Echoing MissQuote, I used to try to conform to the extroverted feeler female stereotype/hype. I thought I was inadequate in that respect.
Now that I have accepted the way I operate, I'm quite content to be....whatever that is.
That doesn't mean I'm "stuck" in my preferences, I try to improve constantly. This takes a fair bit of brutality as far as self-scrutiny is concerned.
Perhaps I take it too far sometimes.....and I forget that not everyone shares my enthusiasm for brutal honesty. People don't like their darker sides they see reflected in me perhaps....
But I have become less careful as I've grown older. Thankfully.