I’ve been enjoying quite a bit of success too! Finally starting to on get caught up in my work! My diet has been going really well - it’s not so much of a diet as it is just being conscientious about the quality of the food I’m eating, and i’m learning more about the way glucose affects my brain health.
Yay!
I wouldnt use aluminum products if you like ur brain.
take before pics, for comparison in a month or so!
I already did <.< will share once ive gotten to goal weight
Peoples - you helped me grow so much. So fond of you all.
<3 good
Peoples! So glad to have you here to do this with me! I especially like that you’re a human about it. You’re okay with admitting when your day goes badly. I think i need to learn to demonstrate that kind of badassness. Sometimes I have failures, but rather than admit to them, I have a tendency to get quiet and tell people I’m just really busy XD
TBH im pretty much just failing my way through life :/
what people think of you, doesnt change anything. So why try to impress them?
Ive failed a good bit so far, but I made up for it by not eating...so....progress?
As far as task switching.... Im not a fan, I would much rather go 10hours straight without a break, to keep from losing my momentum.
Lol. I just wrote a loonngg monologue above about failure.
I used to say what people thought of me didn't matter - and I do believe that, but I believe it differently now, if that makes any sense. I've realized that what people think
does matter, and that all through my life, that advice to "not care what people think of you", was just straight up bs. Of course it matters to us. We shouldn't feel ashamed of caring about it either. BUT - here's the difference. People are not always
right, and that's the key. To me, it's become far more important to determine when people are right, verses when they are not. If they make a critique of me that seems accurate and fair, and like it would be useful to me, then there's no shame in taking what they say to heart, and making some changes in my life.
It's when they critique me and what they said is unfair, untrue, invalid, or inapplicable. That is when what people think of me becomes corrosive. And I found a solution.
I stay. the fuck. away. from those people. Lol!
In fact, I stay away from most people in general, because I find most people to be negative. It isn't that I can't cope with human negativity, but I choose not to. If you're not going to add value to my life, you just straight up don't belong in it - and that's that.
So that's the change I've made in that regard. I keep my circle of people very small. Only the people that really love me and value me, now, are allowed to be in it. The others - people who would use me, or have proven time and time again that they are not interested in my welfare - those people get the classic Inex Burning of the Bridge ceremony. You get about three chances at this point. If you prove to me three times over that you don't have my best interests at heart, then you no longer get the privilege of my friendship.
It sounds pretty cold, and it starkly contrasts to the door mat I used to be. But viewing the world this way has empowered me and seriously change the way I view life, and people. Now that I have just a small circle of trusted people that I genuinely love, and who genuinely love me, I find myself loving and trusting humanity as a whole again. Also, I feel much happier, and much better about myself. I'm way less stressed out...and more than that, I'm no longer a victim, ever.
I think that's the biggest thing - graduating from victimhood.
I used to feel like it was almost a moral obligation to forgive people - because I do really value forgiveness. I try to be laid-back, and accepting of others, and compassionate of their mistakes. I try not to judge, or upset, or cause others to have a negative life experience. However....deciding that, if you're not willing to return the favor, you don't deserve the high quality company I provide - that liberated me.
I finally learned to put my foot down, and say enough is enough. And I finally accepted that not everyone tries to be a good person. Just because I do - it doesn't mean other people also do their best to live in accordance to values and morals. A lot of people just live to win. First bridge I burned was my brother. Next was my boyfriend. Lol. Two veerrryyy long bridges, and two epic bonfires.
Interestingly enough, things have changed a bit with my brother. After I demonstrated the willingness to throw that relationship off a cliff and never look back, I actually started to get some level of respect, I think. I guess some people just need to realize that there will be consequences before they can learn how to behave properly.
It sucks when you've got to do that with your own family though.
At any rate. End of the day. I've realized that I absolutely care what people think - but I care differently now. At this point, I only care what people think if we have a deep relationship with one another, and I've also set boundaries. Not very harsh ones, but I've learned to get a little bit snippy with people if they overstep for ten or 15 minutes so that they get a better idea on how I expect to be treated.
It's changed the way I handle my clients too. I'm willing to burn bridges now, and the people I work with know that I have standards as to the kind of treatment I expect/will accept. That's enabled me to work well with a lot of people who would have otherwise caused me a lot of stress and pain.
I guess this is all an adventure in me learning to stick up for myself, but in a fair way. Like I said - I give chances. You can screw up - and it will be water under the bridge, never to be used against you in the court of Inex - but I let people know that they've dun fucked it up, in the moment, and then we forget about it. If you're going to repeatedly demonstrate poor character though, then you should have seen the fire coming from a mile away.
I think there's a lot of weak women out there because we raise our little girls to be sappy, subservient, and meek. We've raised our little boys to be emotionally repressed and angry, too. We've essentially raised a whole damn generation of victims. Screw that noise. Lets all learn to have a bit of backbone and stand up for ourselves!
But not unreasonably so. When someone who loves you gives you good advice, or you feel concerned that they would disapprove of you - it's worth thinking that over, and seeing whether or not you need to make an adjustment in your flight path so you can stay on course. But only the people who really love you, and have proved their loyalty, and not given you ample reasons to doubt the commitment to your health and welfare, should have the right to affect the way you view yourself.
If I ever adopt kids, which I would like to, this is how I will teach them to handle humans. Be very picky about who you allow within your intimate circle, and be willing to kick out the people who don't belong there. Don't overexpose yourself to those who would contaminate your mindset with negativity. Choose humans who are healthy and productive for you. But when you DO find a person who deserves your intimacy, then it should be ride or die. Pay that loyalty back ten-fold, always prioritize them at the top of your list when they're in need, and listen to the help they have to offer you, because they know things about you that you will never understand, and this is how we reach great heights as human creatures.
