MBTI Types In Families

[aahzombies]

I noticed in several other threads that I've looked through that many INTPs seem to have at least one SJ parent. I believe my mother (who I do not get along well with) to be an ISTJ and my father (who I get along very well with) and my younger brother (who I get along fairly well with most of the time) to be INTJs. I was just wondering if anyone thought there was any sort of correlation with the MBTI types in parents and in their children.

Opinions? Observations? Examples?

 

[Barachai]

Me: INTP
Dad: INTP
Mom: ESFJ
Bro: INTP.
Not sure why, though.

 

[grey matters]

Both my parents are INTP's. I am an INTP and I suspect my daughter is one also (she is a bit too young to know for sure), my husband is an ENTP and so is my son. The only SJ's in my family are my stepmother and stepsister. I'm actually not 100% sure about the type of my sister but I do think it is safe to say that she is not an NT type.
My husband's father is dead and his mother has brain damage so it is hard to type them.

 

[Reverse Transcriptase]

Barachai, your dad has strong genes :-P

Mom's Mom: INFJ
Mom's Dad: INTJ
Mom: INFJ
Dad: ENTJ
Me: INTP
Bro: INTJ

My gf's family:
Dad's Mom: INFP
Dad: INTP
Mom: ESTJ
GF: INFP
Sister: ?S?J

I think the MBTI scores are genetic, although there are probably hidden factors as to how the genes are passed along. (If we had a big enough pool of a data of children, parents and grandparents I think we could crack how the genes work, though. Maybe. I know the personality genes aren't as simple as Mendel's peas, but we understand genetics and have better computers now. Does anyone know of such a database I can get my hands on?)

I think that you hear about SJ parents from INTPs a lot because they clash so terribly with them.

 

[Ermine]

Yes, from what I've seen, perhaps S and J are dominant traits and N and P are recessive?

 

[Jesin]

Yes, from what I've seen, perhaps S and J are dominant traits and N and P are recessive?

It's rarely that simple.

 

[Chimera]

Mum: INFJ
Dad: ESTJ
Oldest sister: ESTP
Older sister: ENFP
Me: INTP

My older sister and I get along the best, though I'm also close with my mum. I have issues with my dad and oldest sister though; they tend to act a lot alike.

 

[didyouknow]

Dad: INTP
Mum: ISFJ
Oldest: I don't want want him to be INTP, and don't want to type him in case he is
2nd Oldest: I?T? (it's hard to tell because he has a mental disability)
Me: INTP

I get along with my Dad the best and I admit, sometimes I get the INTP arrogance with my mother because she can't see things the way I do. Me and my brothers don't get along in the least, the oldest because I have a lack of respect for him and the 2nd Oldest because he is always blaming me for everything.

 

[Ermine]

I understand it's more complicated. I'm just referring to the broad concept of people with more common traits being carriers of less common traits.

 

[Reverse Transcriptase]

I understand it's more complicated. I'm just referring to the broad concept of people with more common traits being carriers of less common traits.

But the concept you're ferring to is not broad enough. Even though I have less common traits, I would bet that I am a carrier of ESFJ traits.

So if me and my female clone had lots of babies and all those kids had incestual relations and the grandkids had kids with eachother, we would end up with at least a few ESFJs. And ALOT of nearsightedness.

I kinda want to meet my female clone... that'd be kinky.

 

[FF]

Aside from my own type, the rest are just my educated guesses.

Me: INTP
Mom: IXTJ
Dad: XNTP
Sister: ESTX

 

[Ermine]

Me: INTP
Mom:ISTJ
Dad:ISTP
Sister:ENFP
Brother:INxP. He's still really young, so this is an educated guess.

 

[Gorgrim]

Half Siblings; ESTJ ESFJ ( F/T difference )

Only child from my set of parents; INTP

Dad: INTJ im beginning to lean towards..

Mum; ENFP

 

[Reverse Transcriptase]

Mum; ENFP

How is it to have an ENFP mom?
One of my best female friends is an ENFP, I imagine having one as a mom would be great.

 

[FacetiousPersona]

Father - INTJ - Major-General in Army
Mother - ENTJ - CEO
Brother - INTP - Computer Programmer/Mathematican
Sister - ENTP - Lawyer
Sister 2 - ISTP - Doctor

I have an interesting family. I'm considered the failure in it, though.

 

[Fukyo]

Mother:ENFJ
Father:ESTP
Sister:ENFP

 

[Auburn]

Mother: ISFJ
Brother: ESTP
Sister: ENFJ

 

[chocolate]

I have never dated a sensor...wonder what an N/S marriage would be like (noticed some in the parents, including mine but that one didn't work out)?

Mom: ENTP, Dad: ISTJ
me: ENTP
brother: ENTJ
sister: ISFP
brother: ISFJ

Don't know where the F came from...

 

[Dissident]

I try not to type my family, it would make me have prejudices against those types.

 

[hopefulmonster]

I have never dated a sensor...wonder what an N/S marriage would be like (noticed some in the parents, including mine but that one didn't work out)?

MBTI studies of married couples have shown that sensor+intuitive=ugly ugly divorce or a spouse buried in the rose garden.

 

[chocolate]

That's too bad; I was considering dating an ISFJ!

 

[hopefulmonster]

That's too bad; I was considering dating an ISFJ!

Oh god abort abort. All the research on married couples has shown that you only want to differ on 1-2 functions preferably t/f and or p/j but never s/n. I already worked out that an INFP would be my perfect mate or maybe an INFJ if he promised to balance out the checkbook without bitching.

 

[chocolate]

Well that maybe explains why I've never been attracted to one before but I've dated many types of intuitives. I thought it might be good to be with someone who was responsible and takes care of everything, even if our conversations are lacking...

 

[hopefulmonster]

Well that maybe explains why I've never been attracted to one before but I've dated many types of intuitives. I thought it might be good to be with someone who was responsible and takes care of everything, even if our conversations are lacking...

You just want a XNXJ. I decided on INFX because frankly both of my feeling functions are shriveled husks and only tend to manifest themselves when my shadow takes over. I need the kind of emotional support that only a true F could provide. It may be a different story for you ENTPs since you guys have a semi well developed feeling function.

 

[Madoness]

Uhmm... I don't know my brother and father, but my mother seems to be intj, I can never discuss topics with her.
My sister is INTP as I am, funny thing is that in my family I quarrel with her the most but still get along with her the best.

 

[Chronomar]

Me: INTP
Sister: INTP
Mom: Tested as an INTP, but due to her role as family "organizer", she acts often as an ESTJ because she is constantly required to manage my "head-in-the-clouds" sister and my father, and myself, and, being an INTP, is not happy about it. She is less introverted than myself, and is conserned for my social "well-being", so constantly nags me about "making more friends", and therefore, to me, comes off as being Extroverted.
Dad: INTJ, although he's not organized at all, so may be close to an INTP.

My grandpa on my Mother's side is an INTP or INTJ, my grandma is too hard to type, again, because she may be an INTP, but because of the "organizer" role she has to play, represses her own type.

My grandpa on my father's side was extreamly reserved and quiet, so, again, is hard to type. But is probably an INTP.
My grandma on my father's side has become mentally deranged, so it is impossible to type what she really was. However, what she has become is definatly everything an INTP hates.

My family on my mother's side has a few family legends that go back to Scotland, Ireland, England, and Norway...the characters portrayed in those stories often types act in an INTP like manner.

 

[Fukyo]

MBTI studies of married couples have shown that sensor+intuitive=ugly ugly divorce or a spouse buried in the rose garden.

My parents would be the prime example of this.I don't even know why they got together in the first place,let alone why they're still together...

 

[chocolate]

You just want a XNXJ. I decided on INFX because frankly both of my feeling functions are shriveled husks and only tend to manifest themselves when my shadow takes over. I need the kind of emotional support that only a true F could provide. It may be a different story for you ENTPs since you guys have a semi well developed feeling function.

Yeah maybe. I dated both INFP and INFJs -- they were both really needy, but I think they just had problems. I really did like the F though, it's amazing to be with someone who has that warmth and acceptance that I'm lacking.

Dating an INTJ is like dating a robot LOL and that's from someone who has been called a robot! (by an ENFP though ), but I could handle it.

I liked the INXJ relationships the best overall but the XNFPs were more exciting for me...so yeah you could be right!

I also like introverts a lot for some reason...they are more serious than me and that's really attractive.

 

[Barachai]

I'm rather enjoying dating an INTP. Dating a feeler requires more experience with feeling than I currently have.
However, I can see it as being rather wise for an iNtuitive to not marry a Sensor, I must agree with this sentiment...

 

[FacetiousPersona]

What if two iNtuitives have a sensor son? Problems? Murder?

 

[Barachai]

many iNtuitives are tolerant, might push their little sensor to develop a stronger N.
Anyways, its only like 18 years.

 

[Ermine]

And just because I'm intuitive doesn't mean I don't generally understand how sensors think. All you have to do is put your thoughts into a step by step format and don't be confrontational. And in a relationship like that, both would grow on each other. I've seen that happen with my mom. She's a strong sensor, but I have still grown on her a bit, and we have a clue of where the other is coming from.

 

[chocolate]

What if two iNtuitives have a sensor son? Problems? Murder?

In our family all the kids were more or less raised by my mom who is a rational. 2 rational kids (the older ones) and 2 sensor kids (SF both), and the sensor kids were pretty misunderstood.

My mom would always do everything the logical way and couldn't understand why the younger kids couldn't get it, or why they'd get so offended all the time! She knew nothing of MBTI. I get along much better with my S siblings since I learned it. So I think it could work, if the parents know about MBTI, but if they don't, they're likely to see the sensors as just limited or 'wrong' just because they're not the same.

Sort of like how my SJ dad sees everything I do as wrong!

 

[naberus]

Me: INTJ
Father: ISTJ
Mother: ENFJ
Bro: ESTP

Over at INTJforum, there was a thread just like this and a lot of us seem to have ISTJ/ENFJ parents.

 

[cheese]

Sciencelady38:
What an astounding number of INTPs! And INTs in general! What's it like living in a family like that? How are familial emotions expressed?


Paternal
Grandpa: ?NTJ (almost all Te)
Grandma:I?FP

Maternal
Grandpa: E???
Grandma: ESFJ (I think)

Dad: ENTJ (huge Te)
Mum: ENF?
Brother: ENT?
Me: INTP

The preponderance of Es might explain the accelerated growth of my Fe, and certain similarities to ENTPs.

I'm wondering - assuming most of us haven't gotten our family to take the MBTI - if this shows that perceived type is due more to internal factors (heritability) or external factors (influence of family on upbringing) since most of us seem to have many Ts and even NTs in the family.


RE Ss and Ns:
2 important romantic-interest-males in my life now - both Ss. What does this mean? Do you think N attracts S? I think this is quite possibly true - the usual free-spirit thing.

I find conversations with both very enjoyable, although more on a superficial level - denser conversations are a little frustrating because our approaches are different, especially with the one I'm interested in. I will be talking about X, and the fundamental issue Y behind it. He will misinterpret what I'm saying (and distressingly often along the lines of non-thinking clones of society) and offer cliche solution 7 as to why I'm completely insane. We will then spend about 15 minutes trying to explain ourselves, he trying to drive home his point, I trying to clarify, until eventually we reach a tentative understanding. I suppose Ss go from tiny detail 1 to tiny detail 2, all the way through to 10. Ns see the underlying principle behind the details, extrapolate from there and then come to a conclusion or point for discussion. He misses all these things and I have to explain them. (Perhaps I'm just mistaken and have completely missed the point!) Both of them are very intelligent.

Are these relationships really doomed? I think NTs and STs could get along alright. The connection I felt from the beginning was probably a result of our dominant Ti - he had a sense of the essence and defining boundaries of things as well, although he's less conceptual. I think dominant Tis can draw each other.

I think the worst possible match is NTJ with SFP. Te would absolutely murder Fi. I'm not sure what to think of the MBTI study. When was it conducted, do you know?


*edit
Maybe what they mean are dominant Ns and Ss, ie iNtuitors and Sensors. Thinkers/Feelers with opposing auxiliaries may be more workable.

 

[Seducer of the Homeless]

....I Think -

Mum - INFP
Dad - INTJ
Brother - ESFJ
Me - INTP

 

[Reverse Transcriptase]

Sciencelady38:
RE Ss and Ns:
2 important romantic-interest-males in my life now - both Ss. What does this mean? Do you think N attracts S? I think this is quite possibly true - the usual free-spirit thing.

I find conversations with both very enjoyable, although more on a superficial level - denser conversations are a little frustrating because our approaches are different, especially with the one I'm interested in. I will be talking about X, and the fundamental issue Y behind it. He will misinterpret what I'm saying (and distressingly often along the lines of non-thinking clones of society) and offer cliche solution 7 as to why I'm completely insane. We will then spend about 15 minutes trying to explain ourselves, he trying to drive home his point, I trying to clarify, until eventually we reach a tentative understanding. I suppose Ss go from tiny detail 1 to tiny detail 2, all the way through to 10. Ns see the underlying principle behind the details, extrapolate from there and then come to a conclusion or point for discussion. He misses all these things and I have to explain them. (Perhaps I'm just mistaken and have completely missed the point!) Both of them are very intelligent.

Are these relationships really doomed? I think NTs and STs could get along alright. The connection I felt from the beginning was probably a result of our dominant Ti - he had a sense of the essence and defining boundaries of things as well, although he's less conceptual. I think dominant Tis can draw each other.

I think the worst possible match is NTJ with SFP. Te would absolutely murder Fi. I'm not sure what to think of the MBTI study. When was it conducted, do you know?


*edit
Maybe what they mean are dominant Ns and Ss, ie iNtuitors and Sensors. Thinkers/Feelers with opposing auxiliaries may be more workable.

Sorry... I don't think that S & Ns can really be compatible. I mean, it's possible, but in a relationship one has to share a lot of information and whatnot... and if you're both constantly thinking differently, it's tough. I heard of a study done with MBTI and divorice rates. The only difference in functions that caused a much higher % of divorices was difference in S-N. :/

You should go for it anyway!

 

[echoplex]

I'm really not sure which types my family has. My guess would be:
Dad - ISTJ
Mom - INFP
Older sister - ISFP? INFP?
Younger sister - ENFJ? ESFJ?? (too young to type, really)
The pet cat I used to have - INFP

Me - INTP

 

[cheese]

civilianjones:

"Sorry... I don't think that S & Ns can really be compatible. The only difference in functions that caused a much higher % of divorices was difference in S-N. :/

You should go for it anyway!"

Heheh. I found this amusing. I really appreciate the encouragement though! There're circumstances preventing things from ever happening on that front however, which considering what you say is just as well.

 

[mm1991]

Me: INTP
Mother: ESFJ
Father: ISTJ
Older Half-Sister: ????

Obviously, having this type of mother will be a hassle forever and ever.
I love her....but sheesh....

I get along pretty great with my father.

I have no clue what my sister is....I'll have to do more research.
She's really smart, very emotional, and we hate each other.

 

[Skyelar]

Me: INTP
Mum: ISTJ
Dad: ENFP
Brother: ESTP
Brother: INFP
Young brother: IxxP (the only one I'm sure about is P, too young to know for sure in the other ones, althouth i would probably say ISTP, ISFP)

With this results, it's not much of a surprise the fact that battles and waycries usually appear between everyone in the family and mum, haha. That J between all the P it's frustrating for her and certainly for everyone else at times, when she gets quite dictatorial. She is quite the stereotypical ISTJ.With me being an INTP, and her only girl, it's frustrating for her, and a lot for me, I truly love my mum, but I don't think that I could ever find someone that could get me in the homicidal state she gets me in.
The one i get alone better is dad, I can truly talk with him, he can be very T too, which goes well with me, althouth F chats with him happen quite a lot, (specially him telling me that I should learn to use my feelings a lot more, I logically agree with him, it doesn't really mean that it makes it any better haha) and my infp brother, who I relate and can talk about a lot of topics which we both like. I don't really know how the relationship with the younger one will go. (I'm 13 years older and the oldest of my brothers)
Overall I get along with everyone quite well, the part with my mum can be quite exausting, I personally do as she says so I can evade to start WW3,as stereotypical INTP, I rather not start conflict, althouth I have a limit, and when it is surpassed I usually stop listening to her (if i answer back in that state it could end quite bad) (WW3 usually happens when mum(istj) and my brother(estp) argue/fight)
https://www.google.com.ar/search?hl...a=X&ei=nrXfUJiqO4Wy8QTmsIGIDw&ved=0CCsQvwUoAA

 

[kvothe27]

Mom: INFP
Younger Brother: ESTP
Older Brother: ISTP
Me: xNTP


How this dynamic plays out is predictable. My brothers and my mom are very typical for their types. Thus, my mom and my brothers do not understand each other at all. I get along well with my mom. I cannot have a conversation with my brothers to save my life. Neither of them are interested in theory at all. My ESTP brother dismiss theories as "just ideas." He spends all his time socializing and very much plays the part of a promoter. People flock to him. My ISTP brother rides motorcycles, flies helicopters, fights fires, etc. I spend all my time studying, programming, reading science fiction and fantasy, playing video games, losing myself in neurotic introspection, etc. It's all amusingly typical.

 

[CCCat]

As I am very new to this, I feel I have no right at the moment to classify my family. I have however pondered how the traits of my blood affect my thinking process.

When it comes to my mom, though I love her dearly, I feel as if her character was a total mismatch from what I've seen in the rest of my blood relatives. My sister turned out to be a a complete nut imo. And I feel as if the traits I did receive from my mom, don't directly affect me for say, making "me, less of who I am, and more like her". But more like those traits are causing a confusion in my thought pattern. Almost like I am my dad if he were being steered into a different way of life, into being a different person. Hope that made sense. This scenario is possible to have happened, they were divorced ~1.5 years after I was born.

Could there be different "forms" of traits that are passed along during fermentation based on emotions at said time? Those "confused" emotions turning into "confused" traits? As the traits will actually cause hiccups in the regular system rather than just a "slider-type, this or that" in the thinking process of the offspring thus causing inefficiencies? I have no sat down on this very long, it's just touch and go. Hopefully someone can expand.

 

[Ziast]

Mom- ISFJ
Dad- ISTJ
Oldest brother- INTJ
Older sister- EXTX
Me- INTP

 

[Cybeny]

Dad: INFP
Mum: ESFP
Sister: ESFP
Me: INTP

So, basically I don't relate my Mum, or my sister at all. If it wasn't for my Dad I think I would of gone completely mad. Strangely though, because I didn't grow up around any XXTX's, I don't really to them well at all. For example even though I'm an INTP, I try to communicate with my flatmates (INTJ, ISTJ) via my Fe, which generally fails miserably on a number of levels.

 

[walfin]

My dad is probably an ESTP and my mum an ESTJ.

Difficult to relate to either of them.

My sisters are probably ENFJ, ISTJ and ESFP/J. Can't really relate that well to any of them in particular either.

 

[jantling]

Dad: INTJ
Mom:ESFJ
Me: INTP

Don't really like either of them, but at least I can understand my dad, somewhat.

 

[redbaron]

Dad: INFP
Mum: INTJ
Me: INTP

 

[Amagi82]

I'm guessing here, as I've not made my family take the test:

Me: INTP
Mom: ESTJ (she's an ambivert, so possible ISTJ)
Dad: INTP (weird, I never realized he was one too!)
Brother: ESFP (not sure if P or J)
Sister: ESFJ (several of these may be close)

Wife: INTJ

 

[Emelina]

In my family we're all pretty similar, it's fun to see what we got from them.
Dad: ISTJ
Mom: ENTP
Older brother: INTJ
Middle brother: INTJ
Me: INTP
The S and E elements in my family seem to have died out :P