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[Fukyo]

I already have the tremendous activity.As far as the clear though goes...
I'm sticking to my fantasy world.

If only real life could be this perfect... *sigh*

 

[fullerene]

Also, this is just a silly thought... but with the number of semi-active INFPs we have hear, and the unattractiveness of the INFP forum at global chatter, we could make an INFP subforum to talk about INFP issues. It wouldn't hurt, and it could help our forum grow, and help our INFPs grow.

I actually wouldn't mind that at all... tho we really should have lor or someone run it by ragnar, first. After all, he's the one paying for bandwidth, and a larger forum would require more... so it's not fair to do something that would attract other types if he just wanted it to be an INTP safezone. I'm also not sure cause I really like the small forum atmosphere, and I think a lot of other people do too. I wouldn't mind sacrificing it a bit to blend some INPs together (honestly, I think you're right, it'd help everyone out quite a bit)... but really we should stop and talk about it a while before we think about adding a subforum that would be like a welcome banner for a whole lot more people. Even the current surge of new ones (INTPs and INFPs alike.... we're over INTPcentral if you google search intp forum!) is enough that I can't keep track of them all.

 

[NoID10ts]

These little INFP's are so cute. They are like our own little collection of Muppets!

err ............. did I say cute?

Fuck!

(the word "fuck" offsets the word "cute" so I don't feel quite so dirty now)

Did someone mention a banner?

http://www.intpforum.com/showthread.php?t=42&page=17

 

[Ogion]

Well, i think one subforum for infps wouldn't really hurt, bandwidth-wise. i mean, they probably would start some threads in that dirrection anyways, and this way we would just give it a distinct place...

I'll go ask Lor.

Ogion

 

[Snail]

I like the first "got intpness?" banner. Very cute.

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

The last thing I wanna hear is my INTPness being called cute.


We have a section for INTP, I don't see why not have one for INFP. They can go there and be as cute as they want.

 

[Fukyo]

Don't be like that... :P

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

Don't be like that... :P

Okay, I'll be cute then.

 

[Snail]

Awwww! *squeals*

 

[world]

I’ve calmed down from the emotional shitload I released onto random people on the internet these past couple of days, and I’m ready to take this seriously now. The real reason why I’ve joined this forum is really to practice becoming analytical, thought oriented and serious. I don’t want to quit being an F and start being a T (I actually don’t even think that’s possible), I know I’d like, and do like, being an F better than being a T. I just need to become a well rounded F.

An INFP approaching this forum is not making an approach to our emotional centres, (even though you may be aiming for such) and cannot elicit an emotional response, defensive or otherwise.

First of all, I’m not trying to approach your emotional centres. :P Some of my posts (ok probably most, if not all of them) will be really goofy and silly, that’s just me being myself. And the snippet of what I’ve said that you’ve responding to was…a joke.

Anyways, this I think was the most interesting part of your lesson. Tbh, I reacted in a defensive way to that post, and to the one loveofreason made later on. That’s the problem I have, instead of seeing that as something to be reasoned, I react emotionally. Now I’m going to try to think over my response to those posts (oh god this is corny, but hard and I’m being serious). So, there was the physical crumbling inside before I even began to read your post (so, I was preparing myself to be hurt, OK), then I read and understood the first line (willing to read something that I’ve already decided is going to make me sad). After I read my quote and your first line in response to it, I skimmed over without even reading the rest of your post and I blushed (now I’ve really convinced myself that whatever it was that you wrote was going to make me sad, so I responded sadly). Then, I ignored your post and acted as if though that didn’t affect me, and went on being silly and completely ignoring what I sought out to do (avoiding the chance at being rejected and more hurt).

If that is true, what is making me post this now?
I’ve calmed down, and decided to post this to get better.
Why the decision?
I’m thinking much more clearly than I was the day I posted that (was it two days ago? Or yesterday?), and I’ve decided to take the advice I gave snowy. Getting over it, OK.


Somethings I’ve noticed:
Maybe if I hadn’t introduced myself so dramatically, I could have been taken more seriously.
Am I disappointed in not being taken seriously?
I think so, I think that’s what kept me being dramatic and crazy.
Or it was the dramatics and the craziness that was awarded by other member’s posts that kept me going.
So you did it for attention?
I doubt anyone here posts anything without the intention of receiving attention.
Defensive response…why?
Maybe I really am looking for attention.

My head is going wooooowooooooowooooooowooooooooooo.




BTW, did I mention that I’m 100%? F. Haaa.

 

[fullerene]

cool stuff

The IFPs and EFJs are the most F-centric, of course, since they have it as dominant... so I have a lot of respect for those types who want to learn about Thinking (same as I do the ITPs and ETJs who want to learn about Feeling). That's also probably why you test 100% F. Other than that, er.... sorry you responded defensively to the opening round of posts. From what I've seen INFPs need to trust people a lot in order to take criticism constructively... so that was probably not the most beneificial set of responses you could have gotten. I think I probably speak for most people here, though, when I say that they tend to act the way the person they're around is acting. I'm not sure why, but it's happened (quite involuntarily--I didn't notice I did it until friends pointed it out, and even then it took a few years before I believed them) since I was in elementary school, and I think people here were just imitating you, with no offense intended. Goofy posts tend to be met with goofy responses, and serious ones with serious responses. Although, now that I know that you have serious goals, intend on acting goofy anyway, but still want to be taken seriously, I'll try to keep all that in mind for future posts.

 

[world]

cool stuff

The IFPs and EFJs are the most F-centric, of course, since they have it as dominant... so I have a lot of respect for those types who want to learn about Thinking (same as I do the ITPs and ETJs who want to learn about Feeling). That's also probably why you test 100% F. Other than that, er.... sorry you responded defensively to the opening round of posts. From what I've seen INFPs need to trust people a lot in order to take criticism constructively... so that was probably not the most beneificial set of responses you could have gotten. I think I probably speak for most people here, though, when I say that they tend to act the way the person they're around is acting. I'm not sure why, but it's happened (quite involuntarily--I didn't notice I did it until friends pointed it out, and even then it took a few years before I believed them) since I was in elementary school, and I think people here were just imitating you, with no offense intended. Goofy posts tend to be met with goofy responses, and serious ones with serious responses. Although, now that I know that you have serious goals, intend on acting goofy anyway, but still want to be taken seriously, I'll try to keep all that in mind for future posts.

I disagree. I think the responses I've gotten were exactly what I needed, if not then I would not have actual material to start dwelling into T on. Just because it makes me sad does not mean that it isn't healthy (lol, weird wording, hope you'll get it).


I understand and do realize that if I act goofy I'll get a goofy response, which is what I probably was going for in the beginning. I think the way I reacted to some of the posts was weird (now that I look back), I mean if I was (honestly) looking for fun at first, why crack down and get sad if I'm beginning to get what I said I wanted? Could that not be what I actually wanted? Either way I'm still thinking, so it's cool.
I think that could be part of the process.


OK. My mind is too fuzzy for this right now.

 

[NoID10ts]

Goofy? Silly? No one here appreciates goofiness or silliness. Bunch of serious bastards they are.



(I like these NF's. I find them quite invigorating!)

 

[Raku]

I thought you didn't want them to find out you liked them NoID10ts?

 

[fullerene]

cool then. If it helped, then it helped.

(I'm a tad used to INFPs who hate to cry because they do it so much, so I'm used to associating sad, defensive responses with "not helpful." Eventually the broadened experience with more of you will balance that out so I can knock off my inaccurate generalizing. You guys are an ongoing investigation )

 

[NoID10ts]

I thought you didn't want them to find out you liked them NoID10ts?

You're right! INFP freaks.

 

[Snail]

If you really disliked us, you wouldn't have spent all of that time making a creepy photoshopped image for me, right?

 

[Fukyo]

Of course.

 

[NoID10ts]

I think I am building an INFP harem for myself here. Oh the possibilities!

 

[Fukyo]

Don't get any ideas Noddy!

 

[Snail]

Your INFP harem would have to coexist with my INTP harem, since you are officially a member of it, Noddy. Can you be a member of mine while having your own? I don't see why not, as long as your INFPs don't steal my INTPs.

 

[NoID10ts]

Hmmmmm ..............

Mybe this should just become a big group thing.

You know. Where we all sit, lie, or crouch, marveling at the glories of various kinds of INFP and INTP .....ness.

 

[Fukyo]

 

[Snail]

Possibly, but being an introvert, I prefer to enjoy just a little INTPness at at time, to avoid becoming overwhelmed.

 

[Ogion]

"Step by step"/"One by one" then it is...

Ogion

 

[Kuu]

^ I never thought I'd live to see the day when Ogion stepped over into the Dark Side...

(an INFP subforum, hmm? Can we call it the human experimentation lab? )

 

[Ogion]

Just a glimpse...

Ogion

 

[kitkat]

And where are you all coming from all of a sudden?

Is there word out in INFP land that there's this bunch of crazy INTPs here just ripe for seduction?

You INTP's are forming a cult- and us poor little INFP's are getting lured into the trap!

Seriously though, it is a curious phenonemon - are INFP's the only other group that seems to hang out in your threads?

Signed,
A loving groupie
Part of your future Harem
Devising a plot to destro...Ooops, I mean, hehe- strike that...

 

[kitkat]

snippet:
someguy: "I'm simply stating my observation"
fasaba: "I'm simply stating my opinion of your observation"
someguy: "That makes no sense!"

I asked him how it didnt make any sense.
no response.

I love it- baiting INTP's in their own chat session... *snickers*


Way to go Fasaba!! ('m INFP too! Don't worry, you get less sensitive with time)

 

[Snail]

That's what I'm afraid of. I don't want to lose my sensitivity with time. Sure, it's painful to be this way, but it's worth it because of all of the things we get to enjoy that they can't.

 

[world]

lol, just....lol @ "they"




You're being vague Snail.........

 

[Ogion]

Yea, INFPs seem to be the only intrud...uhm, guests coming to us.
Just kidding, though yes, you're pretty much the only group.

Ogion

 

[Jesin]

I think Snail is beyond the status of "guest" at this point.

 

[Ogion]

Sure she is I was just joking around.

Ogion

 

[Snail]

Actually, I feel like more of an infiltrator.

 

[kitkat]

That's what I'm afraid of. I don't want to lose my sensitivity with time. Sure, it's painful to be this way, but it's worth it because of all of the things we get to enjoy that they can't.

I don't think you can ever fully "lose" your INFPness - Personally, I'm just getting more of an understanding of the T. I'm not actually living it myself!

Every day is a wonder, with new things to discover Just never lose your playfulness!! Like that Toys R Us Commerial..."I don't want to grow up..."

 

[kitkat]

Well you have to admit, INTP defenses aren't exactly the pentagon- all it takes is a smile and a dance, and they're all like "Ooooh, a fairy! Let's play with it!".

So easy....

 

[Snail]

I'm learning more about the T, too, and it is fascinating how it can be a positive thing instead of just being scary or dangerous. Just as both Truth and Love can coexist, and are necessary in order for the ideal to be perfected, the T and the F can be complementary instead of antagonistic. I am only recently learning how this is possible.

 

[kitkat]

A bit OT, but can I ask what you do? I'm in the process of looking for a new career. Systems Analyst isn't for me!

 

[world]

My method of self-desensitization is definitely working, I've been lurking this forum and intpcentral (personalitycafe.com makes me feel like flying amongst pretty little butterflies and eating cake with a bit of tea).

To this PM:

Trying to be a "T" doesn't mean you get to ignore social etiquette and manners.

I responded (emotionally)with this:
LOL!
And I smiled.
And then I started to laugh.
And then I thought "omg lol."


(I'm only making this post because I want to update you all on how I'm doing, as well as read what you think about the quote.

Oh. Maybe I should try directness...aaahhh....uhhh...uggghhhh...

*makes constipated face*

Most of the T I know inrl always have a sense of calmness around them, they almost never respond to something with over exaggerated emotional displays. They also seem to be a bit...insensitive...as if though they are not aware of how their words/actions affect the people around them (not specifically just me). I wonder what makes them like that (I'm not talking all T types here, just the ones I know (though some of you may relate)).

Is it that feelings have been suppressed so much that they are no longer there? Or they don't show up?

Or is it that they are really trying to make sense of the world objectively, and feelings are subjective and thus ignored?

I can't form questions, um, using your iNtuition! o.o

Any thoughts, opinions etc etc etc on this?)


I can't suppress by dramatic and goofy personality, it just isn't healthy for me.

(OH! OH! My diction/syntax/style is much more serious toooooooo~~~~~@!@!#$oneoen!~~`1211@!)

 

[Kidege]

Well you have to admit, INTP defenses aren't exactly the pentagon- all it takes is a smile and a dance, and they're all like "Ooooh, a fairy! Let's play with it!".

So easy....

I resemb... resent that remark.

Is it that feelings have been suppressed so much that they are no longer there? Or they don't show up?

Or is it that they are really trying to make sense of the world objectively, and feelings are subjective and thus ignored?

All of the above, depending on the individual. Some of us are more/less aware of feelings than others. You might want to check the "How do you feel emotions" thread.

 

[Luzian]

personalitycafe.com makes me feel like flying amongst pretty little butterflies and eating cake with a bit of tea

So far, that's how I feel here, lol

No one would put up with me until they understood my madness. Until then, I must be normal.

 

[didyouknow]

Fasaba, your posts are so interesting... they just seem to exude a strange hyperactive notion. Your thoughts progress on a strange and baffling contingent that makes me laugh.

Personally, I feel emotions, but mostly I try my best to ignore them/control them. I like to think of it as a sandcastle analogy. We build a sandcastle on the beach, unaffected by most waves of emotion. Occasionally though, you'll get a wave that is so big it will knock the sandcastle over and we freak trying to get it back together. You Feeling types like to play in the ocean while we observe.

 

[Luzian]

stop stalking me

 

[didyouknow]

I told you, I will when you stop stealing my underwear!

 

[Luzian]

i have nothing to do with you throwing your panties at me

 

[didyouknow]

Don't act so defensive, if you didn't want them, you would have given them back.

 

[Fukyo]

i have nothing to do with you throwing your panties at me

lol Luzi!

 

[Halcyon]

Your use of genital imagery in the original post sounded very strange after creating this picture of a fragile INFP. I was also never a big fan of girls saying that they need to grow some balls. The image just doesn't sit well with me...

 

[Ermine]

^Also a bit off in describing the Thinking function. I have no balls whatsoever, both as a female and in that I don't try to act tough. The thinking/feeling function only deals with whether or not we are in tune with our emotions, making decisions with you head or heart.