Are you talking pure imagination? (I did mention male wet dreams in a later post.)
Yeah definitely. I mean, for women, once your imagination really gets going though your vaginal muscles automatically start to contract. So that's part of it but its a natural effect of the use of imagination. I think anaesthatization would be a hindrance and perhaps an impossibility.
Second question. Do you think of yourself as unusual or special? Or do you believe you could take another woman, talk to her in private and teach her how to do the same thing? As a male, I would stay out of it, but I'm wondering if this is a topic to discuss among those of your very special sex?
I don't like the word special but unusual yes. I haven't told many women about it because most of them get freaked out and think it's weird. I'm not sure about if you can teach it or not. So many women have tons of sexual hangups, even women who have a lot of sex. Society pretty much tells us that it isn't ok for us to talk about it, even amongst ourselves, and there's strong stigmas about women enjoying sex. Even in this thread, it was remarked that women seemed more hesitant to come forward. Whether or not that's true is of little consequence, the perception in itself tells us a lot about society and its expectations.
I think for a woman to be able to do it she has to be able to completely let go of any culturally promoted sexual ideas, positive or negative, and just enjoy the act in and of itself. (Maybe also a reason why so few women can consistently achieve orgasm) Letting go can be a really hard thing for someone to do. I think I was initially able to do it because I accidentally stumbled across it at an age when I had not yet been influenced by such cultural stigmas. There was a point in time where it became impossible for me to do it. It was at a point in my life when I was trying very hard to abide by accepted cultural standards (I had an ISFJ friend who was trying her hardest to make me into a clone of herself). When I let go of that and started being myself again I was able to do it again with no difficulty.
Many of my friends got (past tense cause we're not friends anymore) really freaked out by the fact that I'm very open to talking about and enjoying sex, even those who are far more sexually active than I am. My two best friends, another INTJ and an INFJ have both come to a point where they are fine with talking about it. But, as my INFJ said "Wow, we've been friends for so long and we've talked about everything...except masturbation." This is where I think Cheese has made a very valid point. Real friendship means no barriers. If I'm really friends with someone I can talk with them about something as potentially taboo as sex. More to say on that but this post is getting long.
@the person with the question of what I meant by 'concept.' I've heard some guys say that they don't need to think about an actual woman but about something that reminds them of a woman or just a particular part of a woman, not an actual whole woman. Kinda stems from my curiosity about how often my guy friends think about me when they're jacking off...not that I'd ever ask them.
Anyone got a comment on Ti yet?
