Some of my principles are.
Don't violate my personal space.
Don't lie to me I will not to you.
Don't manipulate me I won't manipulate you
tell me the whole story I will to you.
Be trustworthy
basically I want people to treat me like a dog treats people, except dogs can violate my space. I like dogs more than most people.
These sound like the sort of "unwritten" principles that tend to guide my judgment (as lies, manipulation, deception, invasion of privacy, and other similar violations are often the sort of actions to which I tend to react most largely).
Jeez... I think we owe it to ourselves to each take some time in our lives to slowly create some sort of
personal list of the most significant principles we have (with examples). It would be great to actually consciously "know" exactly why someone has offended you, so perhaps people can be warned in advance, or at least we'd be able to better articulate what grave injustice we believe to have occurred (as I find that other people usually think we're just "over-reacting").
Yeah this sounds like me most of the time. My principles are more like "guidelines" if anything.
Interesting. Here's an awesome quote from Bruce Lee: "
Obey with the principles without being bound by them." Most likely, Lee was an ISTP (which means he was also likely a highly principled Ti Dominant).
Sometimes I'm
loose with my principles, applying them when there is actual justification for their application, while other times, I tend to apply them absolutely, regardless of the circumstances. But despite the fact that my principles aren't always "guidelines," I really do not tend to be consciously aware of them. They just seem "self-evident," in a sense. Like obvious common sense. [However, as we all know, our principles are usually never "obvious" to others, who seem to lack logical reasoning sometimes.]
My biological mother rules the home with a theocratic iron fist and we are constantly at each others throats because of this. Religion has never been my favorite topic. I'd rather not have a self righteous minister breathing down my neck telling me what my morals should or what they shouldn't.
How unfortunate. My mother was a Catholic, but she was very permissive and "live and let live" about her religious views (a parental characteristic for which I will always be grateful). Us INTPs need plenty of "intellectual freedom," room to skeptically criticize and question everything around us, such that we usually dislike constraints placed upon
what we think or believe. Our own thoughts and beliefs are our most sacred possessions, and if someone has a problem with our own personal intellectual property, it's usually very stressful and conflicting for us. Again, I'm so glad I was given all the room in the world to think and believe whatever I wanted, so long as I left everyone else alone. Good luck with your situation. Hopefully you can move out eventually and find some mental solitude and privacy. =|
1. Don't mess with my kids.
Oh boy. I have a son, and I'm very serious about any actions people make around him. My sister basically had to deal with Joseph Stalin whenever he'd be over. I'd be on guard for any little mistreatment or negligence on anyone's part while he was in their care. And if any "accidents" occurred, I would have been very inflexible about dealing with the matter. The adults involved would likely get a very strict lecture. I become very outspoken, aggressive, and inflexible when my principles are violated, and this is definitely one of them.
I will negotiate everything else in life, and as such, I'm often very adaptable to almost everything. This all ends the moment someone crosses a very important boundary and acts without respect, consideration, or rational purpose. Then I will discontinue to negotiate and I will become absolutely uncooperative and stern. Once I'm convinced that a gross violation has occurred, nothing can convince me otherwise, as I become incredibly stubborn and serious.
