INTP and sibling position

[snowqueen]

I am an only child and on another thread INI wondered if being an only child made you an INTP so I thought a poll might be interesting.

I've set the poll so you can vote for more than one option

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

Youngest of two. I could have checked "I have one sibling" too.

 

[saffyangelis]

I'm the middle child out of three

 

[Claverhouse]

Only child.

It makes one lonelier, but stronger.


Claverhouse

 

[Yellow]

I have a little brother. He's about three years younger than me, but I don't feel any bond with him.

 

[Berkeley]

I am the second oldest out of 4.

 

[loveofreason]

Eldest of two in an extended family.

But it was alien...

I was alone.

Thankfully I am cold and unforgiving.

*melancholic sigh*

 

[Jaico]

Middle child out of three as well! Both of my siblings are INFPs, so we get along pretty well .

 

[GarmGarf]

I am an only child and on another thread INI wondered if being an only child made you an INTP so I thought a poll might be interesting.

I've set the poll so you can vote for more than one option

Should you tell non-INTPs to not vote?

Because otherwise, your survey will be investigating "the relationship between people's sibling position and their likelihood of registering at an INTP forum".

 

[Invoke Ninja's True Power]

I am both an only child and the middle child. I have 2 half-siblings younger and 2 half-siblings older. I voted middle child.

 

[Madoness]

I am the middle one. My brother, who is older than me, is ESTP I guess. My sister is also INTP like me, at least claims to be, though she must have more E in her than me. I'm having most disagreements (and agreements) with her, though, have had a lot of arguments, I still get along with her in my family better than with other members of immediate family.

 

[NoID10ts]

I'm the middle child of 37 dead and dying siblings whom may or may not have met their demise by a ........... headache ......... caused by a sledgehammer. But when you live in a sewer and eating is scarce, that kind of stuff happens.

Either that, or I am an only child.

 

[Da Blob]

first born child of first born parents

 

[Xel]

I have no siblings. When I wad younger I was lonely and wanted a brother, but these days I tend to believe the people who have siblings when they say they are really annoying. So I'm glad I'm an only child.

 

[walfin]

3 older siblings. Youngest is 12 years older than me.

I think it was great when I was growing up (especially since one of my sisters left her junior college textbooks lying around for me to read). It was also very nice to have adults to talk to when I was a kid. But over time we kind of drifted apart a bit, which was kind of sad.

 

[Loki]

I'm the third born. Four children from an ENFJ mother and an INTP father.
Two older siblings and one younger- all ENFJs.....go figure.

 

[Cavallier]

Only child.

It makes one lonelier, but stronger.

Agreed.

 

[Minuend]

Two older (ST) brothers, one younger (NF) sister. My parents and grandparents are sensors, I think.

 

[Vegard Pompey]

Seventh son of a seventh son here.

 

[Artifice Orisit]

I'm an only child, which isn't inherently lonely.
What's troublesome is having to deal with step siblings, often I get to laugh at them as they fight with each other, but sometimes I can't help but envy them too, when they reveal just how deeply they understand each other, and when they drop everything to help each other, despite their bitter rivalry.

They make me feel like the most alone person in the world,
not lonely per say, just alone.
Peaceful & hollow, if one could be a shadow I imagine this is what it would be like.

...what happens to someone when they have no siblings, their other relatives are all dead or living separate lives and s/he don't bother to stay in touch with friends?
In other words, what happens when at last someone is truly alone?
This idea holds an almost mystical quality to me, it makes me wonder what someone could do if there was no-one telling them to stop; what would happen if someone cut all their ties to society and became an independent entity, a true loner?

A somewhat romantic part of me thinks they'd just walk into a shadow,
and never walk out.

*poof* gone, as if they never existed.
Gone... somewhere.
But where?
Home?

 

[truthseeker72]

I'm the youngest of two. My older brother and I have recently reconnected after several years of minimal contact.

 

[sagewolf]

I said eldest and that I have 2-4 siblings; four half-siblings makes two, I suppose. I only really know the two I lived with anyway, and the oldest of those is 9 years younger than me. Half my age. We're not particularly close, although that's probably because of the age difference. So I have one brother (9) and sister (3) that I see regularly (or did until I moved out) and two brothers who I haven't seen in years.

 

[Claverhouse]

...what happens to someone when they have no siblings, their other relatives are all dead or living separate lives and s/he don't bother to stay in touch with friends?
In other words, what happens when at last someone is truly alone?

It's not all it's cracked up to be.

first born child of first born parents

You would have been in serious trouble when God got cross with Pharaoh...



Claverhouse

 

[Latro]

My mom has had two husbands. My father is the second; my two sisters' father is the first. We've got an age gap of 7 and 9 years between us (i.e. the oldest is 9 years older than me and the middle is 7 years older than me). So to a significant extent I might as well be an only child. So I voted 2-4 and might as well be only child.

 

[echoplex]

I'm the middle of 3. They're both sisters and I'm the brother.

I've read alot about birth order and personality. Oldest children are supposed to be more responsible, outgoing, and driven to succeed. Youngest children are usually more likely to be comedians or artists and crave attention.

Of course, I'm very skeptical of those theories. There may be some truth to it, but there are many exceptions. And what complicates it for me is that for much of my childhood (when these roles are crystallized) my older sister was not living in the same household as I. So I was basically the de facto eldest, despite being the middle child.

 

[Tunesimah]

I'm eldest with one sister. I don't know if a lot of the standard first born traits apply to me. I'm particularly oblivious to what is going on around me, and never yearned for attention or anything.

My sister is a ESFP, and in many ways is the exact opposite of me. She has an innate understanding of social games and uses her emotions to get what she wants from people. I have no clue how to do any of that. She gets all the social communication, and am left sort of dumbfounded in how she can do it. She can control a conversation and get people listening and interacting with her... even though I know she doesn't have complete understanding of what she is talking about.

But when I try to get my ideas out, I'm left with nothing and people rarely acknowledge what I say.

I also got a bit of the youngest sibling position with my cousins and uncles who I did a bunch of stuff with. It wasn't the same as with parents attention, but it was like always being a freshman on campus and being a bit more immature than others and being ridiculed often for it.

I made a conscious point to only speak when I fully formed my ideas in my head, this has caused me to put away much of my spontaneity and social ability. It's taken me a long time to be able to use my Ne in a public setting... I still am pretty uncomfortable with the random things that will pop out of my mouth. But when I'm comfortable and it flows, it feels pretty fantastic.

 

[Deleted member 1424]

I have two elder half siblings, though we were raised together. My brother is an ENTP, and my sister an ENFP (that's a lot of Ne ). Both are highly extrovert, though we never really clashed because of it. I've never really took sibling positioning seriously, since my siblings fit the entertainer model far more so than myself.

My Brother (seven years my senior) and I were very close when I was a child and still are to some extent. However he fell out with my mother (and hence the entire family), so I don't hear or see much of him anymore. We have a sort of odd camaraderie, being the only two non-Christians in the family. As an ENTP he always has some fascinating topic or technology to talk about.

My sister (four years my senior) and I fought slightly, but still got along relatively well. She has a very domineering personality, but she's gotten a lot easier to deal with as she's gotten older. Her capacity to care about people is really quite amazing. While she is an emotional bottle rocket, she is also one of the most genuine and caring people I've ever known.

I suppose I got lucky with my siblings. I was completely unprepared for high school; since growing up with them I'd come to expect complex, intelligent and fascinating individuals. Imagine my surprise when everyone else seemed so two-dimensional, idiotic and boring by comparison. Anyway I owe them a lot. They've taught me a great deal and are the only reason I have anything resembling social skills.

 

[Seducer of the Homeless]

god, call me twisted but everytime i see this thread's name i see 'sibling position' as a sexual position

sorry

 

[So Long So Long]

I'm the youngest of two. However, she's ten years older than me and she ran away when I was eight or seven, so I've been an only child for awhile now.

It might be lonely sometimes, but I learned how to entertain myself alone that way.

As for cousin's (Like Tunesimah mentioned) I'm the second oldest. My cousin Dray (Who's the oldest) and I aren't that far apart, though. Just three months, so we were always getting into some kind of trouble or playing on our GameBoys or something like that. He's my favourite, even if we've grown apart in the past years.

 

[Sugarpop]

god, call me twisted but everytime i see this thread's name i see 'sibling position' as a sexual position

sorry

It is done from a distance and with the other's favorite doll or action figure.

 

[Seducer of the Homeless]

lol, sugar poof you are sooooooo witty

but me, i am the oldest of two children (a brother) who is a wee little socialiser with big hair.

 

[Aiss]

Youngest of the three, might as well have been an only child because of age difference (nearly fifteen years).

I realize 58 votes is too little to draw conclusions from, but I don't think we're going to see any correlation at all. I'm pretty sure these traits are what we're born with, especially I/E - both types can enjoy society/solitude, but they can't change which is draining/energizing to them.

 

[Anling]

Number six of seven.

 

[JimTaylor]

Smack dab in the middle, 4 of 7, but I also have 3 step siblings that I don't see often, so they don't count. I was very close to my older brother, but I have no idea what he typed. I don't get along at all with my younger brother who I made take the test and he typed ISFJ, pretty weak I and S though, like 50/50. The rest of my family I tolerate, but my mother is also very introverted so we get along pretty well because we only talk when needed, but still but head's now and again cause she is very emotional. Pretty much I am just the odd ball because my family is pretty dang emotional and most are extroverts(great sales people), so I just shut them all out. I am an INTP by the way, just ignore my results down below.

 

[Firehazard159]

I'm the youngest of 4, my Brother (INFP) is 34, sister (unsure) 31, and other sister (ENTP) 28. Then me, 22.

I was in effect an only child, though. My brother took care of my when I was a baby and deeply attached to me, but eventually went off to college and such, we're still pretty close, at least, as close I can be to be people :P. I don't really get along with either sister, but I'm not entirely against them either, just sort of indifferent.

I answered youngest, and have siblings but may as well be only child.

 

[Anthile]

I have a six years older sister (probably ISFP). Though I would see myself more as an extended only child or so.
From what I've heard I have also an additional half-sister. I never met her and neither I do know her name. I just didn't care. I guess I'm just that horrible.

 

[Eljua]

Oldest of two children by seven years. Half brother, so I generally tend to round down and just consider him as part of the furniture rather than as a sibling.

 

[inaworldofherown]

My brother is 4 years 10 months younger than me so i was more or less an only child for the first few years. He is a lot more sociable than i am; always was. I think he might be ESTP. Typical older & younger sibling relationship i.e. fights, quarrels etc. When we got on though we were great. I don't know if my early years of being fairly solitary made me INTP. I mean that & other factors/influences during my childhood might have contributed.

 

[asdfasdfasdfsdf]

was the middle of 3.
when i was 10 years old we had a fourth
so now i am in spot 2 of 4

 

[Dark_Amphibian]

...what happens to someone when they have no siblings, their other relatives are all dead or living separate lives and s/he don't bother to stay in touch with friends?
In other words, what happens when at last someone is truly alone?
This idea holds an almost mystical quality to me, it makes me wonder what someone could do if there was no-one telling them to stop; what would happen if someone cut all their ties to society and became an independent entity, a true loner?

A somewhat romantic part of me thinks they'd just walk into a shadow,
and never walk out.

*poof* gone, as if they never existed.
Gone... somewhere.
But where?
Home?

*grins* Hey, I can answer this! Although I was not an only child. I was an assistant parent - 5, 7, and 9 years older than my siblings...so the sibs had this bond/relationship between them that I never had. I was also long ago disowned, and no other ties.

There is no home. There is only where you are NOW. It is very strange at times, but not unfamiliar to most INTPs I think - you see how "most" people feel or go about things, and that's just not how you do it.

For me it's been very interesting to observe that most people have a hometown, for example. And the beliefs people seem to have about what kind of relationship one should have with one's mother...wow. I can tell you that NOT having any relationship with your mother is considered dodgy at best, and is negatively perceived. So I'm very careful in what I say.

Sometimes lonely, more often just alone. Have been in some very good relationships for most of my life, but have been choosing to not even date for a few years now, wanting to face up to this "alone" thing. There is no home, there are no roots, and no amount of clutching at someone who has those things will change those facts. It's not bad, it just is.

 

[Zero]

Oldest of two by 18 months. My bro is probably an ISTP.

Me: 22 Him: 21