Competitiveness

[ProxyAmenRa]

Any of you guys competitive??

I am in a situation where I am really damn competitive but really damn lazy.

 

[walfin]

What paradox is there?

It's a sure recipe for dissatisfaction, though.

I don't actually like competition. I don't think benefit to one should have to come at the expense of loss to another. Life is not always a zero sum game.

 

[echoplex]

Yeah, you could try competitive napping.

Alas, that doesn't exist. Invent it!

I'm only competitive about games I invent. I mean, it would suck to get beat at something you know more about than anyone else.

 

[Ombat]

I get competitive when I play sports or video games... but that happens about once every two years.

I know many people who are very competitive in school, always having some vendetta against the person who's grade in a class is .4% higher than theirs. I never get it.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Yeah, you could try competitive napping.

Alas, that doesn't exist. Invent it!

I'm only competitive about games I invent. I mean, it would suck to get beat at something you know more about than anyone else.

Haha, I guess we share similar ideas. My good friend hates that he can't beat at my game because the game changes.

I just received result from a 40 page industrial chemical process design assignment. I received 85% of the marks for it. I was looking at the results that others have received and they are greater than my own. This pisses me off. The group of people (I call the think tank because they lack academic independence) who received the better grades than I persistently annoyed me for help and I gave in on numerous occasions. None of them initially grasped the complexity of the assignment. I guess having 6 high school dux students all working together is going to result better than an individual dux student.

I am asking myself a question "With the all the help I have given them they did not consider informing me that a few of my assumptions were incorrect?". Bastards. Since I am all so competitive and a sore loser, I will have my retribution. Breaking a few of their hands/legs should be adequate.


I am not immature!!!

 

[sadprofessor909]

The only situation I can think of that I get competitive in is around chair placements and all-state auditions. I pretty much bust my ass practicing and making sure it sounds perfect. But when it comes to grades or sports, etc., I really don't care. I mean, I'd like to be able to keep up to some extent, but I don't go out of my way to be the valedictorian with the 5.0 average.

 

[Zero]

I'm competitive on certain things. They have to matter to me. I kind of like finding flaw with anything.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

The only situation I can think of that I get competitive in is around chair placements and all-state auditions. I pretty much bust my ass practicing and making sure it sounds perfect. But when it comes to grades or sports, etc., I really don't care. I mean, I'd like to be able to keep up to some extent, but I don't go out of my way to be the valedictorian with the 5.0 average.

I see, your going to be the dux/valedictorian with a 4.99 average?

 

[jsibley1]

Any of you guys competitive??

I am in a situation where I am really damn competitive but really damn lazy.

I have a hard time letting go to just have fun.

 

[Kuu]

I don't care about winning, or other people giving me prizes. But I ALWAYS want to be the best, to make the best things.... these are sometimes only for myself. But I also like to share knowledge and methodologies, and be cooperative with peers on my level.

So I guess I am not driven to traditional competitiveness at all, but at more of an abstract intellectual sort of competitiveness.

Its internally motivated rather than externally motivated I guess.

 

[Döden]

^ I find myself in the same situation. Especially when I know that with a little bit of work I could easily outdo the other person.
I'm childishly competitive in music though. I'm first chair bass in my orchestra, and I'm wildly paranoid that someone will try to take my place. Of course, this is stupid because none of them really care. I try not to let on though.

 

[Firehazard159]

I can be extremely competitive, and lazy as well :P

Pretty much, if someone challenges me to DDR, I'll be totally up for it, or a game, or just a random "race you to that pole' kind of thing. Generally it has to be something important though, or I won't really react. haha.

Actually, it has a lot to do with what Kuu just said too. But I do like feeling smug if I am ahead of the person I'm competing with, I just push to beat my old scores, especially if they're not as good as me.

The competition is more in companionship, for me. Like legolas and gimli doing a death toll counter together!

 

[ckm]

I'm horribly competitive. I can't stand losing. Honestly I've tried to be a good sport, but by the end of a game if I'm not winning I feel extremely frustrated - which as I child I would have turned externally by arguing or trying to cheat, but now turn internally because I am frustrated by and ashamed of my immaturity. Therefore I abstain from competition of almost any sort now, and tend to only try things I know I can succeed in or win. I hate to say it, but I avoid challenge. I don't like to push myself.

 

[multisession]

I don't care about winning, or other people giving me prizes. But I ALWAYS want to be the best, to make the best things.... these are sometimes only for myself. But I also like to share knowledge and methodologies, and be cooperative with peers on my level.

So I guess I am not driven to traditional competitiveness at all, but at more of an abstract intellectual sort of competitiveness.

Its internally motivated rather than externally motivated I guess.

i also always want to be the best.
To be honest, during my whole life I always have the feeling, that i'm the best. I mean sometimes i don't win, or I see people are better in this or that. But in every case I feel, that i have something more (something like a view of big picture, seeing everything in a much more wider context, ...)
I'm not communicating this however to the outside.

Second thing: i wasn't competitive at all during my high school, nor at the begining at university. Competitiveness came, when i started to see, that my results quite differ from the average (somewhere around 23-24 age).

Third thing: for example at my work I automatically assume, i'm the best. The reports I write must be outstanding and high quality. I expect this from myself. A guy came recently and he got the best assignment instead of me. I felt terrible. I felt, like the world is shaking under my feet. I felt, like i lost my identity. I kept asking questions, how could this happen, since i'm the best.

Now, the thoughts i listed here are really internal. I behave differently to outside --> so don't think, i'm an arrogant bastard.

 

[Marshmallow Moo]

I'm competitive only on things I take pride in, but that competitiveness is only there because if I'm not the best I feel like a failure. I once emotionally beat myself for weeks because I got second place in a Speech competition after my 1st place streak. I also remember crying over being in the Top 4% of my class instead of the Top 3%.

Other than that I'm pretty damn lazy.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Something amusing.

I have come forth place in a class of 200 in one of my subjects with an overall result of 99%. The three people that beat me achieved an overall result of 100%. I am totally dumbfounded how anyone can achieve complete perfection. If there is any correlation their personalities resemble intjs and infjs. OCD, perfectionist bastards.

Well the same three people achieved higher results than I in all the subjects I participated in. I will reiterate a group of 8 (all chronic high achievers, which the three are a part of) can out compete me. Sigh.

My pride and joy at the end of this semester was enabling around 20 foreign students to cheat and pass their subjects. XD

I will manifest my own think tank with the ones that can't speak coherent English!!!

 

[roby]

Yes I'm very competitive.

And yes I'm better then a majority of people who think their better then me, but once I tap into my hidden power. BOOM, I'll be 1st.

Arrogant or not, it's truth.

 

[Minuend]

I'm competitive only on things I take pride in, but that competitiveness is only there because if I'm not the best I feel like a failure.

I'm a bit like this. But it's because of a distorted view on reality, I think. I guess I have a slight preference for winning in general, but it doesn't upset me if I loose in games. But, when we're talking about academic tasks, I must be best to prove to myself that I'm the most intelligent. Getting worse grades than those I consider to be stupid... that's harsh. I easily sulk for an entire week if I don't do as well as expected. When I actually try and do my best, the results must be perfection and have such a greatness that it invokes international attention. It must be a reflection of my extraordinary ability to reason and think, put together in a two-page-paper.