Has there ever been a movie that made you cry?

[ashitaria]

None of the movies that I watched made me cry, but the Bridge of Terabithia made me come very close to it, along with the Anime series, AIR.

Of course, that leaves me with a question. Do INTPs like watching dramas? Usually, people of our type appear cold, and our Fe side is very undeveloped. My speculation is that we sometimes like watching dramas, but it depends on the intensity of it. What do you think? (Oh, and by the way, you can watch AIR for free on youtube.)

 

[Da Blob]

Yes, strangely enough it is usually only animal movies that make me tear up. I think that some kind of defense mechanism kicks in when I see human pathos portrayed on the big screen.
The stupid book, the children's book, A Bridge to Terabitha, made me cry - however, I would be really surprised if the movie could provoke a similar response.

 

[Jaico]

Up - especially the initial montage (though some of the later scenes were pretty heartwrenching as well). I almost cried - mind you, I bit my lip and clenched my fist so that I wouldn't, even though I was in a dark movie theatre where nobody would see me cry. I enjoyed it on one level (I guess what they say about catharsis is true) but I disliked how a movie was able to manipulate my emotions so easily...

In response to the drama question - it's not really my favourite sort of genre to read/watch, but it's not terrible (so long as it's not over-the-top at every single moment). I find that music is really the key to sending a movie from being narm material to being able to elicit an emotional response from me.

 

[Nevermind]

"The Lives of Others" (aka "Das Leben der Anderen") brought me pretty close, and that is indeed a rare thing.

 

[Trebuchet]

None of the movies that I watched made me cry, but the Bridge of Terabithia made me come very close to it, along with the Anime series, AIR.

Of course, that leaves me with a question. Do INTPs like watching dramas? Usually, people of our type appear cold, and our Fe side is very undeveloped. My speculation is that we sometimes like watching dramas, but it depends on the intensity of it. What do you think? (Oh, and by the way, you can watch AIR for free on youtube.)

That whole "cold" reputation is totally overstated. Just because other people can't spot our emotions doesn't mean they aren't there. So we aren't drama queens. I can spot the emotions in other INTPs easier than I can in many other people.

As for watching dramas, you certainly described me exactly. I love some dramas, like Driving Miss Daisy or The Grapes of Wrath, but for the most part, I prefer comedies, capers, science fiction, or movies with lots of explosions. Overly intense dramas make me feel manipulated, like Million Dollar Baby. And generally no chick flicks for me, though I must admit I didn't hate When Harry Met Sally. I tend to see more dramas on stage than as movies.

As for the question in the thread title, I cry so easily at movies it is pathetic. I also cry at live theater and when I listen to some songs. I cry over certain TV shows (like the Taxi episode where Jim's father died). I cry over books. Actually, I find this totally annoying but I haven't been able to stop it.

Since I think it is relevant to the discussion, I will add that I am female.

 

[Anthile]

I was sometimes pretty close to tears but there is only one movie that actually made me cry: The Last Unicorn

 

[Sparrow]

Gone, Baby Gone

 

[ashitaria]

Up - especially the initial montage (though some of the later scenes were pretty heartwrenching as well). I almost cried - mind you, I bit my lip and clenched my fist so that I wouldn't, even though I was in a dark movie theatre where nobody would see me cry. I enjoyed it on one level (I guess what they say about catharsis is true) but I disliked how a movie was able to manipulate my emotions so easily...

In response to the drama question - it's not really my favourite sort of genre to read/watch, but it's not terrible (so long as it's not over-the-top at every single moment). I find that music is really the key to sending a movie from being narm material to being able to elicit an emotional response from me.

Up, eh? I had once saw it on a movie catalog, and I instinctively knew that it was going to be sad, and yet still be the most entertainment movie on the book. I didn't get to watch it though, my parents budged in and made me watch Carriers instead.

I'm thinking of borrowing that movie the next time I go to the library (which will probably be tomorrow).

Anyway, having your emotions being manipulated is something that we all experience, day to day. Unless of course, you live by yourself.

 

[AwakebutDreaming]

When I was younger, The Lion King would always make me cry. Oh, and Star Wars the first movie. I always would cry when he left his mom to go become a Jedi...

 

[bananaphallus]

Balto

 

[cheese]

That whole "cold" reputation is totally overstated. Just because other people can't spot our emotions doesn't mean they aren't there. So we aren't drama queens. I can spot the emotions in other INTPs easier than I can in many other people.

As for watching dramas, you certainly described me exactly. I love some dramas, like Driving Miss Daisy or The Grapes of Wrath, but for the most part, I prefer comedies, capers, science fiction, or movies with lots of explosions. Overly intense dramas make me feel manipulated, like Million Dollar Baby. And generally no chick flicks for me, though I must admit I didn't hate When Harry Met Sally. I tend to see more dramas on stage than as movies.

As for the question in the thread title, I cry so easily at movies it is pathetic. I also cry at live theater and when I listen to some songs. I cry over certain TV shows (like the Taxi episode where Jim's father died). I cry over books. Actually, I find this totally annoying but I haven't been able to stop it.

Since I think it is relevant to the discussion, I will add that I am female.

Why do you think it's relevant?

I thought MBTI suggests that traditionally female characteristics - such as frequent emotional displays - are a result of dominant or auxiliary Feeling, which accounts for about 70% of the sex, rather than female biology.

Although I've heard it suggested that Tdom women aren't as strongly T as Tdom men, since they'd be measuring their characteristics against the F female stereotype (arising from the strongly F population). This only makes sense for the test though, perhaps. Not sure what to think.

Adymus?

 

[ashitaria]

Why do you think it's relevant?

I thought MBTI suggests that traditionally female characteristics - such as frequent emotional displays - are a result of dominant or auxiliary Feeling, which accounts for about 70% of the sex, rather than female biology.

Although I've heard it suggested that Tdom women aren't as strongly T as Tdom men, since they'd be measuring their characteristics against the F female stereotype (arising from the strongly F population). This only makes sense for the test though, perhaps. Not sure what to think.

Adymus?

Ah, I sense the start of a very big debate. I might join.

 

[Audentia]

The Last Unicorn usually makes me cry.. ever since I was a little girl. I adore that movie.

I don't often cry from movies unless they're real heart-wrenchers. These can do it sometimes:

The Secret of Nim, Watership Down, Pay It Forward, Out of Africa (the end always makes me a sieve), I dreamed of Africa (holy ****, sad!).

 

[Gather_Wanderer]

armageddon when it first came out and i was a kid. i didn't cry but i came close. its weird too because i don't think i would've felt anything if no one told me the ending was kinda sad. and bruce willis was always more on the awesome side of the spectrum to me back then anyway. die hard 3? come on, it was cool.

 

[Trebuchet]

Why do you think it's relevant [that you are female]?

Oh, nothing to do with weak Fe or anything like that. I said so mainly because I don't know any men who cry at movies. I am sure some do, and perhaps they will post so here, but I haven't met them. If someone is answering whether they ever cry at movies, I am guessing that more women than men will say that they do. So I threw it in. However, though I think it is relevant, I don't think it is terribly important.

 

[citrusbreath95]

I never cry over movies really except the Passion of The Christ

 

[RubberDucky451]

I never cry over movies really except the Passion of The Christ

This thread better not turn into a religion debate

 

[ktp]

Synecdoche : New York made me cry. I am a 21 year old male.

 

[ckm]

I guess this depends on what qualifies for "cry". Sniffle, or tears welling up, or actually running down your cheeks? Anyway, The Fox and the Hound always made me cry as a child, but even then I hated showing it. I saw I am Legend the day I found out my favourite teacher had died, and when

Spoiler

Will Smith killed his dog

I spend the rest of the movie exploding into tears sporadically (I was alone). At the end of House season 4 there were tears running down my cheeks. Oh, and the end of Naruto season 1 was heart-wrenching if I recall correctly, as was when

Spoiler

Hughes was killed

in Fullmetal Alchemist. There are plenty more that i've forgotten.


Am I the only one who loves emotionally provocative films/shows? I kind of enjoy being emotionally abused by the box. I find it exhilarating.

 

[Sugarpop]

I never cry over movies really except the Passion of The Christ

wtf but jesus didnt existed!!

 

[ckm]

wtf but jesus didnt existed!!

Neither did Todd from The Fox and the Hound, but that didn't stop me.

 

[Döden]

I've teared up at movies, but only one film has ever induced the type of crying that involves vocal cords: Farväl Falkenberg.
It's probably because I related to the main character so much. He was really thoughtful and missed his childhood and how things used to be. Very sensitive. I could see a lot of myself in that, in his hidden vulnerability. Pretty sure that character was an INFP.
Pretty much, my face was a drippy mess. I was sobbing. God knows how much toilet paper I used (ran out of kleenex) to wipe my tears and slobber. It was pretty intense : p.

ckm, I usually avoid movies if I know they will be extremely emotionally heavy. While I can say Farväl is easily one of my favorites, it might be years before I can watch it again. It was so draining (and I don't want the effect to become dulled with multiple viewings).

 

[cheese]

ckm, I usually avoid movies if I know they will be extremely emotionally heavy. While I can say Farväl is easily one of my favorites, it might be years before I can watch it again. It was so draining (and I don't want the effect to become dulled with multiple viewings).

That's interesting. Why not? Do you find something beautiful in the emotional content and the way it impacts you?

Oh, nothing to do with weak Fe or anything like that. I said so mainly because I don't know any men who cry at movies. I am sure some do, and perhaps they will post so here, but I haven't met them. If someone is answering whether they ever cry at movies, I am guessing that more women than men will say that they do. So I threw it in. However, though I think it is relevant, I don't think it is terribly important.

So do you think less men cry than women, or less men would admit to crying? (Sorry, just trying to understand.)

 

[Wish]

There have been a few movies that have made my eyes damp, but the only movie that has ever made me break down and cry was Good Will Hunting for similar reasons as Döden gave.. relatability, etc.

 

[Döden]

That's interesting. Why not? Do you find something beautiful in the emotional content and the way it impacts you?

It's just kind of exhausting I guess. In the case of a few films it is beautiful, because the emotion incurred made me start thinking about my own life, my choices, where I'd end up, etc. It's like being let in.

 

[Trebuchet]

So do you think less men cry than women, or less men would admit to crying? (Sorry, just trying to understand.)

Probably both. I live in the US, so my experience may not apply elsewhere. But yes, in my experience, fewer men cry at all than women, and fewer men will admit it. Mostly I have seen men cry at funerals or other real tragedies, but not so much at movies.

I do not think this reflects at all on the actual emotions or reactions of men vs. women, which I expect are essentially identical, but on the socialization. I also suspect that it is not a coincidence that a lot of tear-jerkers are considered "chick flicks"; I think some men avoid such movies in order to avoid crying. At least one man (INTJ) admitted as much to me, though I did see one movie make him cry. Another man (INTP) told me he doesn't like downer movies, and that he had never cried at a movie, because the way he was raised men just didn't do that.

Since this thread asks the question of who cries at movies, and we already know that most posts are going to be by INTPs, I threw in the detail I thought most likely to be a deciding factor. Maybe I am completely wrong, and equal numbers of men and women cry at movies, or more men cry. That would be interesting to know.

 

[cheese]

Doden: I meant why don't you want the effect dulled (forgot to italicise earlier, oops).

 

[Döden]

Ah, I see.
Then yes, it is the beauty and also the clarity of that beauty. Kind of like listening to a song over and over til you hate it, I guess. I don't want it to become muddied. I saw the film twice and with the second viewing I was starting to get inklings of annoyance at how things played out in the film, like the director was just trying to be as tragic as possible. I don't want cynicism to cloud what was such an intense experience.

Huh, I never really analyzed that before. How weird this is :/

 

[bananaphallus]

I feel like I should be ashamed of myself for writing this, but in The Life Aquatic, when Stevezie finally catches a glimpse of the Jaguar Shark, and that Sigur Ros song starts playing, I teared up. At the time, I thought that scene - the music, visually, the sense of family, things never quite being the same again, etc. - was the most beautiful thing I'd ever witnessed. I consider myself lucky to be alive.

 

[Synoptist]

Whenever I anticipate an emotional bit in a film, I always try to analyze the microelements to distance myself. I'll be like "daaamn, she looks like she's actually distraught. She's definitely earning her millions!" or "shit, can you hear how fucking sombre that score is? Kudos to you, composer!". That's why I can watch stuff like I Am Legend and Million Dollar Baby and shrug it off afterwards.

Though not really a film, one documentary fucked me up emotionally and it's called "Dear Zachary: A Letter To A Son About His Father". Seeing as it was real-life and not actualized characterizations of a writer's mind, I couldn't detach myself. I can empathize with movie character's all the time but this is the only time in recent memory where something I've watched has evoked genuine sympathy (and this includes media coverage of most terrorist attacks and natural disasters). Although, I didn't cry (I could have), I was.. really emotionally invested and by the end, I was just exhausted.

Although I loved it, for a few days after, I was scared (maybe apprehensive is more appropiate) of the prospect of experiencing something that intense again. Actually, the only way I would watch that by myself again is if someone either paid me or dared me.

 

[shoeless]

edward scissorhands, the lion king, donnie darko, lots of movies that involve grown men crying/suffering great loss, etc..

i dunno, i used to never cry for movies. i still don't if i'm watching a movie with somebody.

but if i'm on my own, and allow myself to become engrossed in what's happening... yeah.

 

[Madoness]

Crash
House of Flying Daggers

 

[NothingTodo]

Seven pounds

 

[tashi]

Up - especially the initial montage (though some of the later scenes were pretty heartwrenching as well). I almost cried - mind you, I bit my lip and clenched my fist so that I wouldn't, even though I was in a dark movie theatre where nobody would see me cry. I enjoyed it on one level (I guess what they say about catharsis is true) but I disliked how a movie was able to manipulate my emotions so easily...

Yeah, that movei really got to me. I was really suprised...
The only movie that I've cried outright in was that 9/11 movie with Nicolas Cage in it, but that was because it gave me flashbacks of a caraccident that I had been in earlier that year. It was pretty embarrassing...