# help me ، I have a sexual problem

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#### elyas_malaky

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I do not know English . I am from iran . i use vpn for enter to in site , soory for my languege . For writing this text I had to get help from Google Transylite. I am 19 years old . I'm a boy. MBTI said I'm INTP. I have a sexual problem, my brother is an ISFJ and he does not. My friend is ISTP and doesn't have this problem. But my sister who is an INTP is just like me having trouble.

#### elyas_malaky

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I'm not attractive to any girl, because I can't be strong and brave
I have another problem.
I say maybe Kant never married anyone because of such a problem.

#### elyas_malaky

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I have mental weakness, it makes my body weak and not working well. Of all the things in the world, I only dreamed of having sex. Now I see that I can't even get close to sex. I used alcohol, LSD, marijuana and ecstasy, none of which worked, maybe blocking me but I have to say: if you open my mind you only see the sexual content. I was just thinking about sex from age 9. Could this be the reason for this problem? Did I ruin my mind? Please someone answer. Why is it so quiet here? where are you ? Why don't you help your friend?

#### elyas_malaky

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I get stress when I masturbate
Heart palpitations, physical weakness, sweating, anger, hatred, tremor
But most painful of all is heart palpitations, I take blood pressure pills. But to no avail
I took the final exam and didn't get stressed, but I get stressed whenever I want to masturbate. I can't say fear of being blocked. I hope I have enough information

#### elyas_malaky

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Everything I did in my life and all the misery I endured was just to get to the day I could have sex, now that I was in such a ruin that I couldn't have sex with myself. I don't want to be Kant

#### elyas_malaky

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It was written that intp's are looking for knowledge
Oh, come on, that's not true.
I mean, at least I was never looking for knowledge, what I wanted was a little physical contact with everybody that passed by me.
So my dad says you and my sister are not intp at all, they say you are ispp. I don't think it's right.,
Because I always came up with a lot of sexy ideas, this is not Ni
Maybe if I could see my ideas inside my head I would become Ni

#### elyas_malaky

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I want to know how to relieve sex stress?
What did you do?
Didn't you have stress? Did you do it comfortably? Didn't you have a break? in mastburation ,I am interrupted. That means, for example, I get stuck 2 or 3 times in a fit, that means I stop and get busy. I have no peace

#### elyas_malaky

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I don't think anyone would want to help me because I'm an Iranian,

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However, forums are a slower medium of discussion. So it'll take members more time to respond. This is also a fairly personal question, so I suggest trying to build up a rapport with other members. Doesn't seem like a problem that can be solved quickly so I suggest a bit more patience.

#### elyas_malaky

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yes , you are right , i was very speed

#### Ex-User (14663)

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this sounds like a very complicated problem

#### elyas_malaky

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this sounds like a very complicated problem
Yes you guessed right.
My problem is very, very complicated and annoying.
For fear of being blocked, I didn SAY much

#### elyas_malaky

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But as much as I said I was sorry and ashamed

#### elyas_malaky

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Just ask a question and then go
Can someone be ESFJ, but have imagination and ideas?

That is, one person is ESFJ but because in MBTI test imagination, MBTI classifies him as an N entity.
While he is still S, he also uses N.
How likely is this to be true?
Because I'm never going to be an INTP with the conditions I have.
I studied all types. Most similar to ESFJ, but because of my ideas and dreams, MBI put me in the INTP portfolio.
The only thing that keeps me going INTP is fear and ideas
If someone tells me ESFJs can have a lot of ideas I would know I am ESFJ

#### elyas_malaky

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After familiarizing myself with the 8 functions of MBTI, I found that INTP had the lowest FE
While I don't feel my FE is the smallest part of my mind
You say determining which function is the smallest is the source of stress
Well my stress source wasn't really Fe.
That is, I never got anxious in emotional or social situations.
Get stuck
Being stuck
Stop
They show which function is inferior
I was always afraid of the method. Method, or how to do a job
That's what makes me stress
Ideas come to my mind because I don't know how to do it
Is the method TI?
So I have to be esfj. it's true ??؟

#### elyas_malaky

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Well if my poor performance is Ti ...
Either I have to be ESFJ or ENFJ

Since I can easily access new ideas, so I have to be an N
But I know I'm not
So I'm saying esfj
And my question to you is, can anyone be esfj and at the same time an idea maker?
Wait, game with dolls and toys , is ne ?

#### elyas_malaky

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Someone told me playing with dolls and toys is a Ni practice
But he didn't tell me why
I don't think so, what do you think? My imagination was not a story, it was a subject
It's too hard to tell

#### elyas_malaky

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In my mind, I formed a butterfly wing to Woody
In my mind, I gave Woody a Santa hat
In my mind, I attached a bag to hands Woody
And then I started playing
But the thing is, I didn't see any of these compounds that I made in my mind!
That is, I never saw a picture of Woody with a butterfly wing
But I attached a butterfly wing to Woody
That I was able to connect to pretty much anything indicates I'm ne
But that I couldn't see those connections inside my mind might mean I'm ESFJ with ne
It's really hard to explain
I had a friend . and i was jealous of her .
He made connections just like me, but saw those connections in his mind
So he didn't need to play with objects outside his mind
So am I an esfj ?
Or am I still considered an intp ?

#### elyas_malaky

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Again I saw an intp saying, his imagination is verbal
he said :
A connection is made, but nothing really obvious
I thought about it one day and I realized he was wrong, it's not really a verbal imagination.
Because this connection is not even word level. Because the word is generated in the sound section
This process results from a semantic connection
It is influenced by meaning, not by word or sound
Therefore, an intp imagination is a conceptual, semantic, subjective imagination
But my question is ...
Who is the imagination, the narrative and the story?
That is, if most of the intp don't own this model of imagination, then who owns this model of imagination?
I think actually intp's that have conceptual imagination are S's with big Ne
And those with narrative and elaborate imagination are themselves
Of course one would say the opposite is the case !!!

#### elyas_malaky

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My chemistry teacher at school was a chineseess
He was an Istj
All of us in the class knew this, because he was very, very law-abiding
Last year in high school, he said, "I'm visual.
No one asked him the personality type because no one dared to ask him anything
But right there, I thought maybe ne, in combination with Si, would be more sophisticated and bright
That is, those who have complex and vivid imagination may not be n
Of course, I conveyed this to my friends in a very bad way, which made everyone say a prostitute
But I think the imagination is complicated and full of details. Because I haven't even seen an intp that has the technical imagination
All of them have ideas, that is, connections that can be made, I don't say they don't have imagination, I say they don't have complex imagination, and those with complex imagination are like sj

#### elyas_malaky

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I wanna say ..
When my chemistry teacher had imagination and was ISTJ
Can't I be esfj and have an idea ????
perhaps my problem in sex , is for this phenomen

#### elyas_malaky

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I have a lot of stress while having sex (that's why I don't have sex)
The reason for this stress is not serotonin deficiency
Because I take the most potent serotonin enhancer. But I still have this problem
If it's not serotonin, what is it?
I say that during sex, I get overwhelmed with ideas and ideas
It is as if my brain views sex as a dangerous situation
So whenever I want to get into sex, my mind starts to brainstorm
I say the cause of my stress is the ideas and possibilities that are activated
Medical Solution
Dopamine antagonist
But dopamine antagonist pills also block my brain's D1 receptors and slow my memory.
Then no
This is not a good way either
I have to control activated ideas and thoughts in another way
So the next question is what is the subject of my ideas and thoughts
If the content of my ideas at risk is emotional and social, it means that Fe is subordinate to me.
But it really isn't
I mean, I don't think about how the other side is feeling, whether I'm happy or not, happy or not.
Because I already know all this
So I can't be intp. Because if I were intp I would have to stress about fe
So which function is my stressor?
I'm hesitant between Te and Ti. Definitely one of these is true, either I'm esfj or infp,

#### elyas_malaky

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Friends
You are all intp
Please tell me how sex can make you stress
fe should influence ideas and possibilities, are the content and content of these ideas emotional?

what is te !?
what is ti !?

#### elyas_malaky

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During sex, I don't get stressed out because of my feelings
That is, for example
If I do a bad thing and then become happy, I don't get stressed
So my weak function is definitely not Fi

During sex, I don't get stressed out because of the feelings of the other person
That is, for example
If my opponent cries on the ground, I won't stress
So my weak function is definitely not Fe

Se and ni are not

ne
ne is what I feel most about
So neither can my weak function

My weak function is either Si or Ti or Te
I reject you too. Although I don't know what Te is, I know I'm not Fi. Because I never want to do something for myself. I just love doing something for others
So I'm not getting into my own head
Because I like to pay attention to others
I can't pay attention to myself
Because I don't have Fi
My mother is ISTJ, she is not like me and my brother and sister
She only cares about herself, beautiful clothes, makeup, jewelry
We are not like that
Because our goal is to please other people, that's why I don't like combing my hair.
I'm not lazy. If they told me to comb the hair of the girls of the national team I would gladly do it
But when I have to do something for myself, I get depressed and postpone everything.
So the result is that my weak function is either Si or Te, otherwise it's impossible

#### elyas_malaky

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Si inferior = Entp
Ti inferior = Esfj

I only have one choice ...

MBTI said I'm intp
My father is isfj
My brother isfj
Sushionik says the derivative isfj becomes Entp
So I'm likely to be an Entp (which I categorized as introverted due to fatigue and fatigue)
I don't know, someone who doesn't help me, I did everything myself

#### elyas_malaky

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For example, it is quite clear that the last function of Serac is fe
Because he told me I had a difficult problem and then he left
He doesn't like helping people
So that means Serac is definitely an intp. But I can't be intp. Because if I were intp like serac, I would be less dependent on humans
In this analysis, I was convinced that what is causing me stress is not fe
So my problem is ti or si
I hope that this is what I want to say that will not block me. I say this to my friends, exactly what type I am to find the solution afterwards.

I beg you, if I do not block my speech, just warn me to remove it.

My friend was an ESFP. he was so beautiful, in the third year of high school, one of the kids bothered her. After that incident, he became obsessed, went to the bathroom for 6 hours every day, became too quiet and introverted, very isolated and lonely.
I said these things to get to a similar case I want to make

To a much greater degree, it happened to me at school, but I never suffered any mental injuries. Almost nothing of the incident left a bad impression on me
I wasn't really bothered
I think the difference between me and he is in fe and fi
I think Fe is more resistant to psychological damage and more tolerant. I think Fe gets better with emotional pain, he gets better with emotional pain, he gets better with emotional pain.

Now I said this to find out that Fe is very strong in me
Maybe if it had happened to an intp, he would have tolerated like me, but he would have sought revenge later.
But not only did I not retaliate, but I continued
These can all prove that I am esfj. Because fe is so strong in me that I fall in love with my enemies.
But on the other hand, I do not understand how I can be esfj and at the same time produce new ideas?

#### elyas_malaky

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increased blood flow to the peenoose means less blood in the brain, which makes the heart beat faster to compensate, which subsequently is interpreted by the brain as a fight-or-flight response
My stress is completely crippling
My stress makes me retreat
My stress makes me feel nothing
My stress makes me avoid sex. I haven't been like this before. I used to go into a phase of wit and mental retardation when I saw a stranger girl so I wouldn't have stress anymore.
But now I'm so stressed out that I can't even say hello
Believe me, I look like Benjamin engel

#### elyas_malaky

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increased blood flow to the peenoose means less blood in the brain, which makes the heart beat faster to compensate, which subsequently is interpreted by the brain as a fight-or-flight response
Am i esfj or entp? Which do I look more like?

#### elyas_malaky

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Can an entp know its purpose in satisfying the needs of others?

Can an Entp be a Service Provider?

#### elyas_malaky

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If I am entp, the reason for my stress is Si
That means the details of what I have to do make me scared

#### peoplesuck

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M8, take a chill pill.
relax.
google performance anxiety in the bedroom.
fix
profit?

#### elyas_malaky

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Which drug is best for increasing Si?
I used alcohol, marijuana, LSD and ecstasy
None of them treated my stress
Just ecstasy made me think, everyone loves me (which was so so dangerous)

#### Ex-User (14663)

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the best drug against stress is nihilism

#### elyas_malaky

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M8, take a chill pill.
relax.
google performance anxiety in the bedroom.
fix
profit?
I'm broken
I have no beauty, no intelligence, no money and wealth, no authority and power,
The only thing I hoped for one day was sex
Because sex was the only thing left for me to define my identity on
Now I realize that I am so flawed and wrong that even in this one case I do not have the talent and ability.

#### darque

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Hi elyas_malaky, welcome to the forum.
Please slow down, this is not a chat but a forum. You need to consider you questions and give other people time to respond before you add more. This can take days as the questions are complicated.

You are very agitated and upset and this cannot be resolved by the MBTI.
You need to find a therapist and doctor to work through many of your questions.
Sex can be very stressful for many people so don't worry, this is normal, again discuss this with a therapist.

People here are very nice and care but cannot answer if you do not give them the chance to. Slow down and ask 1 question at a time.

#### darque

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I'm broken
I'm sorry, again this is work for a therapist.

I have no beauty, no intelligence, no money and wealth, no authority and power,
The only thing I hoped for one day was sex
These things don't make a worthwhile life. Caring for other people will give you more fulfilment. You find sex stressful because you have put too much expectation on it. Sex is enjoyable but to have a loving relationship with another is more rewarding.

#### elyas_malaky

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My l-u-s-t is very, very high,
It takes me at least 20 years to become a nihilist

#### elyas_malaky

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Excuse me that I raised a lot of things in this short time. I listen to you and wait for my questions to be answered in the coming days ،

#### elyas_malaky

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I'm 100% sure I'm an ESFJ

#### darque

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Thats ok elyas_malaky, lets start again.
Google translate is doing a good job I understand you well.

Every 19 year old thinks about sex a lot, this is normal but you are putting too much importance on it. If you are having problems masturbating, slow down and enjoy the feelings.

Ask Serac, he is an expert! Masturbation and Existential crisis' are what he does best!
Lol, that is me teasing Serac. People have a lot of fun here as we are friends not doctors. There are a lot of intelligent people in the Forum and can help with many questions but some are too difficult to answer in writing.

So What is the most important question?
I don't know you so cannot help you with typing yourself. I can help later once you have joined many different discussions and shared your thoughts as type shows in the way you answer questions and the topics of discussion you like.

#### Cognisant

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I get stress when I masturbate
Heart palpitations, physical weakness, sweating, anger, hatred, tremor
But most painful of all is heart palpitations, I take blood pressure pills. But to no avail
Go see a doctor, stop self medicating before you kill yourself.

#### darque

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Go see a doctor, stop self medicating before you kill yourself.
I can see you have done this before... good advice.

I still say Serac should be starting a thread on 'The Existential Crisis of Masturbation'. The Nihilistic Masturbator would make an excellent book title.

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