Drinking Alone

[Smooch]

I see nothing wrong with it.

Please share your drinking alone or any interesting drunk stories.

Salut

 

[joal0503]

compare it to

"drinking with a bunch of obnoxious drunk people you dont like anyways, in a loud crowded bar full of shit you dont find to be appealing, surrounded by middle school locker room conversation and tubs of shit sober people would otherwise never say in public... all of this on top of paying nearly twice the rate af which booze and beer normally goes for at a liquor ship"

...yea...im hung over

 

[Hadoblado]

No problem with it?

I guess when you compare it favourably to drinking with idiots then it can sound alright, but i think the most important comparison is with the sober alternative.

When people drink with friends they are doing so to facilitate socialisation, and they are willing to temporarily give up a whole bunch of IQ and endure long term consequences for the fraternization. It's a trade-off.

When you drink alone, what benefits do you get when compared to sobriety?

 

[Smooch]

I actually prefer the company of people when I drink, I find that my friends aren't usually idiots.

However my goal tonight was falling asleep sooner than usually, as I've been going to bed at 3 and 4 AM, which is not acceptable.

Other than that I've done it to pass the time.

@joal0503 I like crowded bars full of shit.

 

[MichiganJFrog]

When you drink alone, what benefits do you get when compared to sobriety?

A temporary reprieve from thoughts and feelings that one believes are intolerable.

 

[joal0503]

the simple dionysian pleasure that arises from an alcoholic beverage is enough for me.

 

[Lot]

Drinking alone is nice. Being slightly drunk is a pleasant feeling and doing stuff by your self is fun. Like getting drunk and playing video games.

There are those times when I start to drink only to realize that I want some company and it enhances the feeling of loneliness. Those times aren't so fun. I usually look for my room mate or get online and talk to my brother and troll my friends. That seems to help.

I like to drink with other people, but I hate getting drunk at a large gathering, unless it's a bar, but I still need a friend or two to lower my fear of drunk morons.

The worst is when you drink just too much and you get the spins when you lay down for bed. Maybe hangovers are worse? I had a 2 day hang over after my 21st birthday. I woke up drunk still, not knowing it, and drove to my church which was 45 mins away. Half way through service my drunk wore off and the hangover kicked in. Then the memory of grabbing some girls crotch and trying to pick a fight with her BF, set in. Strangely, I didn't even leave my house that night; other than when my friends drug me to get more beer for them. I wasn't going to drink any more after my buddy let me finish off his moon shine. That's when my friend invited his two friends (the couple) to join us. I had made the rule, no girls, because I planned on getting totally bombed and didn't want to rape nobody. oops No repercussions, other than getting slapped by a powdered doughnut, and the shame. Although I was a living legend among the men in the area. People I never met were telling the story. My older brother (who was there) still bring it up at parties. He said I sounded like Mitch Hedborg the entire night. I vaguely remember such a thing.

Perhaps that's why I like to drink alone better than in groups.

 

[The Gopher]

Don't drink alone drink with the skype group on google plus!

 

[Lot]

Don't drink alone drink with the skype group on google plus!

There's a skype group? Now all I need is a web cam.

 

[Tony3d]

I only drink alone, and I only drink when I have thoughts in my head that won't stop spinning. When I have negative thoughts and no logical way to beat them, i just drink until those thoughts go away and I can sleep in peace.

 

[redbaron]

Pathetic.

 

[TheScornedReflex]

Having a few beers after work is fine, but getting drunk on your own suggest's you have (personal) problems. You should seek help.

 

[Etheri]

Drinking alone is nice. Being slightly drunk is a pleasant feeling and doing stuff by your self is fun. Like getting drunk and playing video games.

There are those times when I start to drink only to realize that I want some company and it enhances the feeling of loneliness. Those times aren't so fun. I usually look for my room mate or get online and talk to my brother and troll my friends. That seems to help.

I like to drink with other people, but I hate getting drunk at a large gathering, unless it's a bar, but I still need a friend or two to lower my fear of drunk morons.

This.

I drink alone and with people, for slightly diffrent reasons. I get high alone and with other people, same reasons. It's perfectly fine and in my eyes acceptable to drink without companions. Why would you need to do it in group?

 

[Tony3d]

Having a few beers after work is fine, but getting drunk on your own suggest's you have (personal) problems. You should seek help.

I used to drink alone until I passed out at least 5 or 6 days a week...

Sometimes I just want it to all go away, all the thoughts, all the pent up anger at the people around me that I never let out, all this searching for a way to be happy when there are no answers available, all this hating the world for putting me in a situation in which I cannot logically win...

Am I the only one here that hates being an INTP?

 

[redbaron]

Why would you need to do it in group?

Why would you need to drink in the first place?

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

Why would you need to drink in the first place?

Just a wild guess, you don't have much experience drinking alchoholic beverages (or consumming any intoxicants) do you?

Nothing wrong with that. It just seems based on this and your first comment you seem to be criticising it without knowing the effects (which vary wildly from person to person so if you have and didn't like it that doesn't mean everyone else experienced it as you did).

 

[Puffy]

I currently drink very rarely as I only have the money for books or booze.
Books.

I've never been drunk on my own before, though it does sound fun. I go on evening strolls a lot. And I'm a projectile vomiter. I'm sure it'd make a good concoction.

Maybe I shouldn't get drunk on skype - fear for my webcam - though I'm curious, maybe next semester.

 

[Automaton]

When I was a little younger and before I was 'legal' I used to drink all the time when home alone, which happened quite often. I could just as easily have met up with a group and got hammered together but I really didn't enjoy the noise or the company. It was my late teens and I was feeling pretty negative about alot of things from school/Uni too women and the point of the world. When alone I would often stay up to the mornings first light just starting at the night sky, my brain going into overload wringing out a bunch of depressing thoughts. Getting slightly drunk took the edge off all this and since I couldn't think clearly I couldn't ponder all the shit I hated about the world.

I used to drink alone until I passed out at least 5 or 6 days a week...

Sometimes I just want it to all go away, all the thoughts, all the pent up anger at the people around me that I never let out, all this searching for a way to be happy when there are no answers available, all this hating the world for putting me in a situation in which I cannot logically win...

Am I the only one here that hates being an INTP?

I tried to close my eyes and drift off peacefully before passing out but yes, I’ve used drinking as an escape from my anger and despair from the age of 16. I still feel the same way to an extent as I did a few years ago. I felt completely disconnected from almost everyone at my school and to this day I'm uncomfortable with many people who try and engage me. I still do hate the world and fail to see any way I can be truly happy with it. Always feeling detached, analytical and on a completely different wavelength. I've been able to gain a small group of friends who I enjoy the company at select timesand even a girlfriend (INFJ) who understands and accepts all my eccentricities while we can talk about alot of things without hesitation. Despite this, sometimes I feel like I’m faking it all and would prefer to just withdraw from everything and observe the world go by for the rest of my life. These are the times when I may still drink alone.

Do I hate being an INTP? It varies on how I'm feeling at time it's an emphatic yes and other times it's a more hesitant no.

 

[redbaron]

Just a wild guess, you don't have much experience drinking alchoholic beverages (or consumming any intoxicants) do you?

Nothing wrong with that. It just seems based on this and your first comment you seem to be criticising it without knowing the effects (which vary wildly from person to person so if you have and didn't like it that doesn't mean everyone else experienced it as you did).

Er no. People acting like they, 'need' alcohol is pathetic.

I was shitfaced 3 days ago at a work function, as I have been plenty of times. It's can be fun drinking while socialising, but even then I've had plenty of fun nights without alcohol as well.

There shouldn't be any, 'need' for alcohol. People drinking themselves to sleep while alone, or drinking close to every night alone? Anyone who gets drunk 3-4 times a week should congratulate themselves on being an alcoholic.

 

[Solitaire U.]

I'm a speed freak by nature (now retired). After reading the replies, I'm inclined to believe it's a polar opposite experience to drunkenness. In my 44 years of existence, I've been truly shitfaced drunk on just one occasion, and I only remember it as a horrific vomit-fest.

 

[Minuend]

Er no. People acting like they, 'need' alcohol is pathetic.

I was shitfaced 3 days ago at a work function, as I have been plenty of times. It's can be fun drinking while socialising, but even then I've had plenty of fun nights without alcohol as well.

There shouldn't be any, 'need' for alcohol. People drinking themselves to sleep while alone, or drinking close to every night alone? Anyone who gets drunk 3-4 times a week should congratulate themselves on being an alcoholic.

Who said anything about 3-4 times a week?

Well, I would drink alone every weekend if Latte wasn't here visiting me. I have one friend who lives around here, but she is mostly gone studying, so the ecstatic joy that comes with alcohol must be reached alone.

 

[cheese]

Drinking alone doesn't mean getting drunk though.

If you're getting drunk alone, maybe that's a bit dodgy. I drink because I like the taste. I don't like being drunk. Having the 'edge' taken off is really watching my brain take off. But alcohol has its own special taste. It's like a spice. And I like beer. I don't see how there's anything weird at all about having a beer on your own. 20 beers on your own, maybe. But not 1 or 2. Or a glass of wine? Or cocktails, if you're into that. Or vodka shakes, if you're into that.

Being very slightly buzzed can sometimes facilitate the creative process too. For me, anyway. It loosens things up.

I assume we're not debating the sanity of having *any* alcohol alone, just getting drunk alone? I can't imagine having a glass of wine with a book to relax is considered weird or pathetic in any circle except flatly anti-alcohol ones. Some people drink for health too.

 

[Deleted member 1424]

huh
I prefer drinking alone. I simply have a better time alone than with people. (which is really no different from sober Adaire, and there's no reason it should be) In social drinking situations I quite commonly wander off by myself after the first hour, when over-stimulation kicks in. (especially if it's a calm starry night). I am a very happy, contented drunk, and I don't get myself into trouble when left to my own drunk devices or cry myself to sleep out of loneliness.

The stigma is asinine and it certainly doesn't help deter or rehabilitate actual alcoholics. It's simply a favored indulgence of self righteous pricks who cannot conceive that anyone would dare operate differently from the norm.

My most common motivation for drinking is to feel warm.
Weird, I know.

 

[Tony3d]

Er no. People acting like they, 'need' alcohol is pathetic.

I was shitfaced 3 days ago at a work function, as I have been plenty of times. It's can be fun drinking while socialising, but even then I've had plenty of fun nights without alcohol as well.

There shouldn't be any, 'need' for alcohol. People drinking themselves to sleep while alone, or drinking close to every night alone? Anyone who gets drunk 3-4 times a week should congratulate themselves on being an alcoholic.

I can drink 6 nights a week and still not be an alcoholic.

The simple fact is, I hate alcohol, it is just on some occasions I hate thinking more than I hate the alchohol.

There is zero desire for the alcohol itself or the feeling it brings.

 

[Cavallier]

I suspect the motivation behind drinking combined with the amount is most important in diagnosing alcoholism.

Personally, I don't mind drinking with others so long as it's a carefully handpicked group of people I don't hate.

But I drink alone a lot to. *shrug*

 

[Duxwing]

I used to drink alone until I passed out at least 5 or 6 days a week...

Sometimes I just want it to all go away, all the thoughts, all the pent up anger at the people around me that I never let out, all this searching for a way to be happy when there are no answers available, all this hating the world for putting me in a situation in which I cannot logically win...

Am I the only one here that hates being an INTP?

Though this question may be personal, I will ask: have you sought out therapy? Trained professionals could help you find better outlets for your anger. As for hating the state of INTP, there are two roads out:

1.) Look for the good in your type
a.) Your type is mankind's purest thinker-- neither practicality nor emotion clouds your view of what could be.
b.) Study logic and appreciate its beauty.
c.) Start a formal debate in the Formal Debate sub-forum.

2.) Integrate your inferior
a.) On a small scale, find humor in the illogic of others, then ask them if they could use some help.
b.) On a large scale, find humor in the illogic of others, then solve the grand problem that they face.
c.) Make warm, witty comments-- "Teacher, teacher, humans' mitochondrial heat byproduct makes hugs warm"-- and enjoy the satisfaction of a happy "Awwwww".

So give it a try, perhaps you'll find something warm and fuzzy in your heart.

-Duxwing

 

[Tony3d]

Though this question may be personal, I will ask: have you sought out therapy? Trained professionals could help you find better outlets for your anger. As for hating the state of INTP, there are two roads out:

1.) Look for the good in your type
a.) Your type is mankind's purest thinker-- neither practicality nor emotion clouds your view of what could be.
b.) Study logic and appreciate its beauty.
c.) Start a formal debate in the Formal Debate sub-forum.

2.) Integrate your inferior
a.) On a small scale, find humor in the illogic of others, then ask them if they could use some help.
b.) On a large scale, find humor in the illogic of others, then solve the grand problem that they face.
c.) Make warm, witty comments-- "Teacher, teacher, humans' mitochondrial heat byproduct makes hugs warm"-- and enjoy the satisfaction of a happy "Awwwww".

So give it a try, perhaps you'll find something warm and fuzzy in your heart.

-Duxwing

The pure logic comforts me, it is the disharmony between that and my uncharacteristically strong shadow that really bothers me.

It is when Fe comes up that things get messy, it is when my Ti exhausts itself trying to find a way to save my Fe from the loneliness that things always break down for me.

But since learning about the specific functions I have gotten better about controlling them. At the moment I rarely drink at all.



But even when I was drinking a lot, I would never consider myself an alcoholic, simply because I would randomly just stop drinking and not even look back or notice it. I would just think one day... hey... I havn't had a drink in 6 months... that's odd...

Alcoholics don't just accidentally stop drinking.

 

[Duxwing]

The pure logic comforts me, it is the disharmony between that and my uncharacteristically strong shadow that really bothers me.

It is when Fe comes up that things get messy, it is when my Ti exhausts itself trying to find a way to save my Fe from the loneliness that things always break down for me.

But since learning about the specific functions I have gotten better about controlling them. At the moment I rarely drink at all.



But even when I was drinking a lot, I would never consider myself an alcoholic, simply because I would randomly just stop drinking and not even look back or notice it. I would just think one day... hey... I havn't had a drink in 6 months... that's odd...

Alcoholics don't just accidentally stop drinking.

I'm glad to hear that you can maintain control over your substance consumption and other behaviors. That in itself is a feat. Now, you didn't answer my original question, have you sought therapy? I used to be lonely, too; five years of therapy and three years of experience later, I seem to get along nicely.

-Duxwing

 

[IdeasNotTheProblem]

But even when I was drinking a lot, I would never consider myself an alcoholic, simply because I would randomly just stop drinking and not even look back or notice it. I would just think one day... hey... I haven't had a drink in 6 months... that's odd...

Alcoholics don't just accidentally stop drinking.

That's exactly what I'll do. It's kind of all or nothing. I'll go from getting drunk every night to just nothing at all without much effort. What's difficult for me is maintaining a 2-3 drink/night routine.

I think Alcoholics are classified simply by how much they drink and not by how dependent they are. This tends to discourage a lot of widespread denial around the issue. So if you can go from an alcoholic one day, to the next you're not, then consider yourself lucky.

 

[TriflinThomas]

No problem with it?

I guess when you compare it favourably to drinking with idiots then it can sound alright, but i think the most important comparison is with the sober alternative.

When people drink with friends they are doing so to facilitate socialisation, and they are willing to temporarily give up a whole bunch of IQ and endure long term consequences for the fraternization. It's a trade-off.

When you drink alone, what benefits do you get when compared to sobriety?

Shit is way more fun.

 

[redbaron]

Drinking alone doesn't mean getting drunk though.

If you're getting drunk alone, maybe that's a bit dodgy. I drink because I like the taste. I don't like being drunk. Having the 'edge' taken off is really watching my brain take off.

This is really what I'm getting at, in a less elegant way.

I don't care if people drink because they enjoy the flavour. But if people are getting drunk alone that's pretty sad. I can't really condone people getting drunk to cope with over-thinking or stress.

Then again I don't have trouble sleeping or coping. I can't speak for what others have gone through or how they feel and won't pretend to understand, but I see it as pretty weak to treat alcohol as a method of feeling better.

 

[joal0503]

huh
I prefer drinking alone. I simply have a better time alone than with people. (which is really no different from sober Adaire, and there's no reason it should be) In social drinking situations I quite commonly wander off by myself after the first hour, when over-stimulation kicks in. (especially if it's a calm starry night). I am a very happy, contented drunk, and I don't get myself into trouble when left to my own drunk devices or cry myself to sleep out of loneliness.

The stigma is asinine and it certainly doesn't help deter or rehabilitate actual alcoholics. It's simply a favored indulgence of self righteous pricks who cannot conceive that anyone would dare operate differently from the norm.

My most common motivation for drinking is to feel warm.
Weird, I know.

^ hoooray

People come and expect there need to be a reason for 'drinking alone' as if it by itself is detrimental, pointless, or otherwise not as healthy as it is in a social setting.

bottom line alcohol and its effects are not dependent upon social setting. you could probably make a reasonable argument that alcohol alone vs alcohol with people is yet another exaggerated extreme society likes to put under a microscope.

now, a legitimate drinking problem...that to me is an entirely different thing (omg im just in denial right?) but what exactly do people think is so morally apprehensible about drinking alone? I dont get how people can criticize drinkers, when they themselves openly engage in essentially the same behavior only under different circumstances.

god i need a beer.

 

[Duxwing]

Society at large tends to use alcohol like grease for the gears and sprockets of its mighty socialization machine. Every day, perfectly healthy people inebriate themselves in order to relax and play with their friends and loved ones, but rarely do they simply sit down and drink to experience intoxication or flavor for their own sakes. Moreover, those addicted to alcohol will drink regardless of the social setting, thus causing them to drink alone.

Hence, most conclude that those who drink alone are drunks, for to them, there is no reason to partake in hard beverages without the company of others. In turn, one can easily imagine that those who assume that solitary drinking reveals alcoholism would request or even require a reason to sip spirited swill in solitude.

-Duxwing

 

[crippli]

I will advice to drink alone, especially if the plan is to drink yourself unconscious. Set up everything you need in advance. Be at a familiar place, as when your mind slips away, the body will operate automated by memory.

I've gotten in all sorts of trouble when doing this in public. I think the main problems tend to be the lack of familiarity. Once there was actually some idiot(also drunk) that had gotten angry(no idea why), that took his car and tried to drive me over. What fool, probably didn't know about my immortality. Apparently, I bounced from the front window and landed some place behind the car. All of this I've been told, the car had about 60km/h on impact. And of course, when he realized what he almost did a week later, he cried , and wanted to be my best friend ever. I just told him to attempt a little bit more thinking before acting. And that he was lucky it was me he tried to run over, because if it had been someone else he would now be in jail for manslaughter. <-probably why people can be annoyed..

In any case, the lesson learned was not to surround your self with idiots when enjoying the state of intoxication. It may not only be unnecessary dangerous, but may also foul the experience.

These days I drink rarely, probably at best just a few glasses of wine during one week. But I still consider the alcohol intoxication almost to the brink of death, to be a great reset. It's a shame it's as dangerous as it is.

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

That's exactly what I'll do. It's kind of all or nothing. I'll go from getting drunk every night to just nothing at all without much effort. What's difficult for me is maintaining a 2-3 drink/night routine.

I think Alcoholics are classified simply by how much they drink and not by how dependent they are. This tends to discourage a lot of widespread denial around the issue. So if you can go from an alcoholic one day, to the next you're not, then consider yourself lucky.

I had the same problem. I would make sure I had plenty on hand before taking a drink. I didn't want to be drunk but not drunk enough because my judgement would get so bad I'd go out and seek more which as we all know gets dangerous.

Now I almost never have more than 3 drinks (it's usually one) if I drink anything at all. Age and a wide range of circumstances led to this change in me. I'm on a lot of pain medications and the effects of drinking while on them is not enjoyable to me at all but I was losing interest in getting intoxicated well before then. Maybe in time (I have no idea how old you are now) you will find it changing for you as well.

 

[Niclmaki]

I drink like twice a year, and when I do, I never have more than 1 drink or so. It just doesn't taste that good, and I dono. Meh.

Back back to the main question. I only ever drink alone, unless it's like new years and I toast or something.

 

[own8ge]

I don't know better then doing stuff alone. Seems to bother me when hearing people talking about their (girl)friends and what they do.

 

[Tony3d]

I'm glad to hear that you can maintain control over your substance consumption and other behaviors. That in itself is a feat. Now, you didn't answer my original question, have you sought therapy? I used to be lonely, too; five years of therapy and three years of experience later, I seem to get along nicely.

-Duxwing

I don't need therapy, I need people I can trust.

 

[Proletar]

I usually don't like drinking, and I usually don't drink. Sure, it's social and you do crazy (stuff that you don't normally do, meh) but on the other hand, the reason you can do it at all is because you don't care; it's not worth anything to you. So why consume something that makes you do stupid things that you don't really even enjoy by doing them?


When I do drink though, I do it. Last time, I bought four bottles of wine and a bottle of whiskey. Drank them all in four days time and was basically shitfaced around the clock. That should have been about four months ago. I'm a quite extreme person. :/

 

[Kaladin]

I am drinking alone right now. It's probably the first time I've done it properly, other than the occasional times experimenting with alcohol when my parents were out when I was a kid.

I'm not a happy person right now.

 

[HDINTP]

When you drink alone, what benefits do you get when compared to sobriety?

Actually it has forced me to study effectivly once (for school) otherwise it would be counterproductive I think...

 

[HDINTP]

I do not drink alcohol anymore (almost)

 

[Smooch]

wow, this thread elicited far more responses than I expected...

I always thought alcoholism would be decided based on a person's dependency, which is why it's also called alcohol dependence.....

for example, a person may have one drink every day, but if they HAVE to have it then they would be considered alcoholic...

 

[Etheri]

Why would you need to drink in the first place?

Meh. To stop thinking, to stop caring, to feel diffrent than usual, because it does help me in certain situations or with certain things...
But most of all, probably just escapism? It's not that being drunk alone is any better than the daily life, nor that i actually really care (I care, but not exactly much...), it just seems to erase the question completely.

Also, to stop thinking at times? To feed my misanthropy? To forget? To be social? To be stupid (oh yes.)... Why not?