The Random Thoughts Thread

[Polaris]

You reminded me that I've been looking to climb a local mountain, It's like 3-4 hours. I have an exam on friday and then another on wednesday so it could be a thursday. Lavender is across the mountain, along with roaming sheep and a smaller scale "great wall of china" across the mountain. It should be good for the senses being up there by myself, with a new phone to take some pictures with. (I'm getting a huawei p30 pro on contract tomorrow, I've never been much of a photo guy so I hope this will change things.

More virtual slapping since you asked for it :P

If you are planning on taking photos, maybe make it a semi-organised effort where you "report" back to us in the form of a photo diary? Sort of Jack Kerouac'ish by imagery? I mean, I personally love seeing other people's photographic work because it gives me an opportunity to perceive the world through their eyes. It could potentially give you another purpose to get out there and be creative as well as being interactive here by bringing your world back to the gloomy old dark castle

No pressure though, just a suggestion.

Best of luck with your exams!

@moody Your thoughts and reflections are highly appreciated.

@Inexorable Username - I will get back to you later!

 

[Inexorable Username]

@_@ Why do I love brutally crushing people in debates on YouTube.

I just read this disturbing shadow function thing on INTPs a little while ago that gave examples of behaviors within the shadow function, one of which was to enjoy crushing people in debates. It was an eerily precise description of myself.

What is this weird behavior and why do I believe that by proving people wrong beyond reasonable doubt, I can somehow persuade them to change their minds?

Not that I’m 100% vicious all of the time, but if I’m totally honest, there is a nasty little part of me that enjoys being cleverly mean to bitter, hostile people.

I think, deep within my soul, there rests a sweet little logic kitty that secretly has rabies.

Okay, this is rhetorical mostly. Feel free to solve the riddle if you think you’ve got some ideas about this mildly evil tendency of mine - but my responses will be few and far between, if any tonight. Gotta work. Tag me.

 

[peoplesuck]

@Inexorable Username

@_@ Why do I love brutally crushing people in debates on YouTube.

I just read this disturbing shadow function thing on INTPs a little while ago that gave examples of behaviors within the shadow function, one of which was to enjoy crushing people in debates. It was an eerily precise description of myself.

What is this weird behavior and why do I believe that by proving people wrong beyond reasonable doubt, I can somehow persuade them to change their minds?

Not that I’m 100% vicious all of the time, but if I’m totally honest, there is a nasty little part of me that enjoys being cleverly mean to bitter, hostile people.

I think, deep within my soul, there rests a sweet little logic kitty that secretly has rabies.

Okay, this is rhetorical mostly. Feel free to solve the riddle if you think you’ve got some ideas about this mildly evil tendency of mine - but my responses will be few and far between, if any tonight. Gotta work. Tag me.

At some point you had a belief close to your heart that someone proved wrong, now you are like an adult who was raped as a child, having some weird desire to be what hurt you.
OR
At some point someone made you feel small and worthless with words and reasons, now thats how you attack people because thats what you think hurts most.

Im drunk believe nothing I say.
I dunno, but i read a psychology book a few times.

@Rebis If I thought I understood you to any degree I would give some sort of suggestion to help, but I dont. get well soon.

 

[Inexorable Username]

I have a bad habit of ostracizing myself, my current model:
-Not going to class, only watching recorded lectures
-Talking little with people in work, outside of work
-Decided to stop drinking, which is quite a big thing over here.
-I enjoy most media by myself, It'd be draining watching TV with someone I couldn't get absorbed.
-Any video games I played was by myself, in my own time.
-Isolated from the family.
-Disassociating from friends, not acknowledging messages.
-Burying myself in ideas and books that I can't relate to others with, further isolating myself.
-I rarely plan social gatherings myself, I just recieve invitations. So given all the above, there's less probability of me recieving invitations.
-I grow by being alone, which gives me a compulsion to be by myself.

It'll probably subside in a few weeks, but I should indulge in some media content to keep a good social context. TV and sci-fi is desirable. Any suggestions?

What about....Mr. Robot, season 1?
Cobra Kai season 1 on YouTube is also good, if you saw karate kid.

 

[Inexorable Username]

At some point someone made you feel small and worthless with words and reasons, now thats how you attack people because thats what you think hurts most.

Hmmm...that could be it. I'll have to put some thought into that.

 

[peoplesuck]

At some point someone made you feel small and worthless with words and reasons, now thats how you attack people because thats what you think hurts most.

Hmmm...that could be it. I'll have to put some thought into that.

Tell me how close I got when you figure it out.

I just realized something, I have become way more gentle and empathetic since I cuddled with that person... What if im an infp and I just needed love

Spoiler: Is that even possible?

 

[peoplesuck]

And that kids is how I met your mother.
My phone is fucked so it doesnt type right.

Spoiler: idk

Apparently she is an entp and I have never sensed an actual...Intellect, like this before. Im not saying shes a genius but shes NOT FUCKING DUMB WAOOH. I mean outside intpf, you guys are very smart. ily all
She actually has random facts, and she knows about pheromones and psychology!!
Sorry I got excited, this doesnt happen often. That is the grossest understatement I have ever made.
I cant wait for the first date to be awesome and then never hear from her again, ah depression her I come baby, get the bed warm, and make some tacos.
Extremely rare NT mating ritual:

Spoiler: I found someone else who finds it entertaining to talk like a hoodrat

thats real btw. I havent had this much fun joking with a person in a very long time. that wasnt a joke though. We have the same humor, thats so god damned rare, no one likes my humor!

 

[Rebis]

@Rebis If I thought I understood you to any degree I would give some sort of suggestion to help, but I dont. get well soon.

I'm in a constant clash between a few world views, it be understandable. Incosistency is illogical.

 

[peoplesuck]

@Rebis If I thought I understood you to any degree I would give some sort of suggestion to help, but I dont. get well soon.

I'm in a constant clash between a few world views, it be understandable.

Yes you are quite complex.

 

[Rebis]

More virtual slapping since you asked for it :P

If you are planning on taking photos, maybe make it a semi-organised effort where you "report" back to us in the form of a photo diary? Sort of Jack Kerouac'ish by imagery? I mean, I personally love seeing other people's photographic work because it gives me an opportunity to perceive the world through their eyes. It could potentially give you another purpose to get out there and be creative as well as being interactive here by bringing your world back to the gloomy old dark castle

No pressure though, just a suggestion.

Best of luck with your exams!

Yeah I'll take a few photos and try to organise them, I wouldn't say they're gonna be impressive though! I think I want a creative outlet, and on top of a mountain you're just by yourself. It is true peace. I climbed the mountain when snow had settled the top, it was pretty windy. I didn't have any climbing gear either, just a few jackets and my boots. I could only keep my hands out of my pocket for a minute, having said that it was great to be by yourself.

No problem! I’ll hold to that. Late tomorrow, I will harass you on whether or not you went on the hike. You have been warned.

*in a week and a half, not tomorrow

You seem quite artsy and creative, you tend to give unique perspectives to discussions. What creative outlets do you have?

 

[moody]

that is bad news lol. Or does it just mean I have an audience...

Hey, look on the bright side! They probably figure you’re disturbed, so you can continue to so disturbing things!

we have basically had polar opposite experiences, only at the end of my mentorship I was traumatized. She was the reason I started learning nowegian actually, she inspired me to actually use my potential.

I mean, i don’t really have great male role models in my life other than him. He was a private teacher, so of course I’m only seeing the most put-together side. All of the guys in my family died middle-aged, and I’m pretty sure my dad is passively suicidal, but he’s never seen and still refuses to see a therapist. There’s just a blank, unreachable look and he then makes a joke, or reroutes my words back at me to make it seem like my observations aren’t real. (Sigh)
I have a lot more females in my family, and the majority of other adult role-models (teachers mostly) were female. I suppose for me to say that the female role-models in my life were the ones to undermine me is a little biased, considering there was just more of them. It makes me unbiased when judging character of females though, I don’t really have any unconscious biases.

Im seriously jealous of the knee high leather boots women get

Why X D I find your fashions tastes funny

Just wear doc martens

we have basically had polar opposite experiences, only at the end of my mentorship I was traumatized.

Ehhh like I said, just lack of male adults in general (during my time as a minor)

I agree, easier said that internally accepted though.

Spoken like a pro. I need to practice what i preach more, so don’t feel pressured

Im trying to figure out/develop the side of me that society deems wrong.

Dude, the definition of what we find “cool” are literally people who have a distinctive style, personality, or goal, who don’t feel the need to compromise themselves for social pressure. Once you get on your feet about who you are, It won’t seem as though society deems you wrong. (Treeeendsettar!)

BAH so weird to think people see me this way.

I don’t quantify myself as a “person” because I don’t know you in person. I can’t read your body language or facial expressions.

I thought I was insensitive and self absorbed.

How you treat others is different than how you treat yourself.

I listen too much? I demand proof. Growing up in an abusive household with unaffectionate parents, one of which wanted absolutely nothing to do with me, certainly has its disadvantages.

Introspective listening, then. Or maybe a better way to describe it is internalizing. You’ve demonstrated that you naturally internalize your experiences. I mean, everyone does in different ways, so I guess it’s a pretty general analysis.

When I say “listen” I don’t mean listen to understand. More like hearing, I guess? Where you feel compelled to correct someone because you’re too uncomfortable with them thinking something you don’t seem accurate. Like when you defended your teacher woman and made excuses for her. Sure it’s a reaction, but you got unsettled by what other people said. Ugh. I’m not using the right words what are words so maybe just disregard this...

and after 30 attempts at making my little snowflake case, It sank in. We all suffer, and go through our own unique growing pains. Fucking rebis making me self aware and "destroying the fuck out of my pity party". thanks my guy. <3 that honestly hit deep, I will from now on remember that exact conversation, any time I feel like im being a pitiful little bitch.
I think intpf peoplesuck is the real PS deep down, I have changed so much in the last few weeks its crazy.

Haha! Yes you were a lot more reasonably and easy to talk to after that. Before you were only reacting, which is understandable.

I’ve had a lot of people tell me I wasn’t special or unique from a young age, and I assumed they knew something about me that I didn’t, so I stepped cautiously. In conversations too, I’ve learned that you can’t reach someone unless you make it understood that you’re not undermining them or their experiences. unless I’m confident of the other person’s situation and can visibly read them, I go with validation as my approach. A lot of people already are beating themselves up about their issues and what they do wrong, and they don’t need to hear it from you.

If you’ve only had people in your life tip-toe around the situation and not confront it with you, it makes sense that you’d view yourself as “a special little snow flake.” Im glad you snapped out of it, because it makes it impossible for anyone to console/advise you because no one could possibly give you the “right advise.” And then you’re rendered unable to help yourself.

I appreciate your insight, and that you took the time to share it. It means a lot to me.
Pretty sure I just saw my Fe for the first time. Weird, and bigger than expected.

But of course! I try to give any helpful insight when I can. I’ve seen so many people left in the dust because no one took the time to listen and give some perspective. Everyone is too careful and too busy most of the time. I’m just grateful you got something out of it. Makes me feel like I’m not just wasting my time/procrastinating to be nosy!

Not that I’m 100% vicious all of the time, but if I’m totally honest, there is a nasty little part of me that enjoys being cleverly mean to bitter, hostile people.

I’ll speak plainly and generally.

This is because you’ve been treated this way, and as such it gives you pleasure to dish it back. It’s common when you’re insecure. This is often caused by having been in circumstances where you feel you have no control over your situation or your state of being. It’s a maladaptive coping mechanism that gives you power over a situation through emotional manipulation. It’s most common in women due to a social history of being viewed at as irrational, and being given little material jurisdiction over their lives. It’s why women don’t band together, and can treat each other horribly. There’s a reason for all those stories of concubines hating one another, and even trying to hurt/murder and each other.

It’s also

Okay, this is rhetorical mostly. Feel free to solve the riddle if you think you’ve got some ideas about this mildly evil tendency of mine - but my responses will be few and far between, if any tonight. Gotta work. Tag me.

What riddle?

What if im an infp and I just needed love

Get out
I’m kidding
But still

 

[moody]

that is bad news lol. Or does it just mean I have an audience...

Hey, look on the bright side! They probably figure you’re disturbed, so you can continue to so disturbing things!

we have basically had polar opposite experiences, only at the end of my mentorship I was traumatized. She was the reason I started learning nowegian actually, she inspired me to actually use my potential.

I mean, i don’t really have great male role models in my life other than him. He was a private teacher, so of course I’m only seeing the most put-together side. All of the guys in my family died middle-aged, and I’m pretty sure my dad is passively suicidal, but he’s never seen and still refuses to see a therapist. There’s just a blank, unreachable look and he then makes a joke, or reroutes my words back at me to make it seem like my observations aren’t real. (Sigh)
I have a lot more females in my family, and the majority of other adult role-models (teachers mostly) were female. I suppose for me to say that the female role-models in my life were the ones to undermine me is a little biased, considering there was just more of them. It makes me unbiased when judging character of females though, I don’t really have any unconscious biases.

Im seriously jealous of the knee high leather boots women get

Why X D I find your fashions tastes funny

Just wear doc martens

we have basically had polar opposite experiences, only at the end of my mentorship I was traumatized.

Ehhh like I said, just lack of male adults in general (during my time as a minor)

I agree, easier said that internally accepted though.

Spoken like a pro. I need to practice what i preach more, so don’t feel pressured

Im trying to figure out/develop the side of me that society deems wrong.

Dude, the definition of what we find “cool” are literally people who have a distinctive style, personality, or goal, who don’t feel the need to compromise themselves for social pressure. Once you get on your feet about who you are, It won’t seem as though society deems you wrong. (Treeeendsettar!)

BAH so weird to think people see me this way.

I don’t quantify myself as a “person” because I don’t know you in person. I can’t read your body language or facial expressions.

I thought I was insensitive and self absorbed.

How you treat others is different than how you treat yourself.

I listen too much? I demand proof. Growing up in an abusive household with unaffectionate parents, one of which wanted absolutely nothing to do with me, certainly has its disadvantages.

Introspective listening, then. Or maybe a better way to describe it is internalizing. You’ve demonstrated that you naturally internalize your experiences. I mean, everyone does in different ways, so I guess it’s a pretty general analysis.

When I say “listen” I don’t mean listen to understand. More like hearing, I guess? Where you feel compelled to correct someone because you’re too uncomfortable with them thinking something you don’t seem accurate. Like when you defended your teacher woman and made excuses for her. Sure it’s a reaction, but you got unsettled by what other people said. Ugh. I’m not using the right words what are words so maybe just disregard this...

and after 30 attempts at making my little snowflake case, It sank in. We all suffer, and go through our own unique growing pains. Fucking rebis making me self aware and "destroying the fuck out of my pity party". thanks my guy. <3 that honestly hit deep, I will from now on remember that exact conversation, any time I feel like im being a pitiful little bitch.
I think intpf peoplesuck is the real PS deep down, I have changed so much in the last few weeks its crazy.

Haha! Yes you were a lot more reasonably and easy to talk to after that. Before you were only reacting, which is understandable.

I’ve had a lot of people tell me I wasn’t special or unique from a young age, and I assumed they knew something about me that I didn’t, so I stepped cautiously. In conversations too, I’ve learned that you can’t reach someone unless you make it understood that you’re not undermining them or their experiences. unless I’m confident of the other person’s situation and can visibly read them, I go with validation as my approach. A lot of people already are beating themselves up about their issues and what they do wrong, and they don’t need to hear it from you.

If you’ve only had people in your life tip-toe around the situation and not confront it with you, it makes sense that you’d view yourself as “a special little snow flake.” Im glad you snapped out of it, because it makes it impossible for anyone to console/advise you because no one could possibly give you the “right advise.” And then you’re rendered unable to help yourself.

I appreciate your insight, and that you took the time to share it. It means a lot to me.
Pretty sure I just saw my Fe for the first time. Weird, and bigger than expected.

But of course! I try to give any helpful insight when I can. I’ve seen so many people left in the dust because no one took the time to listen and give some perspective. Everyone is too careful and too busy most of the time. I’m just grateful you got something out of it. Makes me feel like I’m not just wasting my time/procrastinating to be nosy!

Not that I’m 100% vicious all of the time, but if I’m totally honest, there is a nasty little part of me that enjoys being cleverly mean to bitter, hostile people.

I’ll speak plainly and generally.

This is because you’ve been treated this way, and as such it gives you pleasure to dish it back. It’s common when you’re insecure. This is often caused by having been in circumstances where you feel you have no control over your situation or your state of being. It’s a maladaptive coping mechanism that gives you power over a situation through emotional manipulation. It’s most common in women due to a social history of being viewed at as irrational, and being given little material jurisdiction over their lives. It’s why women don’t band together, and can treat each other horribly. There’s a reason for all those stories of concubines hating one another, and even trying to hurt/murder and each other.

It’s also

Okay, this is rhetorical mostly. Feel free to solve the riddle if you think you’ve got some ideas about this mildly evil tendency of mine - but my responses will be few and far between, if any tonight. Gotta work. Tag me.

What riddle?

What if im an infp and I just needed love

Get out
I’m kidding
But still

 

[moody]

You seem quite artsy and creative, you tend to give unique perspectives to discussions. What creative outlets do you have?

I do? Why thank you! I try not to regurgitate what others have already said, and anything else I’ve learned from my own experiences.

I bake a lot. It’s rewarding, because if you do well, you have something to eat afterwards! Plus there aren’t many baked goods I can eat because of dietary sensitivities. Over time, I’ve learned to make really good gluten free and vegan baked goods (which takes a bit of research to figure out, but like i said, it’s rewarding). I also go to heated yoga, which really gets my mind centered. There’s a place close where I live, which is the only reason I started going. I’m really glad I did though, because it helps so much with focus and managing daily pain.

 

[Rebis]

Someone, somewhere and at sometime there will be an individual to watch this. They will not thank me but I will definitively be cementing a piece of information into their head. You can thank me for educating you

*Like a puppetmasta, I am truly in cuntrol > *

 

[peoplesuck]

I’m pretty sure my dad is passively suicidal, but he’s never seen and still refuses to see a therapist. There’s just a blank, unreachable look and he then makes a joke, or reroutes my words back at me to make it seem like my observations aren’t real. (Sigh)

I sorry to hear that, It must be very tough being unable to reach him. Its pretty damned hard to help someone who wont let you.

Why X D I find your fashions tastes funny

Just wear doc martens

I like mom jeans too. My fashion sense is sooo weird, believe me. I dont wear mom jeans I just think they are the coolest. may try some day.
My favorite shoes are actually vintage leather military boots, these are hard to find, the type I want at least.

Ehhh like I said, just lack of male adults in general (during my time as a minor)

How did that affect the way you see men? its personal, so share if you care to.

Spoken like a pro. I need to practice what i preach more, so don’t feel pressured

we all have room for growth. It is way too easy to tell someone how to be healthy, while being healthy is a real bitch. Im the same way.

Dude, the definition of what we find “cool” are literally people who have a distinctive style, personality, or goal, who don’t feel the need to compromise themselves for social pressure. Once you get on your feet about who you are, It won’t seem as though society deems you wrong. (Treeeendsettar!)

watch out world. Once I get my life in order ( have some amount of control over what is happening) I probably wont feel so insecure about my strange taste.

I don’t know you in person. I can’t read your body language or facial expressions.

Its good to remember this, this is intpf PS after all, I may be very different irl. I cant be like oo im so sensitive and listening, im such mature. Im probably not.

How you treat others is different than how you treat yourself.

I’m not using the right words what are words so maybe just disregard this.

I feel like you are close. Did you mean that I worry too much about correcting people that I miss what they are saying?

Haha! Yes you were a lot more reasonably and easy to talk to after that. Before you were only reacting, which is understandable.

praise the sky gods. It felt weird, when I realized I was wrong, rebis was trying to help, and I was being defensive rather than objective.

I’ve had a lot of people tell me I wasn’t special or unique from a young age, and I assumed they knew something about me that I didn’t, so I stepped cautiously. In conversations too, I’ve learned that you can’t reach someone unless you make it understood that you’re not undermining them or their experiences. unless I’m confident of the other person’s situation and can visibly read them, I go with validation as my approach. A lot of people already are beating themselves up about their issues and what they do wrong, and they don’t need to hear it from you.

If you’ve only had people in your life tip-toe around the situation and not confront it with you, it makes sense that you’d view yourself as “a special little snow flake.” Im glad you snapped out of it, because it makes it impossible for anyone to console/advise you because no one could possibly give you the “right advise.” And then you’re rendered unable to help yourself.

Personally I dont think telling someone they arent special is the way to go, there isnt any evidence. All we see are people in their daily life, we dont see people struggling and breaking down. What I needed was to hear how hard life had been for others, that way I realized im not special.

But of course! I try to give any helpful insight when I can. I’ve seen so many people left in the dust because no one took the time to listen and give some perspective. Everyone is too careful and too busy most of the time. I’m just grateful you got something out of it. Makes me feel like I’m not just wasting my time/procrastinating to be nosy!

Its very considerate of you. Patience is such a powerful tool. I understand, I really do appreciate the insight, like where else am I going to get it? for real not everyone has a social circle to herd them into being a likable human, or to even let them know why they arent.

Get out
I’m kidding
But still

Im not sure if that was a dumb joke, I think I was just bored. Idk what my type is, probably inxp or something. intp is all I relate to.

 

[peoplesuck]

Someone, somewhere and at sometime there will be an individual to watch this. They will not thank me but I will definitively be cementing a piece of information into their head. You can thank me for educating you

*Like a puppetmasta, I am truly in cuntrol > *

Once I was watching anatomy videos and I stumbled upon a video of a cadaver being dissected/skinned.
Burned into my brain forever, I regret watching, but I couldnt not

Tomorrow Im going to the thrift store to grab some knee high leather boots and convert them into what I actually want. I get something to do, I get to step outside my comfort zone (buying womens shoes) and in the end I have something cool.

 

[moody]

How did that affect the way you see men? its personal, so share if you care to.

watch out world. Once I get my life in order ( have some amount of control over what is happening) I probably wont feel so insecure about my strange taste.

im such mature

Grammatically incorrectness epitomize mature levels

Did you mean that I worry too much about correcting people that I miss what they are saying?

Yes! Not recently though
Originally, I was trying to retrace my line of thought as to what prompted the original though, then realized saying you “listen too much” didn’t very well match the original line of observations, then I confused myself and forgot what I was getting at in the first place.

I think I was just referring to the internalized aspect of your experiences. Which isn’t akin to the way we define “listening,” but learning. Hm. Looks like I twisted into a pretzel again.

for real not everyone has a social circle to herd them into being a likable human, or to even let them know why they arent.

Nope! People are too consumed on staying away from any disagreements, or don’t care enough to notice if someone’s having a hard time/is disillusioned.

Im not sure if that was a dumb joke

It was, please ignore

 

[peoplesuck]

Looks like I twisted into a pretzel again.

PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER LAD!

 

[Inexorable Username]

And that kids is how I met your mother.
My phone is fucked so it doesnt type right.

Spoiler: idk

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Apparently she is an entp and I have never sensed an actual...Intellect, like this before. Im not saying shes a genius but shes NOT FUCKING DUMB WAOOH. I mean outside intpf, you guys are very smart. ily all
She actually has random facts, and she knows about pheromones and psychology!!
Sorry I got excited, this doesnt happen often. That is the grossest understatement I have ever made.
I cant wait for the first date to be awesome and then never hear from her again, ah depression her I come baby, get the bed warm, and make some tacos.
Extremely rare NT mating ritual:

Spoiler: I found someone else who finds it entertaining to talk like a hoodrat

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thats real btw. I havent had this much fun joking with a person in a very long time. that wasnt a joke though. We have the same humor, thats so god damned rare, no one likes my humor!

Oh my gosh! That is awesome!

I actually love speaking with poor English/grammar in a comical way. I thought that was just me. Maybe there’s a whole weird subculture of people like that.

I’m so happy for you! You need to strategise your first date well. You’re the gent, which means you (generally speaking) get to choose how the date runs. That’s an awesome advantage you have. Pick something within your comfort zone!
I would also pick something that has activities. An arcade could be fun. Or a zoo. Something where you can both mutually enjoy a thing without having to make forceful conversation or prolonged uncomfortable eye contact.

If she IS an ENTP, I bet she will love your introverted, intelligent side.

 

[peoplesuck]

Oh my gosh! That is awesome!

Hey thanks. Im excited about it.

I actually love speaking with poor English/grammar in a comical way. I thought that was just me. Maybe there’s a whole weird subculture of people like that.

No way there are more of us?! I love speaking in youth slang ironically, its kinda my favorite. So far it has driven my other friends insane, but she does it and has a laugh over it, I dare say she does it more than I do.

I’m so happy for you! You need to strategise your first date well. You’re the gent, which means you (generally speaking) get to choose how the date runs. That’s an awesome advantage you have. Pick something within your comfort zone!
I would also pick something that has activities. An arcade could be fun. Or a zoo. Something where you can both mutually enjoy a thing without having to make forceful conversation or prolonged uncomfortable eye contact.

Thanks again.
Im not super sure as to what we should do but I have become super comfortable with people recently, Im really not too worried. (anyone who saw the first version of that post is looking at me sideways right now. ) I agree activities distract the critical part of our brain so we can bond while doing dumb shit fun stuff.

If she IS an ENTP, I bet she will love your introverted, intelligent side.

Yes! the chemistry is soo there. She gives off the chaotic energy I need in my life. There have been some really dumb/smart jokes shared. Im so glad we talked about mbti for a second because she seemed to realize playing coy was a bad idea, haha. At one point she actually told me she was flirting with me, which was nice because WOOSH.
It turns out talking to women is super fucking easy if I have like 10 minutes to read them, I oddly am not scared of meeting her now, im actually attracted to her, I ACTUALLY WANT TO PURSUE. Like a human person, so neat

 

[peoplesuck]

Im not going to say how we got to the point, but at one point we where talking about 2 things at the same time, they where guy fieri hentai and a neglected child I know. I could not believe we held a conversation like that, I was genuinely impressed. I mean we had a very serious talk about a child and a humorous talk about guy fieri hentai.

 

[Kormak]

A storm is brewing in my mind ever since I revisited the archetype of Woden (ENTP) .. as if I'm on the edge of some meaningful personal discovery. Why didn't I see this before? How does this archetype stretch so far back and why am I in such a frenzy for more information on the subject? There is something here, I haven't felt this exited since I overcame my bias against type 6 .. as if I am posessed.

I shall and will know thee, Unknown One,
Who searchest out the depths of my soul,

And blowest through my life like a storm,

Ungraspable, and yet my kinsman!

I shall and will know thee, and serve thee.


Mistral wind, chaser of clouds,
Killer of gloom, sweeper of the skies,

Raging storm-wind, how I love thee!

And we are not both the first-fruits

Of the same womb, forever predestined

To the same fate? - Nietzsche


e_e he had the same experience... wtff. I'm on to something..

Spoiler: Óðinn

 

[Inexorable Username]

Im not going to say how we got to the point, but at one point we where talking about 2 things at the same time, they where guy fieri hentai and a neglected child I know. I could not believe we held a conversation like that, I was genuinely impressed. I mean we had a very serious talk about a child and a humorous talk about guy fieri hentai.

I am so excited for you! Literally! I'm not even abusing that term at the moment. The empath in me is giving me butterflies!

Wow - she sounds so amazing! Having known you for like...a week, and having developed a weird sense of camaraderie with you...I can say that if I could pick a girl for you - from the sounds of her, it would be this one! How awesome!

Ohhh...those relationships where you can just talk endlessly and still be on the same frequency...they're amazing. Best feeling in the world! I'm so happy for you.

She sounds so cool, how about you just involve her in a conversation of what constitutes an ideal date and why? You don't even have to pose it as "I want to know what you want to do", but just as a general conversation topic. Something like "Why, when people want to get to know each other, do they go to the movies, knowing that they won't even be able to talk there?"

Definitely don't pull yourself together. Your excitement is a refreshing boost of energy, I think, in an internet that is generally full of disappointed, lonely, bitter, resentful, or confused people (mostly men) who are trying to figure out why dating isn't working out for them, what the risks are, and whether its worth trying. You should be shouting your newfound emotions from the mountain tops for all of your jaded peers to feel! Love is worth it! Sing it! <3

Okay now I'm getting carried away. In response to what you said earlier...

No way there are more of us?! I love speaking in youth slang ironically, its kinda my favorite. So far it has driven my other friends insane, but she does it and has a laugh over it, I dare say she does it more than I do.

So I don't use too much youth slang, but I like to deliberately use poor grammar. Like "yous" instead of "you". Ie: "Yous got ta!"
Last boyfriend grew up in a poverty stricken neighborhood though, and kept correcting my grammar...and when I told him it was sort of intentional, because its my weird sense of humor...he said "It just sounds stupid." Lol!
So I don't do it anymore.

BUT - don't let that stop you from whatever you're doing. He wasn't a very emotional person. I think most people catch on to the humor, and for him I think it was just a WOOSH, coupled with the fact that he might have grown up around a lot of people who unintentionally used poor grammar, and I guess it may have bugged him. Hard to say.

 

[Inexorable Username]

A storm is brewing in my mind ever since I revisited the archetype of Woden (ENTP) .. as if I'm on the edge of some meaningful personal discovery. Why didn't I see this before? How does this archetype stretch so far back and why am I in such a frenzy for more information on the subject? There is something here, I haven't felt this exited since I overcame my bias against type 6 .. as if I am posessed.

I shall and will know thee, Unknown One,
Who searchest out the depths of my soul,

And blowest through my life like a storm,

Ungraspable, and yet my kinsman!

I shall and will know thee, and serve thee.


Mistral wind, chaser of clouds,
Killer of gloom, sweeper of the skies,

Raging storm-wind, how I love thee!

And we are not both the first-fruits

Of the same womb, forever predestined

To the same fate? - Nietzsche


e_e he had the same experience... wtff. I'm on to something..

Spoiler: Óðinn

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Happy for you! Keep us posted on how this rolls out!
It reminds me of my favorite poem "Invictus".

Invictus isn't quite the same thing...but it does kind of touch upon the inner spirit of the self.

 

[peoplesuck]

Im not going to say how we got to the point, but at one point we where talking about 2 things at the same time, they where guy fieri hentai and a neglected child I know. I could not believe we held a conversation like that, I was genuinely impressed. I mean we had a very serious talk about a child and a humorous talk about guy fieri hentai.

I am so excited for you! Literally! I'm not even abusing that term at the moment. The empath in me is giving me butterflies!

Wow - she sounds so amazing! Having known you for like...a week, and having developed a weird sense of camaraderie with you...I can say that if I could pick a girl for you - from the sounds of her, it would be this one! How awesome!

Ohhh...those relationships where you can just talk endlessly and still be on the same frequency...they're amazing. Best feeling in the world! I'm so happy for you.

She sounds so cool, how about you just involve her in a conversation of what constitutes an ideal date and why? You don't even have to pose it as "I want to know what you want to do", but just as a general conversation topic. Something like "Why, when people want to get to know each other, do they go to the movies, knowing that they won't even be able to talk there?"

Definitely don't pull yourself together. Your excitement is a refreshing boost of energy, I think, in an internet that is generally full of disappointed, lonely, bitter, resentful, or confused people (mostly men) who are trying to figure out why dating isn't working out for them, what the risks are, and whether its worth trying. You should be shouting your newfound emotions from the mountain tops for all of your jaded peers to feel! Love is worth it! Sing it! <3

Okay now I'm getting carried away. In response to what you said earlier...

No way there are more of us?! I love speaking in youth slang ironically, its kinda my favorite. So far it has driven my other friends insane, but she does it and has a laugh over it, I dare say she does it more than I do.

So I don't use too much youth slang, but I like to deliberately use poor grammar. Like "yous" instead of "you". Ie: "Yous got ta!"
Last boyfriend grew up in a poverty stricken neighborhood though, and kept correcting my grammar...and when I told him it was sort of intentional, because its my weird sense of humor...he said "It just sounds stupid." Lol!
So I don't do it anymore.

BUT - don't let that stop you from whatever you're doing. He wasn't a very emotional person. I think most people catch on to the humor, and for him I think it was just a WOOSH, coupled with the fact that he might have grown up around a lot of people who unintentionally used poor grammar, and I guess it may have bugged him. Hard to say.

Thanks, i'm getting strong mom vibes from you. you have a big heart.
positivity is nice every once in a while too.
it sounds stupid and cliche, but she seems like the one I have been waiting for. The universe just got the memo that I was still single LUL


Edit: welp tonight it became painfully obvious she was texting someone else and I was only there to fill the lulls in their conversation.
Next time I wont jinx it, damn.

 

[peoplesuck]

I recently realized how long I have used this forum, I sort of feel at home here. This place is like a mental tennis court. we're all just bouncing the ball off the wall.

 

[peoplesuck]

She is sending me pictures of her ass in skimpy underwear, does that mean she wants to be more than friends?
Better keep gathering data, wouldnt want to assume anything.

 

[Black Rose]

Looking at girls in the eyes causes nervousness.
I already have a problem with eye contact.
I am way too shy.

 

[peoplesuck]

Looking at girls in the eyes causes nervousness.
I already have a problem with eye contact.
I am way too shy.

I get that. Ive been shy to the point of avoiding women my whole life. Im just now starting to actually improve. Im not sure what to say to help, I think it has to do with feeling unworthy, you are scared to see rejection on their face. Its also just genetic, autism, learned, I would suspect part of my issue was when I got eye contact growing up, it was my dad looking at me murderously. If its autism, I think oxytocin actually rewires your brain, maybe look into that and a professional cuddler, friend. I was told oxytocin can do wonders for people on the spectrum, could be why im just starting to improve. Its debilitating I know that, Im sorry you have to deal with that. for me wearing sun glasses makes eye contact comfortable, they cant see me. I think thats why eye tattoos are so appealing, they couldnt tell where im looking...idk best of luck
Lately I have been really opening up and being more honest with myself too, If you look through the women freak me out thread you may find something helpful.

 

[Black Rose]

There were to gills at separate tables in a restaurant. I was with my mom and aunt. I wasn't looking at them directly but it felt they knew I was looking at them. One of them I was interested in but the restaurant was half full and felt embarrassed to speak with her. She looked more friendly than the other girl who was with a group. The reason I was so embarrassed was not just the crowd. I also stutter when I speak. I am not exactly confident and emotions get in the way.

I am fine when I am in a less popular place and a friendly girl.
I have talked to girls before but in the right circumstances.
I was not interested in girls until after High School.
I was too busy doing school work.

 

[peoplesuck]

The reason I was so embarrassed was not just the crowd. I also stutter when I speak. I am not exactly confident and emotions get in the way.

I am fine when I am in a less popular place and a friendly girl.
I have talked to girls before but in the right circumstances.
I was not interested in girls until after High School.
I was too busy doing school work.

I relate to this so much. I dont stutter but sometimes I literally talk so fast noone can understand me. I can relate to not trying until after high school, I found them attractive but I was way too shy and too little confidence. they were like inside a glass box and I was outside, i was accepting that.
Ive never asked a girl out in person in my entire life, am still not there yet

 

[peoplesuck]

Ive been lying in bed for 3 hours unable to sleep. I think I figured something out. My whole life I have been shy, timid, and insecure, masquerading as gentle. I always thought my true nature was cruel and destructive. It is not though. my destructive true nature is just a lifetime of misguided frustration. Im realizing my true nature is gentle, authentically gentle, considerate and soft. How ironic. I think most people are much older than I am when they start to realize who they are. Im not so dumb after all.

 

[Inexorable Username]

Ive been lying in bed for 3 hours unable to sleep. I think I figured something out. My whole life I have been shy, timid, and insecure, masquerading as gentle. I always thought my true nature was cruel and destructive. It is not though. my destructive true nature is just a lifetime of misguided frustration. Im realizing my true nature is gentle, authentically gentle, considerate and soft. How ironic. I think most people are much older than I am when they start to realize who they are. Im not so dumb after all.

I definitely don’t think you’re dumb, if that helps! Dumb people don’t usually analyze things the way that you do. I read a study somewhere along the line that suggested that people who are anxious and worry more are correlated with having a higher IQ.

This girl shouldn’t be showing you ass pics so soon, I would think - but hey. It seems like she’s really helping you to step out of your shell, so why not? You enjoy talking to her. Maybe keep in mind though that she might find you very intelligent and attractive, and because of that, she might want to use you. So try not to let her hurt you.

I definitely think you have a kindly inner nature! The fact that you’re so worried that you might not sort of shows me that you must.

I have a friend who is an INFP, and she’s the best person I know. She’s constantly worried about her “evil side”. She’s actually named it. lol. But she will confide in me over things that are lukewarm in the “bad intentions” department, and she’ll do it with a huge truck load of guilt. Her sense of shame far outweighs the actual actions she takes.

But that just goes to show you how hyper-good people can be extremely self-conscious about anything potentially bad within them.

 

[Inexorable Username]

There were to gills at separate tables in a restaurant. I was with my mom and aunt. I wasn't looking at them directly but it felt they knew I was looking at them. One of them I was interested in but the restaurant was half full and felt embarrassed to speak with her. She looked more friendly than the other girl who was with a group. The reason I was so embarrassed was not just the crowd. I also stutter when I speak. I am not exactly confident and emotions get in the way.

I am fine when I am in a less popular place and a friendly girl.
I have talked to girls before but in the right circumstances.
I was not interested in girls until after High School.
I was too busy doing school work.

I came across something that could help. Although you would have to be VERY brave. Perhaps better to do it with a friend. Anyways...I didn’t particularly appreciate the source (sexist), but the advice was good. It was called something like the “100 girl challenge”. You challenge yourself to ask 100 girls for their number. If she says no, it doesn’t matter, because she is just one of the 100 you’re going through for the sake of the project.

It was recommended that you take a friend with you if you’re uncomfortable....

Anyways, if you’re up for it, that apparently is the “cure all” for fear of rejection.

I would say though that if you don’t want to try all of that, next time, just write your number on a slip of paper and either ask the waiter to give it to the girl, or just put it on the table as you’re walking to the bathroom.

That’s all you have to do. You don’t even have to write anything, just your number. After that, though, try to just put it out of your mind if you can. Try not to expect her to contact you.

Maybe you can pass 20 girls a slip of paper with your phone number on it

Another thing you can try is studying female psychology, and interviewing women about the way females work. Just like with sharks, dogs, spiders, etc. People tend to be afraid of things they don’t understand. Often times, overcoming a phobia is as simple as learning more.

I think you would learn that most women are very insecure, and also very compassionate. Most women would not think poorly of you for complimenting them, and they also wouldn’t dream of trying to hurt your feelings. This myth of the super bitch...it’s a holleywood construction, by in large.

Other ethnicities of women are also a bit less catty than white American girls. Japanese girls, for instance, tend to be very, very kind, shy, and polite.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

She is sending me pictures of her ass in skimpy underwear, does that mean she wants to be more than friends?
Better keep gathering data, wouldnt want to assume anything.

it means she uses her ass to get attention and little spikes of dopamine she gets out of said attention. You personally gain nothing from giving her this attention

 

[Inexorable Username]

@peoplesuck

Thanks for the mom compliment! I always thought I would be a good mom. I have insanely strong nurturing instincts. It’s actually a bit ridiculous. I still like to cuddle stuffed animals because I like to wrap my arms around small things and keep them safe. I’m a mess of instincts and hormones!

Actually, one of my cuddle friends is in desperate need off rebranding because he’s been tainted by associations with my ex-boyfriend. Maybe I will have to post his picture so we can come up with a new backstory for him.

How did you manage to use a cute yellow smiley, instead of the weird green one?

 

[Inexorable Username]

She is sending me pictures of her ass in skimpy underwear, does that mean she wants to be more than friends?
Better keep gathering data, wouldnt want to assume anything.

it means she uses her ass to get attention and little spikes of dopamine she gets out of said attention. You personally gain nothing from giving her this attention

You think so? If I sent a picture of my ass to someone, it would be a definite invitation for some pretty hard core flirting that is very likely to escalate.

Then again, I don’t normally take pictures of my own ass and send them to people... >_> Seems like she might.

Still, I suppose as a man it’s nice to see a female ass. Maybe you should just say “cool. Thanks.” XD

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

She is sending me pictures of her ass in skimpy underwear, does that mean she wants to be more than friends?
Better keep gathering data, wouldnt want to assume anything.

it means she uses her ass to get attention and little spikes of dopamine she gets out of said attention. You personally gain nothing from giving her this attention

You think so? If I sent a picture of my ass to someone, it would be a definite invitation for some pretty hard core flirting that is very likely to escalate.

Then again, I don’t normally take pictures of my own ass and send them to people... >_> Seems like she might.

Still, I suppose as a man it’s nice to see a female ass. Maybe you should just say “cool. Thanks.” XD

in my experience acknowledging sexually explicit or borderline inappropriate behavior on the part of girls never has any advantageous effects, in fact it usually seems like it's a test of whether you will react to it and get all frothy-mouthed. Like you suggested I usually say "cool, thanks" or don't even acknowledge it at all.

 

[Inexorable Username]

She is sending me pictures of her ass in skimpy underwear, does that mean she wants to be more than friends?
Better keep gathering data, wouldnt want to assume anything.

it means she uses her ass to get attention and little spikes of dopamine she gets out of said attention. You personally gain nothing from giving her this attention

You think so? If I sent a picture of my ass to someone, it would be a definite invitation for some pretty hard core flirting that is very likely to escalate.

Then again, I don’t normally take pictures of my own ass and send them to people... >_> Seems like she might.

Still, I suppose as a man it’s nice to see a female ass. Maybe you should just say “cool. Thanks.” XD

in my experience acknowledging sexually explicit or borderline inappropriate behavior on the part of girls never has any advantageous effects, in fact it usually seems like it's a test of whether you will react to it and get all frothy-mouthed. Like you suggested I usually say "cool, thanks" or don't even acknowledge it at all.

I think the “I’m being tested” mentality is a pretty poor attitude to have, though. Men often jump to the conclusion that women are actively, consciously manipulating them. I won’t say that there aren’t women who do that, but I’ve known plenty of women who flippantly send nudes, and they don’t do it to test men. They do it for a whole slew of complicated reasons.

If he starts treating her like crap - ie: informing a picture she sent - she’s likely to think he’s an arrogant jerk.

I’m pretty sure that when you talk to a woman, and she acts like she’s too good for you, it’s probably a bit of a turn off. I would say the same is definitely true for women who talk to men that think they’re “too good” for “that behavior”.

Sending nudes is socially acceptable today, even expected. It’s why snap chat is so absurdly population with Gen Z.

I would say that there’s a decent probability that she is not being deliberately manipulative - in which case, treating her that callously may be unwise.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

@Inexorable Username I don't think women deliberately manipulate men, and to be honest I've never even considered the concept as anything relevant. But I think women do things subconsciously which are aimed at testing men in various ways; in fact I think it's necessary for them to do because a lot of the traits that pertain to a man's attractiveness can be faked and can only be revealed as fake by means of certain tests.

 

[Inexorable Username]

@Inexorable Username I don't think women deliberately manipulate men, and to be honest I've never even considered the concept as anything relevant. But I think women do things subconsciously which are aimed at testing men in various ways; in fact I think it's necessary for them to do because a lot of the traits that pertain to a man's attractiveness can be faked and can only be revealed as fake by means of certain tests.

I mean...if that’s the case then you have to look at what women fear.

Women don’t fear men being attracted to their bodies. That wouldn’t make any sense. In fact, men who have a high sex drive are desirable. From personal experience, I can say that men who have a high sex drive give you more confidence, because you know they’re less nitpicky about your body. Men are very superficial about appearances, so if you’re a female, you have to worry about every little detail. Guys that don’t get easily turned on can cause girls to feel a little neurotic, I would think.

I would say these are some of the “top fears” I have when it comes to dating:

• Rejection (of my body, in particular, because it seems to be the major thing men care about)
• He thinks himself a “player”
• He’s lying to me to manipulate me into thinking he’s someone he’s not (particularly when it comes to morality)
• He wants to pump and dump
• He wants to use me and brag about it to his friends
• He’s cruel, domineering, verbally abusive, controlling, or psychotic
• He’s addicted time drugs or alcohol and I don’t know it
• He values money more than me
• He sexist against women
• He doesn’t like me for who I am (ie: Thinks I’m annoying, stupid, would not want to be my friend)

I suppose if you want to abstract it and boil it down to “tests”, it would go something like:
Honesty, loyalty, respect for the female sex

I can’t imagine a scenario where a booty pic would be an appropriate example of a subconscious test.

The only way a booty pic makes sense as a test would be if the woman is consciously manipulating you to see if she can “keep you on the hook”. I just don’t see that behavior as being very common.

What is common though, from what I can see, is that men expect that behavior, because many men have a belief that dating is a game of manipulation. That’s why books like “The Game” and “The Art is Seduction” are so popular, and that women will say things such as “Seems like you’re still in the game.” (Someone said that to me once before they realized I was a women)

I think men learn this behavior in highschool, where your body count is a means of social status. Because they follow this philosophy, they assume women, also, must be playing a game.

It’s a dangerous assumption to make, because being a “player” is definitely something most women will absolutely look for, and if she suspects you’re “calculating” and presenting a false face, she’s going to be uncertain about how safe you are.

Women have a lot to lose from having sex. Men have a lot to gain.

I’m not saying you think this way...but a lot of men do, and this attitude is littered all over the internet. So your advice could be easily misinterpreted.

 

[Inexorable Username]

For the record, I will actually “test” men. But I do so by asking them questions.

What do you value more - truth or happiness, and why?

What are your top three moral values? Do you think it is logical to have those values?

Things like that. I also don’t recommend this technique, because it didn’t work out. XD

But I was always more interested in trying to find someone who was actually a good person. Unfortunately, men who have no moral backbone are the most aggressive about sleeping with women - and since women are usually the ones waiting to be asked out by men, most of the men who ask us out aren’t good people. :/

It’s enough to make a female believe all men are like that. I think that’s where a lot of female bitterness comes from. You usually don’t see that attitude in females until about college, after they’ve had some bad relationships.

In men, the bitterness can come a lot sooner...but the weird thing is that you seem to see a lot of bitterness coming from men who have never even dated much, but are just going based on the philosophies of other men, who advise them about how cruel, dishonest, and manipulative women are.

 

[washti]

given that she was trying stuff on peoplesucks, she could be puzzeled or even ego-annoyed that guy was so reluctant, so she will bombard him with sexy stimuli now? ;-) Waiting to be asked out?
girl seems playful to me.

also you can judge from ass if she's a gym girl.
some of them like to hear a bit of awww and ohh about their 2 years squats results.

 

[moody]

Yo, I feel like @peoplesuck should have his own category by this point, where the threads are about whatever is currently going on in his life.

@peoplesuck
ENFP is just peacock-ing. As long as you don't get derogatory or too weirded out, I can't imagine you responding in a "wrong" way. It's a pretty common thing to do nowadays to people you're flirting with, so I wouldn't try to hurt yourself psychoanalyzing the situation.

 

[peoplesuck]

I definitely don’t think you’re dumb, if that helps! Dumb people don’t usually analyze things the way that you do. I read a study somewhere along the line that suggested that people who are anxious and worry more are correlated with having a higher IQ.

Hey thanks. I actually have most of the characteristics of high iq, except the high iq im just special

This girl shouldn’t be showing you ass pics so soon, I would think - but hey. It seems like she’s really helping you to step out of your shell, so why not? You enjoy talking to her. Maybe keep in mind though that she might find you very intelligent and attractive, and because of that, she might want to use you. So try not to let her hurt you.

this isnt the entp girl of my dreams. That girl reminds me of my teacher and im not sure I could date someone who reminds me of her. Im not disqualifying her yet though. I am definitely growing, I dont flirt. ever. You will never catch a sly look from me in your life, thats just how I have become, Im really trying to be more comfortable as a human, its tough.

I definitely think you have a kindly inner nature! The fact that you’re so worried that you might not sort of shows me that you must.

Hopefully!

I have a friend who is an INFP, and she’s the best person I know. She’s constantly worried about her “evil side”. She’s actually named it. lol. But she will confide in me over things that are lukewarm in the “bad intentions” department, and she’ll do it with a huge truck load of guilt. Her sense of shame far outweighs the actual actions she takes.

Her evil side is probably just her shadow, or misguided frustrations. we are all capable of baaad things.

it means she uses her ass to get attention and little spikes of dopamine she gets out of said attention. You personally gain nothing from giving her this attention

our conversation actually lead up to the point of a not-so-pervy lets see what you got.

Thanks for the mom compliment! I always thought I would be a good mom. I have insanely strong nurturing instincts. It’s actually a bit ridiculous. I still like to cuddle stuffed animals because I like to wrap my arms around small things and keep them safe. I’m a mess of instincts and hormones!

yes I can tell! thats so cute. You know, high estrogen leads to a very feminine build. You probably have big eyes and a very cute face. nurture your nurturing side, its valuable! I also have very strong nurturing instincts, like mom levels. I know, its bad ass
Edit: not sure what the comment about build was about, disregard that

How did you manage to use a cute yellow smiley, instead of the weird green one?

intpf has a huge list of emojis when you make a message, nobody uses them tho.

in my experience acknowledging sexually explicit or borderline inappropriate behavior on the part of girls never has any advantageous effects, in fact it usually seems like it's a test of whether you will react to it and get all frothy-mouthed. Like you suggested I usually say "cool, thanks" or don't even acknowledge it at all.

I get this but for me I need to be pervy intentionally, I naturally treat women like we are in church, pretty lame. Im always worried im going to cross a line and get a look of rejection, my little heart cannot handle that yet. I guess im super sexually repressed.

given that she was trying stuff on peoplesucks, she could be puzzeled or even ego-annoyed that guy was so reluctant, so she will bombard him with sexy stimuli now?

You are right. I actually sent her a booty pic as a joke. She sent me a picture of herself looking...interested what have I started x_x

some of them like to hear a bit of awww and ohh about their 2 years squats results.

She isnt a gym rat unfortunately, I have super low standards physically, and a weird sense of beauty. Im pretty ez to please.

 

[peoplesuck]

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in my experience acknowledging sexually explicit or borderline inappropriate behavior on the part of girls never has any advantageous effects, in fact it usually seems like it's a test of whether you will react to it and get all frothy-mouthed. Like you suggested I usually say "cool, thanks" or don't even acknowledge it at all.
[/QUOTE]
From the data I have gathered throughout my entire life, If I dont consciously flirt, the girl feels like I dont like her and she leaves.

Edit :Im also like 2 degrees from being asexual, I guess that was something I should have shared.

Yo, I feel like @peoplesuck should have his own category by this point, where the threads are about whatever is currently going on in his life.

@peoplesuck
ENFP is just peacock-ing. As long as you don't get derogatory or too weirded out, I can't imagine you responding in a "wrong" way. It's a pretty common thing to do nowadays to people you're flirting with, so I would

I said I need a polarish thread, have I shit posted random thoughts enough?
I actually think this sexual girl might be what I need to nurture my sexual side. (just reading that makes me feel weird...uggghghg)

 

[moody]

From the data I have gathered throughout my entire life, If I dont consciously flirt, the girl feels like I dont like her and she leaves.

People are weird.

I said I need a polarish thread, have I shit posted random thoughts enough?
I actually think this sexual girl might be what I need to nurture my sexual side. (just reading that makes me feel weird...uggghghg)

Meh, you're fine. Though I do seem to be the one constantly saying "you people are thinking too much" and I find everyone dramatic. I think this forum can turn me into an ISTP or an INTJ sometimes. I'm far more neurotic and unsure of everything in-person.

 

[peoplesuck]

I will just use the women freak me out thread as mine, the title is already perfect.

I just realized what im making is a diary...me writing a diary.

Spoiler

Do I actually seem to be an intp? I think Im way more emotional than most people here.

 

[moody]

Do I actually seem to be an intp? I think Im way more emotional than most people here.

The MBTI descriptions are for our "relaxed state," where we aren't reacting under undue stress. It also is just how we initially process/take in information and how we make our decisions. How emotional we are isn't really a factor. Because F types tend to make their biggest decisions based on how they feel, it can appear as though they are more emotional. I think judgment and T-ness will inevitably appear stronger on a forum for INTPs, largely because we're typing and have time to write what we think instead of reacting.

You're emotions probably just come off more here that irl. When we're under stress, we'll also act differently. And btw, my name is moody for a reason. You're fine.

 

[peoplesuck]

Do I actually seem to be an intp? I think Im way more emotional than most people here.

The MBTI descriptions are for our "relaxed state," where we aren't reacting under undue stress. It also is just how we initially process/take in information and how we make our decisions. How emotional we are isn't really a factor. Because F types tend to make their biggest decisions based on how they feel, it can appear as though they are more emotional. I think judgment and T-ness will inevitably appear stronger on a forum for INTPs, largely because we're typing and have time to write what we think instead of reacting.

You're emotions probably just come off more here that irl. When we're under stress, we'll also act differently. And btw,

my name is moody for a reason. You're fine.

I guess I had forgotten how mbti works. Yes Irl people typically think im a robot, and thats probably because I wanted them to, until now.

And btw, my name is moody for a reason. You're fine

I suppose you have a point there. sorry if its annoying how clueless I am. I know im not really putting enough effort into posts, I sort of feel exhausted in regards to trying to be clear, which is sad considering how bad I am at being concise. I guess I feel like it doesnt matter if I try because its going to be a ranting mess anyways. I wll stop posting in random thoughts for a while