AureliaSeverina
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In your experience, which personality type(s) is/ are most likely to be clingy or a stalker?
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Which type is most likely to be clingy/ a stalker?
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I'm going to guess the ESFP's are most clingy, at least toward an INTP. I've had a few former friends and a boyfriend who clung super tight, got really sketchy, then disappeared almost completely without notice.
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Lol.. This is true though!
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Yeah, I can feel a bit stalkerish when I like someone I'm attempting to get to notice me. It's because I'm insecure a bit in knowing what to do, how much I should say and hold off on declaring my unwavering love too soon.
I'm going to say INTP in my introspective personal experience.
I'm going to say INTP in my introspective personal experience.
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I'd say Extroversion, Feeling, and Sensing types are more prone to be clingy (so it would make sense that the ESFP has been said to be the clingiest.
Extroversion because they are naturally more social and therefore have a higher desire to to interact.
Feeling because well, they're emotional, that makes you more sensitive naturally.
Sensing because they lack the intuition which would indicate a negative response from the person they're talking to.
I would also say Judging types, because they are more assertive.
Which would make me guess that the ESFJ is even more clingy.
Extroversion because they are naturally more social and therefore have a higher desire to to interact.
Feeling because well, they're emotional, that makes you more sensitive naturally.
Sensing because they lack the intuition which would indicate a negative response from the person they're talking to.
I would also say Judging types, because they are more assertive.
Which would make me guess that the ESFJ is even more clingy.
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ESFPs are actually quite independent and can fair well alone. Um, I dun much like this question.. c.c ..but if it had to be answered, it would be ESFJs.
Fe is more prone to act out on insecurities than Fi.
Si not wanting to let go can cause stalkerish and overly pushy behavior as well.
Fe is more prone to act out on insecurities than Fi.
Si not wanting to let go can cause stalkerish and overly pushy behavior as well.
Dapper Dan
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This thread is hilarious. Clearly the answer is ESFJ.
E because I'm an I.
S because I'm an N.
F because I'm an T.
J because I'm a P.
E because I'm an I.
S because I'm an N.
F because I'm an T.
J because I'm a P.
AureliaSeverina
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But then extraverted people spread their attention more and are less dependent on just one or few people?
LOL, I'm not sure I meant this thread to be taken seriously
AureliaSeverina
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Yeah, I can feel a bit stalkerish when I like someone I'm attempting to get to notice me. It's because I'm insecure a bit in knowing what to do, how much I should say and hold off on declaring my unwavering love too soon.
I'm going to say INTP in my introspective personal experience.
LOL, but then an INTP would probably feels stalkerish as soon as they said "Hi." to someone
. "Attempting to get to notice me" = standing in a corner and looking zoned-out? 
WhatTheFunction
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From my experience, my vote goes for ESFJ.
I get.... almost physically sick from it. I actually feel nauseous from these peoples interactions with me. I'm not sure why.
I have pretty bad experiences with ESFJs myself. I try to look on the bright side of their personality but it's really hard for me to. (This could also be because they shun me for being too quiet, being too cerebral, being too serious, not being loving or affectionate, etc. They basically shun me for not being them.) That personality type literally wears me out.
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The type which I've stuck to the ceiling with tape, or the type I've fastened to a sprawling tower with a paperclip.
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I can only give anecdotal evidence.
I have known a very insecure ISTJ who was extremely clingy. So clingy. However, I would not say she had any stalker tendencies at all. To be honest she was sort of a misanthrope who, once you got to know her, became very worried you would leave her because deep down inside she thought she was unlovable.
I've known an INFJ who stalked people in order to analyze them. She liked to call herself a stalker at least. However, she wasn't really clingy. She didn't really follow a particular person around with a need to make them love her more. She did have this weird need to know everything about them however so that she wasn't going into social situations blind. For example, she stalked her brother's new girlfriend for weeks in preparation for their first meeting. She was trying to figure her out based on internet information she could dig up and photographs.
I can't say I've ever known anyone who was both clingy and stalkerish.
I have known a very insecure ISTJ who was extremely clingy. So clingy. However, I would not say she had any stalker tendencies at all. To be honest she was sort of a misanthrope who, once you got to know her, became very worried you would leave her because deep down inside she thought she was unlovable.
I've known an INFJ who stalked people in order to analyze them. She liked to call herself a stalker at least. However, she wasn't really clingy. She didn't really follow a particular person around with a need to make them love her more. She did have this weird need to know everything about them however so that she wasn't going into social situations blind. For example, she stalked her brother's new girlfriend for weeks in preparation for their first meeting. She was trying to figure her out based on internet information she could dig up and photographs.
I can't say I've ever known anyone who was both clingy and stalkerish.
EyeSeeCold
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Typologically, probably ENFx > ESFx for observably, but I would think all types are balanced in one way or another on that spectrum.
Psychologically, stalking is a manifestation of a need to control, and clingy behavior is a narcissistic infantile regression that seeks a particular indulgent nourishment. I don't think any type is naturally prone to these more than another, maybe the need to control for Rational/Judging types, but that's a weak deduction, especially as control is sought by everyone in their own way.
Psychologically, stalking is a manifestation of a need to control, and clingy behavior is a narcissistic infantile regression that seeks a particular indulgent nourishment. I don't think any type is naturally prone to these more than another, maybe the need to control for Rational/Judging types, but that's a weak deduction, especially as control is sought by everyone in their own way.
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I'm not sure either of those is necessarily true ESC.
As Cava already mentioned, stalking can be harmless, out of curiousity, and indeed performed by a terrified individual with no lust for control.
Likewise I have seen (and experienced) clingy behaviour were rather than 'narcissim' and 'regression' the key themes were closer to 'insecurity', 'self pity', and 'fear of deprivation'.
Hum. Indeed, the various forms that 'stalkerish' and 'clingy' behaviour manifest themselves would suggest they aren't type based at all, but certainly types have different ways of going about them.
EyeSeeCold
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Cavallier described stalking driven by a need to control, in her INFJ's case that was social control.
Even if one is purely driven by curiosity of some object, stalking that object is an attempt to experience the object, though from afar; it is controlling the situation by watching from afar instead of putting oneself on the front lines.
Insecurity, self-pity, and fear of deprivation are symptoms of infantile regression, a certain narcissism that is analogous to babies when they form indulgent attachments to their mother's milk-producing nipple.
I agree.
Yeah I do the same. I try. Yeah they also seem to "shun" me. For just not being like them. My cousin tested as that, and he was the kind to.... Like he paid us a visit. He kept asking if I was going to miss him. I would say " You didn't leave yet.... So I wouldn't know yet." And he would playfully say stuff like, "Wow you don't love me!!?? And I just want him to stop. "Friends" in high school, one just.. Was always asking, or implying we were gonna get lunch together, and that I was her best friend. Be it, I had just met her like a month before hand. Same with this other girl in my choir in high school. She followed me and seemed to cling to my every word and laugh at everything I'd say. At some point I started avoiding both of them, as my nausea was to much to bear with. Also this other girl in my math class would follow me around. So friendly. So needy. So "Best friendy" So...... idk, it felt weak to me kinda. Like I was their mother. I sound mean. It's true though. My aunt and other cousin that I argued with a lot (on her part.) Due to her bossing me around and asking me not to say certain things, or asking what I think about how I come off.... or asking personal questions to become closer, after only being around her for a week. Sigh I just vented about all of these people on here and now.... I must stop before I get sick again.. I also refuse to re-read.
Point being.
It wears me out as well. Or has so far.EyeSeeCold
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Seriously, it's annoying. I just bluntly say no, but I really don't miss people like that because I don't live in the present.
Yeah I don't either, but I said it that way to spare him.
That's me trying to say no in a nicer way. He seems super sensitive, and plus I figure i'd get in some type of discussion or argument about it afterward if I did just say no. That or he'd laugh and take it sarcastically. But a not to him would lead him to whine more also. And to playfully say, "How dare you!
I'm going to miss you!!!! You know you're gonna miss me! Right? I love you!!." and by then I would have spilled my guys, so I probably thought of the outcome of me saying no, or yes. Neither was good.It is annoying. And I don't even get annoyed that easily.