What types do you attract?

[Ink]

Friends or romantic... Have you noticed a pattern related to type? Edit: It hit me this might not be the most creative poll ... ehh

 

[Cherry Cola]

Although I do not typically attract any type I've had a few instances with SP types being strangely fascinated by me.

Right now there's a teacher of visual arts at the school where I work who seems to be all crazy about me.

She constantly tells me that I am "amazingly calm" and "incredibly perceptive" as well as "highly gifted", and is not unoften and seemingly genuinely fascinated by me as a person.

I guess I project some kind of calmness, but I'm not very perceptive in general, In fact I'm barely aware of my surroundings. Admittedly I am somewhat gifted in certain fields, one happens to be drawing, I accidentaly left some scribble around which she saw and concluded to be a masterpiece.

I'm not certain what to make of her behavior lol, she's this super optimistic, very talkative, on the go person. Pretty sure she's an ESFP because she tends to be protective of others feelings and is very much not theoretical or abstract.

I think she's funny and easy to talk to, but the way she's digging me is almost a little bit weird, she puts me up so high I dunno what to do. I've noticed I use a slightly darker and slightly more commanding voice when I speak with her as well, echoing her sentiments about me in the way I speak :S

 

[Brontosaurie]

she puts me up so high I dunno what to do. I've noticed I use a slightly darker and slightly more commanding voice when I speak with her as well :S

you know what to do

SPETTA'NA

on topic i dno i take every sign of attraction or appreciation as my delusion 8-)

would guess INTP, ENTP, INTJ, INFP, ENFP, ISFP. most SJ types seem to abhorr me (and perhaps rightly so). might be projecting that.

 

[Duxwing]

SP's just looooove me, especially the dumb or disturbed ones. Maybe it's the Ne?

-Duxwing

 

[Turniphead]

NF's... seems like half the people I know.

 

[Fukyo]

N dominate people.

 

[Chad]

My wife is an ISTJ and my only other significant relationship was with an ENFJ.

 

[snafupants]

I can only repel.
Even me myself is repelled to myself.

 

[Ink]

My wife is an ISTJ and my only other significant relationship was with an ENFJ.

ISTJ-INTP seems kind of like an odd coupling... Could you share some of your relationship?

 

[Chad]

ISTJ-INTP seems kind of like an odd coupling... Could you share some of your relationship?

Sure, We meet 7 years ago (I think I could be off by a year or so). I was a Sophomore in College and she was a Freshmen. We were both Chemistry majors and involved in Chemistry club.

We were friend/peers through out College. We also worked together as Lab Monitors (basically student security for the Laboratory facilities at the school)

At the end of my College career I was involved in my first serious relationship and at the time my current wife and I were not getting along very well. Mostly because she was irritated at me for talking on the phone with my then girl friend/Fiancee, she most likely wouldn't have had such a hard time with it if it wasn't for the fact that they had the same first name. (on a side note I may have a weird issue with names. In high school and the start of college I like basically ever new girl I meat named Stepheny, Midway through college that changed to Rachel and the only two girls I have ever had a significant relationship with have the same first name).

About one year after I graduated college my Ex-Fiancee broke up with me about a week before my 25th birthday. I was emotionally destroyed so I decided to invite every person I ever knew form college to come and join me for my piety party of a 25th birthday. My wife and two other friends were the only ones to show up.

Shortly after the party one of our mutual friends (one of the other people to show up to my party) was talking to my wife and she was complaining about not having a walking partner for a 3000 mile walking challenge she was trying to do that summer. Our friend suggested that she ask me because I still lived in the same area.

At first we were just two friends walking but the more we walked and talked we began to get closer. There were a few emotionally charged moments and awkward open ended comments between the two of us. One particular moment that I used to justify pursuing a relationship with a long time friend was: We were walking in what seemed to me a normal sunny day and then the weather turned quite quickly (This isn't uncommon living on the shores of Lake Superior). We found ourselves running and a downpour. After one particularly close Lightning strikes she reached out and held my hand for comfort as we made it back to my place.

So that basically was caused the romance. Life and experiences that apart form each other didn't mean much but they add up to be one hell of a story.

Now as a married couple we get along Okay. My wife is a person who like to control her own personal environment however, she doesn't feel the need to control me unless of course it involves her directly.

We have been married for almost 2 years now and for most of this time she has either been apply for Pharmacy School or in Pharmacy School. Therefore I life has been revolving around these things. As such I have encouraged my wife to go to school (3 days drive) away form her parents (She has never not lived with her parents before this). I also encouraged her to accept a Pharmacy school that is still in the accreditation process. As part of her ISTJ personality she hates change and the unknown. This has cast us many arguments. We have a functional relationship but we both value intelligence over all else therefore we a both quite happy with each other.

My wife even though she is working on a doctorate right now and has taken classes far more advanced then me still believes that I am smarter than her. The truth is are intellects are different. My wife has built up a pile of very technical and very precise knowledge. In her field she has to be one of the most knowledgeable people alive however, she knows very little about anything else and she feels dumb when I do. This is because I have a lot of general knowledge and very little built up knowledge.

I hope this helps explain. I went off on some rabbit trails here.

 

[Ink]

Very interesting story, thank you for sharing... There once was a very beautiful ISTJ girl interested in me, but I just couldn't see any common ground, very hard for me to picture myself with an ST...

 

[Chad]

Very interesting story, thank you for sharing... There once was a very beautiful ISTJ girl interested in me, but I just couldn't see any common ground, very hard for me to picture myself with an ST...

There are many differences but its not like we are exact opposites. For me personally it's just the right amount. This may not be true for INTP in general. I would get bored if someone agreed with me all the time. I use to think I should marry my clone (in female version) but then I thought better of it. I can even bug myself sometimes.

The woman I dated before my wife was as close to my opposite as I could find. The only reason it worked out as long as it did was because I put myself into a fantasy world and didn't look at all the crap that was actually going on in the relationship.

I learned form that relationship now, in my current one I don't look at my wife with love goggles on. When we have problems we deal with them. My wife is ever bit as rational as I am so we can normally get to the rationality in our disagreements. Normally, the problem is her insecurity my refusal to accept traditions.

 

[Nezaros]

I seem to repel more than attract anybody.

 

[Cherry Cola]

What does it matter if you repel 7 billion so long as you attract that 1? : )

 

[Nezaros]

The OP is asking for a trend. One does not constitute a trend. And one is more than I've managed, anyway.

 

[SpaceYeti]

I can only repel.
Even me myself is repelled to myself.

So true!

I tend to attract chicks who are female, and also have breasts. I really can't think of anything they all had in common that wasn't the reason I accepted them in the first place... and even then, they didn't all have the same of those traits. I think I attract women who like penis.

 

[Niclmaki]

I'm surprised I did not notice this before I made my thread.

I feel dirty now. Like I stole someones ideas.

I HAVE NO REGRETS

 

[Duxwing]

I can only repel.
Even me myself is repelled to myself.

Would you rather that we hold your suffering in contempt, or offer some aid?

-Duxwing

 

[scorpiomover]

Friends or romantic... Have you noticed a pattern related to type? Edit: It hit me this might not be the most creative poll ... ehh

Yes. INTJs seem to say that ENFPs are very attracted to them, and they tend to not date Sensors all that much, although some do.

Of the INTPs who've discussed partners' types here, it seems to me that there is almost no pattern at all.

I tend to attract chicks who are female, and also have breasts.

I wish I could say that they are the only people attracted to me.

 

[Sigastrialomundinjia]

I seem to attract the lazy, boring and the dull and lifeless peoples of this planet. It sucks and I wish it wasn't the case, but alas, it is.

Please remember this.

Each and every one of you.

 

[Cherry Cola]

amen

 

[yogurtexpress]

I feel like intuitives are generally going to want to be around other intuitives. For INTPs specfically, i've found that INTJs, INFPs, and ENTPs are usually the best matches. One of my best friends was an ENTJ but we argued just about every day.

 

[Jason43]

I usually attract extroverts and feelers... I guess because of my extroverted feeling? The problems start when they assume that because in the beginning my emotions are on full display that I have the emotional depth that they do. I've broken up with women who kept pushing the 'talk about your feelings' conversation, because I truly dont know how I feel and they cant accept that. They also seem attracted to the 'calmness' that I give off... Extroverts more because I usually dont usually engage...

After studying MBTI, I searched out and found an INTJ, and we work so well together, she is my mind mate... she is also interested in 'types' so we study and discuss each other and everything else. We also have a lot of common interests and are mature though, both in our lower 30's. Both have low jealousy issues that I've had in the past with feelers, shes very low maintenance, she makes me feel like an extrovert because she is so shy, so there is no pressure to socialize that I've had with extroverts... we are both capable of giving each other the space we need to decompress and although we are different, we are very much the same. She doesnt push her J on me and I'm happy to let her make most decisions anyway because I trust her and dont like to make them in the first place. Plus once she makes a decision, I basically fill in the smartest way to accomplish whatever it is, and she likes the input and is fascinated by the way my brain works.

My female best friend in HS was also an INTJ, and she was the only person that I ever felt like intrinsically understood me. She was amazing but in my head she was a 'friend' and I never thought of her romantically... The dynamic between me and my GF, feels very similar to me. I just feel comfortable with her.

 

[Wolf18]

I tend to attract ISFPs, or SFs in general. I am not too thrilled about it, as I find them a bit difficult. My INTJ friend says that I attract ISFPs because I seem lonely in my intellect and they feel protective of me. I have heard that I seem "lonely in my intellect" from other types as well, but I've never felt lonely. I try to get one ISFP in particular away from me, but he just follows me around and tries to tell me that I'm really depressed and sad, which I'm not.

SW

 

[Oblivious]

Being a sexy bastard I attract all types of all sexes.

 

[redbaron]

I tend to attract ISFPs, or SFs in general. I am not too thrilled about it, as I find them a bit difficult. My INTJ friend says that I attract ISFPs because I seem lonely in my intellect and they feel protective of me. I have heard that I seem "lonely in my intellect" from other types as well, but I've never felt lonely. I try to get one ISFP in particular away from me, but he just follows me around and tries to tell me that I'm really depressed and sad, which I'm not.

SW

He can't follow you around if he's dead.

Just saying.

 

[pjoa09]

He can't follow you around if he's dead.

Just saying.

Rubber band to his balls!


Oh, all I can attract is my hand.lol

 

[Wolf18]

He can't follow you around if he's dead.

Just saying.

I considered that, or some similar possibilities. I don't think it's worth it. My current plan is to tell him flat-out that he has to stop communicating with me. I have tried to tell him nicely, but it doesn't work. If all else fails, I may go with an option similar to your suggestion.

SW

 

[TriflinThomas]

Pretty much every EXXP type lol mostly ExFP