Okay I don't know your wife, but typically speaking, when I bring out an argument like that it's not because I'm basing my take on Jung on that argument, it's because I need to find something specific that proves what I already feel I know intuitively about him as a person. I think the specific argument hides the holistic view that prompts it.
I also think that's a pretty typical mental process for Ni doms, having a mental inner picture and just needing some way to make it visible for others. Typically by finding something of a more specific nature that supports it. Sorry if this is vaguely written.
What I'm trying to say is that even if Ni doms may appear like they get all specific owing to the nature of their arguments that specificity is only possible following an holistic grasp of what's going on.
Ni is hard to figure out and discuss so this is interesting.
I don't quite follow what you're saying (I hate to say but it's typically hard for me to divine what exactly INFJ's are saying much of the time), but this is what I see between the two of us, see if it makes sense.
Last night we were discussing ESJ's and why they try to control people (we have a relative doing this). I have been building up a theory - it's due to them
not having an interior life. It's all exterior, and you're in the exterior, so therefore they need to control and push you around (just like how INTP's order their inner life).
Me - Ne
I build up an explanation from
- The theory (Se)
- Lenore Thompsons book (corroborating points)
- Examples of SJ's in our family (supporting evidence)
- Examples from old friends (...)
- SJ's in political organizations, religious and corporate (...)
- Historical (likely) SJ's (Moses ...)
I'm not too
specific with these ideas, but they're like "lego parts" I'm using to build up the scaffolding of the idea. So I think here you see Ne gathering information (
cherry picking in tandem with Ti) from a
broad (global) set of sources. That's what Ne does, it looks out into the world and sucks in information broadly, but usually not too specifically (as I say I think Ti then cherry picks what it wants)
Her - Ni
Halfway through me explaining this she zeros in "It's Bob Dylan, he must be an intuitive!". I'm like "whaaaaaa? and feel like I was hit by a sniper while driving. It really throws me off my game when she does this (happens all the time) but as she explains (Dylan change to electric guitar and everybody hated him for it) I realize it's a good point. Now I also feel that it dilutes the essential argument as it's just bringing in another specific example. But to her (who I'm not sure really got the point) it gives it some reality.
So here I see Ni being specific, it likes to zero in on specific examples. Combined with Fe (judging function) I think it becomes
holistic and
decisive, in that it sees the entire person (Bob Dylan) also suffering from this problem, but it's still specific (judging) in that it zeros in on an
individual, Ni-Fe. Does that make sense?
I never see Ni being as far ranging as I go (with Ne). The most is when she's under stress and literally becomes a whirling dervish. She'll almost start speaking in tongues, she'll rapid fire off all the things that are bothering her. I used to get flummoxed as I'd get a shit storm of random, unconnected problems. I've learned that it's important to let her wind down then find out what really is wrong.
Now she claims that those things
are connected together, but I contend it can only seem that way to Ni, it's not something others can have visibility into.
I hope that makes sense ...