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Basically I was watching a comedy. Stand up, with lots of jokes, and I realized how out of touch I am with humor suddenly.
I also realized how out of touch I am with some emotions.
I feel despirited, humorless, etc.
I feel though better in some ways, but kind of flat in the head.
I like I oscillate from state of mind to state of mind that just does not feel right.
I lack confidence, I lack motivation, I lack even energy.
It feels like my recharging period has turned into "feeling like shit period" for what its worth, I have legit reasons to feel like shit too, but I also need a bit of juice for life, to get on with life a little.
So when you feel down, and dead inside, what helps you get bounce on day to day basis.
I mean stuff that could possibly help me. I don't want to color anything with crayons though, but I have some plans to do stuff, just every time I think to myself do X I just sit and go like meh.
 

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Do you have low energy in some brain regions?

I'd explore why you are depressed if that is the case.

What makes you most like: "meh"?

What does "meh" feel like?
 

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I think its the pandemic that made my entire life slow down, I have been hermiting ever since it started
and don't interact with anyone. That can be isolating. One thing is to find classes you like online.

Here are some of the affirmations I’m using.
If you feel it more in Winter it might be Seasonal Affective Disorder
Vitamin D, Pears, Sunlight

The goal is to feel each one as if it’s true emotionally right now and practice in morning

AND SO IT IS
I FEEL GRATITUDE AND APPRECIATION FOR WHAT I HAVE
THANK YOU
IMAGINATION AND INSPIRATION FLOW TO ME EASILY
MONEY TAKES CARE OF ME AND I TAKE CARE OF MONEY
MY RELATIONSHIPS ARE FLOURISHING AND HAPPY
I BREATHE HAPPINESS
I FEEL LIGHT AND FREE AND JOYOUS
I AM CALM, GROUNDED AND COMFORTABLE
I APPRECIATE MY LIFE
I AM FLEXIBLE
I AM AT HOME IN MY SPIRIT
I AM FEELING ENERGETIC
MY EFFORTS MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE
I AM MAKING SPACE IN MY LIFE AND HOME FOR LOVING RELATIONSHIPS
I ATTRACT HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND FRIENDSHIPS
I FEEL PEACE AND CONNECTION
I AM OPEN TO ALLOW SPIRIT AND HEART TO GUIDE ME
I AM INVITING NEW ADVENTURES AND TRAVEL INTO MY LIFE
 

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This is the best talk for self motivation. This guy is a great presenter.


From the info you provided idk I would just ask what your attitude is to your internal locus of control.

How do you see your actions as something that could potentially improve your life.
 

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This guy is a great presenter.

He gave a good method for learning skills, "breaking it into steps". Skills are important things to have: "Is it possible", "Can I do it", and "Will it work". Seeing how he is ISTJ his kinesthetic intelligence is higher than average. He is the perfect type for doing the dew. - I think it is hard for me because as with what I learned about chunking and intelligence some people can do big steps well others can do small steps. In combining chunks we can get things to go faster depending on how big they are. Three things: Procedural learning(rote), and generative(creativity), and together they are procedural(getting it all together). But then there is also the conceptual part, what is the paradigm, the way I think that should allow me to get things to where they need to be next. Ti s conceptual - Te is pocedual.

INTPs like to understand more than anything because it is so easy to think of all the possibilities that doing it becomes secondhand/redundant. Learning by doing is what I am good at somewhat (INFP inf Te) but education sucks so much because I cannot memorize or rote learn the algorithms in class to do the work. The Steps/chunks are way too big to do anything with them for me. I come up with my own ideas instead.

What I am better at is understanding people. For example, now that I know INTPs face redundancy in what they do it would be better for them to work on inf Fe aft tert Si.

The way this can be done is by first looking not at concepts but at body motion.

The way the INFP works is with sound, we detect in others what happens when people inflect their voices and turn that into Ne insights.

What the INFP needs to do is more looking as well but with Se.

Both INFP and INTP need more Se.
 

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it is impossible to have motivation without having a vision - a vision for your future self

i can feel how during the times when that vision becomes unclear for me, it becomes really hard to motivate myself. But then there are times when that vision is so clear that I can see it my mind's eye like I'm looking at a picture, or movie. Once you have that, your body starts working for you, towards that vision. No need for todo-lists, schedules, self-disciplinary action, or any gimmicks - you just go, you ride the wave, and the only concern is that you might destroy your body from the lack of rest. And if bad shit happens along the way, that's good -- it just means you will be the one who did what you did despite fate trying to fuck up your plan
 

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I woke up in freeze response today again.
I have sort of problem I cannot name.
But yeah every time I move towards a direction my body just freezes up.
I have this in relational way too.
Its got to do with trauma and shit, but I am not sure what can be done about it.
I can do stuff. But doing it in freeze response suck balls.
It feels like swimming in ice instead of water.
Everything feels instantly 10 times harder.
Bit of depression with sugar on top.
 

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Basically I was watching a comedy. Stand up, with lots of jokes, and I realized how out of touch I am with humor suddenly.
I also realized how out of touch I am with some emotions.
I feel despirited, humorless, etc.
I feel though better in some ways, but kind of flat in the head.
I like I oscillate from state of mind to state of mind that just does not feel right.
I lack confidence, I lack motivation, I lack even energy.
It feels like my recharging period has turned into "feeling like shit period" for what its worth, I have legit reasons to feel like shit too, but I also need a bit of juice for life, to get on with life a little.
So when you feel down, and dead inside, what helps you get bounce on day to day basis.
I mean stuff that could possibly help me. I don't want to color anything with crayons though, but I have some plans to do stuff, just every time I think to myself do X I just sit and go like meh.
You just started turning on your emotions, and now you're wondering why they're not screaming at you? Give your mind a bit of time to get used to having emotions, and it will probably kick in.
 

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I woke up in freeze response today again.
I have sort of problem I cannot name.
But yeah every time I move towards a direction my body just freezes up.
I have this in relational way too.
Its got to do with trauma and shit, but I am not sure what can be done about it.
I can do stuff. But doing it in freeze response suck balls.
It feels like swimming in ice instead of water.
Everything feels instantly 10 times harder.
Bit of depression with sugar on top.

It is because you cannot tell the difference between what is a real danger and what is not. Take time to relearn what is safe. I think you need to go slowly in what you do and assess at the moment what to do.
 

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Basically I was watching a comedy. Stand up, with lots of jokes, and I realized how out of touch I am with humor suddenly.
I also realized how out of touch I am with some emotions.
I feel despirited, humorless, etc.
I feel though better in some ways, but kind of flat in the head.
I like I oscillate from state of mind to state of mind that just does not feel right.
I lack confidence, I lack motivation, I lack even energy.
It feels like my recharging period has turned into "feeling like shit period" for what its worth, I have legit reasons to feel like shit too, but I also need a bit of juice for life, to get on with life a little.
So when you feel down, and dead inside, what helps you get bounce on day to day basis.
I mean stuff that could possibly help me. I don't want to color anything with crayons though, but I have some plans to do stuff, just every time I think to myself do X I just sit and go like meh.
You just started turning on your emotions, and now you're wondering why they're not screaming at you? Give your mind a bit of time to get used to having emotions, and it will probably kick in.
Yeah, it feels like the freeze response was my mind shutting the emo stuff off.
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Do you have low energy in some brain regions?
Yes.
I'd explore why you are depressed if that is the case
I know why I am. I don't think I know how to address them right now.

I think its the pandemic that made my entire life slow down, I have been hermiting ever since it started
and don't interact with anyone. That can be isolating. One thing is to find classes you like online.
COVID was brutal for many people, even me, but I had been struggling understanding why people hated it. I was technically a hermit in most of my life.

AND SO IT IS
I FEEL GRATITUDE AND APPRECIATION FOR WHAT I HAVE
THANK YOU
IMAGINATION AND INSPIRATION FLOW TO ME EASILY
MONEY TAKES CARE OF ME AND I TAKE CARE OF MONEY
MY RELATIONSHIPS ARE FLOURISHING AND HAPPY
I BREATHE HAPPINESS
I FEEL LIGHT AND FREE AND JOYOUS
I AM CALM, GROUNDED AND COMFORTABLE
I APPRECIATE MY LIFE
I AM FLEXIBLE
I AM AT HOME IN MY SPIRIT
I AM FEELING ENERGETIC
MY EFFORTS MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE
I AM MAKING SPACE IN MY LIFE AND HOME FOR LOVING RELATIONSHIPS
I ATTRACT HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND FRIENDSHIPS
I FEEL PEACE AND CONNECTION
I AM OPEN TO ALLOW SPIRIT AND HEART TO GUIDE ME
I AM INVITING NEW ADVENTURES AND TRAVEL INTO MY LIFE
The more positive I try to be, the worse I feel sometimes.
 

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From the info you provided idk I would just ask what your attitude is to your internal locus of control.

How do you see your actions as something that could potentially improve your life.
I try to take small steps, but it feels like they make no difference. I was actually today, that no matter how much I try nothing ever changes. Only outside forces change my life really, and not always in positive way. So yeah my locust of control thing is shit.
It always felt like I was crushing peanuts, and life was just hitting me with hammers.
 

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it is impossible to have motivation without having a vision - a vision for your future self
I guess I have goals to achieve. I just have a mind that rarely has the ability to act as though they can be achieved.
I know intellectually that is not true.
I am actually stubbornly able to persist in oddest circumstances.
Though my mind has great deal of resistance to the visions I set for my self.
I rarely find the energy then to follow through if that makes sense.
Not sure why.
 

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it is impossible to have motivation without having a vision - a vision for your future self
I guess I have goals to achieve. I just have a mind that rarely has the ability to act as though they can be achieved.
I know intellectually that is not true.
I am actually stubbornly able to persist in oddest circumstances.
Though my mind has great deal of resistance to the visions I set for my self.
I rarely find the energy then to follow through if that makes sense.
Not sure why.

odd circumstances?

is this different from the goals you try and do but can't?

energy is a big deal. I have sometimes no mental energy (selective ADHD?) because I want to learn stuff but am too meta and not good at details.

i need help to do certain things (i can't on my own) because I am like this:

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odd circumstances?

is this different from the goals you try and do but can't?
Ah never mind.

is this different from the goals you try and do but can't?
My goals are pretty average and you could say simple. They are the type of goals that are certainly achievable by my standards.

ADHD is funny, because when you finally focus its like nothing, but that one tasks exists. Then normally your brain just decides nope, and it does million things, but that one task stops existing.
So I can get done a lot of things so long as my brain does not decide to go on some random vacation I did not give it.
Last time I fell into politics rabbit hole and I did not even want to, there are probably 20 tasks I want to do, but my brain just decides NOPE, lets do any thing but the ones that will help you in future.
Its all my life like that.
I have been looking for reasons, but none that I can come up with.
I have no insight into why that is.
 

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Write 100,000 words in 100 days. 1000 words a day. Easy enough, and I'm sure you won't be complaining about not knowing your own internal monologue six different ways
 

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I need lists and tables to get me to accomplish goals. And routines.

In school, I was always focused so after high school I was depleted.

I think I know why: Working memory can only be used in one way because the right prefrontal cortex tells you when to stop and the left prefrontal cortex tells you when to go. Because the left side is always going on a specific subject you learn super fast because it's concentrated emotion into it from the left amygdala. But you never learn to stop. The right prefrontal cortex inhibits you from doing bad things so if you forget to do something it reminds you to stop because you have been conditioned that you have failed in that area multiple times. There is an asymmetry between what you learned you can do (left brain) and the failures you have learned in the past (right brain).

Subcortically: The left Nucleus Accumbens rewards you and the right amygdala punishes you.

This is what Bard says:

You've definitely put a lot of thought into understanding your focus and motivation, and your insights about brain asymmetry and subcortical rewards and punishments are fascinating! Let's see how we can turn this into actionable lists, tables, and routines to help you accomplish your goals while avoiding burnout.

Lists and Tables:


  1. Goal Breakdown: Create a master list of your long-term goals, then break each down into smaller, actionable steps with deadlines. Use a table format to track progress, deadline dates, and potential roadblocks. This helps you visualize the path towards your goal and avoid feeling overwhelmed.

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Goal Breakdown Table

  1. Task Prioritization: Prioritize your daily tasks using a system like the Eisenhower Matrix. This helps you focus on the most important and urgent tasks while delegating or scheduling less crucial ones.

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Eisenhower Matrix

  1. Habit Tracker: Use a checklist or table to track your desired habits (e.g., exercise, meditation, reading). Seeing your progress can be a powerful motivator and helps you stay consistent.

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Habit Tracker

  1. Reward System: Create a list of rewards you can give yourself for completing tasks or achieving milestones. This taps into your left Nucleus Accumbens and keeps you motivated.

Routines:


  1. Morning Routine: Develop a consistent morning routine that sets the tone for the day. This could include activities like exercise, meditation, journaling, or healthy breakfast. A structured start can help you focus and avoid decision fatigue.
  2. Focus Blocks: Schedule dedicated time blocks for deep work on your most important tasks. Eliminate distractions during these blocks to maximize your productivity.
  3. Breaks and Recharge: Schedule regular breaks throughout the day to avoid burnout. Get up, move around, stretch, or do something you enjoy. This helps reset your mental state and improves focus.
  4. Evening Routine: Establish a relaxing evening routine to wind down before bed. This could include reading, taking a bath, or listening to calming music. A healthy sleep schedule is crucial for cognitive function and motivation.

Additional Tips:


  • Identify triggers: Notice what distracts you or disrupts your focus. Then, develop strategies to avoid or manage those triggers.
  • Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness exercises like meditation or deep breathing to stay present and manage stress.
  • Seek support: Don't be afraid to seek help from a therapist or counselor if you're struggling with motivation or focus.

Remember, it's a process, not a race. Be patient with yourself, adjust your lists and routines as needed, and celebrate your successes along the way!


By combining these tools and keeping in mind the brain's reward and punishment mechanisms, you can build a system that keeps you motivated, focused, and on track to achieving your goals without reaching burnout.
 

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You are not alone. I have been retired now since 2021 and have certain things I wanted to do and couldn't. (Like reducing the number of clothes I have for example).

Sometimes I think its the house I'm in, it sort of pulls me into a lazy 'space' of mind, I just have so much stuff its like the energy is too heavy to be efficient. I've thought that if I went to a hotel for a few nights with the things I am working through, ie, or moved from home base, I could get more accomplished.

So thats why I ask, could it be your environment? Also, if you are a perfectionist and something isn't just right, it can prevent you from action too. Or, could it be you are simply deficient in some nutrient that your hormones need, such as vitamin B12? Or, is something in the world energy making everyone slower? Are they brainwashing people with cern for example? Or, has covid literally fused brain cells together making people foggy headed? It might not be just you in other words, it might be an environmental reason many people feel that way. Winter, lack of light, or just not feeling moral support perhaps.

If there is something you really want to do, be kind to yourself most of all. Work on it from an energetic level. Why do I want something, ie, will it bring you joy? Happiness? What is the feeling you will have when it is completed? Don't effort as much as just step out of the way and keep a list nearby that you have to look at with check boxes on it. Work on one item at a time. Sometimes one item will take a year or more to complete. Or, remind yourself that five minutes a day at each task if you like to multi task can gradually get you there too. Or wait until you feel inspired. Ask Earth Angels to help you accomplish something.

Clear your space if possible. You can use a bell or sage and keep ringing it or hold the burning sage in different areas of your home, up in corners, in closets, and if a bell starts to sound muffled, that means heavy energy is lurking there. Keep ringing it, open doors and windows and say, all spirits must leave NOW, and show them the door. Saging or burning Peruvian Copal Incense can also clear energy, walk counter clockwise thru your house, letting smoke enter into drawers, closets, under beds, up high in corners, etc. Clapping loudly in all of those spaces and telling them to leave while windows and doors are open will also clear the energy of spirits.
Anyway, now you know how to clear the energy if you need to.


If you believe in spirits or ghosts, could they have this soul/mind draining/numbing affect on people perhaps? Idk, if a house is haunted for example, I suspect spirits have a draining effect on peoples minds. I'm pretty comfortable with the world of spirits though.

Something to try: Imagine a dark blue indigo or purple light pyramid surrounding yourself, and imagine yourself inside this deep blue light like a cocoon. The frequency of this color slows down energies and keeps them at a wave length they can't penetrate so are not affective on you. Experiment with visualizing different colors, pink light is another very nice healing light to try, and purple/indigo. Create an imaginary pyramid made of copper metal poles and sit inside or sleep inside it. You are safe inside whether you are meditating or sleeping in it.
 

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You are not alone. I have been retired now since 2021 and have certain things I wanted to do and couldn't. (Like reducing the number of clothes I have for example).
I know, and thanks for reminding me. Though honestly sometimes I would not wish this on my worst enemy. Its brutal sometimes.
Sometimes I think its the house I'm in, it sort of pulls me into a lazy 'space' of mind, I just have so much stuff its like the energy is too heavy to be efficient. I've thought that if I went to a hotel for a few nights with the things I am working through, ie, or moved from home base, I could get more accomplished. So thats why I ask, could it be your environment? If you are a perfectionist and something isn't just right, it can prevent you from action too.
Changing environment is my long term goal. Perfectionism is something I still struggle with. I have sort of covert perfectionism, where I hide it from my self. I am a slob or try to be and get on with stuff despite that.

Or, if you believe in spirits or ghosts, could they have this soul/mind draining/numbing affect on people perhaps? Idk, if a house is haunted for example, I suspect spirits have a draining effect on peoples minds.
Nah I think I have good relations with spirits they never bothered me.
When I was a kid I was afraid of them, but then I realized its just me.

I'm pretty comfortable with the world of spirits though.
Yeah they are probably not bad, maybe they just want to talk who knows lol.

Something to try: Imagine a dark blue indigo or purple light surrounding yourself, and imagine yourself inside this deep blue light like a cocoon. It slows down outer energies and keeps them unable to get to you.
I think I can get calmed down by all colors actually.
 

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I think I can get calmed down by all colors actually.

Ok, cool. Can look on youtube for purple light meditations, there are quite a few.
Think about being present and powerful and safe. Hope you feel better.
 

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Also, as an Empath, you can pick up energies from people or places that you may not want.
Can look on youtube for Heather Askinosie how to cut energy cords. It helps cut away even negative thoughts you don't want or patterns in your life you don't like.

If you don't want to buy the crystals, just run your palm over the top of your head from face to back of head a few times and up and down your front and back and feet with the intention of simply cutting cords from your auric space. Or, you can also find cord cutting tools at energy muse, such as this black obsidian cutter, or kyanite. Honestly, just try it with your palm a few times, and if your energy field feels better afterwards you know you just picked up energies that weren't yours. Good idea to clear that each day. If you have a bell, ring it and hold it over your head and motion it back and forth, it also breaks up old energies.


 

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You are not alone. I have been retired now since 2021 and have certain things I wanted to do and couldn't. (Like reducing the number of clothes I have for example).
I know, and thanks for reminding me. Though honestly sometimes I would not wish this on my worst enemy. Its brutal sometimes.
Sometimes I think its the house I'm in, it sort of pulls me into a lazy 'space' of mind, I just have so much stuff its like the energy is too heavy to be efficient. I've thought that if I went to a hotel for a few nights with the things I am working through, ie, or moved from home base, I could get more accomplished. So thats why I ask, could it be your environment? If you are a perfectionist and something isn't just right, it can prevent you from action too.
Changing environment is my long term goal. Perfectionism is something I still struggle with. I have sort of covert perfectionism, where I hide it from my self. I am a slob or try to be and get on with stuff despite that.
I used to be completely perfectionist. But I've learned that perfectionism is all about that "all or nothing" attitude, and that it's unrealistic, because almost no-one is always right, and almost no-one is always wrong.

The 2 combined basically means that pretty much everyone is already doing some things but not everything, which means that nearly everyone is basically "OK" in terms of non-perfectionism.

Just as an example, I was once living in a house where the landlord wanted to sell it, and arranged for 10 people to stay there, who left the bathroom and toilet covered with water. When my flat-mate called the police, they said that there was nothing they could do, as it was only an environmental health issue if they were sh*tting on the kitchen floor.

So as long as you're not going to the toilet in the middle of the kitchen floor and things like that, you're not the worst at slobbishness, and so you're in the middle. So in terms of non-perfectionism, you're where you should be.

If you want to improve things for yourself, then great for you. But it sounds like you're basically "OK" as you are.

Or, if you believe in spirits or ghosts, could they have this soul/mind draining/numbing affect on people perhaps? Idk, if a house is haunted for example, I suspect spirits have a draining effect on peoples minds.
Nah I think I have good relations with spirits they never bothered me.
When I was a kid I was afraid of them, but then I realized its just me.
If most people had your attitude, people wouldn't be afraid of ghosts.

I'm pretty comfortable with the world of spirits though.
Yeah they are probably not bad, maybe they just want to talk who knows lol.
Well, it probably gets a bit irritating for them, that so many living humans are so afraid of them that they run screaming whenever a ghost says "Hi". So who can blame them for wanting a chat?

Something to try: Imagine a dark blue indigo or purple light surrounding yourself, and imagine yourself inside this deep blue light like a cocoon. It slows down outer energies and keeps them unable to get to you.
I think I can get calmed down by all colors actually.
Maybe adding some colours to your room might be helpful? If you don't mind any colours, then you could probably just use any colours, as long as it's not all the same colour. So it sounds as if a few colours here and there might help you.
 

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Also, as an Empath, you can pick up energies from people or places that you may not want.
Can look on youtube for Heather Askinosie how to cut energy cords. It helps cut away even negative thoughts you don't want or patterns in your life you don't like.
I struggle with this, as most people most places are kind of negative. Ill try to look into it. It tires me out. I don't need more negative energies, but as you say I basically absorb them. I am what they call thin skinned. Most people don't know that about me.

If you want to improve things for yourself, then great for you. But it sounds like you're basically "OK" as you are.
Most my problems on the outside are really what you do normally.
Most of it is internal stuff.
I know I am OK, my mind acts as though I am in danger.
Perfectionism for me is mostly internal mindset.
So a lot of times I get up and I think to my self, whats the point?
Rational I know I should be OK, pretty good reasons to be even happy.
But my emotions need constant help or else they slip back to when nothing is OK.
So it feels like I am constantly holding my emotions and if I don't they slip back to nothing. So if I can go from feeling 110 percent emotions then drop to nothing, I feel I lost them again, and not get them back.

Well, it probably gets a bit irritating for them, that so many living humans are so afraid of them that they run screaming whenever a ghost says "Hi". So who can blame them for wanting a chat?

Maybe adding some colours to your room might be helpful? If you don't mind any colours, then you could probably just use any colours, as long as it's not all the same colour. So it sounds as if a few colours here and there might help you.
Lot of stories and people say ghost are bad, but I never heard anyone say why.
So I stopped worrying eventually as kid as I made conscious decision to make it a point and ask them why are they scaring people. But none ever came. So.....:act-up:
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I have what is known as processes of re-adjustment.

The emotions are, to be as were, to understand what to do when I feel I must act but I hold back.

The balance is in knowing what to say and what not to say because each mistake takes days/weeks of recovery.

It might even be that the feelings are so much I shake so much because of anger and pain but it is more about looking into the eyes, I cannot look people in the eyes because I have fear. Rejection has always made it hard to adjust, I get depression from all the isolation I had imposed on myself when I did not want to deal with it anymore.
 

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Could it just be your physiological need to sleep more in the cold months to conserve energy?
Many people do feel more tired in Winter.
I lived in hibernation for a good amount of time this winter, and I am in waking up phase.
Usually I gain weight, my moods swings more towards depressive and I tend to sleep more.
Its spring and the sun is starting to start me up.
Yes hibernation is real, just because scientists don't notice does not mean its real.
Lots of things are not scientific, but real, until some scientist decide to do the damn science and catch up with reality.
I am actually surprised people don't notice the slow biorhythms in winter.
 
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