Lateral
Too busy thinking to make any decisions.
- Local time
- Today 10:49 AM
- Joined
- Aug 21, 2015
- Messages
- 78
I've just had a moment of clarity and I'd like to share it with you all. Perhaps you will gain some insight from it as I have.
I struggle, like many INTPs, with getting things done and doing things consistently. I have great ambitions, but implementation is very difficult for me.
I was thinking this afternoon (it's rainy here and I like to think when it rains... and when it doesn't for that matter) and I realized that it goes down to the very identity I have for my self.
As a child I was treated differently because I tested as gifted. I wasn't held to the same standard as other students, because of this, and frankly I did the very minimum amount of work possible. (A trait that would follow me all the way into my college years.)
This created in me a self-esteem that wasn't tethered to whether or not I actually accomplished anything, but to the possibility that I may accomplish something great in the future, if I so choose.
I identified myself (subconsciously) with the lazy genius, the aloof professor, the archetype of a person who has vast untapped potential.
To this day I find myself identified with that archetype, and so despite great efforts, various meticulously planned daily schedules, timers, memos, and even prescription medications, I can't get myself to stay consistent enough with my habits for there to be a possibility of achieving the things I want in life.
The reason being, because I'm identified with this "lazy genius" archetype, I find it much more appealing to live in the future potentiality than to actually finish something. Because upon finish something, you're saying "That's it. That is the best I can do." And if it isn't as good as you thought it would be, or as good as other people thought it would be, then the identity is destroyed, and that is as good as death to the ego.
In the same vein, I can't stay consistent with things, because I'm unconsciously afraid the longer I stay consistent with something the closer I get to the moment when I could potentially fail and be forced to realize that I'm not competent and that I will never actually accomplish anything. Again, killing my identity.
My unconscious mind would rather fail from not trying than risk failure due to incompetency, because at least without really trying, I can still say "I could have done that."
My subconscious then feeds my conscious mind the excuses "One day won't hurt." "You can do that tomorrow." "Just skip today, you've worked hard."
I don't know yet how I will disidentify myself from this identity, but I think this is an interesting epiphany I've had.
Does anyone else relate to this?
I struggle, like many INTPs, with getting things done and doing things consistently. I have great ambitions, but implementation is very difficult for me.
I was thinking this afternoon (it's rainy here and I like to think when it rains... and when it doesn't for that matter) and I realized that it goes down to the very identity I have for my self.
As a child I was treated differently because I tested as gifted. I wasn't held to the same standard as other students, because of this, and frankly I did the very minimum amount of work possible. (A trait that would follow me all the way into my college years.)
This created in me a self-esteem that wasn't tethered to whether or not I actually accomplished anything, but to the possibility that I may accomplish something great in the future, if I so choose.
I identified myself (subconsciously) with the lazy genius, the aloof professor, the archetype of a person who has vast untapped potential.
To this day I find myself identified with that archetype, and so despite great efforts, various meticulously planned daily schedules, timers, memos, and even prescription medications, I can't get myself to stay consistent enough with my habits for there to be a possibility of achieving the things I want in life.
The reason being, because I'm identified with this "lazy genius" archetype, I find it much more appealing to live in the future potentiality than to actually finish something. Because upon finish something, you're saying "That's it. That is the best I can do." And if it isn't as good as you thought it would be, or as good as other people thought it would be, then the identity is destroyed, and that is as good as death to the ego.
In the same vein, I can't stay consistent with things, because I'm unconsciously afraid the longer I stay consistent with something the closer I get to the moment when I could potentially fail and be forced to realize that I'm not competent and that I will never actually accomplish anything. Again, killing my identity.
My unconscious mind would rather fail from not trying than risk failure due to incompetency, because at least without really trying, I can still say "I could have done that."
My subconscious then feeds my conscious mind the excuses "One day won't hurt." "You can do that tomorrow." "Just skip today, you've worked hard."
I don't know yet how I will disidentify myself from this identity, but I think this is an interesting epiphany I've had.
Does anyone else relate to this?