Your Ideal Male 'Partner'

[Jennywocky]

good old internet providing computers for people to hide behind, so we can simulate being extroverts

Is that much different from having to wear our flesh suits out into the world in order for our minds to connect with each other?

 

[scorpiomover]

good old internet providing computers for people to hide behind, so we can simulate being extroverts

I wish. My sister pointed out to me, that when I went out a lot with people, I was extremely extrovert.

Is that much different from having to wear our flesh suits out into the world in order for our minds to connect with each other?

Only an INTP could describe their bodies as "flesh suits".

 

[Ninjamanda]

Your Ideal Male Partner

I decided since the boys are listing off things they would like in a girl. I wanted them to hear what the girls want in a guy. Lets see.

• Hates talking on the phone
• Not clingy!!!
• Doesn't like cuddling when I am sleeping
• Has a job
• Is good at video games
• Smokes weed haha
• Cute
• Tall
• Funny
• Confident
• Likes eating lots of different food
• Shares their food with me
• Doesn't snore
• Is good in bed
• Lets me have my freedom without thinking I am banging some other dude
• Intelligent and motivated
• A good driver
• Likes sleeping in
• Doesn't mind hanging out with my friends
• Takes me out to hang out with his friends
• Has friends so he doesn't bother me all the time haha
• Doesn't mind that I am a nerd

Overall, I just want some guy who is fun to hang out with, who doesn't mind just sitting in my room smoking weed and watching dumb shows like workaholics. Easy going, happy, no drama guy. A guy who doesn't make me think he has a vagina instead of a weiner.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

Do you want my number or something?

 

[Ninjamanda]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

Not until you say what you would like in a man.

 

[snafupants]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

I decided since the boys are listing off things they would like in a girl. I wanted them to hear what the girls want in a guy. Lets see.

• Hates talking on the phone
• Not clingy!!!
• Doesn't like cuddling when I am sleeping
• Has a job
• Is good at video games
• Smokes weed haha
• Cute
• Tall
• Funny
• Confident
• Likes eating lots of different food
• Shares their food with me
• Doesn't snore
• Is good in bed
• Lets me have my freedom without thinking I am banging some other dude
• Intelligent and motivated
• A good driver
• Likes sleeping in
• Doesn't mind hanging out with my friends
• Takes me out to hang out with his friends
• Has friends so he doesn't bother me all the time haha
• Doesn't mind that I am a nerd

Overall, I just want some guy who is fun to hang out with, who doesn't mind just sitting in my room smoking weed and watching dumb shows like workaholics. Easy going, happy, no drama guy. A guy who doesn't make me think he has a vagina instead of a weiner.

...so that I can bang some other dude. Tiptoe women.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

Not until you say what you would like in a man.

Essentially me.

 

[Ninjamanda]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

No not so I can bang some other dude haha. I had a guy think I was cheating because I was playing a video game obsessively instead of hanging out haha. The game was just SO fun!

 

[Agent Intellect]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

• Cute
• Funny
• Confident
• Intelligent and motivated

These things are very abstract and could mean any number of different things to any number of different people. If you were more specific about your particular tastes, random guys might have a more difficult time thinking you're talking about them.

 

[shortbuss]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

- Cares about me as an individual and a person, and not just a body to use
- Attentive enough to figure me out, and understand me on a depthful level
- Kind, Empathetic
- Intelligent
- Understanding of introverted needs, if not just being one himself
- Genuine Person
- Hopefully some sense of chemistry and compatibility
- Conscientious
- Good sense of humor
- More complex than most
- Cute

 

[The Gopher]

Myself, (same as proxy) I would go gay for myself as I imagine myself at least

 

[CLOfriendOSE]

My ideal male is my partner. He is INFP, a world religion scholar, working now in a library in academia. He is brilliant, capable of conversing on most matters (so there's always something to talk about), dislikes Daytime TV, a free thinker, likes to do Yoga, and as a feeling type helps balance my otherwise inability to understand emotion. We require little of the world other than employment and each other.

 

[Ninjamanda]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

These things are very abstract and could mean any number of different things to any number of different people. If you were more specific about your particular tastes, random guys might have a more difficult time thinking you're talking about them.

Who are these random guys? I am not talking about any one specifically. I can't go into much detail on how I want them to be cute. I am not particular about hair and eye color or anything. Also confidence is self explanatory. Could you elaborate on how those things are "abstract?"

 

[Agent Intellect]

Re: Your Ideal Male Partner

Could you elaborate on how those things are "abstract?"

If I were setting you up on a blind date and you wanted to know something about the guy and I described them as cute, funny, confident, and intelligent, would that tell you much about the guy? Wouldn't you rather I told you something specific about how he looks, highlighting some of his noticeable features (as opposed to just cute)? That he has a sarcastic or dark sense of humor (as opposed to just funny)? That he's outgoing and isn't afraid to tell the truth or he's quiet/stoic (as opposed to just confident)? That he's pre-med or that he enjoys reading/discussing philosophy or that he's interested in politics (as opposed to just intelligent)?

I'm not picking on you, but as a writer, I know that describing a character with words like these doesn't give the reader much to go on (eg if I introduce a character and just say that they're cute, different readers will have wildly different ideas of what it means to be cute).

If you were trying to describe an ideal male partner, it seems like cute, funny, intelligent etc would go without saying (I can't think of too many people that would prefer someone ugly, dry, and stupid). However, your personal preference as to what constitutes cute, funny, intelligent etc are worthy of mention.

Apologies if I seem like I'm making a big deal out of something small, I'm just being unnecessarily nitpicky!

 

[TriflinThomas]

I think he's absolutely beautiful. Usually, though, personality is way more important than looks.

 

[BigApplePi]

I'm not looking for a male partner. If I were looking for a male partner, ideal or not, I'd ask myself why I was looking.

I may decide to look later. It would help a great deal if he likes to cut down trees and mow the lawn. Keep posting candidates and eventually I'll pick one. Hint: I need a deer-proof fence.

Carry on.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

@BigApplePi

I'm not looking for a male partner. If I were looking for a male partner, ideal or not, I'd ask myself why I was looking.

I may decide to look later. It would help a great deal if he likes to cut down trees and mow the lawn. Keep posting candidates and eventually I'll pick one. Hint: I need a deer-proof fence.

Carry on.

Ohh BAP, you made laugh hysterically.

 

[Grove]

Right now I’d settle for one that will open my jars and carry heavy objects up stairs for me.

 

[BigApplePi]

Describe your ideal male partner. What attracts you in the areas of appearance, attitude, gender role (& extent), & any other identifiable 'vibes' etc.?

I am looking for an ideal male partner. Don't think a woman would be strong enough but that doesn't mean I would rule the right one out. Appearance: work clothes, boots and strong triceps suitable for pounding in heavy fence posts. Attitude: He should be hard working and probably an "S" type. N types are not ideally suitable and you asked for ideal. N's are too dreamy.

Also post pictures that represent the type of appearance you like. I'm interested in whether the INTP preferences are unique or interesting.

I'm not going to post pictures. It would be much better if YOU post YOUR picture so I can look you over.

Not necessarily asking what type of man you'd like to marry, but if you are seeking a boyfriend, casual mate, or sexual partner...

Marriage and or mating is not relevant. Besides I would need my wife's approval and wish to avoid unnecessary complications. I'm looking to partner with a hard worker.

If you don't want to post this you may simply comment on others you (dis)agree with, or both.

I used to be shy and under the right circumstances can resume that state. However in this case I make this post without an ounce of disagreement with what others have to say. I say post your own ideal male. You have that right and it should be yours alone. I have no right to pass judgment.

A man must be swift as the coursing river.
With all the force of a great typhoon.
With all the strength of a raging fire.
Mysterious as the dark side of the moon.

That's a very nice pome, but my ideal man doesn't have to be a god. I'm looking for a man who can help me build a deer-proof fence. I don't plan to raise my expectations that high.

 

[Deleted member 1424]

Savvy outdoor, self sufficient types who might be interested in
falling off the earth with me.

Or Europeans, New Zealanders, or.... Canadians I guess.
Anyone from Scandinavia I'm half in-love with already.

Gender irrelevant.