help me ، I have a sexual problem

[elyas_malaky]

Thats ok elyas_malaky, lets start again.
Google translate is doing a good job I understand you well.

Every 19 year old thinks about sex a lot, this is normal but you are putting too much importance on it. If you are having problems masturbating, slow down and enjoy the feelings.

Ask Serac, he is an expert! Masturbation and Existential crisis' are what he does best!
Lol, that is me teasing Serac. People have a lot of fun here as we are friends not doctors. There are a lot of intelligent people in the Forum and can help with many questions but some are too difficult to answer in writing.

So What is the most important question?
I don't know you so cannot help you with typing yourself. I can help later once you have joined many different discussions and shared your thoughts as type shows in the way you answer questions and the topics of discussion you like.

No I don't think about sex at 19 I said that first ... I was thinking of sex from the age of 9-10 When I have to be the recipient of pleasure, I get so stressed out that I can't continue. I can't have sex Stress prevents too much, which is why I make sex for others Since I have low self-esteem, I can't get in touch with the opposite sex. So there is no choice left for me

 

[elyas_malaky]

I hate myself for one reason
I have almost no control over my behavior
I fought with my family for 10 years to prove this to them. But in the end I failed
My brain may still be stuck in the first impasse of nature
I have no will because every time I get a little stranger, I like to do a great job for him to compensate for my weakness.
Since in my subconscious, the biggest thing is sex, so I would love to have sex with any stranger. Good or bad this is my natural desire. I'm inherently a prostitute, the problem is where I have become both a boy and an intp

It means ...
My problem is ... as a prostitute ... I shouldn't be an intp
My desires and aspirations and even my abilities and talents all belong to esfj
But problems and fears and a bit of my anger belong to intp
Maybe I got stuck in the middle
Maybe when my brain was converted from ESFJ to INTP, it stopped and stopped.
Maybe

 

[elyas_malaky]

Except for you, no one knows that I unconsciously wish I was a prostitute.
All of you are a scientist, engineer, inventor and artist
But I'm an INTP, none of this

 

[darque]

Ok, thank you this is easier for me to answer.

When I have to be the recipient of pleasure

Why? Pleasure seeking is hedonistic and self destructive. There is a deeper psychological question that you need to understand.

Since I have low self-esteem

Self-esteem is something you develop through achievement, such as healthy relationships with others, the development of skills and earning income from them.

What is your relationship with your parents?

Ok, again, please slow down, I haven't answered your first question yet. We need to have a conversation.

I fought with my family for 10 years to prove this to them

Ok, please explain this to me, tell me about your family.

 

[elyas_malaky]

Don't judge me
If I want to be a prostitute just because I can't feel sex myself
Parts of my identity and ego have been completely destroyed
If I could have had no stress, I would never have come down to that level

 

[elyas_malaky]

Ok, thank you this is easier for me to answer.

When I have to be the recipient of pleasure

Why? Pleasure seeking is hedonistic and self destructive. There is a deeper psychological question that you need to understand.

Since I have low self-esteem

Self-esteem is something you develop through achievement, such as healthy relationships with others, the development of skills and earning income from them.

What is your relationship with your parents?

Ok, again, please slow down, I haven't answered your first question yet. We need to have a conversation.

I fought with my family for 10 years to prove this to them

Ok, please explain this to me, tell me about your family.

Here is Iran
Family means chaos

 

[elyas_malaky]

Six months ago I went to a psychologist
The studies he did were aimed at identifying a childhood injury
(Did you mean ...?)
Finally, the doctor confidently said that nothing happened in my childhood and childhood that would damage my personality
He said the notions that I should serve others are probably of genetic origin, he introduced me to the mbti test, I did the intp test, I tried the intp again, I tried the intp again,
I read all the typefaces, most of all I felt like esfj. But my fears and problems are more like intp
But the important conclusion was that my problems were not of environmental origin

 

[darque]

Ok, obviously I am naive regarding the Iranian culture. I know a little, but I need you to help me understand 'family mean chaos'.

Most families are chaotic, but there is also love.
Is your mother nurturing? Is she compassionate? Does she show you affection?
Is your father supportive? Is he respectful and respected by other men? Is he successful?

 

[Black Rose]

Think most you need a friend.
Yes, it is support needed. Getting unstuck.
I feel sad. But not alone. I have support.
I have support from many people.
Do not worry, just remember to seek empathy.
You are important to many.
But understanding requires time.

 

[Black Rose]

Find what makes you happy.

 

[darque]

I would be interesting in the types of questions the doctor asked.
Was he referring to physical injuries or abuse?
Did he ask the kinds of questions I just wrote about regarding the psychological environment that you were raised in?

Babies are born knowing nothing and rely upon an emotional connection with their parents to feel safe and loved. If this is absent, we will seek this love other ways like food or sex, but these will never satisfy you.

 

[elyas_malaky]

The worse my sex system gets, the more I care about it.
As I study, I put my hand on my breasts to prevent sex from being forgotten.
Whenever there is a problem or issue in my life that can distract me from sex, I still keep an eye on sex on the sidelines.
Interestingly, I notice something that is flawed, broken, malfunctioning. It makes me angry most of all

My mother does not stay in the weaknesses of her life, wherever there are weaknesses, she is rejected
My brain is the other way around, and whenever I see a defect or a weakness, I get more into it. It has to do with Fe, Fe loves nature's weaknesses because it wants to fix them
I don't really know what Fi is and what Fi feels like, but now that I think I wish I was like a mother Fi Fi I was focused only on the positive parts of the world

 

[darque]

Animekitty is right. He has a complicated condition that requires a lot of medication so he knows how difficult inner health is.

So relax, you are among friends who will not judge you if you are respectful. We are all very busy and your problems are complicated so it will take a long time and you may not get answers straight away. We are regular members so will be watching out for your questions.

Don't be foolish with your health and only take medications or drugs prescribed by your doctor.

Sex is not an important aspect of life and cannot make you happy. You need good relationships and feelings of being a useful person in your society.

Concentrate on friends and studies. Be gentle with masturbation and learn to love yourself and the feelings you can create for yourself. You cannot please another person until you are comfortable with yourself.

 

[elyas_malaky]

Find what makes you happy.

$ex
From my early teens I just enjoyed thinking about sex, teachers, friends, TV characters, all of them rejecting sex filtering. Now as an adult, I find that my sex system is broken. I'm a impotent person
Just like Theon Greyjoy and Kant and Benjamin engels

 

[Black Rose]

There is always something positive to latch onto.

 

[elyas_malaky]

I would be interesting in the types of questions the doctor asked.
Was he referring to physical injuries or abuse?
Did he ask the kinds of questions I just wrote about regarding the psychological environment that you were raised in?

Babies are born knowing nothing and rely upon an emotional connection with their parents to feel safe and loved. If this is absent, we will seek this love other ways like food or sex, but these will never satisfy you.

In the end, he stated what was the purpose of his investigations
Yes
He was looking for a severe physical injury. He wanted to know if I was harmed by someone during infancy
The answer was no
These tendencies are purely genetic, I know someone who is not willing to look at others, but I want to connect my whole body to their body

Maybe I am just kind stupid

 

[darque]

Ok, so you need to speak to your doctor regarding anxiety and obsession on sex. There is medication to help both anxiety and obsessive behaviour.

It is your obsession on sex that is preventing you from having a healthy sexual perspective. Get the obsessive urges under control first, then learn to build healthy relationships and respect for women.

 

[darque]

Mental health is not genetic and it is not MBTI. Stop looking at these as there is no answers in these fields of study.

You are anxious and you are obsessed on one topic. These are what you need to speak to your doctor about. Promise me you will make an appointment and discuss these with him today.

 

[Black Rose]

@elyas_malaky

I am still a virgin. I am male.
I worry I will always be one.
but I do not let it define me. (virginity)
masturbation is fun but I only want one to be with.
not specific but for each other. (someone)

I am sorry about your genetic defect.

 

[darque]

He was looking for a severe physical injury. He wanted to know if I was harmed by someone during infancy
The answer was no

I suspected this is what the doctor would be looking for.

My mother does not stay in the weaknesses of her life, wherever there are weaknesses, she is rejected

Please tell me more about your relationship with your mother. She sounds like a strong woman. Do you feel loved by her?

 

[darque]

I am still a virgin. I am male.
I worry I will always be one.
but I do not let it define me.
masturbation is fun I only want one to be with.
not specific but for each other.

I'm sorry Animekitty, we all have a desire to find someone who understands and appreciates us but it cannot be forced. Loneliness can only be combated through engaging with others. Do you get much opportunity to socialise with others?

 

[elyas_malaky]

There is always something positive to latch onto.

Nothing else comes to my mind except for men and women and sex and a few neighborly things
Maybe .... maybe .... if the problem of sex is solved and I don't have stress, I want to ... really.
Actor that dont
I don't like directing at all,

A job where a lot of women are involved

 

[elyas_malaky]

He was looking for a severe physical injury. He wanted to know if I was harmed by someone during infancy
The answer was no

I suspected this is what the doctor would be looking for.

My mother does not stay in the weaknesses of her life, wherever there are weaknesses, she is rejected

Please tell me more about your relationship with your mother. She sounds like a strong woman. Do you feel loved by her?

I hate my mother
she hurt me so much
she humiliated me so much
she always used vulgar words in my description
I hate my mother
I hate my mother
I wish I had no mother. I hate him
she was beating me
I hate my mother

 

[Black Rose]

My mother is not an adult.
She has the mind of a child.
I communicate with the mind of a child.
I was very alone. My father left us early.

 

[elyas_malaky]

I am sorry about your genetic defect.

animekitty !
Google, badly translated
The doctor did not say I have a genetic defect
"I like to have sex with everybody," the doctor said

By the way, I don't see this as a flaw at all. In my opinion, this is the highest power. Because I am meeting the most basic need of people in my living environment and in doing so they have to protect me.
This is a survival strategy
My main problem is to put intp genes next to these attributes
There is a contradiction here
In fact, intp genes are my problem

pay attention ! I'm not saying intp genes are defective. I say it caused the problem of having 7 intp genes on me that I was a prostitute

For example, if there were my prostitute's genes beside the genes that made Einstein genius, he would be trapped.
The main problem is the incompatibility of two opposing genetic codes

 

[elyas_malaky]

My mother is not an adult.
She has the mind of a child.
I communicate with the mind of a child.
I was very alone. My father left us early.

Is your mother an isfp?
My mom is an istj. I wish in these 6 months I wish my mother was isfp.
isfp is very kind ,
my dad is isfj , (or kind estp , i dont know)

 

[elyas_malaky]

I wish my mother was an isfp
I wish my mother caressed me

 

[elyas_malaky]

But isfs are such that sometimes they need care

 

[elyas_malaky]

I think ...
the best dad in the world is estp
and
the best mom in the world is isfp

 

[elyas_malaky]

The father of one of my friends was estp, he was great, whenever he wanted to take his son to the amusement park, he would invite all of his son's friends and all of his son's enemies

 

[elyas_malaky]

You're a virgin because you didn't have me,
My only talent is:
To stimulate, to stimulate, to motivate,
Of course, if sex was important to you and you care about it, you would have done it,

 

[moody]

This forum is not the best place to get help for such a complicated problems.
We can only offer you suggestions, but all of us are random individuals who aren’t garunteed to have an answer.

From what I’ve read, there is big problem that stands out to me:
Stress is never the cause of your problem. Stress comes from something else. To fix stress, you need to find what causes the stress and address it from there. Otherwise, no one can help you. Being an INTP doesn’t cause you to have anxiety about sex.

 

[elyas_malaky]

This is my phone number :

00989034578777

If you know Farsi, call me and talk to me

my name is elyas
19
tehran , iran

 

[darque]

Your type does not define you as a good or bad person. These are values and respect for the dignity of others. You have a right to respect and love.

I agree with moody, this is not the place to find the help you need.

I hate my mother
she hurt me so much
she humiliated me so much
she always used vulgar words in my description
I hate my mother
I hate my mother
I wish I had no mother. I hate him
she was beating me
I hate my mother

This is concerning elyas_malaky if you dos not feel safe at home you need to reach out to your doctor, school, friends and family, anyone who you trust, so you can get some protection and somewhere that you feel safe.

Again, speak to your doctor regarding your obsessions and anxiety so you can find some medication that will help reduce these urges.

 

[elyas_malaky]

serac
Adaire
peoplesuck
darque
animekitty
Cognisant
moody

I am very, very, very happy to have new friends

Thank you very much for helping me and responding

You guys are fantastic
I love you all

 

[darque]

I'm glad you feel that way and thank you for acknowledging us by name.

We are worried for you, and want to help, but feel a little paralysed as there is very little we can do to directly help you with your problems, and do not want you to think we have answers that we don't.

The most important thing is that you are living somewhere that is safe and you are not feeling anxious and obsessive. Focus on these things first; today. Then please come back and talk to us about the other things.

Take care and be safe.

 

[elyas_malaky]

Your type does not define you as a good or bad person. These are values and respect for the dignity of others. You have a right to respect and love.

I agree with moody, this is not the place to find the help you need.

I hate my mother
she hurt me so much
she humiliated me so much
she always used vulgar words in my description
I hate my mother
I hate my mother
I wish I had no mother. I hate him
she was beating me
I hate my mother

This is concerning elyas_malaky if you dos not feel safe at home you need to reach out to your doctor, school, friends and family, anyone who you trust, so you can get some protection and somewhere that you feel safe.

Again, speak to your doctor regarding your obsessions and anxiety so you can find some medication that will help reduce these urges.

This is my childhood
His torture ended long ago
Because ...
I have grown and become strong and can defend myself
And
She is also old and can not attack me

 

[Ex-User (16576)]

I'll try to do research for you the best I can. wait im confused this forum is long

 

[elyas_malaky]

Thanks again for paying attention to me

I take medicine
Fluoxetine
I was examined by a psychologist. He gave you exactly what he was looking for, obsession and anxiety
He then referred me to a psychiatrist to give me a pill based on the illness he had identified.
I took the pill and took the highest dose
But I was not cured
I consulted the doctor myself, he recommended neurofeedback. I went neurofeedback too, but it still didn't go well
I went to the doctor again. I begged the doctor. I asked her to give her a new pill, she did, but to no avail
All roads failed
Because my problem is not psychological. My problem is behavioral genetics
I can't modify genetics
But I can behave
I was looking for a certain behavior or task. I said maybe some of you already had my problem
I wanted to know how I could relieve sex stress
As one friend said, I should not rush to get an answer. I have to be calm, I have to be patient
But the idea that came to my mind half an hour ago was to buy a mask and hide under the mask so that no one would see me. I have to try this, maybe it relieves stress. Maybe

 

[Grayman]

Except for you, no one knows that I unconsciously wish I was a prostitute.
All of you are a scientist, engineer, inventor and artist
But I'm an INTP, none of this

Is there a country where you can go to school to become a prostitute? It's probably not best as a family run business or a trade that can be passed on to your children so it would seem like schools should exist dfor it.

 

[Grayman]

stressed out that I can't continue. I can't have sex Stress prevents too much, which is why I make sex for others Since I have low self-esteem, I can't get in touch with the opposite sex. So there is no choice left for me

What about same-sex? Why close that door?!

 

[elyas_malaky]

WOW! that was funny, I'll try to do research for you the best I can. wait im confused this forum is long

Except for you, no one knows that I unconsciously wish I was a prostitute.
All of you are a scientist, engineer, inventor and artist
But I'm an INTP, none of this

Is there a country where you can go to school to become a prostitute? It's probably not best as a family run business or a trade that can be passed on to your children so it would seem like schools should exist dfor it.

Due to moral limitations, I was unable to say what I meant

 

[crippli]

Lessening stress isn't what I am best at. Maybe I am even causing it. If that is the case. I am sorry.

 

[Grayman]

Six months ago I went to a psychologist
The studies he did were aimed at identifying a childhood injury
(Did you mean ...?)
Finally, the doctor confidently said that nothing happened in my childhood and childhood that would damage my personality
He said the notions that I should serve others are probably of genetic origin, he introduced me to the mbti test, I did the intp test, I tried the intp again, I tried the intp again,
I read all the typefaces, most of all I felt like esfj. But my fears and problems are more like intp
But the important conclusion was that my problems were not of environmental origin

Where they looking at Schizoid personality disorder? Just sounds like severe anxiety to me. Why do you care so much?

 

[Ex-User (16576)]

Except for you, no one knows that I unconsciously wish I was a prostitute.
All of you are a scientist, engineer, inventor and artist
But I'm an INTP, none of this

Thanks again for paying attention to me

I take medicine
Fluoxetine
I was examined by a psychologist. He gave you exactly what he was looking for, obsession and anxiety
He then referred me to a psychiatrist to give me a pill based on the illness he had identified.
I took the pill and took the highest dose
But I was not cured
I consulted the doctor myself, he recommended neurofeedback. I went neurofeedback too, but it still didn't go well
I went to the doctor again. I begged the doctor. I asked her to give her a new pill, she did, but to no avail
All roads failed
Because my problem is not psychological. My problem is behavioral genetics
I can't modify genetics
But I can behave
I was looking for a certain behavior or task. I said maybe some of you already had my problem
I wanted to know how I could relieve sex stress
As one friend said, I should not rush to get an answer. I have to be calm, I have to be patient
But the idea that came to my mind half an hour ago was to buy a mask and hide under the mask so that no one would see me. I have to try this, maybe it relieves stress. Maybe

Did you try things to help with stress? or maybe it's the medicine.

 

[darque]

Ok, so how long did you take Fluoxetine?
What were the other medications and do you still take them?

Antidepressants like Fluoxetine can take a long time to take effect and should be taken for 6 - 12 months as a minimum to ensure your body can stabilise. They are not a cure for an illness but help to reduce symptoms so you can function more clearly.

You still need to find healthier interests and do things that are productive and appreciated by others. These will give you a sense of accomplishment and make you feel valued by others.

This is my childhood
His torture ended long ago
Because ...
I have grown and become strong and can defend myself
And
She is also old and can not attack me

I'm glad your suffering has been overcome. Well done you are a strong person and I am happy that you are safer now.

 

[elyas_malaky]

stressed out that I can't continue. I can't have sex Stress prevents too much, which is why I make sex for others Since I have low self-esteem, I can't get in touch with the opposite sex. So there is no choice left for me

What about same-sex? Why close that door?!

I'll give you an example
For example
Women need a man for sex
Now if men are not provided, women will use other tools for it
For example toys
This is the rule of nature
Needs cannot be fought. They always are. They do not disappear
Only the tools it needs will change

I look like the woman I lost my wife to doing the wrong thing in an artificial way

I realized, I can't have sex because my body shakes like I'm in the coldest part of the earth

But what should I do? I cannot keep this energy within myself. Finally I have to empty it in one way

Well then I went to masturbate
But masturbation, like sex, also gave me stress

So I was depressed and pulled out
I was just like the tour at Evgers 4

Until I had to leave the house to buy

When I got out of the house, I felt very comfortable and secure with most of the men passing by, and I wanted them to hug me.
I needed to be hugged by another man that day so I decided to go to my friend's house.
Hug at least one familiar person
There, when I came into his house, the thought of doing something special came to me, and worst of all, that thought had no stress on itself.
I hated myself and came back. I knew exactly who I was and who I was. Then I went to Dr. Psychologist because these thoughts were and continue to be just like the growth of cancer ...

 

[elyas_malaky]

al

Except for you, no one knows that I unconsciously wish I was a prostitute.
All of you are a scientist, engineer, inventor and artist
But I'm an INTP, none of this

Thanks again for paying attention to me

I take medicine
Fluoxetine
I was examined by a psychologist. He gave you exactly what he was looking for, obsession and anxiety
He then referred me to a psychiatrist to give me a pill based on the illness he had identified.
I took the pill and took the highest dose
But I was not cured
I consulted the doctor myself, he recommended neurofeedback. I went neurofeedback too, but it still didn't go well
I went to the doctor again. I begged the doctor. I asked her to give her a new pill, she did, but to no avail
All roads failed
Because my problem is not psychological. My problem is behavioral genetics
I can't modify genetics
But I can behave
I was looking for a certain behavior or task. I said maybe some of you already had my problem
I wanted to know how I could relieve sex stress
As one friend said, I should not rush to get an answer. I have to be calm, I have to be patient
But the idea that came to my mind half an hour ago was to buy a mask and hide under the mask so that no one would see me. I have to try this, maybe it relieves stress. Maybe

Did you try things to help with stress? or maybe it's the medicine.

lsd
alcohol
ecstazy
marijuana ( very very bad )

Just these

 

[darque]

lsd
alcohol
ecstazy
marijuana ( very very bad )

These are all very bad and not a solution.
You need to return to your Psychologist and get an appropriate antidepressant.

There is nothing more I can suggest until you have done this elyas_malaky.
Your current method of coping through self medication is destructive and I will not support you if you continue with this method.

You also need to acknowledge that sex is a symptom of your condition and not an answer. You need to make healthier choices.

I am going to leave now. I am happy to talk to you again once you have seen your doctor or psychologist; good Luck.

 

[elyas_malaky]

Six months ago I went to a psychologist
The studies he did were aimed at identifying a childhood injury
(Did you mean ...?)
Finally, the doctor confidently said that nothing happened in my childhood and childhood that would damage my personality
He said the notions that I should serve others are probably of genetic origin, he introduced me to the mbti test, I did the intp test, I tried the intp again, I tried the intp again,
I read all the typefaces, most of all I felt like esfj. But my fears and problems are more like intp
But the important conclusion was that my problems were not of environmental origin

Where they looking at Schizoid personality disorder? Just sounds like severe anxiety to me. Why do you care so much?

Not
The doctor did not seek to detect schizophrenia
The doctor wanted to know if I was raped as CHILD
He concluded from the environment that I was not hit
The doctor said I was obsessed and anxious
The reason is also genetics
I don't have schizophrenia
However, I always suspected multi-personality disorder
What makes me sure I don't have many characters is that this disease belongs to the INFJs
And I'm sure I'm not INFJ
If you say I have a multi-personality disorder it's just like saying INTP has a histrionic personality disorder !!
I'm not a multi-personality, but I liked to be
I kind of want to be everyone
But that's just an interest, I'm not really like that