Adymus
Banned
A really good friend of mine whom I have known for about 8 years now is an ESTP. Every now and Then we'll watch some show or movie together like Psyche, or Sherlock Holmes, or the mentalist, about a really bad ass Ni dominant type (Actually I'd say the mentalist is ENFJ, but you get what I mean) who uses their Se inferior to take notice of some details, and their Ni to make massive leaps and connections to solve the mystery.
So my ESTP friend will see this and say "Dude, that's totally me! That is exactly what I do!"
And I'll say "Welll... meh.. No, not really. Okay so you notice details, god know you notice fucking everything."
ESTP: "Right!"
Me: "Right, but the amount of imagination, speculation, and cross contextualizing that these people are using is way more than the amount you are. They have an emphasis on Making intuitive leaps from something they noticed, while you have an emphasis on noticing as many things as possible.
ESTP: "But I've made leaps and connections connections too!"
Me: "Yeah but when you do it, they are only slight leaps, as opposed to these guys who are making giant leaps that are seemingly paradoxical or contradictory to what it is that they noticed."
Basically I continue to explain the Difference between using Se dominance and Ni dominance while avoiding using MBTI terminology. Yet he still see the two as one and the same.
I had an ESFP Exgirlfriend who was trying to become a crime scene investigator and saw herself in the same way as the ESTP above. It's actually normal for people to have a "fetishy" relationship with their inferior, and want to get really good at it. But I have only seen ESxPs look at someone use their Ni at Ni dominant level and say "Hey! That person is exactly like me!"
I definitely like getting good at activities that require Good Fe as well, but I've never once Looked at an ENFJ move the room with their Fe and say "Yup, this guy is exactly like me."
Likewise, you are also not going to see an ISTJ watch an ENTP bounce rapidly off of possibilities and relate to that at all. On the contrary they would say "HEY STOP THAT! There are no possibilities, this is the way it is!"
I think the reason they might relate however, is because there is a very apparent connection between Ni and Se, that is not as apparent as other polar functions. Ni and Se can communicate back and forth in such a way that I think is a bit clearer, than how Ti and Fe communicate or Ne and Si; However I think all polar functions have the same capability.
Both Se and Ni are both in some way, sensual functions. For Se the sensation comes from the 5 senses, and with Ni the sensation comes from the imagination. This is why the two can work from Se to Ni, where a person gathers detailed information in the present reality, and then uses Ni to paint a bigger picture based off of that. Or from Ni to Se, where the person builds a model or design in Ni and then brings in into the world with Se. Much like how Tolkien was able to illustrate his Middle earth, down to the very last detail into something tangible. Or how an INTJ can design a deathstar (or whatever it is INTJs like making), and breath life into it by actually creating it.
So my ESTP friend will see this and say "Dude, that's totally me! That is exactly what I do!"
And I'll say "Welll... meh.. No, not really. Okay so you notice details, god know you notice fucking everything."
ESTP: "Right!"
Me: "Right, but the amount of imagination, speculation, and cross contextualizing that these people are using is way more than the amount you are. They have an emphasis on Making intuitive leaps from something they noticed, while you have an emphasis on noticing as many things as possible.
ESTP: "But I've made leaps and connections connections too!"
Me: "Yeah but when you do it, they are only slight leaps, as opposed to these guys who are making giant leaps that are seemingly paradoxical or contradictory to what it is that they noticed."
Basically I continue to explain the Difference between using Se dominance and Ni dominance while avoiding using MBTI terminology. Yet he still see the two as one and the same.
I had an ESFP Exgirlfriend who was trying to become a crime scene investigator and saw herself in the same way as the ESTP above. It's actually normal for people to have a "fetishy" relationship with their inferior, and want to get really good at it. But I have only seen ESxPs look at someone use their Ni at Ni dominant level and say "Hey! That person is exactly like me!"
I definitely like getting good at activities that require Good Fe as well, but I've never once Looked at an ENFJ move the room with their Fe and say "Yup, this guy is exactly like me."
Likewise, you are also not going to see an ISTJ watch an ENTP bounce rapidly off of possibilities and relate to that at all. On the contrary they would say "HEY STOP THAT! There are no possibilities, this is the way it is!"
I think the reason they might relate however, is because there is a very apparent connection between Ni and Se, that is not as apparent as other polar functions. Ni and Se can communicate back and forth in such a way that I think is a bit clearer, than how Ti and Fe communicate or Ne and Si; However I think all polar functions have the same capability.
Both Se and Ni are both in some way, sensual functions. For Se the sensation comes from the 5 senses, and with Ni the sensation comes from the imagination. This is why the two can work from Se to Ni, where a person gathers detailed information in the present reality, and then uses Ni to paint a bigger picture based off of that. Or from Ni to Se, where the person builds a model or design in Ni and then brings in into the world with Se. Much like how Tolkien was able to illustrate his Middle earth, down to the very last detail into something tangible. Or how an INTJ can design a deathstar (or whatever it is INTJs like making), and breath life into it by actually creating it.