What do you perceive to be your greatest flaw?

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For me, sensitivity to stress. I know it's illogical. The source won't disappear just because I avoid it but I really do feel helpless at times. I feel like a wimp.

Curious to know about yours.

 

[lightlazer]

Overthinking things, my thought process usually drifts away from the task currently at hands, be it work, be it talking to your friends (with the mandatory "are you listening to me!" shout afterwards).

 

[Rixus]

Gosh - I have to chose just one? I suppose I should say it's that I'm easily distracted or can be lazy and unproductive. But really, I think my biggest flaw is my general un-lovableness, and un-likeability. It's a little like that scene in Star Wars - A New Hope, where Luke goes into the bar and that guy starts poking at him, saying, "he doesn't like you! I don't like you!" It doesn't really matter if we've just met, if I was minding my own business, or we've known each other in depth for many years. Basically, I'm as likeable as a a fart powered by a 12 egg omelette in a crowded elevator.

I've tried changing this before now in various different ways, but results are always the same. So now I just kind of go with it and accept it that I suck so badly at communication with humans that it's easier to avoid personal relationships.

 

[The Gopher]

Never having an answer to this question *Sniff*

 

[Reluctantly]

well, not being able to cloak myself is a pretty big one. Sometimes I'll go out and a lot of people want to suddenly talk to me just because I'm seen (people that are friends, so I won't blow them off). And if I'm feeling stressed, I might stay in for a day on the weekend or something because I don't want to talk to people, even though I might want to do something. If I could cloak myself, problem solved.

 

[Jennywocky]

Lack of direction / wasting time that could be spent doing something more productive to get what I really want. (But what do I really want?)

I also seem to lack energy and don't engage people much anymore, my resource well seems regularly empty.

Gosh - I have to chose just one? I suppose I should say it's that I'm easily distracted or can be lazy and unproductive. But really, I think my biggest flaw is my general un-lovableness, and un-likeability. It's a little like that scene in Star Wars - A New Hope, where Luke goes into the bar and that guy starts poking at him, saying, "he doesn't like you! I don't like you!" It doesn't really matter if we've just met, if I was minding my own business, or we've known each other in depth for many years. Basically, I'm as likeable as a a fart powered by a 12 egg omelette in a crowded elevator.

I've tried changing this before now in various different ways, but results are always the same. So now I just kind of go with it and accept it that I suck so badly at communication with humans that it's easier to avoid personal relationships.

You seem likable enough, and fun, and someone good at connecting dots. Maybe you just perceive yourself as being unlikable for some reason.

 

[Rixus]

You seem likable enough, and fun, and someone good at connecting dots. Maybe you just perceive yourself as being unlikable for some reason.

Connecting the dots and being able to fill in the blanks of the jigsaw puzzle that is the world is just something that INTP's are capable of.

It would be nice to think it was some case of just low self esteem. There may be an element of confirma bias, but the evidence is just too clear. It happens too often to a coincidence, and there's a simple logical explanation for all the crap I've been through that is it must be my own fault, since I can't blame everyone else. I thought for a long time I could fix whatever the problem was if i could figure it out. But aside from pretending to be someone I'm not just makes me depressed. I also lack introspection enough that i can't see what i did wrong - I'm usually totally aware of that, even if i pretend otherwise.

Not having friends now doesn't bother me much (I had to throw away the only one I had recently because that friendship wasn't​ what was best for the kids), but knowing that I won't have another romantic relationship again (a theory which I have tasted repeatedly to the same conclusion), is a little difficult to accept sometimes. But, that's life and is, at the point, irrefutable, so accept it I must.

 

[TheManBeyond]

too damn impulsive and confident on my intuitions, blind to them almost

 

[Auburn]

I echo Jenny and Rixus' despair at a lack of direction and productivity.

Maybe it's just my imagination, but grinding through logistics/work feels about 5 times more taxing/draining for me than what I see happen with other people. Bits of my soul just die if I devote 100% of my brain power to external tasks..

Never having an answer to this question *Sniff*

Mr. Gopher, you are perfect in every way. <3

 

[Artsu Tharaz]

social phobia

apparently i need to just "grow some balls" but it's hard when i've been avoidant since childhood. probably the source of much of my distress, although idk the source of it itself.

 

[Shieru]

Maybe it's just my imagination, but grinding through logistics/work feels about 5 times more taxing/draining for me than what I see happen with other people. Bits of my soul just die if I devote 100% of my brain power to external tasks..

i think it's likely a lot of people feel like you do. some may resort to denial in the face of obliteration, therefore appearing less affected XP

biggest flaw.. i dunno, what do you guys think? being the ego-centric, biased human that i am, i don't trust my own opinion about myself to be as objective as that of most outside observers o,o

but if i had to say, i think my biggest flaw is that i believe myself to be unworthy of existence. it's quite irrational, and maladaptive. it's really more of a sentiment than a direct conclusion, but still effects the outcome of my thoughts and actions. i end up sabotaging myself.

from what i can tell, that belief is what causes me to be demotivated, apathetic, unsociable, insecure, depressed, and most all the other things i hate about myself.

 

[Cognisant]

If I'm in an interview:
I'm a terrible liar.

In reality:
I'm lazy.

 

[Ex-User (11125)]

My short temper
Also I hate that I almost never finish the projects i start

 

[Rixus]

Also I hate that I almost never finish the projects i start

Puts hand up to this crime also. I'm terrible for having a big list of projects I just didn't get around to finishing.

I do wonder, how many of our perceived flaws are actually real? Is Zerkalo really that short tempered (seems so polite usually)? Is Cogs really that lazy (starts more discussions than anyone else)? Does everyone I meet in the world really hate me (don't answer that directly)? I somehow doubt Shieru is unworthy of existence (seems so nice).

In fact, I wonder with us if there is a large gap between our perceived selves and the way others actually perceive us. As Shieru says, it's the perception of these failings that causes the failure and not the trait itself.

 

[PmjPmj]

Arrogance; fear of failure.

Equal - can't decide between the two.

 

[Architect]

I've worked on myself pretty hard and nothing stands out, which means it's probably obvious to others but not me. Basically I'm perfectly imbalanced.

 

[Happy]

I tend to speak/act first and think later.

 

[Ex-User (11125)]

Is Zerkalo really that short tempered (seems so polite usually)?

i think most of it is attributed to my body language irl, thats probably why it doesnt carry over into text based communication
i dont actually perceive myself as a short tempered person, it's people around me who do. i am very sensitive and have somewhat extreme reactions(and by extreme i mean completely cutting off people) to disrespect/bigotry/misogyny/etc(i guess in internet culture this is called SJW?)....and often fail to be more patient or understanding, like i'd fail at taking the individual's cultural background into account when assessing the level of douchebaggery. people are shocked when i cut them off or my entire demeanour towards them changes after a comment or "joke" they made in passing. and too often i have been proven wrong and found out that i misunderstood comments and jumped to the wrong conclusions only after completely making any hope for reconciliation impossible

 

[TheManBeyond]

i'm too honest and too easy to fire up.
today i was talking with one of my superiors at job, he was correcting some stuff i did and i was right, there was nothing to correct but just because he didn't want to say hey, u know, i fucked up, u are right, u won, he said i was wrong. so i got angry and kept replying and pointing out why he was wrong. but he kept saying bullshit in my eyes and it kept me burning inside.
and really i've been trying to just shut up and be nice and swallow but it's difficult.

other day my boss came to me and he was talking with this guy and he asked me how im doing in his department so i said: i honestly prefer the one i was before, i was already in control and i had affinity with the boss i had there. Supreme boss just laughed and the other one was like wtf.
at that moment i didn't think of it but then i thought. damn i should have stayed pollitically correct, something like: love u all.

people don't seem to understand that the most important thing are the results, not how you get to them. and the ways, and manners and so much bullshit.
like hey u should take notes. if i'm focused i don't need to so shut up. or even if i need to i take them painting with pen my hands, like for cheating in examn, this is a metaphor. i just wanna say that it doesn't matter how i learn and how i show it as long as the results are nice. but they are so damn superficial. How does it matter if i go to smoke 4 times per day during job if i get to do more work than the rest of the members of the department? and i prove it to them. and i show. and then they shut up. only then. but it only lasts for a few days. then they forget.
really. where do these people come from?

 

[TAC]

I'd say my biggest flaw lies in how judgmental of others I am. I don't mean to be. I believe it more to be a bye-product or quick filtering process for social activity. I am frequently in social atmospheres which are not my preferred state, so I think I have built in identifiers by now that help me shrink down my environment to a manageable size. Also, probably why I come off as an arrogant prick. I wouldn't say I hate social atmospheres or am uncomfortable in them as other INTPs may claim. Once party size expands beyond 3 people, my enjoyment general goes down in an exponential curve. However I could spend the majority of my days in small 3-4 person groups as long as there are at least 2-3 topics of common interest (luckily I have plenty of interests to switch between).

 

[Puffy]

If I were to express my flaws in terms of that which is greatest, or that which encompasses, I'd say it's that I have a fundamental loneliness at the heart of my being. It's difficult to pin-point what that is with language, but it's a sickness that permeates all aspects of my life, from the way I hold my body, to the way I interact with myself & others (in thought & person), to my needs and aspirations. It's a voluntary barrier I uphold between me and everything.

It's taken me a long time to realise how ill this is. I want to learn how to become a friend to the world. It's a transformation that's in the process of happening.

 

[Rixus]

i think most of it is attributed to my body language irl, thats probably why it doesnt carry over into text based communication
i dont actually perceive myself as a short tempered person, it's people around me who do. i am very sensitive and have somewhat extreme reactions(and by extreme i mean completely cutting off people) to disrespect/bigotry/misogyny/etc(i guess in internet culture this is called SJW?)....and often fail to be more patient or understanding, like i'd fail at taking the individual's cultural background into account when assessing the level of douchebaggery. people are shocked when i cut them off or my entire demeanour towards them changes after a comment or "joke" they made in passing. and too often i have been proven wrong and found out that i misunderstood comments and jumped to the wrong conclusions only after completely making any hope for reconciliation impossible

I find a lot more is carried over to text based communication than people realise. The way people chose to phrase things, it shows a lot more of their inner voice than you would think (that's probably a degree in English Writing talking, though). And I've yet to see any extreme reaction or unreasonable outbursts. Some people do throw the SJW term around a little liberally, if you ask me. I would only consider it with someone who makes massive issues online about everything (see the recent controversy surrounding Iron Fist or the Walking Dead T-Shirt for an example). Some people's sense of humour really is severely insulting and even degrading, and I wouldn't blame anyone for taking offence.

You say it's often in your body language and demeanour, which I would guess has a little to do with your looks with some people. If I remember your picture right, you have quite a rock chick kind of look that some people might find intimidating, but that's their problem and not yours. Obviously, I don't know what reactions you're talking about. But there used to be this guy who worked with us - I hated him coming into the office because he would always make some loudly boisterous "joke" about paedophilia or rape and if he hadn't been a company director I would have had to have laid into him about it. Thankfully, he left some time ago. I'd guess you've been subject to some godawful misogynistic jokes and stock comments - I think every woman I know has. Cutting them off doesn't seem so bad, and if you can't judge someone by what they seem to find funny, what can you?

Regarding culture, some cultures do have very different morality to others. Even here, what you describe isn't considered a personality flaw. We kind of value a woman who isn't afraid to speak her mind in the right situation. Everyone should have the right to demand to be respected as a human.

 

[AndyC]

Apathy + Lack of Discipline = Boredom.

The 3 primary aspects of my life.

 

[Venflon]

Apathy + Lack of Discipline = Boredom.

The 3 primary aspects of my life.

Seconded.

Add on to that lack of patience to things that I don't like.

 

[Mxx]

Stubbornness, taking things a little too far.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

Hubris, probably. With time, though, one gets to witness its effects, and adjust accordingly.

 

[Procinogen]

I can't think of my greatest flaw, but one I can think of off the top of my head is that I can be extremely passive-aggressive.

 

[QuickTwist]

IDK what my greatest flaw is. IDK what my greatest strength is either.

Some things that are flaws about me:

Processing speed
Working memory
Having disorganized thinking
Sensitive to critisism

 

[The Gopher]

Never having an answer to this question *Sniff*

That I've already posted this.

 

[peoplesuck]

For day to day life it would be self discipline. Overall i do have a side of me that could do anything to anyone, if brought out. It is quite scary to not be able to control yourself. Although I think that it is normal, its called the lucifer effect. There is a book written about it, i bought the book and have never finished it. The book is extremely depressing to read for those curious.

 

[Lurker]

I'm not sure how this is a positive irl, with real people, but I change my positions on [ ideas, people, etc] easily if I have new information, or even if I see a possible error in my original position. Even after thinking a bit.

I seem insincere or naive because of this; also, my words can be taken lightly.

 

[onesteptwostep]

I'm perfect and I'm beautiful and no one else can tell me otherwise.​

 

[washti]

self-absorption and pathological daydreaming

 

[Perfectly Normal Beast]

i expect everyone to be perfect then despise them when they're not

 

[QuickTwist]

I'm perfect and I'm beautiful and no one else can tell me otherwise.​

I LOL'd.

 

[Polaris]

I never reveal what I actually think about people. It would probably cause me less headaches if I did.

Maybe.

 

[Black Rose]

I feel I need to be creative to be worth something.

 

[gps]

I feel I need to be creative to be worth something.

Be qua `be'?
Might you `be' creative enough to re-express the deep structural semantic of your original expressed-in-mundane-English-as-the-language-of-the-nation-of-shop-keepers expression via the prohibition of the reifying (mis)use of the verb`to be' as per E-prime?

Extra points if in your next-iteration version you can pander to that as-attributed INTP `most logical' status and operating parameter.
To wit, how `logical' does it SEEM to constrain one's logical and optionally `creative' Self to the off-the-shelf features & limitations of a so-called `natural' -- as if all languages used by humans did not qualify as man-made, anthropogenic, and/or artificial -- languages such as English qua `English'

Mad props if you creatively inject, feature, incorporate, and/or seamlessly integrate hyphenated holophrastics into your more-creative Opus

Aside: Seems the use of hyphenated holophrastics or hyphenated adjectives more `creative' ... or more like something indicative of `word salad' which SJ/traditionalist paint-by-numbers dullards use as `evidence' of mental disease as a pretense for removing their users from their midst so as to preclude confusion among these closure-and-certainty-at-all-costs -- especially the costs of novelty and CREATIVITY -- fucktards?

Let the re-Creation begin!

{edit: EG Perhaps my greatest flaw is the propensity to generate would-be`creative' World Salad which pisses of J types who paint-by-numbers via painting by ticker tapes of `natural language' WORDS readily found in a lexicon which they call a `dictionary'. Cheers!
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