How to survive/ INTP coping mecanisms in a workplace?

[WALKYRIA]

...And especially in a non INTP workplace setting?

I mean seriously, when u need to be evaluated by dumb superiors who are incapable to see the depth of your soul, than what to do?
Some superiors think that I'm just a clown and I'm getting a bad reputation.

I simply seem to be inappropriate for the job setting; My problem is that I stay true to my self; I seem to never compromise....
- I don't adapt very well and very fast to a new work environment.
- I almost never show emotions unless it's a private thing(thus outside of work).
- I don't work well with co-workers.
- I hate implicit rules. I love clear objectives.
- I don't connect with people in the workplace.
- I don't respond to their emotional demands.
- I "act" more professionally than my superiors.
- Don't know why, but people seem to see through the impostor that I am... I seem to radiate something ambiguous(good and bad; bright and inappropriate at the same time) / not pleasurable.( I make them and myself uncomfortable !)
- There seem to be implicit workplace rules that I am incapable to understand.
- I hate being bossed out or micro managed.
- I radiate rebellious beams...
- I " seem" to radiate pure arrogance/ displaced wisdom/ displaced display of high intellect... And then people(superiors) seem to be happy with putting me down for whatever reason that it is. They just love to correct the young, crazy and arrogant INTP.
- I am highly sensitive to criticism... which is something wrong it seems so in the work place.
- I judge people by their appearance(smart vs dumb; competent vs not so competent..Etc)... And then I clash myself for that misbehavior/ misinterpretation.
- I'm not impressed by my superiors or direct micro-managers... Which conveys disrespectfulness.
- I use big words sometimes.
- People( superiors) seem to kinda be afraid of me...
- I work badly with incompetent superiors or ego driven superiors( people who are not okay with accepting or admitting they did something wrong)... I tend to intentionally lower my competence.. but they don't seem to appreciate my gentle move; quite the contrary.
- I love independence.
- I don't participate to the non-work related issues at the work place. When A superior throws a jokes...I don't respond appropriately or simply don't laugh. And then people look at me in a weird way. I don't go to social meetings or gatherings.
- I'm questioning and rebellious in my mannerisms and behavior.
- I'm sorry for girls, but I seem to be incapable to work well with women superiors also... I kinda have a clashing relationship with girls superiors. They hate and like me at the same time. Don't know. I have not being used to be managed or told what to do...Actually !!never !!! since I didnt grow up with significant and consistent authority figures. Not all the time, but many time...Whenever they try to put me down or teach me something.... I seem to become uncomfortable or seem to not give them enough credit... And yeah, they sense that something is wrong with how I respond to orders. This I think is a real issue. Bosses and a fortiori women managers seem to irritate me a lot.
I pretty much consistently have been downgraded or got bad evaluations with women bosses- male bosses are okay... Am I unconsciously being misogynistic or women bosses are indeed the worst?
- I adopt a fake persona at work.. and they see it, and they don't like that.
- It's seems difficult for me to interact daily with more than 3-5 persons. Imagine now that there are tons of high ego people managing you.


IN conclusion, I seem to approach the occidental work environment in a very wrong way ; at least comparatively to other med students.... I just don't thrive.
The hard thing is that in a world(work environment) where adaptation is a key factor for success... Those who remain neutral fail. The worst thing in here is that I'm not able to see where I'm wrong; I feel helpless. (and I'm not sure I would like to change my behavior anyway , good or bad grades/ evaluations !)
I mean; I came in to learn the job and superiors want me to connect with workmates more than to learn the job.... to hell. I'm beginning to be used with the fact that I'm just inappropriate for work environment.

what to do? All my life I felt that I was somehow different.. comparatively to school mates; now at the work place the differentiation seem to be at it's peaks( but things weren't that serious back then... I was weird, and I didn't care/ I could afford to not care)... now things are getting even worse because people's- many times harsh- judgments must be taken seriously( and analyzed) . This is novel.

 

[sushi]

switch to another job.

 

[walfin]

- I'm sorry for girls, but I seem to be incapable to work well with women superiors also... I kinda have a clashing relationship with girls superiors. They hate and like me at the same time. Don't know. I have not being used to be managed or told what to do...Actually !!never !!! since I didnt grow up with significant and consistent authority figures. Not all the time, but many time...Whenever they try to put me down or teach me something.... I seem to become uncomfortable or seem to not give them enough credit... And yeah, they sense that something is wrong with how I respond to orders. This I think is a real issue. Bosses and a fortiori women managers seem to irritate me a lot.
I pretty much consistently have been downgraded or got bad evaluations with women bosses- male bosses are okay... Am I unconsciously being misogynistic or women bosses are indeed the worst?

Off topic but this seems to be true the world around. Female managers are more often perceived to be extra finicky about compliance with all manner of arcane rules, backstabbers, etc.

Then again, I suspect most of the people here would work very well with an INTP female superior. I've often heard that people prefer "male managers or female managers with male traits" (and by "male traits", I don't mean aggression). Which suggests to me that it probably is a result of the difference in personality distributions between the genders (there are more females who are F and J). I personally think I'd rather work for an INTP woman than an ESFJ man.

 

[Pyropyro]

Off topic but this seems to be true the world around. Female managers are more often perceived to be extra finicky about compliance with all manner of arcane rules, backstabbers, etc.

I only had one annoying female boss who pretends she's alpha or something yet quietly slinks away or diverts all the hate to her staff whenever shit hits the fan. After years of patience she was finally transferred to somewhere her "skills" will produce the least harm.

Generally, I never consider my female bosses as "Mothers" but they usually act as mothers to me with both positive and negative aspects of such relationship. I've lead and been lead by females and I really don't mind either way.

 

[Valentas]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ZqFo0yifYI&list=UUC3L8QaxqEGUiBC252GHy3w

Ideally. I see my inability to engage in regular activities: watching sports with roommates(they don't like me for that), I don't like speaking regular topics because they cannot offer anything I don't know already. So, in the end, I am called 'Encyclopedia' and I like that but many people feel inferior and thus hate me. I suggest to accept that you're unique and that everybody in your work are unique too. So, you won't find common ground all the time. Just do your best and don't fake yourself to someone you are not.

 

[GreyArea]

Having had most of the feelings that you just listed in my previous work experiences; I would recommend a change in perspective. I have realized and had to cope with the reality that I am not the center of the universe and that everyone else will not fit to me, rather I must fit to it. It is hard being the way we are, we see the world as falling short of the ideal that we set forth in our mind. You should accept this fact and work to adjust yourself to fit in with the environment that you find yourself in, because I can assure you that it will not change for you.

 

[Ariel]

First, try to look for your primary, or at least strong secondary, sources of happiness outside your specific workplace. Even if you love your work, that means finding pleasure intrinsically in the doing of it, rather than in others' reactions or lack thereof.

Second, evaluate if you're in the right line of work, and if so, if you're at the right location, entity or group for practicing it. If not, make adjustments if you can. If you cannot, use your thinking skills to start establishing and reinforcing protections for your emotions. Certainly, find ways to strengthen your positive emotions and positive attitudes.

Third, for all types of work and workplaces, allow for the fact that it isn't there for the purpose of making you happy, as such. It's there for organizing a diverse group of people to accomplish a purpose and set of tasks. It's business, not personal.

Find happiness. Be a source of positive energy to others. Within the "golden rule", be good for others and do good things for others, without expecting anything in return. Be good to yourself.