Homeless

[Pythia]

I just got kicked out of this house.

I'm living with an old lady who assists and shelters female college students, but apparently she believes I'm a rebel who conspires against her and instructs her roommates, simply because I don't suppress my discomfort and don't fear her (my roommates do, both things). I have a month to get my ass out of here.

Like I have nothing better to do than to plot against her: I have to finish five final essays within the next two weeks! Now, thanks to her, I won't be able to focus, because I have to look for another place to move into.

She was even rude enough to "advice" me to care a little more about how other people perceive me. Just because she's a paranoid old lady who keeps repeating to others and to herself that she is a righteous, honest person (bullshit, by the way: she's the bitchiest bitch I've ever met).

I hate being restless like this.

 

[Adymus]

... ENFJ?

 

[Pythia]

Definitely not E, of that I'm sure.

 

[Adymus]

Maybe crazy INFJ then.


So how did you get kicked out?

 

[Pythia]

Not crazy, just going through a crisis. Not sure of my type, though: I used to believe firmly I was an INTP, but I'm not so sure anymore.

I just explained how: she's crazy (she REALLY is) and finds me troublesome, though I avoid trouble like the plague. I hate this sort of conflicts.
She didn't even listen to me: she thought that everything I said was meant to insult her, and didn't understand me when I told her that my words are subjective because though they mean something to me they might mean something entirely different to her.
She didn't even tried to listen to me, she had already decided to kick me out before I said a word.

 

[Adymus]

No no no I was asking you what this lady's type was, not yours.

Oh shit, sorry, I misinterpreted that as: you got kicked out of your parents house and then started living with an Old Lady who thinks you are conspiring against her, and now is about to kick you out too.

 

[Pythia]

Big misunderstanding...

I don't know about her type, it's hard to tell since she's not completely sane. All I know for sure about her is that she enjoys other's pain.

And no, I moved out of my parent's house because I moved out my hometown to attend college. Me living with this lady was actually my mother's idea...

Edit: thought you'd called me an ENTJ because throwing these tantrums is very unlike me and feel sort of guilty, I guess.

 

[bananaphallus]

Would you have continued living with this bitch after the semester closed had she not flipped her lid and kicked you out?

 

[Pythia]

Yes, believe it or not I was pretty comfortable.

I barely ever see her, I live on the 2nd floor with other 6 girls, and we get along quite well. I only go to her room (and her office, and her everything since she is there 98% of her time) every month to pay the rent.

 

[Adymus]

Yeah, she sounds like she is a type that use some kind of Fe and Ni combination (Actually, she sounds almost exactly like my mom), sounds like ENFJ just because she seems to have a much greater focus on social graces, but I've seen some INFJs who are similar. The only difference is, they usually don't let people see how crazy they are. Although that advice on caring more about how people perceive you does sound like it could be an Se shadow projection.


Sorry about that, analyzing personality in the middle of your crisis, I'm sorry to hear, you should find a coffee shop and do your studying there while still living in that house. Just to get you away from her.

 

[Cognisant]

Not crazy, just going through a crisis.

Adymus was probably referring to the old lady.

I'm living with an old lady who assists and shelters female college students

But why?
I guarantee it's not because she's "just nice like that".

I just explained how: she's crazy (she REALLY is) and finds me troublesome, though I avoid trouble like the plague. I hate this sort of conflicts.

If you really want to reconcile with her you'll have to do it with your throat figuratively exposed, like how a lone wolf enters a pack by successively surrendering to them, the basic idea being that you want to put her in a position where she'll feel ashamed if she's anything but nice to you because you've given her full control of the situation, i.e. wolf packs have been know to kill lone wolves, but never in cold blood. Once you’ve established acceptance you can build upon it, nurturing a relationship of civility at first, then mutual respect, and eventually trust.

 

[bananaphallus]

Do you think it's possible she might reverse her decision if you start not doing whatever it is you were doing that she didn't like? Or would it not be worth it? How firm does she seem about this? What about having the people you live with speak to her, and urge her to reconsider?

 

[Words]

Beyond all these posts and threads, I've always thought of the possibility that people could be lying.

Though recently, my immediate reaction to this one was "this could be very one-sided".

Clearly I lack the information. Just that, I hope people will make conclusions in a more thorough fashion.

 

[Pythia]

@ Adymus: Don't worry about analyzing her, she's actually an interesting and challenging case. I think ENFJ is more likely, since she seems to love unexpected visits. But then again, her insanity makes the edges all blurry.
I've actually been doing the coffee shop thing for a couple of days now (she's been being difficult lately, maybe should get her medication adjusted), but I think I'll lock myself in my room from now on: she has a copy of my keys.
Sorry to hear this lady reminds you of your mom.

@ OreSama: yes, I know he was referring to the old lady, but I wasn't thinking straight. I'm more calmed now, though.
And no, she's not just "nice like that", she does it for a living. That's very common here (in Mexico).
And thank you for the advice, but I don't think I can do it, I'm way too proud. And I don't really want to reconcile with her. Actually I never really liked her...

@Bananaphallus: she won't reconsider, she has a tradition of kicking out girls she doesn't like for the oddest reasons. She dismissed two last semester, and tonight she kicked another girl out with me. And I can't stop doing whatever bothers her, because I don't know for sure what it is.

@ Words: yes, this is very one sided, indeed... but I can't see her perspective because she won't allow me, nor will she agree to try to understand mine (I actually tried to explain her some things, and she bluntly laughed in my face; apparently she thinks I'm retarded because I don't see the world the way she does).