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Ashenstar

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So for my si-kology class, my teacher wants us each to think of 5 different social/cultural norms and choose one to break. Then I have to note people's reactions, analyze them and decide which values I was compromising.

I could put this under the school forum, but I don't just wish to chat about my homework.

This could be a lot of fun. I would think INTPs would be good at this and do it naturally anyway. :)

Teacher said it has to be something safe, so Im not allowed to run around topless as my experiement. :(

So what say you all? What should I do? What do you do in life that breaks cultural norms?

Does blatantly ignoring some person trying to be friendly count? :D
 

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Try talking to strangers be in a really close and touchy feely sort of way.

Okay that could be dangerous...

Or you could just start up random conversations with people as if they were good friends of yours, that would be another fun one.
 

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Yeah, first one is not gonna happen. lol

Hmmmm I could always do the second idea. My extreme shyness and near muteness around strangers is going to make this hard.

Now however I'm constantly seeing how others are breaking social norms.

Some guy in my Japanese class walks around barefoot.
I'm like "EWWWWW!Put your hobbit feet away!!"
 

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I keep coming up with ideas that are not so much Cultural norm breaking as they are just offensive. Like going to church wearing devil horns and a shirt that says "I eat babies".

What if you go around acting like everyone around you is breaking your cultural norms?

Like someone reaches out to shake your hand, and then you just look it and give them this look of disgust.
 

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:)I often unknowingly and knowingly break social norms...or i'm just a bit eccentric. I laugh when something is suppose to be sad---funeral or sad news, story, accidents. I give logical explanations for my actions though--optimism. Like me, You could try tasting every thing you see---grass, paper, rocks, metal, pencil---and share the experience to others. or really simple...you could make funny loud creative noises each time someone speaks. or seriously mimic every speech you hear.
 

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Some ideas of norms you could try breaking:

- Add "homegirl" or "homeboy", respectively, to the end of every sentence you have with someone - regardless of their position or authority.
- When talking to strangers, cashiers, etc - replace "Hello" and "Goodbye" with something complete different. ["You got a problem?","I'll see you in hell"]
- Walk backwards wherever you go, while navigating yourself using a mirror (those ones girls use to put on makeup, making it look a bit more casual (maybe put on makeup as you walk to make it even less obvious?))
- Entering buildings by other means than the doors.
 

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Wear socks on your hands, underwear on the outside and hats on your feet. Shave your head. Cough without covering your mouth and fart loudly in public. Curse at children. Drink hard liquor in public. Talk to yourself and laugh loudly while around other people - then bit their head off if they look or say something.
 

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Off the top of my head:

- Step onto a crowded elevator, but don't turn around to face the door, just stand there facing the other people.

- Sit on a bench at the mall and read a porn mag (take notes and mumble things like "ooo that's a good idea" for that little extra something).

- Walk through the grocery store produce section taking bites out of random fruits and vegetables as if testing them for taste.

- Get a table at a restaurant and then walk around and ask the other customers to rate their meals on a scale of 1 -10 so that you can make an informed decision about what to have for dinner.

- Rub that nasty smelling catfish bait on yourself and then take a ride on a city bus or subway.

- Visit a PETA meeting with a fur coat and a happy meal

- Go to a kids movie and every time something interesting happens yell "FUCK YEAH!"

- Go to church wearing one of those shirts that says "Got Cock?"
 

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I think a hilarious one to break would be this one:

Never use a urinal if someone's in the one next to it/never choose the middle urinal. Sadly, I think you're female, so that one wouldn't work (unless you really want to mess things up :p).

A few others would be:

- Stand really close to people when you're waiting in line/at a bus stop/whatever
- Don't sit normally in chairs (think: L, but not so extreme)
- Address everyone with "proper" titles (i.e. your friends are now Mr. X, etc.)
- Wear your t-shirts backwards (would that work for women...?)
- Wear sandals with socks (although I fail to see how it's a problem, myself)

Let us know what you decide on, and what happens! It sounds like an interesting class...

As for ones that I 'break' - well, I apparently 'break' the norms regarding the urinal, chairs, and sandals/socks. I never really understood the urinal one - it's not like anyone's going to look down and check out the competition...and if they do, who cares? It's probably just some complete stranger you'll never see again. For chairs, I just don't feel comfortable sitting the 'normal' way, and end up fidgeting about a lot...and for the sandals/socks one - why not? It's like saying you shouldn't wear socks with crocs...
 

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1. Wear your shirt inside-out ( I do that everyday)
2. Say "in the butt" everytime someone says something.
3. Be sarcastic about everything.
4. Act like a smart-ass, say "I know" everytime someone says something.
5. Go to school without shoes on.
6. Wear your pajamas to school.
7. Make your hair super-messy for the hell of it.
8. Shout out random things at random intervals.
9. Stare at someone with big eyes.
10. Launch into a tirade about the theories of emotions and intelligence and about life.
 

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LMAO!

I'm currently on a break from drawing class. So quick response! I currently have pencil markings all over my face!

These are some great ideas!
I already wear my shirts backwards and inside out. How it goes on is how it stays. :)

I'm leaning toward porn mag in public place. excuse to go to the pr0n store! :D
 

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instead of walking from place to place, Interpretive dance your way around. relatedly pretend as though the ministry of silly walks has just hired you

put chocolate on a hot dog, or similar food related things

create and wear an elaborate headdress

Set your watch/clock to a timezone other than your own,

Make eye contact... Stare fixedly at someone until they look at you, when they do look questioningly at them, and deny doing any such thing if asked

point at people continually

carry a sign extolling the virtues of soviet russia

carry a boombox on your shoulder

sew your left eye shut (jk)

bring a desktop computer to a coffee shop for wifi
(like this this)

speak in an obviously fake accent and deny that you are doing any such thing if asked. scottish, english, french w/e (à propos fumer est mal pour toi)

walk around with a video camera, and act as though you are on an epic journey/in a reality tv show/in the middle of a zombie apocalypse

Go to a drug/sporting goods store and ask for zombie repellent

Point out euphemisms and say what they really mean

ask people if what they are doing is constitutional

ask people if they are mocking you

don't wear socks

wear 5 or 6 watches on either arm

carry around a bow. No arrows just a bow.

wear leather work (or rubber kitchen) gloves at all times

Here is one that i did a while ago come to think of it; I brought a toaster, strawberry cream cheese to school and had toasted bagels in the cafeteria

drink water and such from a bowl

bring a typewriter to class to take notes
 

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Try to navigate around campus with your other senses ie with closed eyes. I try to do this all the time, but only when I'm wearing sunglasses. :p

If your apparel allows for this, wear one brightly/festive colored sock that goes to your mid-calf and one normal one.

Wear large sunglasses with no lenses.

If you eat in public, put dye on your food. Black and red are usually the most noticeable.

After you've said something exceptionally rational, say you learned about it from something nonsensical. ex: '..and that's why ftl travel is impossible; at least from what the lizards have told me.'

Wear mismatched shoes.

sidenote: If someone comments on your odd behavior, tell them you're just doing it so you'll seem to conform/fit in/be normal.
 

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1. Wear your shirt inside-out ( I do that everyday)
2. Say "in the butt" everytime someone says something.
3. Be sarcastic about everything.
4. Act like a smart-ass, say "I know" everytime someone says something.
5. Go to school without shoes on.
6. Wear your pajamas to school.
7. Make your hair super-messy for the hell of it.
8. Shout out random things at random intervals.
9. Stare at someone with big eyes.
10. Launch into a tirade about the theories of emotions and intelligence and about life.
I thought these WERE the social norms? At least for high schoolers?

1. When you meet someone, however casually, offer your hand for a handshake, and then put your left hand over their right hand, so you're clasping their hand with both of yours. See if you can get them to do the same back! I think it'd be often taken as boundary-breaking.

2. Add "dot com" to the end of everything you say dot com

3. Just think of something annoying and unusual you can do dot com

4. Jokes always get funnier the longer you do them dot com
 

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Pretend to be blind. Cane tap around, start muttering things about peoples appearances. Or even better if you walk around with a dazed unfocused look in your eyes. Then when you catch people staring at you stare back at them.

I think this would be fun to do even if it wasn't a school project.

Oh you could also watch Jackass, lot of stuff they do in the earlier episodes is breaking norms.
 

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I thought these WERE the social norms? At least for high schoolers?

Wow! So you're meaning that the things that I do is a fad?

That's surprising because I'm known for being weird and funny in my school. And it seems no one ever does those things anymore. Anyway,

1. Take your hair-dryer to school and turn it on at passing people.
2. Swing your arm at everyone you meet.
3. Turn the lights of the corridor on and off and on and off...
4. Jump on your desk, take out your belt and swing it wildly.
 

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I got a really really good idea....

Everytime you think you know what someone else is thinking, you tell them what you're thinking they're thinking.
 

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Teacher said it has to be something safe, so Im not allowed to run around topless as my experiement. :(

I fail to see what is unsafe about that. WATCH OUT, BREASTS! DOOM!!!
Also, you could just not listen to your teacher... this is about breaking norms after all.

*looks at thread*

A lot of those are so lame. They're just silly stuff, not really "breaking social norms" I expected more from you guys. >.>


I say you piss in public, grope people, spit on their faces after insulting them for their race/religion/whatever, walk around naked on all fours, throw food at authority figures, destroy private property (flag burning or religious icons perhaps, for added outrage), steal, and perform satanic rituals with underage children.

Or perhaps the most taboo of all:
Tell people what you REALLY think about them :phear:
 

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Ask someone how they are doing and try to have a casual conversation.
 

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Always put your thoughts into words.
 

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Yeah, I'm with Kuu, just be honest with people. That's the biggest social taboo of all.

Other stupid ideas:
- Wear a white t-shirt on which you write, with a sharpie marker, everything you enjoy that you can think of. Include things people don't normally talk about like "that feeling after a huge dump" or "when the guests leave so I can finally masturbate"
- Drive on the left side of the road (if you're American) and when asked, just claim you swore you were in England
- Travel around on horseback and when others look at you funny, just say "howdy, partner." Then, talk to some strangers about life in the year 1810 and SWEAR that you are from there.
- Hold up a sign in front of a church that reads "GOD HATES FAT PEOPLE" and see if anyone gets pissed off and then guess their weight and tell them about it. Also, make and give out pamphlets about the evils of fat people. Be totally serious the whole time.
- Put up signs in town that read "Lost ant, $50 reward" and see if anyone tries to give you an ant for the money. Then, inspect it for a second and say "no, that's not Charley, Charley's much cuter than that"
- Submit a personals ad that reads "SF looking for a SM to emasculate and manipulate into a person I approve of"
- Dress up like a sports referee and blow whistles at people and claim they have committed some sort of penalty ("Looking at me funny, 15 yards!")
- Make up all sorts of slurs for people and use them for no good reason ("Hey, short bald guy, yeah I'm lookin' at you, ya phlarmta!")
- Fuck up advertising signs and billboards in ways that make the products seem (more) unappealing. Be creative and a complete ass about it, for added effect.
- Bribe people by telling them "I'm dying", which is technically true for everyone anyway
- Deface stop signs to instead say "scream" and then pull up to the sign, get out of your car, and scream at the top of your lungs
- Mess up Wikipedia articles and make them claim that you are god and the Pope is satan
- Break into weddings and yell out how long you think the marriage will last and what will end it ("4 years, tops. She's a manipulative bitch and he's waaaay into gay porn.")
- Run for president, win, and then do a reasonably good job without fucking things up.
- Become a plankton-activist and try to destroy all whales.
- Marry someone for reasons that have nothing to do with your parents.
- Become famous without becoming a pompous asshole.
 

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Walk up to someone and smell them.

Done
 

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Pretend to be blind. Cane tap around, start muttering things about peoples appearances. Or even better if you walk around with a dazed unfocused look in your eyes. Then when you catch people staring at you stare back at them.

I do this. It's amazing how freely people will stare when they think you're not paying attention.


I haven't laughed so hard on the forum in a while. Noddy had some of the best suggestions I think, especially in terms of staying on-topic. Adymus's counter-intuitive norm-breaking was pretty interesting as well.

Read over someone's shoulder on the train and make comments?

Invite yourself on people's dates?

YouTube- Flight of the Conchords "Yoko" Dialogue

(3:17 onwards)

Compare someone's baby to an adorable pet piglet from your childhood?

Aggressive caroling?

YouTube- Mega64: Aggressive Caroling (2003)

Breathe heavily on someone in the elevator?

Make a noiseless scene in the library?

Perhaps you could break the norms of specific cultures, like going to an emo gathering and grinning inanely at everyone.
 

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One thing I've thought about doing is answering daily bullshit conversations with "None of your business"

Hows it going? None of your business.
What have you been up to? None of your business.

Also if you are male you can go stand right next to someone at the urinal when theres only 2 of you in the restroom.
 

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Gender norms: If you're male you could cross-dress. It's not so obvious on a female, unless you're really, really determined.

Common courtesy: Invade people's personal space. Sit too close on the bus, breathe on them, scoot closer to other desks in class.

Basic sanity (or the perception of it): Talk openly to yourself in public. Both sides of the conversation. Better yet, have a heated flame-warrish argument with yourself.

Age-typical behaviour: Introduce people to your imaginary friend. Bonus points if it's not human. (Pet howler monkey, for example.)

High school culture: Like your teachers. Have conversations with them, offer to help them, basically just project an awareness that they're also human beings who probably don't want to spend 8-9 hours a day in the hell that is high school with a large group of immature jackasses who think nothing of them but how awful they are for giving homework and doing their jobs. I did this all the time.

Start counting down the days left till Christmas. Now. Be really really excited and act like it's just around the corner.

Or, of course, you could do what Kuu suggested and tell people what you think. :eek::p
 

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Say things like: "That's neither here nor there" or "We'll cross that bridge when we come to it" while doing the Clinton-thumb-thrust, and only when it's completely inappropriate/not relevant to the conversation.

Pat people on the back and tell them [while shaking your head] 'you did everything you could', then walk away.

Crawl over/around tables or chairs, act as if it's a really long way down from atop one.

Lay face-down in a hallway or at the front of the classroom.

Walk into a classroom as if you're super flippin' mad, push and kick/generally disrespect peoples' belongings, refuse to sit down, and when someone tries to confront you, don't let them get a word in, cut them off until something exciting happens.

Park perpendicular to the white-lines in a parking lot/or in the middle.

Go through a supermarket with a shopping cart and jam it into other peoples' carts/displays/the shelves, act as if what/whomever you hit genuinely deserved it

Answer every question with 'thank you'.

Throw change at people, look away sheepishly, but keep the corner of your eye on them until the heat blows over.

While the class is taking a quiz or exam shout 'enough!', immediately go back to working quietly. You could also go around and take peoples' quizzes/exams from them and drop them, if someone gets up just walk at a very brisk pace up and down the rows and try to lose them, all the while continuing to take things from people.

edit: ^ALL WHILE WEARING A FAKE MOUSTACHE.
 

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Some common social norms involve:


  • bodily functions - pick your nose in public, pass gas, or scratch yourself in awkward places
  • decorum with strangers - stare at people you don't know, talk to them in the bathroom, join couples at their table at restaurants and strike up a conversation
  • courtesy - budge in the front of lines, walk slowly in the middle of hallways, instead if asking for things demand them
  • dress/modesty - go nude, wear ultra conservative or provocative clothes
  • hygiene - wear filthy clothes, don't wash your hands after using the bathroom (someone has to notice), don't brush your hair in the morning, don't shower, eat messily and don't wipe your face
  • status roles - treat those of lower class as if they were higher and higher as if they were lower, talk to people your senior (in terms of age or experience) as if they were your inferior, go to your boss's boss' boss to talk about what they did on the weekend
 

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Ashenstar,

I so rarely can keep sticking to social norms myself, I'm surprised I have difficulty making a suggestion. I would say try to feel out what some social norms are around you and then not do them or do something at their level but not any of them. Be contrary.

Let say people are talking about breaking social norms. Then you be the one to break in insisting on talking about conformity, lol.
You don't have to be ornery, disrespectful, unkind or nasty although those are eligible. Just contrary.

:elephant:
 

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Fusionknight I really like your status roll idea.

Status update Ashenstar? I want to read your results.
 

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I like noddy's "don't face the elevator door" one. Fusion's reverse-status-roles is pure gold, too--though it could be a bit dangerous if you start throwing banquets for people asking for spare change.

I can personally say that nobody responds if you sit in chairs weird. I sit like L does quite frequently (feet perched on the edge of the seat, one or both knees by my chin), and nobody has once commented on it. I also pick my nose a lot, but it's a social norm not to point it out when other people break social norms, so nobody's said much about that either (unless it comes up in conversation, in which case I once got a "oh yeah, I've seen you do that a fair amount" briefly... but it took months to happen).

You would get some good reactions if you go without shoes, though... I liked that suggestion a lot, personally, because I do that too when the weather's warm. Most people don't say anything, but some have some good slightly-insulting-but-highly-amusing comments. You might want to think up a few comeback lines in advance, though, for the people who ask whether you're worried about getting fungus ("well, fungi need dark/damp places to grow... so really, they're more likely to grow inside a shoe than they are on bare feet), or smart-ass questions about whether your shoes were stolen ("yeah... I tried to chase the guy, but it was just too hard to catch him in bare feet"). The reactions are pretty entertaining, though, if you're in a climate that allows you to barefoot comfortably.
 

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Hmm, sooo many things to choose from. I haven't had a chance to do anything.

I really want to do the elevator suggestion and just stand there... perhaps inch closer to the group... and then a little closer..... but I wont have the chance for that this weekend.

I think we should all continue this after my si-kology assignment. update each other. a little mini INTP style project mayhem. ;)
 

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- Step onto a crowded elevator, but don't turn around to face the door, just stand there facing the other people.
1. When you meet someone, however casually, offer your hand for a handshake, and then put your left hand over their right hand, so you're clasping their hand with both of yours. See if you can get them to do the same back! I think it'd be often taken as boundary-breaking.
Walk up to someone and smell them.
[a lot of this post]
Crawl over/around tables or chairs, act as if it's a really long way down from atop one.

Answer every question with 'thank you'.

I like these. Umm, especially the elevator thing and the one I quoted from Reverse Transcriptase, I think.

Don't really have anything to add myself at the moment, this list is already pretty long. :p
 

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- Dip fries in icecream at fast food places.
- Walk into major institutions (bank, post office) and see how high up the management chain you can get in, say, sixty minutes by being polite. Just out of curiosity.
- Look completely blank when people say stupid or boring things, as if you're politely waiting for them to get to the punchline.
- Step into extremely annoying people's personal space, stare a thousand yards straight through their eyeballs, and breathe on them from an inch away until they freak.
- Book an appointment with your boss's boss's boss's boss's boss's boss's boss's boss for "a bit of a natter". Bonus points if it's on the other side of the country.

Wait, no, that's just me normally.
 

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Haggle over price where it's totally unheard of, like Walmart, McDonald's, the gas station, etc.
 

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Dress up (fancy dress/blouse w/ skirt or a three-piece suit, depending on gender) where casual clothes are expected; wear casual clothes where it is expected you dress up.
 

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Don't fasten your belt, just let the two ends dangle
 

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I wore velvet suits for a long time, it wasn't particularly odd, but it was really comfortable

the flame pants were definitly a bit more interesting, while wearing sparkly blue and red velvet scarfs, and a fedora with studs and sparkles. And of course with the velvet suit jacket:]
 

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Saying what you really think would probably be the biggest violation of social norms.

It might also be the easiest for an INTP to do, because it's never that far away anyway. :) And we seem to tend toward the acerbic, so it's sure to be noticed. Some of the other stuff mentioned involves things people would tend to pretend they don't notice, so you'd be thinking you got no reaction or something.

Wasn't there a Jim Carey movie where he couldn't stop himself from saying what he actually thought? "Liar Liar?"
 

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YouTube- Hakim Bey Poetic Terrorism

If you're prepared to be really heretical-- to frighten yourself as much as others-- read Mein Kampf and try to empathise with uncle Adolf and see things from his perspective. Do your utmost to see the humanity in him, and the depth and complexity of his personality. And then find the nearest group of people and attempt to explain to them why and how he is misunderstood and superficially vilified, and how you can see what he was getting at, really. And how things went wrong like they did, and how that was really a very human thing and not the monstrous evil it's seen as. Above all, mean it and love him and push it as far as you can internally and externally.

That's actually quite a beneficial exercise for its own sake. It breaks down the boundaries of knowledge and forces us into a way of understanding the world which simply isn't allowed nowadays. It's like being an atheist in Europe during the middle ages.

On another note: this thread is brilliant. A couple of years ago, I systematically violated all behavioral limitations I could identify within myself. I wanted to achieve absolute behavioral freedom and immunity from social pressure, as I felt that it inhibited my understanding. The suggestions here make me want to start all over again, just for fun.

 

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- Sit on the floor, everywhere you go.

- Stick anti-consumerism propaganda next to advertisements.

- Commit various "fashion crimes" and try to be friendly to people. Crocs with socks, a snuggie, a skirt with ruffles and patterns different to your top, ribbons tied on to belt loops of baggy pants instead of suspenders, be creative... On one occasion you could combine with elements of typically accepted fashion, on another, completely rebel. Post on a social networking site or a public photo stream if you don't feel like testing peoples reactions in public.

- Set up various hammocks in trees in a public place. Make up some philosophical justification for it, and a name, like "free accomodation" or something. Type it, print it, laminate it, and nail it to the trees containing hammocks. You could also hang buckets from the branches for putting items in.

- Walk into a room full of strangers and ask God who to speak to. Walk up to someone and tell them Jesus loves them. Maybe even give them a hug.
 

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I remember hearing about similar 'breaking social norms' out of acting classes from years previous to mine... There was too much opposition to it in our year...

The one story I remember well, our professor talked about this one girl who chose to go to a McDonald's, I believe, and drown her food in sauces and eat in the sloppiest way possible. Spill it all over herself, get it on her face, drop it on the floor, etc...

The nature of the way their class was doing it, other students had entered the restaurant ahead of time and were simply eating - attempting to be nobody special and nobody involved... but making sure they had a great vantage point for when events got weird.

The girl who was making a mess of herself was staying super focused on herself and her own food... So, the professor described a moment when the rest of the restaurant slowly became aware of the girl and each other. A connection appeared among everyone in the place as they sought confirmation that, yes; something super strange was happening in their vicinity.

The professor related this story because, in part, one of the other women who was at that restaurant at the time managed to recognize the professor years later. (Have we met before...? I think we have... Oh yea! You were there when that girl made an absolute mess of herself in McDonalds!)

The professor hadn't shared a word with the woman - just the (seeming) recognition of something strange in their presence. The professor also didn't inform the woman of the truth of it. She told us that she had in the past, and people tend to come away angry. They feel cheated and manipulated if they learned the weirdness they experienced wasn't real.

Last thought I remember about this - the professor required these sort of things to be done well and truly away from the university. It could be different since the exercise she was telling us about was so acting heavy - it was about focusing thoroughly on doing one particular thing (objective). But if you're breaking social norms among your friends or other people who know you well, they're going to second guess anything odd you do. They''l try to understand what's going on and they may get angry or irritated by either failing at that, or succeeding at that...

Strangers tend to give honest reactions without thinking too hard about it... Although, be cautious - if you break the right social norms convincingly enough - police can easily be called, if you make people uncomfortable enough. :p
 

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I have always been curious about what kind of reactions you would get to walking into a bank/gas station/bodega while wearing a balaclava and acting totally normal as if it were common to conceal your face. :phear: I suppose depending on the specific location, it could be dangerous.
 

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I'll bet that you already break social norms. Just watch yourself for a day and identify where and how you are acting differently from all the other folks. Your project is done.

- dt
 

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Next time someone asks for a favor starting with "would you like to..." respond with "no... do I have a choice?"

Next time you shake hands with someone grasp their hand for a few seconds too long, wait for them to start to pull away from you before you let go.

Walk up to random strangers on the street and compliment them on their attire.
 

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Next time someone asks for a favor starting with "would you like to..." respond with "no... do I have a choice?"
Lol i have done that on a couple of occasions. They just laugh and say no. but of course i've only done it with my parents not friends.
 

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Run, don't walk. Seriously, you wouldn't believe the looks you'll get from people if you just run around to places instead of walking...I guess not everyone's an RPG-hero :p.
 

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Run, don't walk. Seriously, you wouldn't believe the looks you'll get from people if you just run around to places instead of walking...I guess not everyone's an RPG-hero :p.
...had the same great idea. What's really interestng is that, within RPG's, the heroes do not get tired. that's the difference.

Why do we usually run on rpg's when we can walk? Speed and Boredom? Better Range of Perception? Shouldn't that fictional aspect be identical to RL?
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I've unconsciously thought about this and have been running around. It actually makes things faster and easier. The exercise helps as well.

though..I still wonder why many in the world walk when they can run.:confused:
 
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