anger

[GTPJay]

Anyone else get into these anger spells, where anything and everything piss you off? Its been awhile for me I usually go into seclusion for about 4 or 5 months. I've been mad since yesterday I'm not sure what triggered it. Anyone else get like this?

 

[Ermine]

I have my days, but I get over it within a couple days.

 

[Tyria]

Sometimes. I usually don't lash out though for various reasons.

 

[GTPJay]

I dont lash out I just shut everyone out

 

[Felan]

Sometimes I get inexplicably snippy and felt I was being to mean. When I ask them about it later, they say they didn't noticed. Damnit I can't even get pissed off right!

It does reinforce the thought that I am so near invisible, that others will scarce notice my absence when the mothership comes.

 

[tom]

Definatly identify with this. except i can normally see the reason, often someone being a dick to someone else

 

[sagewolf]

Sometimes I get inexplicably snippy and felt I was being to mean. When I ask them about it later, they say they didn't noticed. Damnit I can't even get pissed off right!

My god, yes. If I'm going to be miserable and uptight and on edge all day, could I at least have the pleasure of having pissed everyone around me off too? (Then I calm down and reflect that it's a good thing I don't have to deal with the aftermath of a ranting, raving rampage through my tiny social circle.)

I certainly do have days like this, normally when I feel my freedom or privacy is being impinged on. No-one ever notices, and it's counter-productive because the overflow of my Fi (through Fe) renders my Ti unable to adequately express my anger in a way that would come close to resolving it: my Fe's already busy cussing everyone and everything at the behest of Fi.

 

[Sapphire Harp]

When I get unexpected angry spells, I often find they're caused by frustrating BS that occurred months or years ago, particularly if I didn't win any kind of closure about it. Something I saw or thought reminded me of it on an emotional level.

Cognitively I figure out the source of the anger later. It also happens with sadness, embarrassment, and a few other negative emotions.
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[Inappropriate Behavior]

I don't experience the severity described in the OP but I do get inexplicably irritable. Anyone who bothers to bother me will get a nice taste of it.

 

[Venture]

Well don't at least I don't notice it.

I never used to like watching children telivision like Disney Channel or Nickalodeon because just watching the scenerios and problems the episodes had would make me a bit angry.

I seem to angry when things go wrong when they could have very sure enough gone better.

I also get pissed off just being around certain people ecspeacily certain personality types.

 

[NoID10ts]

I'm always pissed. My demeanor consists entirely of different levels of pissedness.

It's all part of my charm.



Any of you want to make anything of it?

 

[Prof_Pointless]

Yes there are times when I get very angry, however I find that venting it out in an extreme yet controlled fashion helps me to move past it and kind of get closure on the thing I'm pissed about.

For example, find something that isn't very important to you and just smash it to fucking pieces. A few years back the mattress on my bed would fall to the ground because the screws in the headboard kept coming loose. After this happened about the fifth time I just tore off the headboard, took it to the top of the staircase and kicked it in half right down the middle then tossed it down the stairs. Let me tell you, anger resolved. The key is to act out while still understanding the consequences (hence something relatively unimportant should be your target).

Another more practical example, beat the shit out of a punching bag or something. It just doesn't have the same satisfaction as destruction is all

 

[sagewolf]

Chopping wood is doubly good for that: you destroy something and achieve a practical purpose, assuming you have a fireplace. If not, you can burn it in the yard, roast marshmallows over the fire, and say you're camping out.

 

[GTPJay]

When I get unexpected angry spells, I often find they're caused by frustrating BS that occurred months or years ago, particularly if I didn't win any kind of closure about it. Something I saw or thought reminded me of it on an emotional level.

Cognitively I figure out the source of the anger later. It also happens with sadness, embarrassment, and a few other negative emotions.
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Yeah it does happen with other negative emotions for me its embarrassment. I randomly think about something embarrassing and im like oh wtf was i think i wish i could go back

 

[The Sky Fell]

Absolutely.
Though I can never stay angry for more than a few hours.
When I say "a few" I really mean eight or so...
I usually just put it off as me being the irrational, hormonal teenager I'm allowed to be.
(I actually use that as the reasoning behind most of my otherwise unexplainable emotions)

 

[echoplex]

Yep. I find that they usually stem from the fact that I simply don't feel well for some reason. Something as seemingly harmless as messed up hair or a pulled muscle can set off a series of anger-inducing events.

 

[GTPJay]

I've been come down a bit but im still mad, its been 3 days.

 

[Nevermind]

I split anger into two types:

The first type is the kind I feel when someone I care about does something to upset me somehow. It typically lasts a few hours to a day at the most, as I always give up because they don't seem to notice and I can't stand remaining angry at someone I care about for very long.

The second type is the irritated, pissed off anger, that is sparked either by people I don't know who irritate me(obnoxious stupid people) or by someone who I already hate(e.g. my bitchy ISTJ math teacher). This anger typically goes away when the irritation is removed and I am alone or around people who I actually like.

I rarely get out of control, but in my head I want to kill people in the second type. The first type is often more of a hurt feeling and I always feel bad for making a big deal out of things and regret being angry, even if no one noticed.

 

[The Fury]

Anger is about the only emotion I've felt the higher tiers of. I've felt full blown out fury to the point where I want to beat somebody into the ground. It's a very rare thing though. Usually my spouts of anger don't last very long and are directed towards the stupidity of humanity.

 

[EditorOne]

Anger and I are pretty much strangers. In the past 11 years with this employer I've only gotten angry enough to publicly chew out someone once, and it was the unmitigated narcissistic effrontery of someone who decided to read through and change a lawsuit-potential news story that had been carefully read and vetted by senior editors and lawyers that set me off. He wasn't a copy editor; it wasn't his story; a lawsuit on the topic was already filed; he was playing with matches in a dynamite factory.

It was not unreasonable for me to be roaring-bull, mad-dog, charging-rhino angry.

I don't like to do that because it leaves me nauseous and guilty afterwards. I guess it's like INTP social remorse, letting an emotion run the show briefly and also letting it drag me out of that safe introversion mode.

On the other hand once was enough for the newsroom, that particular behavior has never been repeated.

So occasionally anger serves a utilitarian purpose, but it comes with a cost.

 

[phantome]

hmmn not really, I do constantly have days when I feel like shutting everyone out and being alone....and when people want to talk to me for more than five minutes on those days I get very irritated. But I don't lash out at someone UNLESS they start talking to me

 

[Red Mage]

I'm angry so often that it's more unusual for me to not be angry. I call these periods "normal spells."