Why do I (un)consciously seek out introverts?

[TimeAsylums]

I have stated this a few times elsewhere, but
the greater majority (likely 70%+) of my friends are introverts,
and 100% of my girlfriends have been introverts as well.

Do I seek them out because I find them more interesting?
Do extraverts bore me?
Is it because they have a 'deeper' in terms of 'inner' realm of life?
Do they seek me out??

I am open to all probing/informational questions, because to be honest,

I really don't know.

Maybe relevant information:

I didn't have any real friends, or even a best friend up until my freshman year of highschool, (what is that, 14? 15? idk) I didn't really talk to people much, my family moved around literally every two years (as a result I've been to many countries/states), ever since freshman year though I've had multiple best friends (real relationships) and girlfriends, yet the majority of them are introverts, undeniably.

Fyi, I'm an ENTP (NeTiFeSi), so I didn't even get to use the social aspects of NeFe until 14ish or whatever. I was nothing but a bookworm until then (still am) and as a result, have read a shitload of books.

Even to this day, I have a "lone wolf" mentality

When I first took the MBTI, I thought I was an INTP for a month because of the greater first half of my life (0-14) I had been the very ideal of a stereotypical introvert, and had just assumed I had come out of my shell

Would appreciate any theories/speculations, because as of yet, I've been unable to determine why.

 

[Pyropyro]

I remembered that my ENTP friend told me that likes Batman (INTJ) more than Ironman (ENTP) because if he and Ironman is in the same room then Ironman would 'rob' the spotlight from him.

I guess E's hate competition so they seek the company of non-competing ones.

 

[TimeAsylums]

'rob' the spotlight from him.
I guess E's hate competition so they seek the company of non-competing ones.

Hm. I had not even thought of that. A possibility that I do not deny, but don't yet entirely confirm because I don't consciously recognize it. I will ponder, however tbh seems very likely...

I wonder if I am so self absorbed...

I am something of a narcissist

...that I was unable to recognize that...that is, determine it for myself...interesting...

Oh you I's are so few in number

 

[Foxman49]

Oh you I's are so few in number

How are introverts few in number?



I found ENTPs seem to be the most introverted of extroverts. Their Ti allows then to spend some time alone and think, something introverts really appreciate. ENTPs, unlike most extroverts, acknowledge that there is nothing wrong with introversion. Us introverts like an ENTPs Ti and Ne and the fact they encourage us to be friendlier and do things without being overbearing about it.

 

[TimeAsylums]

How are introverts few in number?

Statistically speaking. Do any google MBTI search on the E/I dichotomy. Generally, it falls somewhere near 75%/25% E/I.
I stand corrected; it seems I was thinking of the S/N dichotomy.

I found ENTPs seem to be the most introverted of extroverts.

Yes, most agree with this.

ENTPs, unlike most extroverts, acknowledge that there is nothing wrong with introversion. Us introverts like an ENTP's Ti and Ne and the fact they encourage us to be friendlier and do things without being overbearing about it.

Quit feeding my ego:

Spoiler

...it means feed my ego more
compensatory narcissist indeed...​

 

[Foxman49]

When the MBTI first came out, early statistics gave 66% extrovert, 33% introvert. Myers realized after gathering more data that this is in fact incorrect and it is more 50-50. Highest relatively reliable statistic I've heard is 43-57 E/I.

Source: Introvert Power by Laurie Helgoe Ph.D.

Lol about feeding your ego.

 

[Foxman49]

Quit feeding my ego:

Spoiler

...it means feed my ego more
compensatory narcissist indeed...​

*eyes roll* You ENTPs love your audiences.

 

[TimeAsylums]

*eyes roll*

there is a smiley for that

You ENTPs love your audiences.

HE KNOWS TOO MUCH!!

 

[Brontosaurie]

my friend Cyberpunk from this forum (he never got quite active) is the same

he is ENFP.

i think the Ne doms are very interested in introverts because introverts ruminate their ideas thoroughly, and Ne doms are essentially idea people.

 

[r4ch3l]

An ENFP I had a whirlwind fling with lamented being consistently drawn to introverts but having extrovert needs. In the end I could not keep up with him (although I had fun trying) and felt he was ignoring my needs (for space...without being offended). He also seemed to believe introverted people were somehow deficient and just needed to *try* or *learn*.

I believe that Ns in general are habitually drawn to introverts (so: ENTJ, ENTPs, ENFJs, ENFPs) because they provide a dimension of introspection that can be lacking in their fellow extroverts (who they have no trouble finding or connecting with). I believe ENs are naturally drawn to and often feel superior to ESxx people, compete and/or have their closest friendships with other ENxx, and look for a missing complementary type in INxxs. Never seen an ENxx and an ISxx get along.

 

[TimeAsylums]

i think the Ne doms are very interested in introverts because introverts ruminate their ideas thoroughly, and Ne doms are essentially idea people.

Yes, it seems you and r4ch3l have the same idea. I agree as well.

 

[TimeAsylums]

I believe that Ns in general are habitually drawn to introverts (so ENTJ, ENTPs, ENFJs, ENFPs) because they provide a dimension of introspection that can be lacking in their fellow extroverts.

hm, agreed.

I believe ENs are drawn to ESxx people, compete and/or have their closest friendships with other ENxx,

My closest friendships are all Ixxx, er introverts. However, with this being said, I don't personally know any ENxx at all, so can't say. Meh. ESxx are...stifling, even to me.

Thinking about PyroPyro's post as well, I am probably indeed drawn away from the ESxx because they are more stifling than the introverts as a generality. I hate mental encroachment (although I probably do it to all of my introverted friends...teehee.

and look for a missing complementary type in INxxs.

Only personally know two INTPs, two INTJ, one INFP. I like dem

Never seen an ENxx and an ISxx get along.

Really?? I've dated two ISTPs and one ISFP. Hm...
Idk. I generally get along with everybody, fucking Fe = "don't hurt anyone!!!"

 

[Montresor]

I generally get along with everybody, fucking Fe = "don't hurt anyone!!!"

Can I just start out by disagreeing with the last sentence and then read the thread backwards from there?

 

[Montresor]

^jk.


In regards to op: I would like to just say that when I was young (up to age 15ish) I acted quite a bit like [how I perceive] you do now - and highly E (can't say Se or Ne, but Si seems like a more suitable attractor point for that time). I struggled with introversion from that age until about age 21-22 at which time I would say I was fully introverted.

The point to the story is that the E/I dichotomy is arguably the only one that truly exists, and you can't ever know for sure what you are dealing with so early in life.

coming out of your shell is symbolic for discovering your extroverted side but that's just one side of the coin, the other being the discovery of your introverted side.

 

[scorpiomover]

An ENFP I had a whirlwind fling with lamented being consistently drawn to introverts but having extrovert needs. In the end I could not keep up with him (although I had fun trying) and felt he was ignoring my needs (for space...without being offended). He also seemed to believe introverted people were somehow deficient and just needed to *try* or *learn*.

I believe that Ns in general are habitually drawn to introverts (so: ENTJ, ENTPs, ENFJs, ENFPs) because they provide a dimension of introspection that can be lacking in their fellow extroverts (who they have no trouble finding or connecting with). I believe ENs are naturally drawn to and often feel superior to ESxx people, compete and/or have their closest friendships with other ENxx, and look for a missing complementary type in INxxs. Never seen an ENxx and an ISxx get along.

Lovely analysis. Just lovely. Flawless.

 

[own8ge]

Based merely on the title, I will provide my insight on human interaction.

We humans are active in relating with echother (communication/relationship_building), for either the purpose of emotive/though expression or for the sake of consultation. Both require trust. Who you trust, defines the diversity of your relationships. This taste of trust derives from multiple dichotomial aspects. A fare most important aspect is that of self reflection. Who lights your good side, and who lights your dark side; both defines who will make you feel good and who will not.

The last element, is that of worthiness. What you thin you are worth, is what you will seek. Or in psychological depth: what you conclude your existance its relative significance is, will define the ego that consults reality, and therefor it also defines the people you talk to, and how you talk to them. It will define how you expect others to treat you, and this vision will come true as a person can only see what he wants to see.

You seek introverts. So you have concludes to feel safer amongst introverts.