So before the forum purged the conversation... you believe your dad is an ISTJ and your mom an ENTJ. I certainly agree about the feeling judged part, though for me its always been a feeling. Despite being J's, both my parents have been fairly accepting of me (religious and political choices aside).
One thing that troubles me, and I hope and fear you can relate, is that I find it difficult to intellectually respect my dad at times. I believe in many ways he's a better man than I still, but he insists of poor learning techniques and caving to group think. Do you think that's personal, or personality?