Infj + Intp love ?

[Duxwing]

Oh cuz i put a heart. I was being cheeky (or trying to). Lol...

Oh, OK. I didn't get it; INTPs in general might be somewhat bad at this sort of humor because their Feeling function is inferior. Have you found success with using it with your INTP? If you have, then great, but if you haven't, then simplifying and exaggerating your social cues might help him understand your jokes.

-Duxwing

 

[MaryJane]

Oh, OK. I didn't get it; INTPs in general might be somewhat bad at this sort of humor because their Feeling function is inferior. Have you found success with using it with your INTP? If you have, then great, but if you haven't, then simplifying and exaggerating your social cues might help him understand your jokes.

-Duxwing

Your original response made me laugh. You have no idea how many times he has said those exact words to me or some variation.

Im not following you
Im not sure what you are trying to say
Now im really confused
Etc etc..... So no... No success whatsoever. Its just my natural way and hard to refine.

However, it appears at this point it is all moot. We split ways with some very harsh words. I tried to express that i feel we need mutual respect for each others styles and mutual compromise. I really tried to sound calm and rational, but he ended up very angry, felt attacked, and told me my need for intimacy was pathological. It got even worse, and im quite sad, but maybe it just wasnt feasible. He told me he could now see for sure that i never had truly cared for him, that i was laying guilt trips on him.... More bad things. He said he never wanted to speak to me again. So .... Theres the conclusion of this mess i guess. Kinda heartbroken.

 

[Duxwing]

Your original response made me laugh. You have no idea how many times he has said those exact words to me or some variation.

Im not following you
Im not sure what you are trying to say
Now im really confused
Etc etc..... So no... No success whatsoever. Its just my natural way and hard to refine.

Ni can be very fuzzy indeed. I changed my original response because I wasn't sure that it would be appropriate.

However, it appears at this point it is all moot. We split ways with some very harsh words. I tried to express that i feel we need mutual respect for each others styles and mutual compromise. I really tried to sound calm and rational, but he ended up very angry, felt attacked, and told me my need for intimacy was pathological. It got even worse, and im quite sad, but maybe it just wasnt feasible. He told me he could now see for sure that i never had truly cared for him, that i was laying guilt trips on him.... More bad things. He said he never wanted to speak to me again. So .... Theres the conclusion of this mess i guess. Kinda heartbroken.

Oh, *hug* *there there* Breakups are hard, but the pain will pass, and you'll find another wonderful, loving man for yourself, even if that doesn't seem likely now. While I can't say whether you guilt tripped him or not, you did truly care for him, and much of what he said was based on his own pathology interacting with your Fe, which, admittedly, requires human interaction. And look on the bright side, tough as that may seem: his leaving made a slot for someone better.

-Duxwing