Why do they say the Supermarket is the best place to meet women?

[Adymus]

Honestly, how does one pull that off? Trying to pick up on some chick who is concentrating on what flavor of Crystal light she wants sounds like an incredibly awkward encounter.

Just standing there in an aisle next to some chick, trying to decide if I feel like having Lucky charms or Trix.

Me: Soooo, you come here often?

Her: Hmmm? Uhhhmm, I guess... Usually when I need food.

Me: That's cool That's cool, yeah, I'm looking to get some too... Maybe some Count Chocula... or some Cookie crisps... or some Rice Crisp-OH you're going with the Captain Crunch! Nice one, you and the captain are totally going to make it happen, mind if I watch? Ahahahaha!

Her: Uhhhmm, Yeaahh, no.

Me: Hey so are you a virgo? Because you-

Her: *Interrupts* I have to go... *Walks away*

Me: Okay... I'll just.... Yeah I'll just probably go with the Count Chocula... You take care now!


Yeah, that's how it plays out in my head... Maybe I am wrong, maybe that will work. I mean, would you hit that?

I am not saying it is the worst place to pick up on women, I am sure it has been done, but it is definitely not the best. Not even in the top 20. I could probably pull it off at a book store better than a supermarket.

 

[Toad]

Everyone knows serial killers don't go to the supermarket. They make their own food!

 

[Adymus]

Everyone knows serial killers don't go to the supermarket. They make their own food!

That's called Self-sufficiency!

 

[echoplex]

Meh, I'm too focused on finding what I came to get to think of meeting women. I'd prefer commonly enjoyed activities as a way to meet people, and well, I don't particularly enjoy shopping.

But yeah, I suppose the one advantage is that you have a built-in excuse to get closer, since you're supposedly just shopping....for food. If she asks you why you are following her, you can always just say "I guess I just like the same foods you like....'cause you have good tastes!"

Yeah, I'm that lame.

 

[Adymus]

Meh, I'm too focused on finding what I came to get to think of meeting women. I'd prefer commonly enjoyed activities as a way to meet people, and well, I don't particularly enjoy shopping.

But yeah, I suppose the one advantage is that you have a built-in excuse to get closer, since you're supposedly just shopping....for food. If she asks you why you are following her, you can always just say "I guess I just like the same foods you like....'cause you have good tastes!"

Yeah, I'm that lame.

"Oh wow, what a cosmic coincidence that it just so happens that I am here to by the exact same foods as you were... It's almost like it's destiny... Hey so are you married because I noticed you have-" *walks away again*


It's not like this is a common thing though, I don't think I have ever met a person who has met their partner at a supermarket. I mean, if you can pull it off, cool, but I wouldn't exactly make it a hunting ground.

 

[Tales of Kings]

Well, I guess you would also learn a lot about a person by what they shop for. That's always helpful, I'm sure it shows a lot what they're like.

 

[Cavallier]

Well, I guess you would also learn a lot about a person by what they shop for. That's always helpful, I'm sure it shows a lot what they're like.

I often look at my purchases while I'm waiting in the checkout line and wonder what they say about me.

Yeah, that's how it plays out in my head... Maybe I am wrong, maybe that will work. I mean, would you hit that?

On the picking up chicks at the grocery store front: Bad Idea. I've never understood this myth.

I wouldn't mind a guy hitting on me at the bookstore. We can speak the language of the book geek and bond over shared interests in the literature world.

The idea of a stranger trying to pick me up at the grocery store isn't appealing. They would get in my way. I usually avoid groups of guys on the prowl* while at the grocery store because I've got a mission and they're in my way. Don't get in my way when I'm on a mission; I bite.

I'd stick to book stores/libraries if I were you. Then at least you'd be less intimidating because you'd come across as the cute book geek. At the grocery store I think you'd just be the reason why all the girls in town peek around the giant Rice Crispy display before entering the cereal isle.

*The combination of a grocery store that's open 24x7 and a bunch of fraternities in my town means this happens a lot. Losers.

 

[echoplex]

Don't get in my way when I'm on a mission; I bite.

The irony is that such a statment is a total turn-on.

But yeah, I agree that bookstore is better, although tbh, any place where people are there to buy things is a bit uncomfortable for me. Though at least with the bookstore there's a chance of common interest that goes beyond "oh, you like Cap'n Crunch too? I also love cutting the roof of my mouth!"

With me though, it must be spontaneous. The thought of going "on the prowl" with the purpose of pick-up takes all the fun out of it. My only chance is to meet people by accident. Perhaps that's why supermarket works for some. They're there to get groceries and are thus more approachable because they're not in hunt/hunted mode? idk...

 

[Cavallier]

The irony is that such a statment is a total turn-on.

But yeah, I agree that bookstore is better, although tbh, any place where people are there to buy things is a bit uncomfortable for me. Though at least with the bookstore there's a chance of common interest that goes beyond "oh, you like Cap'n Crunch too? I also love cutting the roof of my mouth!"

With me though, it must be spontaneous. The thought of going "on the prowl" with the purpose of pick-up takes all the fun out of it. My only chance is to meet people by accident. Perhaps that's why supermarket works for some. They're there to get groceries and are thus more approachable because they're not in hunt/hunted mode? idk...

Blame it on the ...

Really? I LOVE cutting the roof of my mouth too!!! This made me chortle

I think the supermarket is a little too spontaneous...but it might just be me. Maybe I like the bookstore more because I'm more comfortable in a bookstore. I've probably got time on my hands and probably have some coffee in hand. I'm basically in my element so I'm more open to being approached. But then, you might not want to follow my advice since I'm one of those ever elusive INTP girlies. However, I can't imagine any introverted girl really wanting to be sidelined while she's trying to make those tough culinary decisions. Maybe those warm friendly snuggley EF girls like being hit on in the supermarket?

 

[Deleted member 1424]

*sigh* This reminds me of a particular horror story from when I worked as a courtesy clerk in a grocery store a couple years ago. There was male customer I had assisted, who then showered me with compliments and hugged me. It was a service job where you had to be nice, so I figured I'd just bear through it and never see the guy again. I was wrong. He came back several times after that. He'd try to catch me in the aisles, when I got off work, and one time he insisted I help him fill out an electronic job application while I was working. I wouldn't have had such a hard time getting him to back off if he'd been a regular guy, a few sharp words would have been sufficient. However he had a severe speech impediment and it seemed like he meant well, but didn't understand that his actions were very alarming. I couldn't bring myself to be mean to him, so I just became very evasive instead. In hindsight I didn't handle it very well, but I switched to night stock soon after and never saw the guy again.

On that note, I think it's unfair for people to hit-on someone's whose working, especially in a service industry where it's expected for you to give customer's special treatment regardless of what you actually think of them.

Back on topic, I can kind of understand the logic behind it. The majority of people go to the grocery store regularly, so your likely to get more variety then what you'd find at a bar or dance club. If drunk SP chicks aren't your thing, then you probably won't have much luck in the typical 'hunting grounds.' That being said, I don't see any way flirtation could work at a grocery store, unless you knew the person from a previous encounter.

 

[Cavallier]

On that note, I think it's unfair for people to hit-on someone's whose working, especially in a service industry where it's expected for you to give customer's special treatment regardless of what you actually think of them.

Oh the painful dittos I could add to this...We can't run away when we are on the job.

 

[Adymus]

I often look at my purchases while I'm waiting in the checkout line and wonder what they say about me.



On the picking up chicks at the grocery store front: Bad Idea. I've never understood this myth.

I wouldn't mind a guy hitting on me at the bookstore. We can speak the language of the book geek and bond over shared interests in the literature world.

The idea of a stranger trying to pick me up at the grocery store isn't appealing. They would get in my way. I usually avoid groups of guys on the prowl* while at the grocery store because I've got a mission and they're in my way. Don't get in my way when I'm on a mission; I bite.

I'd stick to book stores/libraries if I were you. Then at least you'd be less intimidating because you'd come across as the cute book geek. At the grocery store I think you'd just be the reason why all the girls in town peek around the giant Rice Crispy display before entering the cereal isle.

*The combination of a grocery store that's open 24x7 and a bunch of fraternities in my town means this happens a lot. Losers.

So this happens more than I think it does, okay so then is just always fails and that's why I am not seeing any winners.

At least at a book store I can come up with something to say that isn't incredibly awkward. "Oh you're reading X? That's a sweet book, you should check out Y and Z too if you are into books like X."


But I really don't care anymore anyway, I'm done with actually putting effort into meeting women. I'm just going to go about my business and if one comes along my way, cool, and if not, it's not the end of the world. I have ridiculous standards, and just going after random girls I see will undoubtedly end up in failure.

 

[Cogwulf]

When I go to supermarkets, especially really big ones, the only way in which I want to be involved with anyone else there is murdering them. Supermarkets seem to make everyone else really get on my nerves.

 

[Adymus]

...a few sharp words would have been sufficient.

Oh the art of INTP brutality, so efficient, so elegant. It's like the rapier of insults.

That being said, I don't see any way flirtation could work at a grocery store, unless you knew the person from a previous encounter.

Which is why it is illogical, the variety you find is irrelevant if no proper courting can be done. Plus there are a million other better environments that have as much variety and are better for meeting people.

 

[Android]

I met a girl in a supermarket this week -_-. She was staring at me as I was checking out which made me extremely uncomfortable so I just stared at the DXM, whipped cream chargers, and candy I was buying and fumbled with my money for a bit. She ended up making some comment about what I was buying and we talked for a few minutes in the checkout line and she gave me her number as we were leaving. I don't plan on calling her. She seemed batshit crazy, and I don't like the image of me that my purchases presented to her anyways :P.

That was a first though. I wholeheartedly agree that supermarkets are a horrible place to meet people and doubt I would ever try to make first contact in one.

 

[JUN]

Any place is a good place. If people cared less about relationships and shit they would have much better lives filled with much more love and happiness, really. Wasting time thinking about these things is just plain sad.

Be who you want to be, build yourself. Eventually love will come.

 

[Toad]

Vegetarians/vegans might find it easier to meet at supermarkets.

 

[SEPKA]

Depend on the purpose of meeting woman, if that is for dating then these people probably are referring to the saleswomen.
However, I'm quite comtemplating on the possibility of stalking someone as they go home from the supermarket.

 

[RubberDucky451]

"You like to eat?"
"Yeah"
"Wow, me too, let's go out some time. We have a lot in common"

Err, maybe not but that's how the scenario plays in my head. Maybe it's because you go there often. Or it could possibly be the incredibly suggestive magazine rack that renders people horny.

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

You guys are so funny. Lame, but funny.

I would recommend no matter where you are, do NOT try pick up lines like many of the examples here. Good Gawd! In fact, don't do pick up lines at all. Ever. Mainly because we INTPs are far less likely to be suave enough to pull off some kind of line we think up before speaking. Our percent chance of flubbing it? About 99.9999999%

If you can at least appear friendly and unthreatening, you may have a 1 in 10 chance but I doubt many of us can pull that off. The chance encounter is probably not the best bet for us, but the bookstore/library option would be the place to try it out. Just don't try to think up a line beforehand.

 

[Jaico]

Wait - who says that it's a good place to meet women? I've never heard of this piece of sage advice before (pun unintended, really), and it really doesn't seem like a good idea. It just seems like it would be too awkward/based on nothing in particular/too forced and unnatural, unless you saw the other person buying something that's quite out of the ordinary (i.e. chocolate soy milk). Even then, I think it would still be a bit strange...

The "it's on a regular basis" reason doesn't work for me; I go shopping whenever I need supplies as opposed to being on a schedule. I just think that this sort of thing would work better in a more 'specialized' environment where someone would be more likely to have something in common with you (even a coffee shop works better!) I find the idea of groups of people "going on the prowl" at a superstore unfathomable, really - it just doesn't seem to make sense...

 

[Android]

Wait - who says that it's a good place to meet women?

The only source of this advice that I'm personally aware of is "Loveline" with Dr. Drew.

 

[Adymus]

Wait - who says that it's a good place to meet women?

I don't know, man... People say it. I don't care enough about this point to try and dig up a source.

 

[Carnap]

"Oh wow, what a cosmic coincidence that it just so happens that I am here to by the exact same foods as you were... It's almost like it's destiny... Hey so are you married because I noticed you have-" *walks away again*

lol. It's like this one man I met at the library. We went out to lunch and he was always spewing this mystic drivel, like about Sufism and shit. And then he said, "isn't it mysterious how we met?"

And I just stared at him wide eyed, and thought "mmmmm...hhmMMM? you hit on me at the library. probably the least mysterious thing I've ever encountered." but just said out loud, "no." with a dry look on my face.


Anyway, like someone said above, one time someone said to me that the best place to meet someone is in an environment that you want to spend the rest of your life in. So, if you want to spend the rest of your life going to bars and hanging out, meet someone in a bar. But if you want to spend your life in an environmental cause, volunteer work. Academia? at school...

 

[Aiss]

I often look at my purchases while I'm waiting in the checkout line and wonder what they say about me.

I do it as well. I'm quite self-conscious this way (especially when I'm buying just a few things and food happens to be limited to sweets...)

 

[Carnap]

I actually look at my purchases and others with the most repugnant snobbism you could imagine (health food snob is me). I think "oh, she knows nothing about nutrition".

And then I swell up with pride.

Who knew going to the grocery store could be so sick.

 

[Aiss]

^ Yes, this is what makes me self-conscious. Like I'm buying only a thing or two I need (like shampoo) and some chocolate to make cookies later, and I can swear I feel all those people eyeing me thinking how soon I'm going to get fat... even though most of them are probably just looking around. Paranoia.

 

[bananaphallus]

I feel weird buying certain things, TP for one (and I get the megapacks, so awkward factor x4), I feel like everyone looks at with me a disgusted look on their face, picturing me just running around my house covered in soiled toilet paper, pooing and whacking off at the same time, shouting at the top of my lungs.

 

[Seducer of the Homeless]

because you both know what food you would prefer to use in erotic foreplay?

 

[Cogwulf]

I feel weird buying certain things, TP for one (and I get the megapacks, so awkward factor x4), I feel like everyone looks at with me a disgusted look on their face, picturing me just running around my house covered in soiled toilet paper, pooing and whacking off at the same time, shouting at the top of my lungs.

Toilet paper is fine, it's tissues I feel awkward about

 

[Yellow]

I get like that too... my mom always looked at what people were buying and eating and made rude comments when I was growing up, "No wonder she's so fat, buying all that meat" and "Look at all candy! Well, it explains his teeth".. and she would say it out loud and more often than not, the person heard her. Anyway, I compulsively purchase lots of vegetables whenever I got the grocery store.

As to the original topic: maybe I'm just strange..... but upon reflection... I've been successfully picked up in the gorcery store. He turned out to be a total douche, but that doesn't negate the fact that the grocery store can be a successful pick-up spot.

 

[jsibley1]

Why do they say the Supermarket is the best place to meet women?

Because the sampling of people at a supermarket is about as unbiased as you can make it. The type of women that hang out in night clubs is vastly different than the type that hang out in Starbucks or late-night jazz clubs, for example. About the only division of women you might find in the supermarket arena is between the everyday food shopper and the hardcore natural food buyers. The latter have their own markets.

Plus, all the pressure is off in a supermarket. People don't look at Walmart, for example, and think about finding a potential lover. Well, at least normal people don't.

 

[jsibley1]

"No wonder she's so fat, buying all that meat"

She must have been looking at the wrong things. I'm skinny and I eat a lot of meat when I can.

When I see fat people, I'm looking for the processed foods like Twinkies and bulk sugar cookies.

 

[Yellow]

She must have been looking at the wrong things. I'm skinny and I eat a lot of meat when I can.

When I see fat people, I'm looking for the processed foods like Twinkies and bulk sugar cookies.

well... my mom is insane. And yes.. she completely flips out on anyone she sees eating proper junk food [this will include strangers as well]. If she wasn't so small and disabled, I know someone would have hauled off and punched her by now.

 

[Aiss]

Meat is mostly protein. Carbohydrates (sugar, flour, alcohol...) are the worst fat-growers. Notice most preprocessed food you wouldn't suspect of being mostly carbohydrate (because it wouldn't be when prepared at home) actually is.

 

[Ghost1986]

Me: Soooo, you come here often?

Her: Hmmm? Uhhhmm, I guess... Usually when I need food.

Me: That's cool That's cool, yeah, I'm looking to get some too... Maybe some Count Chocula... or some Cookie crisps... or some Rice Crisp-OH you're going with the Captain Crunch! Nice one, you and the captain are totally going to make it happen, mind if I watch? Ahahahaha!

Her: Uhhhmm, Yeaahh, no.

Me: Hey so are you a virgo? Because you-

Her: *Interrupts* I have to go... *Walks away*

Me: Okay... I'll just.... Yeah I'll just probably go with the Count Chocula... You take care now!


Yeah, that's how it plays out in my head.

huh. in my head it plays out great. when i open my mouth though its a different story. right after i say my first line i either run out of things to day or get bored and leave. yeah iam defantly Casanova reincarnated.