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Parents of INTPs

chi-moon

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Mom-maybe ISFJ

They divorced when I was 10 years old. I live with my father and it is like hell with his dictatorship. Too many threats said towards me. False accusations, insults, mockery and the likes are not unusual for me. Being silent is the only way to survive.
 

Yellow

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Wow. That's really rough. How much longer will you have to live with him?
 

peoplesuck

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Good cop bad cop
dad esfp good ol religious upbringing
mom esfp trying not to fuck up the kid
divorced when i was like 4 because he tried to kill her. good times
 

Infinitatis

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I think the familial dynamics as they relate to MBTI are fascinating.

Father: IXTX (ISTJ?)
Mother: INFP
Brother: IXFX (ISFP?)
Sister: INFP
Me: INTP

My dad is an IXTX (ISTJ?). My dad divorced my mom when I was about three, so I live with my mom. Luckily I was young enough that I hadn't really developed an attachment to my dad. I don't really think of him as a dad. He's more like an uncle to me. I don't know him that well primarily for two reasons. First of all, I only see him about once per year. Secondly, he masks his true personality with what he thinks is the socially acceptable personality. I think he's very insecure, but doesn't know how to deal with it. I know he's a good person, whoever he is. He just needs to be himself.

My mom is an easy INFP. She screams FP especially. Not a very logical type. Often rejects my use of logical arguments (as per her inferior Te) because she often does not understand them. We often have deep discussions about a number of things. She'll let me explain some sort of cool idea even if she can't quite grasp it (especially when it pertains to mathematics or science). We get into a lot of arguments. Usually the same ones over and over. My T and her F do not get along. She's accepted my independence and, for the most part, treats me as a friend rather than a son, which I appreciate greatly.

My older brother is an IXFX (ISFP?). He was diagnosed with a rather severe form of agenesis of the corpus callosum (ACC) at birth, and is thus difficult to type. He has a childlike demeanor, so it's really not possible to tell if he is S or N, as most kids don't show a lot of N until their teens. He's always the happiest guy in the house and his unfaltering enthusiasm can make a bad day a good one. He is sometimes very social, but is definitely drained by prolonged socialization and he'll then get very quiet and antisocial, refusing to talk to anyone.

My sister is an INFP. She and my mom get along great. My sister and I get along well, often engaging in curious discussions. She has a better grasp on logic than my mom. We tend to have the same views on most issues. Like me, she has many J qualities, but is definitely P.

I am an INTP. I'm 75% I, 95% N, 70% T, and 55% P (though I think my T is actually higher). I don't do drugs, or get into trouble, but I am definitely the odd-one-out in the family. My logical reasoning is usually disregarded, so I make a good scapegoat. I was generally a very disobedient child. As an INTP, I cannot tolerate unfairness. I had long thought that I was doing the wrong thing by disobeying her, but I mostly only disobeyed her when she wanted me to do or not do something for illogical reasons. I think, looking back, it was for the best, though I cannot be sure.
 

Aetheria

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I think my dad is an ISTJ:
  • Geology major.
  • Building contractor.
  • Always liked working from dawn until after dark.
  • Can lecture for 1/2 hr on, for example, the differences between the mechanics of rocker & dimmer switches. I guess that could be interesting to other builders...
  • Does all his own accounting.
  • Not interested in theories.
  • Non-denominational, I think (switched churches from Mainline Presbyterian).
  • Likes life-application study Bibles.
  • Politically a 'moderate', i.e. in between Dem. & Rep.

I'm sure my mom's an ESFJ, my exact opposite:
  • Was once an interior designer.
  • Loves entertaining, guests, parties...
  • Enjoys cleaning the house.
  • Doesn't like anything intellectual.
  • Hates puzzles.
  • A bit sentimental.
  • Fashionable.
  • Maybe vaguely almost Christian.
  • Politically center-left.

One brother's probably an ISTJ too:
  • Computer-sys. admin. for accountants.
  • Likes golf.
  • Quiet.
  • Politically probably a moderate.
  • Mainline Methodist or Presbyterian (switched churches).

Other brother's I think an ENF-something
  • Urban planner.
  • Less quiet.
  • Politically probably center-left or somewhat more left.
  • Atheist.

I'm the misfit:
  • Art major, because I hadn't done well in school: hadn't applied myself in math or been made to so I was confused about it, never grasped how to write 5-paragraph essays & that was the extent of the writing assigned in school, wasn't taught world history or grammar either, but I'd been given art lessons since nursery school. So I could draw OK, & everyone said, 'You're so good at art! You should be an artist!' So what else was I going to do? Didn't work out though. Taught myself, to catch up.
  • Now home-school teacher (which I like) & housewife (but I don't like cleaning the house).
  • Am bewildered by all accounting & finance.
  • Highly interested in theories (esp. philosophical & theological) & intellectual things (esp. logic & math).
  • Like puzzles & collecting ideas.
  • Quiet until I'm discussing something exciting with someone.
  • Hate sentimentality.
  • Aesthete.
  • Physically highly sensitive.
  • Socially awkward.
  • Not so fashionable.
  • Agnostic through childhood since no one addressed religion with me in any way I could understand; every experience with it was superficial & apparently without reasoning; but now Byzantine Catholic (married into it).
  • Politically have always been estranged from & confused by everyone I know. Could find something to be against together with almost anyone, even my mom, even anarchists, but nothing to agree to be for. Finally realized I'm beyond ultra-right: monarchist.

So I married an ISTJ with INTJ tendencies. (His dad: maybe ISTJ or ISTP; his mom: def. ISFJ.) Have an ISTP son (technically stepson), ISFP daughter, & another daughter, baby so can't tell yet, but she might be an INTP too. I'm sure about the I, almost sure about the T, think the N is very likely, & based the P on descriptions. Not sure what all this means though. P.S. Also we have an ESTJ Rottweiler (so stereotypical!) & an INFP bulldog. :D
 

Midvar

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My mom is an INFP who thinks she is an ENFP. She is a dreamer with a wild imagination.
My Dad is an ISFJ and he is basically a giant overprotective teddy bear that loves hugs and works all the time. I have always been an introvert as long as I can remember and I think that my parents helped develop that part of my personality. My brother (an ENTP) has had affected my personality a lot in the thinking department. And my other brother (an ENFP) has helped out in the procrastinating department. Frankly, my family has shaped who I am today, so they shouldn't ask me how I got to be this way.
 

green acid

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Both my parents are SJ's. My mother is ISTJ and my dad is ESFJ. My father is MUCH more emotional. Always in love with some, others he hates. My mom is like a quiet caretaker. My parents actually believed in letting me and my sister make our own decisions, which was great, their only drawback was occasionally being violent tempered. (probably as a result of their leniency in allowing their children to go too far) Most parents at the time (the 1970's) had a somewhat more authoritarian style. I think my parents' liberal parenting ideas stem from my paternal grandfather, an ISFP who didn't like organized religion, or organized ANYTHING. So my parents are Guardians, but were somehow influenced by my grandparents who were perceivers ( I know my dad's parents were ISFP and INFP) I feel fortunate not to have the usual overbearing SJ parents.
 

JJL2020

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MY dad is an ENTP, mother is an INTJ and my brother is an INTP like myself.
 

baccheion

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Mother: ISTJ
Father: ESFP
Sister: INFJ

Me: INTP
 

canuhearme

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My father is an ESFJ, we're always fighting or arguing. I hate arguing. He tries to use his authority on me and tells me it's always mandatory to do what "parents" say, whether 'right' or 'wrong', and that I can't go against them. I'm always compared by him to famous immoral people. My confidence had gone incredibly low at one point. However, my head is now learning to deal with the constant insults. I'm socially awkward, he loves socialising. He can stick to a plan and execute it. I'm always ridiculed for not being disciplined.
 
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