which 4 users were bullied into leaving?
Banned or bullied into leaving*
Kormak, Serac, Grey man, and myself. There is a reason why I have been inactive since January. Not to speak of the many who were alienated into inactivity.
all but one of you are still here, and kormak can come back and post if he wants. though it does look like 1 of these 4 people have indeed left.
who are the other people alienated into inactivity?
I've been alienated into inactivity.
Also, RedBaron, I'd be happy to personally message you to have discussions. Or Adaire. I've messaged Adaire in the past. I message a lot of people personally.
But frankly, I feel like you straight-up hate me. I don't even think you know me - it's like you just automatically hated me. Your behavior made me feel really unwelcome here. I didn't want to post anymore because I felt alienated and attacked. I'm not saying that what I felt was an accurate reflection of you as a person - I don't believe that. I think you're a much cooler person than all of that. But that's how our experience went down. I've felt the same about Adaire.
Why are you guys so mean? Hate to be childish about it - but lets just simplify the words. You know, voicing an offensive opinion is one thing. Verbally attacking, humiliating, or laughing at someone is a totally different thing. You guys seem to use shame as a method of control.
I can't see why you can't appreciate that we find that offensive. I was reading this form...and there was some good points. Adaire discussed her reasons for her decision, and they seemed valid enough to me - I've not checked in to the situation. I was pleased with her rationality though.
But it doesn't stop there. You guys gang up on the layman like a pair of aggressive dogs and start using character attacks, nasty humor, and public shaming to bully people into submission. That's what we have issues with.
The mods caused Kormak to leave. I've considered leaving. Many people have considered leaving - Rebis included. Both of us are very new members and the only mods we've known are you two. But it was enough that we didn't feel like we wanted the drama. I stayed because things kind of quieted down, but after the incidence with Marbles, I've been a lot less active. I will probably leave if I get attacked more for my opinions.
Not only is it offensive for someone to attack me for my opinions, and shame me and humiliate me for them...it's just like, straight up fucking mean. I come here to enjoy myself and talk to likeminded people, and I have my own issues in life.
I just wanted to find a community of people who are kind to me, listen to me, and make me feel accepted for who I am. I get it. It's sappy and stupid. I shouldn't need this - I should be better than it. But, to be honest, I'm not. I found a lot of friends here - but now, I don't know whether I'll see them from day to day. One day, they might just be randomly banned and I'll never talk to that person again. Furthermore, I feel like I'm walking on eggshells when I post. I think that if you guys knew my philosophies - you'd like me, but you seem to automatically assume I'm your enemy.
So yeah, I've felt really alienated. I was going to leave. Peoples convinced me to give it all another chance. There's no need for me to be part of a community that makes me feel like shit, right?
@Adaire - I understand where you're coming from with your professional detachment, but I think it shoots you in the foot. Try talking to us on the forms like a normal person. Be nice, and let us get to know who you are. Maybe then we won't feel so dominated and controlled.