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Stress
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Ermine
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The kinds of things that stress me out:
- having a crush on someone (it's really distracting, and it's hard to think of anything else and I feel so insecure and clumsy when I have no real reason to feel that way. It would also be incredibly difficult for me to even dream of initiating anything with him because I'm so stressed. It's a vicious cycle.)
- when I can't meet people's expectations no matter how hard I try
- job hunting (I hate self promotion and it wears me out very quickly calling so many companies so often)
- having to spend lots of time on things I hate doing
- social activities where I'm expected to enjoy being put in the spotlight
- not being as skilled with my Ti and Ne as I usually am
- pretty much anything that requires me to be E, S, F, J, or all of the above.
- arguments where the other person doesn't understand anything I'm saying and assumes they're right.
How to deal with it:
- naps
- play guitar or piano
- taking out the stress in artwork
- listen to heavy music
- take a walk and take pictures of random things while listening to Porcupine Tree
- take a break and step far enough away from the situation that I can analyze the situation logically and figure out solutions
- neglect the less important things for a while. Sometimes it's ok to not do all the homework
- surround myself with color
- write about it until I realize how much I'm inflating the situation, and then try looking at the problem from different perspectives.
Yep. The arts are my saving graces.
- having a crush on someone (it's really distracting, and it's hard to think of anything else and I feel so insecure and clumsy when I have no real reason to feel that way. It would also be incredibly difficult for me to even dream of initiating anything with him because I'm so stressed. It's a vicious cycle.)
- when I can't meet people's expectations no matter how hard I try
- job hunting (I hate self promotion and it wears me out very quickly calling so many companies so often)
- having to spend lots of time on things I hate doing
- social activities where I'm expected to enjoy being put in the spotlight
- not being as skilled with my Ti and Ne as I usually am
- pretty much anything that requires me to be E, S, F, J, or all of the above.
- arguments where the other person doesn't understand anything I'm saying and assumes they're right.
How to deal with it:
- naps
- play guitar or piano
- taking out the stress in artwork
- listen to heavy music
- take a walk and take pictures of random things while listening to Porcupine Tree
- take a break and step far enough away from the situation that I can analyze the situation logically and figure out solutions
- neglect the less important things for a while. Sometimes it's ok to not do all the homework
- surround myself with color
- write about it until I realize how much I'm inflating the situation, and then try looking at the problem from different perspectives.
Yep. The arts are my saving graces.
bananaphallus
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Stressors: Not being able to think of the right word while writing, courtesy laughs, being pigeonholed - people's reactions to me, on occasion, not meeting their expectations, being forced to socialize/exchange pleasantries with people I can't stand (work), curtness, condescension, people getting mad because they feel like they have to, being broke, being in college for no reason/health insurance purposes, but more than anything the constant state of stress brought about by being twenty and not having the faintest idea as to how to get the f*ck out my house and get on with my life, and do the things I'd like to do.
I usually just 'check out', go for a drive and listen to some music, or lay my problems on someone else via being snooty, arrogant and overly sarcastic - it's like a sort of catharsis. I also walk around, usually my house or place of employment, as if I've lost almost all control over my arms and legs - kicking things, slamming doors, etc.
I usually just 'check out', go for a drive and listen to some music, or lay my problems on someone else via being snooty, arrogant and overly sarcastic - it's like a sort of catharsis. I also walk around, usually my house or place of employment, as if I've lost almost all control over my arms and legs - kicking things, slamming doors, etc.
Well, there is this....(?)
Self Help for Stress
http://www.intpforum.com/showthread.php?t=4977
Stress is social pressure - I usually just withdraw from the stressful environment. However, being a person with few emotional assets I have learned to use both the feelings of stress and anger to my advantage...
Self Help for Stress
http://www.intpforum.com/showthread.php?t=4977
Stress is social pressure - I usually just withdraw from the stressful environment. However, being a person with few emotional assets I have learned to use both the feelings of stress and anger to my advantage...
Vrecknidj
Prolific Member
Things that cause me stress:
Fear of losing those close to me,
Fear of not being able to pay my bills,
Being overworked,
Having things go wrong with my house (water, electricity, etc.),
Having my car be disabled...
Ways I respond to stress
Panic
Freak out
Lose sleep
Cry
Rapid heart beat
Ways I actually manage stress
Talk to people
Dave
Fear of losing those close to me,
Fear of not being able to pay my bills,
Being overworked,
Having things go wrong with my house (water, electricity, etc.),
Having my car be disabled...
Ways I respond to stress
Panic
Freak out
Lose sleep
Cry
Rapid heart beat
Ways I actually manage stress
Talk to people
Dave
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I must add:
Stressors:
- Loss of control in a situation and helplessness
- Having WAY too much to do with too little time
- Knowing that the above is totally my fault
Dealing:
- Withdrawing from obligations
- Wallowing in despondency from which I cannot disengage
Question: Is this where the ESFJ shadow comes to play? The most stressed out I've been all year was a few weeks ago when I majorly fucked myself over with a deadline. I inwardly cursed but was completely despondent.
If I have an audience, however, I can appear hysterical. Friends will tell me I need to calm down and that it's not a big deal. This is always weird to me because I don't actually feel hysterical and I know I'm being melodramatic. I'm usually just laughing at myself for my stupidity.
Actually, I'm not even sure. I don't know whether I'm actually hysterical at those points. Again, it's only if I have an audience. The social chemistry makes for some weird reactions that I don't even know how to interpret.
Stressors:
- Loss of control in a situation and helplessness
- Having WAY too much to do with too little time
- Knowing that the above is totally my fault
Dealing:
- Withdrawing from obligations
- Wallowing in despondency from which I cannot disengage
Question: Is this where the ESFJ shadow comes to play? The most stressed out I've been all year was a few weeks ago when I majorly fucked myself over with a deadline. I inwardly cursed but was completely despondent.
If I have an audience, however, I can appear hysterical. Friends will tell me I need to calm down and that it's not a big deal. This is always weird to me because I don't actually feel hysterical and I know I'm being melodramatic. I'm usually just laughing at myself for my stupidity.
Actually, I'm not even sure. I don't know whether I'm actually hysterical at those points. Again, it's only if I have an audience. The social chemistry makes for some weird reactions that I don't even know how to interpret.