To those concerned with limited future choices; artificial insemination is still possible. Of course, I'd have to pay for it, but if it would become that important to me, I'd be able to afford it. It would even give me additional motivation to think it through more seriously.
Minuend, you have my unconditional permission to get your tubes tied. More people should be as responsible as you've shown yourself to be here today. Well done, girl.
How is having children irresponsible?
On the other hand I've been sexually active for a long time and never used anything other than a rubber and never had any issues.
So that is something to consider. I probably would not do it for the simple reason that I don't like surgery. If there was a painless surgery free way of doing it I might consider it.
Well, I'm allergic to latex, and living rurally, it becomes somewhat of a hassle. It's like the one thing I'm allergic to. The surgery is not that expensive either, so I would probably start saving money after, like, half a year.
But yes, surgery is not ideal, per se. But all BC have potential side effects. For me it just seems like the easiest thing as I don't need to replace anything ever or look at my calendar.
Actually, I think that adoption should be the first choice for parents everywhere. We'd eliminate so much suffering by taking care of the kids that we have and only producing as many as we need.
-Duxwing
Adoption is difficult and expensive. There are very high standards to who get to adopt. Often it's nearly impossible for single to adopt, your economy must be good etc. So, it's not like getting a new kitty.
from a male perspective, no way in hell would i sterilize myself. its just too much of an important biological gift, that i fear would have other unwanted effects on my hormones and body.
think of it like this, the issues you have concerning the pressures...they WONT go away after such an operation. Id contemplate working through those issues on their own before taking any drastic physical risks.
You know what else is a biological gift? The ability to commit violent acts D:
Just because something is biologically possible, does not mean it's good or necessary. I think this belongs in the "naturalistic fallacy" group.
Pressure issues has nothing to do with it. I've already given my family implications that I do not want children. They don't really argue about it.
Don't do it, seriously.
At my age and after having kids it can make sense, but at 24? Using BC isn't that big a hinderance. You won't be the same person at later 30's as you are now, and you don't want the possibility of hating your younger self.
I've committed several mistakes in the past, but I do not blame the younger version of myself. My blame always goes toward the current me who should be able to change whatever I find offplace.
I have changed a lot, but my way of reasoning remains somewhat the same. I could not have a kid just because I "wanted to". I would have to find it meaningful in a way that doesn't seem illusionary to me.
IMAO, the philosophical implications are irrelevant.
This is something I can never do. Especially when it comes to an issue involving creating new life. This life will, perhaps, exist for 100 years and experience suffering and joy. It might suffer for the most of its life, be handicapped. A life is not something to be taken lightly. In a way, you as a parent is responsible for all the suffering it experiences. the alternative- not existing, is after all nothing that can be experienced and thus it can't really be "wrong".
Regardless, to me my opinions and choices have to have a base in what I consider "rational". You know, even considering the fragility and erroneous human mind, I have to base my perspective on something. And I need this something to factor in as many relevant aspects as possible.
DON'T DO IT or do.
I, like the others would suggest holding off though. You may find someone later on in life and could want to have children. Taking that option away at such a young age doesn't seem wise.
My current partner would be highly ideal for breeding as he is highly intelligent, compassionate, kind and just downright cute and charming :3 It has nothing to do with that.