Being laughed at

[walfin]

How does it make you feel?

Sad? Happy? Nothing?

Why?

Do you care?

Do you pretend not to care?

Do you not care?

Do you pretend to care?

Are you secretly amused that other people are poking fun at you? Are you worried that you're amused at your own misery, if so?

 

[Keary]

Being laughed at generally depends on who does it.
If it's just some shallow tart who gets frightened by the fact that I'm different than I don't care, due to the fact that they're only laughing at me to hide their own issues which I'm not in the slightest interested in.
If it's one of my mates than again I generally don't care since I laugh at them too and we generally like taking the piss out of each other, which helps me to resolve my own issues of superiority by the fact that they're laughing at me and the inferiority in that I'm laughing at them.
In short really apart from the attention that is pointed at me, I don't care that others laugh at me. Hope that answers something.

 

[Words]

It's very relative to who and why.

common pattern:

Bad person, bad situation = escape.
bad person, good situation = *raises eyebrow*
good person, bad situation = wut?
good person, good situation = laughs.

 

[Pythia]

Bad person, bad situation = escape.

What if you can't scape?

For example, if it is a teacher, a boss, or any other authority figure the one who is making fun of you, and you are supposed to reply something, or can't walk out of the room so easily.

 

[Mary]

How does it make you feel?

Depends on the situation.

Sad? Happy? Nothing?

DEPENDS.

Why?

'Cause every situation is different.

Do you care?

Most of the time, no. If it's something I really care about, yes, I care.

Do you pretend not to care?

Most of the time, if it really did hurt me, I pretend not to care. The only people who can hurt me are people who I care about and care for me, and I don't want to make them feel bad.

Do you not care?

Most of the time, I do not care.

Do you pretend to care?

Never.

Are you secretly amused that other people are poking fun at you? Are you worried that you're amused at your own misery, if so?

Sometimes, when I realize they are projecting their own insecurities onto me, I am very amused. I'm always worried about my mental health, if that's what you mean. I've never been quite right in the head.

 

[citrusbreath95]

Well, I usually make fun of myself (in a good-hearted way) with my friends and I do the same to them. I laugh then. Also if I can tell someone's just doing it to be funny or it's true and I can find the humor in it, then yes, I'll laugh. If someone laughs at my interests, I will either be proud of the concepts I'm interested in, that make me so unique as everyone else finds them comical. Or, if I'm in a more serious mode of behavior, I might say something subtly criticizing to them as well. It really depends on the situation, and what I interpret the other individual's motives to be. I'm usually pretty tolerant of people, but if they are laughing at me, and it gets in the way of something I'm trying to do/accomplish, then I will get angry.

 

[amorfati]

It traumatized me when I was a child and has helped shape who I am and the painful, drug-induced, and at times psychotic path that I took to get here.

However, I hold laughter, and more importantly, the ability to laugh, as one of the highest virtues obtainable. And I am a compassionate person these days, so I encourage people to experience the healing power of laughter whenever possible. What does it matter if it's aimed at me? Maybe I did something on purpose to trigger their laughter? And if that is the case, who is the one who is really laughing when I am pulling their strings?

 

[Words]

What if you can't scape?

For example, if it is a teacher, a boss, or any other authority figure the one who is making fun of you, and you are supposed to reply something, or can't walk out of the room so easily.

Bad situation - ignore.

Worse situation - sleep.

Furthermore, How would I not be able walk out? Am I constricted by physical force?

Obligations are not my friend, I break them all the time.

 

[shoeless]

i still get laughed at but it doesn't bother me -- i'm just so glad to hear laughter around me!


...it's a song. i like it.

 

[WeAreTheStrange]

Bad situation - ignore.

Worse situation - sleep.

Obligations are not my friend, I break them all the time.

That.


I remember one time , It was my turn to give an oral presentation (while being recorded). I didn't do the assignment, but the teacher (total ass) insisted that I be recorded anyway. So when they started the recording process, I just sat in my chair while everyone just stared at me.

At first I put my head down and was contemplating on taking a small nap, but when I brought my head back up and noticed everyone still staring at me, I just got up and left the classroom.

 

[echoplex]

There are many different types of laughs, and they mean different things. My first response is to become curious as to why they feel [whatever laugh is supposed to indicate], unless I already know, in which case I try to enjoy it as a moment of harmless absurdity.

 

[Pythia]

Bad situation - ignore.

Worse situation - sleep.

Furthermore, How would I not be able walk out? Am I constricted by physical force?

Obligations are not my friend, I break them all the time.

I'm not talking about physical restrictions, but of a situation in which leaving only makes things worse (doesn't necessarily affects you emotionally, but makes it harder to deal with it later).
Personally, I go under great stress.

As for other kinds of laughs, I usually don't care much. But, of course, it depends.

 

[walfin]

That.


I remember one time , It was my turn to give an oral presentation (while being recorded). I didn't do the assignment, but the teacher (total ass) insisted that I be recorded anyway. So when they started the recording process, I just sat in my chair while everyone just stared at me.

At first I put my head down and was contemplating on taking a small nap, but when I brought my head back up and noticed everyone still staring at me, I just got up and left the classroom.

If the teacher was caring, you would have hurt him/her pretty badly.

Bad situation - ignore.

Worse situation - sleep.

Furthermore, How would I not be able walk out? Am I constricted by physical force?

Obligations are not my friend, I break them all the time.

Perhaps you have never been truly forced to do anything.

Sometimes, when I realize they are projecting their own insecurities onto me, I am very amused. I'm always worried about my mental health, if that's what you mean. I've never been quite right in the head.

Lol.

I'm not laughing at you, I assure you

 

[Words]

I'm not talking about physical restrictions, but of a situation in which leaving only makes things worse (doesn't necessarily affects you emotionally, but makes it harder to deal with it later).
Personally, I go under great stress.

Harder to deal with? We are talking about injustice. It is they who must deal with me and with what they have done.

If the teacher was caring, you would have hurt him/her pretty badly.

And what about the teacher's actions?

Perhaps you have never been truly forced to do anything.

I have been forced so many times, most through emotional and physical extreme methods.

With something reasonable, I act but if it seems unfair, I retaliate.

 

[walfin]

And what about the teacher's actions?

I didn't do the assignment, but the teacher (total ass) insisted that I be recorded anyway. So when they started the recording process, I just sat in my chair while everyone just stared at me.

Assignments are meant to be done for the purpose of learning.

Notwithstanding the subjective perspective of the student of whether that purpose would have been achieved by that presentation or not, was it truly so onerous to do that assignment? Did it take superhuman strength? Did it cause untold suffering and pain to the student to do that assignment?

Has it not been considered that the teacher is hoping for at least a last-ditch attempt to try and do the presentation, lack of preparation notwithstanding? That the student was at least interested enough that s/he has bothered to find out something, anything, on the presentation topic at all?

Of course, what I have said mayn't be entirely fair. WeAreTheStrange has yet to be heard on this, and I know neither the teacher nor student personally. And in any case, I am in no position to pass judgment on WeAreTheStrange's actions and anybody else on this forum may take anything I say to be of no consequence. It is the listener that chooses whether to dismiss, or take a step back and reflect, after all.

A friend of mine once made a physics teacher (a girl) cry. Perhaps some might think that was admirable. I felt bad.

Didn't really mean for the thread to turn serious. But well.

 

[Words]

One's desire to succeed or not is his own subjective perspective. Punishment is only minor conditioning. What matters is one's choice. If I did not do my homework, let me fail. If I did, let me pass. "Discipline" of this kind---considering the age of the student, independence and the value of choice---is unnecessary and is also possibly only the result of someone's ego.

 

[walfin]

This has been taken to a new thread that I have posted in School and Work.