Regret

[Cognisant]

Are you a "late bloomer", have you lost love or never known it at all, do you live with the shame of some past event or present deficiency, is it regret you feel?

Why?

Existentialism is in many ways an incredibly unhelpful philosophy however when it comes to regret nihilism is one of the few things that truly help.

Life is not a story turned sour, there is no karmic balance to appease.
Shit happens.

Why subject yourself to regret?

Wretchedness can be a vicious cycle of comfort seeking self abuse but it doesn't have to be, you can break that cycle by getting angry.

You're irrelevant, does that make you mad?
Your pain doesn't matter, does that make you mad?
Your trauma and lost time will forever go uncompensated, are you mad?

 

[Base groove]

Regret, wretchedness, misery..

anger.

yeah. That's life.

 

[TimeAsylums]

Are you a "late bloomer",

Just to note: I didn't imply any sense of regret in the question itself. However, I can see how it could be taken as a sense of shame. All I said was it " obviously applies to those outside the average." If one should choose to take that as negative or positive, such is their prerogative.

->Does not give a fuck either way, just wanted to know how many of our forumites were late bloomers. Gathering data as usual.

You're irrelevant, does that make you mad?
Your pain doesn't matter, does that make you mad?
Your trauma and lost time will forever go uncompensated, are you mad?

Nope
Nope
Nope

Do you live with the shame of some past event or present deficiency, is it regret you feel?

Nope. Not even in the slightest.


I've pretty much agreed with you 100% when it comes to metaphysics.


Anyway, I certainly don't support people feeling sad or down in the dumps, seeing as there is no deity or theist god that cares. Being sad is self hatret. Constructive thinking is your only friend.


Out of context, but eh:

Space we can recover, lost time never.

Time in regret is wasted time, bruh.

 

[Latte]

Time in regret is wasted time, bruh.

Yeah. One will just end up regretting having wasted time regretting things... including spending time regretting having wasted time.

It's like a TimeAsylum of Regret.

 

[TimeAsylums]

TimeAsylum

Turns out it's a supernova

If the two types of people are alpha and beta

I'm gamma

 

[Pizzabeak]

Inspiration

 

[Cavallier]

I passed from regret into anger a long time ago. It was bred into me. Don't get hurt, don't get pushed around, get angry.

Then sometimes I feel empty and without any emotion. Nothing negative, nothing positive. I am filled with blank grey emptiness.

Today I am happy. I don't know about tomorrow. *shrug*

 

[doncarlzone]

Using nihilism to suppress negative emotions only works for a while until you're desensitized. After that, you will need some novelty as in a new thinking pattern. It's just like listening to a good song.

I haven't had nihilistic thoughts in a while so I actually reacted positively to the OP.

 

[cheese]

@Cav
I had the anger beaten/manipulated out of me and turned into a sad sack of shit.

Ended up with blank grey emptiness... different story, same ending.

 

[Cavallier]

@Cav
I had the anger beaten/manipulated out of me and turned into a sad sack of shit.

Ended up with blank grey emptiness... different story, same ending.

*licks cheese*

Yep, you taste a bit grey.

 

[Pyropyro]

Regret is a neutral thing, not unlike physical pain. What matters is how you react to it. Would you clamp up and whine because of your disappointment or would you learn from it and prepare for worse things in the future.

 

[Base groove]

Regret is the parts of the story you don't tell people. It's the things that humiliate you about yourself.

 

[Duxwing]

Are you a "late bloomer", have you lost love or never known it at all, do you live with the shame of some past event or present deficiency, is it regret you feel?

Having bloomed early and brightly, I retain my petals. I have had and lost seven loves. No.

Why?

Because I had an almost-perfect upbringing.

Existentialism is in many ways an incredibly unhelpful philosophy however when it comes to regret nihilism is one of the few things that truly help.

The word you seek is not "nihilism" but 'devaluation'. Devaluing your the object of your suffering ceases the suffering and commits a post-hoc fallacy.

Life is not a story turned sour, there is no karmic balance to appease.

"Life" is a poorly-defined term at best and a horrible mind-virus at worst. Whereas hurt feelings needing mending exist; e.g., by giving a friend whose feelings you hurt and apology and a hug.

Why subject yourself to regret?

Regret is not a choice but the outcome of other choices; e.g., not recognizing that the past should not be evaluated like the present.

Wretchedness can be a vicious cycle of comfort seeking self abuse but it doesn't have to be, you can break that cycle by getting angry.

Or letting yourself feel a dampened version of the pain, next resolving whatever logic errors you committed, and finally feeling the rest.

You're irrelevant, does that make you mad?

Relevance and irrelevance are subjective, and I'm relevant to my self, family, and friends. *hug*

Your pain doesn't matter, does that make you mad?

My pain matters: I hate feeling it.

Your trauma and lost time will forever go uncompensated, are you mad?

Their compensation depends on how they were lost; e.g., if McDonald's coffee gave me third-degree burns, then I could get a precedent-based summary-judgement in my favor with even greater damages than the original plaintiff because the multi-million dollar damages she won were evidently insufficient. Satisfaction sometimes is obtainable.

Othertimes, it is not. When we have anticipated and accepted that some of our grievances will be unredressed, we should return to the mindset wherein we did and therefore feel no pain; whereas when we have not, we are wretched and traumatized, beset with woe and should turn to the caring arms of our loved ones, for sometimes even the wise suffer.

-Duxwing