- Dec 4, 2010
their remaining tolerated by people at large relies on the idea that there is no such thing as unselfish action
they exploit our human desire to harmonize our impressions of each other, to make sense of each other, to save each other's face. more specifically they may act selfish and inconsiderate, and it gets "reconstructed" by their peers as self-distanced irony, an honest view of self. they give a strong surface impression of being able to mock themselves and gladly offer to be the butt of a joke, but when you somehow penetrate this veneer and get to their ego - typically by joking about them in some way they're not prepared for i.e. which doesn't belong to their repertoire, either to test them or from sheer gullibility - it's like flipping a switch and they'll react strongly. but at first they will be using some subtle master techniques. they will confront you displaying a heroically "understanding" and "tolerant" attitude toward some "mistake" of yours that'll be implied. and even if subsequently you manage to piss them off real bad so they can't contain it, they'll quickly revert to this more sneaky tactic right after things cool down again. it never goes away really. deep down they know you've seen through them and they must be vigilant.
not sure where i got this or where it's going or if it's relevant.