Further, the Flags add on had to be updated ( under location ), and checking permissions for another thing, I saw each member group apparently needed enabling --- apparently, since I saw them OK --- so I went in each group... Sorry if you didn't see them for a while.
The other thing was although people can edit their posts for quite a while *, unless they ticked the Edit Silently box a beastly little message would appear. This ticked me off so I was looking for a way to remove that option.
* 2 Weeks
I thought I found it in>
Admin Control Panel -> Options -> Logging Options -> Enable edit log display after X minutes
If enabled, any edit after the delay will cause a "last edited" message to be displayed at the end of the message.
But the Edit Silently box is still there...
Yet maybe no note appears even if the box is left unticked...