who I was, they were just helping me develop moreso by giving me the fuel I needed to think.
I have three children, one adopted: an INTP, an ESFP, and an INFJ.
I happened to know type well when they were born.
The ESFP was pretty obvious from day one, especially because he was in NICU for two months and thus we got to see how all the staff related to him. He was an immediate people magnet even at that age, and nurses would spend their breaks with him instead of taking lunch.
The INTP, I had down to INP until he was about two, and then it seemed that he preferred detached reasoning as I watched his language and interests develop. By about age 4-5, it was pretty clear what his priorities were... that things either made sense or were "stupid" if they did not make sense.
The INFJ was adopted at age four. It was clear in the first year that she was an introverted Fe'er, and over that time it became clear she's a "different drummer" girl and a lot of her remains mysterious, whereas ISFJs are much more straight-forward or at least living in the tangibles. Other ISFJs say sometimes that my daughter is sweet and they love her to death, but they also think she can be "weird." It's because of the inner Ni.
In any case, none of this was forced on them, and often pressures try to make them something else. Because my ESFP kid is the only extrovert, when he was 4-5, we inadvertently put lots of pressure on him to settle down, quiet down, be more reserved, not be so spontaneous, etc... and he quickly became depressed, hated himself, and lost his natural spark and couldn't function. We realized what we had done and backed off and he became his old happy engaging energetic self; it was our job to find a way to accommodate who he was rather than changing him into someone else. This is one example of how type seems to be very resilient AGAINST social pressures.
hold a funeral for when you shaved your first mustache off. >:}
Being a green dot, that apparently has royal responsibilities, kinda blows though.
