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When I was young I would write in perfect mirror image My third grade teacher literally had to use a mirror. I'm not really sure why, but I remember not being able to discern the difference between normal writing and my own. Of course I learned how to write normally; but I wish I'd retained that ability (I can still do it to a much slighter degree).
I was socially awkward and I terribly arrogant pre-sixth grade. I was always told how intelligent I was by my parents, teachers, peers). Really looking back I was such a pretentious little brat. I went to sixth grade when I was nine (skipped 5th) and was stripped whatever pride and confidence I had. I went to a rough middle school literally minutes from Mexico, in an area you don't walk around, at night. I was one of probably 14 white kids out of 500. My utter lack of social skills, my age, and my tendencies to show off academically(I'd always been praised for it) ostracized me from everybody. I was bullied and heckled constantly and severely. I was new to town, had no friends(literally the whole year), and I was an easy pint-size target. One of my biggest tormentors was a six foot 16 year old male eighth grader(I wish I was kidding). Another one was, quite stereotypically, a cheerleader. Anyway I became extremely depressed. For a long while I felt like nobody noticed or cared about my existence. I had two highly theatrical E siblings in high school and a high strung E mother (both parents worked a lot as well). I was only ever acknowledged for my grades. I had no one. Don't get me wrong I don't blame my family, I made a point not to be noticed. I was ashamed of my problems. Whenever I was home I'd just isolate myself in my room.
I started faking illnesses to avoid going to school. I did it so much my mom started to ask questions (I usually had perfect attendance). When I wouldn't answer any of them and basically started sobbing incoherently, I guess she finally realized something was up. My mom had always praised me for academics, but never really took note of my emotional side. My mom is the type to act extremely quickly. When she saw how miserable I was she immediately used her connections (as a teacher) to move me (in the middle of the 4th semester) to a 5th grade class in a much better school. To her credit I guess she realized I wasn't the type to voice my problems (like Es often are). From then on she always kept close tabs on my mental state; often to my chagrin. I recovered gradually over the next few years; I would go in and out of depression frequently till my 10th year. I did develop a very gregarious mask for school after awhile; but I couldn't kept it up at home. That nightmare year stripped away my self esteem, made me fearful and instilled in me a fundamental pessimism. I am much more confident(not just as a mask), independent(I don't rely on others for approval), and I suppose grown up now. I look back now and think that at least it stopped me from becoming narcissistic.
It wasn't until my 10th, that I ever had any 'real' friends. I had surface friends I guess, but these were the first (and really only) people I'd ever trusted outside my family (which were really only my brother and father). Even so I must be a very hard person in that what they know about me is only what I let them know; ie. very little. Side note: Masks see to be very common with INTPs.
hmmm this post is fairly whiny........ Don't hold it against me
I was socially awkward and I terribly arrogant pre-sixth grade. I was always told how intelligent I was by my parents, teachers, peers). Really looking back I was such a pretentious little brat. I went to sixth grade when I was nine (skipped 5th) and was stripped whatever pride and confidence I had. I went to a rough middle school literally minutes from Mexico, in an area you don't walk around, at night. I was one of probably 14 white kids out of 500. My utter lack of social skills, my age, and my tendencies to show off academically(I'd always been praised for it) ostracized me from everybody. I was bullied and heckled constantly and severely. I was new to town, had no friends(literally the whole year), and I was an easy pint-size target. One of my biggest tormentors was a six foot 16 year old male eighth grader(I wish I was kidding). Another one was, quite stereotypically, a cheerleader. Anyway I became extremely depressed. For a long while I felt like nobody noticed or cared about my existence. I had two highly theatrical E siblings in high school and a high strung E mother (both parents worked a lot as well). I was only ever acknowledged for my grades. I had no one. Don't get me wrong I don't blame my family, I made a point not to be noticed. I was ashamed of my problems. Whenever I was home I'd just isolate myself in my room.
I started faking illnesses to avoid going to school. I did it so much my mom started to ask questions (I usually had perfect attendance). When I wouldn't answer any of them and basically started sobbing incoherently, I guess she finally realized something was up. My mom had always praised me for academics, but never really took note of my emotional side. My mom is the type to act extremely quickly. When she saw how miserable I was she immediately used her connections (as a teacher) to move me (in the middle of the 4th semester) to a 5th grade class in a much better school. To her credit I guess she realized I wasn't the type to voice my problems (like Es often are). From then on she always kept close tabs on my mental state; often to my chagrin. I recovered gradually over the next few years; I would go in and out of depression frequently till my 10th year. I did develop a very gregarious mask for school after awhile; but I couldn't kept it up at home. That nightmare year stripped away my self esteem, made me fearful and instilled in me a fundamental pessimism. I am much more confident(not just as a mask), independent(I don't rely on others for approval), and I suppose grown up now. I look back now and think that at least it stopped me from becoming narcissistic.
It wasn't until my 10th, that I ever had any 'real' friends. I had surface friends I guess, but these were the first (and really only) people I'd ever trusted outside my family (which were really only my brother and father). Even so I must be a very hard person in that what they know about me is only what I let them know; ie. very little. Side note: Masks see to be very common with INTPs.
hmmm this post is fairly whiny........ Don't hold it against me
