Shall I stay alive

[JansenDowel]

Shall I stay alive or commit suicide? I have a big injury, but I haven't decided if I should patch up.

 

[Black Rose]

plug the bleeding and call 911
i hope you get to the hospital fast
what happened?

 

[JansenDowel]

I pluged the bleeding. Oh god. I am just so alone I don't know what to do?

 

[Teax]

at any point in time: you can always suicide later.
procrastination at it's best

 

[Perfectly Normal Beast]

if you're not absolutely sure you want to die you should get help. you can always kill yourself another day if you decide that's what you really want.

 

[Black Rose]

I pluged the bleeding. Oh god. I am just so alone I don't know what to do?

we're here for you buddy
things will be o.k.

 

[Cognisant]

I am just so alone I don't know what to do?

All my friends I either know through work or here, it's not something that happens over night but if you make a point of interacting with people then over time you become a part of their lives and they become a part of yours.

Also get some help, you may be bleeding internally.

Time changes things and surprisingly not always for the worst.
Unless you're bleeding out.

 

[JansenDowel]

I am a gay man. I have always been alone. But things are changing. I need something to live for. Can someone tell me why I should keep going? Thank you all for your replies.

 

[Black Rose]

is this a midlife crisis thing?

what was it that you did to pass the time before? Job?

i am going back to school

 

[Black Rose]

if you need love id say so do i but i am waiting for the brain chip

 

[paradoxparadigm7]

I am a gay man. I have always been alone. But things are changing. I need something to live for. Can someone tell me why I should keep going? Thank you all for your replies.

You're operating out of dispair and it's distorting your thinking and behavior. Don't trust your feelings. They are fleeting and highly changeable. You're reaching out for help through this forum so use that to reach out to tangible help and call your emergency line.

 

[The Gopher]

Well my answer depends on if you are 52 or 17ish.

 

[Architect]

You probably will die eventually, why rush things? Have a nice cup of tea instead.

Well my answer depends on if you are 52 or 17ish.

I resent the implications of that. "Who wants to live to be 82?" the wise man asks. "The 81 year old" replies the clever student.

 

[Ex-User (9086)]

I am a gay man. I have always been alone. But things are changing. I need something to live for. Can someone tell me why I should keep going? Thank you all for your replies.

Maybe because some future version of yourself will be happy and will have friends or people to talk to and will want to live more than your current version.

So look at this another way:
By saving yourself you are in essence helping someone else, that isn't you at the moment, he's not a complete stranger, but requires your charity nonetheless. And who said that you won't be able to do something valuable and positive in the future that might be worth it?

You are most likely capable of improving your life situation diametrically with sustained effort and correction of errors.

 

[The Gopher]

I resent the implications of that. "Who wants to live to be 82?" the wise man asks. "The 81 year old" replies the clever student.

Pshht INFP's... There were no negative implications, well I guess there were. I was implying at 17 you are missing a lot of perspective. At 52 I have to actually come up with a reasonable argument. :P

Edit: and I seem to remember he was either 17 or 52 hence my statement.

 

[StevenM]

You're operating out of dispair and it's distorting your thinking and behavior. Don't trust your feelings. They are fleeting and highly changeable.

I second this.

In this state, you have to remind yourself that it is just the wiring and chemical proportions in the brain doing this, and these things can change for the better.
Fortunately, depression and loneliness is very treatable in a variety of different ways.

Anyone can fall prey to this state, even the strongest of us out there. You are worth it to get the help that should be readily available in your area.

 

[dark+matters]

I am a gay man. I have always been alone. But things are changing. I need something to live for. Can someone tell me why I should keep going? Thank you all for your replies.

Reason to keep going...

1) Life is always changing, and over the course of many years, it's more than likely that things will get better for you if you can wait out the bad times.

2) We can't know exactly what happens to us when we're dead.

3) Life is very rare in our universe, and always valuable.

But what's going on in your life that has you feeling like this? I'm not sure where you're living or who you're living with, but I do know that it's harder to be a minority in some places versus others, and it's harder to be in some places in life than in others. I can tell you that where I live, I do see many GLBT couples get married, and have meaningful, life-long friendships and romantic partnerships. If you're looking to find new, meaningful connections, that can definitely happen for you.

There are many actions you can start to take to dig yourself out of circumstances that aren't making you happy (if that's even what's happening), but it could take some time and will require patience and persistence.

I also suggest tea, and maybe a good book you really connect with. There are a lot of wonderful self-help books out there if you don't want to see a counselor. I really enjoy the ones you can fill out yourself. They're available at Barnes and Noble.

 

[Architect]

Pshht INFP's... There were no negative implications, well I guess there were. I was implying at 17 you are missing a lot of perspective. At 52 I have to actually come up with a reasonable argument. :P

Yeah I wasn't touchy but couldn't find a better way to say it.

 

[JansenDowel]

Thanks for the replies everyone. I didn't go through with it in the end. Im 24; to the person that asked.

 

[Pizzabeak]

If you ever need to ask yourself that question, just smoke a blunt.

Spoiler

Actually, should I smoke? I was stoned for the past two weeks or so and only remembered and had one vivid dream during the time. I didn't smoke the past two days and had dreams. I almost forgot what they were like, so you can see the concern. Also I might want to start working at this place with my friend but they require urinalysis, so I might have to do that, you see. So, you decide! Shall I ingest marijuanas? We need your help. Thanks

 

[Reluctantly]

I think you should stay alive as long as possible, to spite a world that doesn't seem to think you deserve to exist, if nothing else.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Shall I stay alive or commit suicide?

Yes. ^_^

 

[TheScornedReflex]

Can someone tell me why I should keep going?

No one can tell you why you should keep going. That is something only you can find for yourself. Someone may be able to help guide you in this process. A shrink for example.

Just keep on keeping on, brother.

 

[crippli]

Maybe one can do things like this when suicidal. Seems to be sorta, the less one care, the more one can get away with.

Spoiler

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VOV-Fn4Iu6A#t=12

On a second thought. Suicidal is probably the other way around. That one care too much about life? And the tiniest little thing will do one in.

If I become real suicidal I will do basejumping as my parting gift to the planet. I am quite sure I will not survive that, at least not over time. But it should be interesting while it lasts. And I think such an extreme activity provides alternative perspectives. Just the nature aspect should be soothing and meditating. I also think that most of these people are above the general perspective on things people have in the streets. So most likely more pleasant company.

 

[Ex-User (8886)]

it doesn't matter if you die or not die

 

[Jennywocky]

it doesn't matter if you die or not die

Razors pain you;
Rivers are damp;
Acids stain you;
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren't lawful;
Nooses give;
Gas smells awful;
You might as well live.

~ Dorothy Parker

 

[Jaffa]

Thanks for the replies everyone. I didn't go through with it in the end. Im 24; to the person that asked.

[Fe] Ask yourself, can things get any worse? If no, then you have something to look forward to [/Fe]

I know EXACTLY how you feel, I experienced utter depression not too long ago (though not to the point where I contemplated suicide). That feeling of being alone is a terrible one. Have you considered a career change into something more rewarding? Or adoption if you're gay?

Or perhaps getting to the gym and giving yourself something to focus on?

As manipulator said, it doesn't matter if you live or die on the grand scale of things. But experiencing that irrelevance is better than experiencing nothing at all.