Excuses

[Nevermind]

There is no excuse. I'm just a terrible inconsistent person.
I started on this forum early 2009 and I loved it..then I got distracted and then I stopped..for no reason except that..no..just no reason really.
I want to give a reason, but the more I think about it, the less certain I am that I can.

Does anyone else ever find themselves trying to come up with elaborate excuses or reasons to explain their less than efficient behaviour?
As an INTP I suppose I feel the need to overanalyze and explain my own behaviour, if not for others at least for myself. Am I alone?

Am I the only one who joined this forum, loved it here, and then just suddenly stopped posting for no reason? And wanted to come back and start posting again but never got around to it(until now, if I decide to post this)?
Is it an INTP thing? Or specifically a P thing?
Or am I just a terrible inconsistent person, as I said?

Perhaps I'm just babbling incoherent nonsense. Forgive me.

 

[phantome]

I don't really have anything insightful to offer, just wanted to say that I experience all of the things that you mentioned

 

[Cognisant]

Does anyone else ever find themselves trying to come up with elaborate excuses or reasons to explain their less than efficient behaviour?

An overtly complicated answer is often the means of concealing from oneself a painfully simple answer, that one simply doesn’t want to accept.

Of course I know this because do it a lot...

 

[Darby]

ditto, I think we're all in the same boat. The forum however is still new enough to me that I haven't left it yet.

 

[Nevermind]

Thanks to all three of you for replying. Good to know I'm not the only one.
And that is an interesting thought OreSama.

I hope that this time I'll be here a while.

I'll say things like that to an ISTJ friend of mine, I'll say "I want to paint something this weekend" and she'll say, "you should" and I'll say, "Hopefully I will" and this is where we lose all understanding of each other, because she replies "What do you mean hopefully? Just do it then!" and I'll say that it's not that simple and she won't understand at all. This, like many conversations I have with her, usually ends in me accusing her of being naïve and her accusing me of being cynical and weird.

Anyone else have experiences like that regularly?

 

[Tempestas]

I get into arguments with my dad all the time about that very thing. He's an INTJ. Whenever I ask him if he's seen something I'm looking for, he accuses me of being irresponsible and that, if it mattered to me at all, I'd know where it was. The second I try to explain it he pulls the 'I'm right and I'm not listening anymore' card. *continues mumbling incoherently* Grr....

(It's the same thing, really)

 

[Chimera]

*nudges her join date and post count*
Inconsistent, flighty, distractable? Me? Pffft.
I've developed a hesitancy toward commitments because of that tendency. I know that something that sounds good to me one day might be something I don't want to do the next. Annoys the hell out of my friends. "Hey, do you want to ______ next week?" "Maybe, I dunno."
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[Nevermind]

I get into arguments with my dad all the time about that very thing. He's an INTJ. Whenever I ask him if he's seen something I'm looking for, he accuses me of being irresponsible and that, if it mattered to me at all, I'd know where it was. The second I try to explain it he pulls the 'I'm right and I'm not listening anymore' card. *continues mumbling incoherently* Grr....

(It's the same thing, really)

I see what you mean, though one of the few people that I truly get along with and can relate to on nearly all levels is a close INTJ friend of mine. The only real disagreement I have with her is her tendency towards the yoga/spiritual/vegetarian/healthy/yogurt-fancying lot, while I tend more toward the nihilistic.

ISTJs, on the other hand, seem to be the most frustrating people I know.

*nudges her join date and post count*
Inconsistent, flighty, distractable? Me? Pffft.
I've developed a hesitancy toward commitments because of that tendency. I know that something that sounds good to me one day might be something I don't want to do the next. Annoys the hell out of my friends. "Hey, do you want to ______ next week?" "Maybe, I dunno."
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That sounds quite a lot like me.
Plus I'm terribly indecisive and I get really frustrated when forced to make a quick decision.

 

[dbtng_thomas]

Hello Nevermind

I also left for no reason and came back on a sudden impulse. No idea how long I'll stick around this time. Looks like common behavior for us.

 

[Mello]

I usually know the reason, but they change over time.