but because people like to make everything about sex (subsequently gender), then to seek validation they feel they must be the other gender.
I have been thinking the same. If you fall in love with your own gender, you might turn jealous of the opposite gender, which more easily attracts the objects of your infatuation. However, it seems almost inevitable that nature produces some individuals who have the mind of one gender, and the body of the other. Some children show strong preferences for the behaviour of the opposite gender, long before mating seems a likely incentive.
I grew up with a girl who always wanted to be a boy. If we wanted her to do something, all we had to tell her was that it would be the boyish thing to do. She turned into a quite beautiful woman, who has never dated anything but guys. Perhaps she is a gay guy in a woman's body. That would certainly be useful! Maybe transgenderism is an adaption to let the gays attract a larger mating pool

sometimes it goes wrong: you're born in a body that's wrong, but you are attracted to its opposite gender. I really have to question the strategical faculties of a male mind in a woman's body, which is attracted to men, yet decides to get the body of a man. I hope your new pouch is doing something for you, cause it sure ain't for 90% of the guys you wanna date.
I think that people are also trying to become the object they desire. I would find myself way more attractive if i were a curvy girl rather than a dude. idk something to consider. I may have a weird view though because i don't really feel attached to my appearance
So you're the one stirring the loins of pubescent boys, running around MMORPGs in a voluptuous avatar. If only they knew your eyes are as transfixed by your elfess' shapely backend as theirs are, I'm sure we'd all be hearing hearts break.
@Serac
Nah, I'm in Oslo, same as you

I just liked imagining you among the bible thumpers of Sørlandet, being your cupid match's own, personal Jesus xD