Forum Ladies and Their Men

[Causeless]

I'm sure we all love Yeti.

This is the most entertaining thread in a long time.

And it's a thread where we pair people up.

*makes fake vomit noise*

 

[Minuend]

I feel left out.

(In the absence of sad faces, I present this semi-appropriate ninja.)

I present !

As for being considered a member of the weaker sex...females...*shudder*

Now, now, we can't help that. I can literally feel how my boobies are draining my neurons of mental power.

Oh, I curse thee oestrogen!

So, Minnie. Can I call you Minnie? I mean, it does always bring up images of Minnie Mouse, who doesn't have anyway near as gemometrically angular nose as you do, but still. Or would you prefer if I called you Minuendo? I don't know, that just brings up images of a small Italian suppository. Not good, not fitting.

So anyway, for some reason I decided to respond to this after a couple of glasses of wine, and now I've had wine. Suffice to say that I have fairly recently (within the last 6 months) come across someone who doesn't at all match the above description, and who makes me very happy. I'll be moving to a different country soon as a result.

How dare you go against my horoscope-like predictions of your future partner!

And it's a thread where we pair people up.

*makes fake vomit noise*

No, no, that's here

Causeless: Modest, down to earth and reliable. Kind, but somewhat distant. Doesn't like to elaborate on stuff too much. Sometimes grows impatient with Causelss.

More later

 

[Causeless]

Sometimes grows impatient with Causeless.

Pfft...

That's everyone.

 

[Puffy]

The more the merrier [?]

 

[cheese]

So, Minnie. Can I call you Minnie? I mean, it does always bring up images of Minnie Mouse, who doesn't have anyway near as gemometrically angular nose as you do, but still. Or would you prefer if I called you Minuendo? I don't know, that just brings up images of a small Italian suppository. Not good, not fitting.

So anyway, for some reason I decided to respond to this after a couple of glasses of wine, and now I've had wine. Suffice to say that I have fairly recently (within the last 6 months) come across someone who doesn't at all match the above description, and who makes me very happy. I'll be moving to a different country soon as a result.

I thought you were already married with kids and living in the suburbs?

Why is a country move necessary? How did you meet? Ignore if too personal.

 

[final-dimension]

This is the weirdest thread I have ever seen ...

 

[Minuend]

EvilScientist Trainee: Innocent nerd. Research comrade. Stays up all night to solve that annoying problem that will solve it all. EST finds her sleeping awkwardly on a chair with a pencil in her mouth and hand almost unconsciously reaching for that notebook on the floor. Terrible mood in the mornings.

Mellvar: Cheerful, but can be quickly annoyed when feeling overlooked. Needs attention to feel validated. Loyal to her friends (and boyfriend) and does everything for them. Sometimes feels that people take her kindness for granted, that they don't see how much she cares.

Chewbacca: I don't think I want to describe your lady because I.... feel sorry for her... Though, I probably shouldn't as her needs aren't the same as mine. She is probably happy in such a relationship.

Shoeless: Well, I suppose I'm biased in this one since you've talked about your boyfriend, I think. Like Cava, you're a bit hard to pin down. I think perhaps it is because of your strong vibe of independence. It's like you are... both parties in the relationship. I suppose it would be someone who provides the sensitive input. A guy who just wants to be there and hold you, be close to you. Who are with you outside to see the world.

Trebuchet: A handyman who knows how to get things done. Keeps the house and cars in shape. Practical and knows how things work. Reliable. A bit of a traditional male-type. Not in a bad way. He just have more typical "manly" stuff on his schedule and prefers to do such chores himself. But he's humble enough to accept that ladies are capable as well, so he is not judging in that regard. Not much of a talker. Generally awkward with showing his feelings and admitting weakness.

Cleverhouse: I'm not entirely certain of the humanity of this one. A mechanical walking dictionary who speaks in codes. Her eyes are...crazy. It's like they are processing information like a computer. More obsessed with facts than "understanding". Some people get a bit annoyed by her corrections which she sees as important details to see the picture clearly. Without facts, one is lost.

Kuu: Sarcastic and cynical. Poisonous tongue. Few dare verbally challenge this individual. Precise. Respected.

I suppose I should add Auburn as well, even though hir claims hir is not here anymore o_^. Well, this one is of the same species as hir. Emotional and intellectual insight and understanding that is matched by few. Sensitive and searching. Calm, quiet, pondering. Paradoxical, androgynous, depth.

Haven't observed Glor and Puffy enough.

 

[Lostwitheal]

I thought you were already married with kids and living in the suburbs?

Why is a country move necessary? How did you meet? Ignore if too personal.

Married, yes, kids, no. Suburbs, no. Middle of the countryside, yes.

A country move is necessary because she lives in a different country, shockingly. We met on an internet dating site, here

 

[Minuend]

Who is it? It's not me, is it?

I mean, I'm still in hiding after the last fellow showing up on my door demanding we were to be wed. I think his name was Meldor, Melvor or something like that

 

[Lostwitheal]

Oh Minnie, don't play dumb.

Remember that wonderful weekend we spent in Oslo? Or that road trip we went on to see the Northern Lights? Or that pizza place that we robbed at gunpoint..?

Such sweet, sweet memories.

 

[Jennywocky]

This is the weirdest thread I have ever seen ...

Don't sell this forum short. There have been weirder.

 

[Puffy]

Wouldn't have thought much weird about a romance thread. Must be because the relationships sub-forum has become no mans land.

 

[Causeless]

People meet up on here?

And here I was trying to refrain from being a creeper all this time.

 

[EvilScientist Trainee]

EvilScientist Trainee: Innocent nerd. Research comrade. Stays up all night to solve that annoying problem that will solve it all. EST finds her sleeping awkwardly on a chair with a pencil in her mouth and hand almost unconsciously reaching for that notebook on the floor. Terrible mood in the mornings.

I was like: Damn, I feel so left out. I'll probably die alone.

Then, I start reading the thread, and by the point I reach the quoted part, I raised my both arms and cheered.

I'm happy, even though I haven't met that innocent nerd yet.

 

[cheese]

Married, yes, kids, no. Suburbs, no. Middle of the countryside, yes.

A country move is necessary because she lives in a different country, shockingly. We met on an internet dating site, here

So you married her without meeting her? Or is this a different lady? Or... I'm confused.

I remember you making a post once about having tried the traditional, normal route in life, and being utterly bored. Can't remember where or in what context though.

Hang on, I just looked at that link! Although it isn't that uncommon, we've had quite a few romances spring up here [reaches quietly for paper bag] and we're all very....supportive....or something.

 

[Bird]

I was like: Damn, I feel so left out. I'll probably die alone.

Then, I start reading the thread, and by the point I reach the quoted part, I raised my both arms and cheered.

I'm happy, even though I haven't met that innocent nerd yet.

Hahahaha, this made me laugh really
hard for a good amount of time.


"Damn, I'll die alone", hahahahaha.

 

[Lostwitheal]

So you married her without meeting her? Or is this a different lady? Or... I'm confused.

I remember you making a post once about having tried the traditional, normal route in life, and being utterly bored. Can't remember where or in what context though.

Hang on, I just looked at that link! Although it isn't that uncommon, we've had quite a few romances spring up here [reaches quietly for paper bag] and we're all very....supportive....or something.

No, I haven't married anyone from the forum

 

[final-dimension]

Don't sell this forum short. There have been weirder.

I said " I have ever seen" I didn't say the weirdest thread in this forum...

 

[Melkor]

Who is it? It's not me, is it?

I mean, I'm still in hiding after the last fellow showing up on my door demanding we were to be wed. I think his name was Meldor, Melvor or something like that

WHO WAS IT!?

I'LL KILL THE BASTARD!

 

[Kala]

I'm an INTP female, and I've been dating an ENFP male for two years. I was really happy with it at first because I found his extrovertedness to be interesting and useful to me, since I suck in social situations. I met most of my friends through him. However, he does tend to get really emotional and occasionally depressed, and when that happens, I don't really know what to do/say, and I just get frustrated when he won't listen to me. I've also noticed that he tends to make everything all about him; for instance, if I were to say that something was bothering me, he would turn it into "oh I'm such a bad boyfriend I'm sorry" etc and then instead of him comforting me, I'd wind up comforting him! I can never rant and rave at him, because he won't argue back, he'll just get upset.
That being said, I think in general I prefer more introverted, quiet types.
I am super attracted to "nerds" and people with the Thinking preference; I love intelligent people and conversations.
I also like guys who are neat, and I in general I like people who are on time or early--I'm always super early for all of my appointments/meetings etc., I am kind of 60/40 on the P/J, because while I have some J traits, I am more P--I'm exceptionally disorganized. But, yeah, I hate lateness.
If this relationship doesn't work out (and lately I've been considering that it won't), I think I'd be most likely to pursue an IN/STJ type.

 

[Bird]

I'm an INTP female, and I've been dating an ENFP male for two years. I was really happy with it at first because I found his extrovertedness to be interesting and useful to me, since I suck in social situations. I met most of my friends through him. However, he does tend to get really emotional and occasionally depressed, and when that happens, I don't really know what to do/say, and I just get frustrated when he won't listen to me. I've also noticed that he tends to make everything all about him; for instance, if I were to say that something was bothering me, he would turn it into "oh I'm such a bad boyfriend I'm sorry" etc and then instead of him comforting me, I'd wind up comforting him! I can never rant and rave at him, because he won't argue back, he'll just get upset.
That being said, I think in general I prefer more introverted, quiet types.
I am super attracted to "nerds" and people with the Thinking preference; I love intelligent people and conversations.
I also like guys who are neat, and I in general I like people who are on time or early--I'm always super early for all of my appointments/meetings etc., I am kind of 60/40 on the P/J, because while I have some J traits, I am more P--I'm exceptionally disorganized. But, yeah, I hate lateness.
If this relationship doesn't work out (and lately I've been considering that it won't), I think I'd be most likely to pursue an IN/STJ type.

Serious question time:

Why have't you ended your
relationship?

 

[Kala]

A few reasons, probably no real good ones.
I mean, I love him, but lately I just feel like I want to be single again; I miss liking people. At the same time, I'm mildly possessive--I don't think I'd want to see him with someone else, although I know I'd get over that if the relationship ended...I mean, rephrase I guess: I wouldn't mind seeing him with someone else, but if I found out that liked someone else or cheated on me right now, while we're dating, I'd be really upset.
Another reason is I kind of want to wait it out and see if I change my mind; it might just be a phase because I haven't been single in a while and I miss it, and if a month or so I'll realize, hey, that was a really stupid phase, I'm happy!
I also have a really hard time making decisions, I think things over for a really really long time before I act, or at least I'd like to be able to take a long time.
A big thing is that I don't want to hurt him, and I know that it's not really possible to not hurt him if I do end it, even though I know he'd get over it. Like I said, he's kind of clingy and super emotional at times, and he's in a state of mild depression at the moment. If I end it, part of me thinks it's better to end it while he's happier, so he's less depressed, but another part of me thinks that'd be worse, since he'd go from happy to depressed.
I'm just really conflicted about the whole thing.

 

[Causeless]

I can never rant and rave at him, because he won't argue back, he'll just get upset.

Gotta love my ENTJ friend, he just smiles and laughs when I do that.

 

[Bird]

I do not mean this harshly, but do you
really think lying to him and making him
believe that you're happy is not going
to hurt him more?

 

[NoID10ts]

Comparing this to my wife .....

Noddy: More down to earth, not easily surprised or shocked. Can handle most things...

...... this is dead on, but the accuracy stops here .....

and are not swayed by emotional appeal. Logic is her finest sense. Quickly raises eyebrow in presence of stupidity and can be a bit too quick to speak her mind- unavoidable offending target. She doesn't care though, "those bastards deserve every word and more so".

Interestingly, the woman you described is exactly the woman I thought I wanted, but in hindsight, I would have killed (or been killed). I base that on (limited) dating experience. Sometimes what we think we'll want isn't what we really want or need. Different is good.

 

[Minuend]

I got Noddy to post in a relationship thread without any penis jokes! Weeeeee!

Oh Minnie, don't play dumb.

Remember that wonderful weekend we spent in Oslo? Or that road trip we went on to see the Northern Lights? Or that pizza place that we robbed at gunpoint..?

Such sweet, sweet memories.

You walking 2 metres behind me with a gun looking away each time I turned is not a date!

WHO WAS IT!?

I'LL KILL THE BASTARD!

*Pushes red button on wrist*

 

[Lostwitheal]

You walking 2 metres behind me with a gun looking away each time I turned is not a date!

Well if that isn't a date... what is?