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- Jan 8, 2010
Any X who ventures creating an "Ask X" thread must be open to personal Q's. It can be the measure of a person how well they answer. I admire the job Architect (@Architect) is doing.I understand. I was a little wary that these questions could be perceived as a little bit too personal, sorry.
A job doesn't have to be a dream job. Mine wasn't. I made a satisfactory living and didn't spend much. I looked for things outside the job and in finding them, I valued my job more because it made them possible.Oh....I feel a little saddened by this. It emphasises the notion that many people who seemingly have the 'dream job' and make good money may still not be content with the outcomes of their lives...by the time they have reached that point in their lives they may be tied into mortgages and family commitments.
I took a couple of temporary jobs after I retired from the big one and had a ball with both of them.
If I can contribute here I would be pleased, but sometimes I make mistakes. I wouldn't call myself "content" in my life now. That sounds like I'm laying back in an easy chair. I'm very active in many ways and am enjoying it ... absolutely love retirement. My only doubts are not having had children or taking any social leadership role as my sister does. I have very mixed feelings about that.Don't get me wrong; I am not at all assuming this is how your life is or even how you feel...you may be quite content by now and I personally think what you contribute with your mind here far more valuable. External things are important; however, I don't look at 'achievements' in the same way as others. I view success as something independent of external achievements.
Can you say more about what your musical ambitions are/were? I think it important for all to reach a place of acceptance for these things of ambition.A successful person is at large content with their lives, despite their perceived shortcomings. If we avoid forming strong attachments to our dreams we will not 'fail'. But I can very well understand your disappointment as a younger person. I was gutted for a long time that I couldn't become a musician, for example. But I have found other means of cultivating my love for music, and have found expression through other means. And even if I had become a professional musician, my introvertedness and reluctance to perform would have been a problem...much like your own predicament.
Mathematics as an art from will always be there for me. I only dropped the vocational aspect. I just need to find the time to resume appreciation ... that book lying on my table right there ...However, when you have discovered the beauty of mathematics in the way you did, only to have to let go of it.....I don't know...I think I can understand, maybe.
That statement has me wondering if as a woman you find a conflict there: achievement versus avoiding competition. Here in the U.S. it appears there is a growing acceptance of female achievement.Yes, thank you. I find these very interesting.
I can also relate to your point about guidance. I wasn't very challenged at school. With the educational system in my home country, there is a policy of getting all pupils to the same level of knowledge, regardless of their capabilities. This level was quite low. As I seemed to have no problems, noone attempted to push me harder as I was already doing fine, and well beyond that. I got a lot of unwanted attention, though, which made me attempt to hide my abilities in order to blend in better.
There you go. Your older brother was uh a male! I wonder if that made a difference. I have a younger sister who has quite a different story.I wish I had grown up in a more competitive environment, I think I would have pursued music and science earlier on, and not given up as soon as something didn't 'click' straight away. I wasn't accustomed to challenges, and when I didn't 'get' something straight away, I thought I was stupid (didn't help that my older brother was declared a genius).
This is a subject for conversation but I can't think of what to say at this time. Anyone else, especially a female, wishes to comment on this? ... maybe a new thread?So I grew up thinking I was different and stupid, while I excelled at school....
I therefore had mediocre aims early on as I was worried about failing.
As for my ambitions...I don't even know what they are any more. I have nearly finished a second degree, but I'm at the point where I'm questioning the value of it. I have hit another point of disillusionment...hoping that too, will pass.