Don't like people going through my stuff

[Flawed_Ravvn]

I can be very protective of my stuff like phone, laptop, and ipod. I hate it when people look through them, its not that I have anything bad on there, I just hate it when you go through my stuff, especially my parents.

I was wondering if this is just me or if other INTPs have the issue?

 

[peoplesuck]

Same for me, i think its because you want to be ...not understood? I refuse to give anyone my MP3 ever. My MP3's language is in Japanese so if someone looks or steals it they are fked.

 

[Pyropyro]

It's just setting personal boundaries which is good.

 

[TimeAsylums]

You know who else doesn't like that

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[kris]

In my second year of college I lived on the living room flor of a two bedroom apartment shared with three other people. I had almost no privacy, but I was okay (far from ideal) because there was no pretense to the contrary.

A year later I was at a different place with a room to myself. One day I ran into one of the building staff who told me I needed to keep my room cleaner (I was working on something and had papers scattered all over the floor). I asked how she knew what my room looked like, and it turned out they had entered my suite without giving me notice and without an emergency issue, which was a violation of my tenants' rights. I was livid. Nothing private was seen, but it was violation of assumed privacy which I found intolerable.

Some times I have hypnopompic/ hypnogogic hallucinations, and most of the time it's people in my space, looking through my things, or spy cameras hidden in my room. While it's not a deep anxiety, clearly it is a bit of a phycological preoccupation of mine.

 

[Happy]

It's just setting personal boundaries which is good.

This.

There's nothing unusual about it. My way of thinking about it is that you've defined these things (your phone, laptop, ipod, etc) as being falling within the umbrella of your personal space. Anyone intruding into this defined personal space is making you uncomfortable.

I wouldn't stress about it. This is why we have passwords/locks/etc.

I definitely relate to your discomfort at parents intruding into this space. My mother was always more aware of my possessions than I was. On the plus side, I never had to clean my room, because mum would always do it as an excuse to snoop through my stuff...

Actually, tangent time.
If your parents are looking through your stuff and gadgets, it could be fun to start messing with them. Start taking elaborate security measures for your possessions. I'm thinking locked boxes, installing a lock on your bedroom door, etc. Spark their curiosity and lead them on a wild goose chase when really you're not hiding anything. Man, there's so many possibilities. I wish I did this as a teen...

 

[Pyropyro]

You know who else doesn't like that

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Nah, he's the sharing type. If you've been bad he'll share his things with you once.

 

[Affinity]

That's my devices are always locked when I'm not using them.

 

[Flawed_Ravvn]

@Kris- Interesting, I'm very interested in medical stuff so I'd be very interested in hearing what a doctor says about that. So those attacks are just brought on by anxiety or is it brought on by something else?

@Happy- I've actually done that before, it gets boring around here so I gotta keep myself entertained somehow.

 

[kris]

The hallucinations themselves are not anxiety induced as far as I can tell. It's a sleep-related thing. I couldn't tell you a specific cause other than it's related to brain activity in an intermediate state between wakefulness and sleep. To describe it from a first person point of view, it's as if I've half woken up from a dream, but the dream is still playing even when my eyes are fully open. The result is visual, and sometimes auditory hallucination which I may or may not recall after the fact.

 

[Variform]

I can be very protective of my stuff like phone, laptop, and ipod. I hate it when people look through them, its not that I have anything bad on there, I just hate it when you go through my stuff, especially my parents.

I was wondering if this is just me or if other INTPs have the issue?

The real issue is privacy. Privacy is important psychologically because growing up, you need to be able to have a mindspace where you can be yourself, without demands and expectations on your character. In this world loads of what we think and feel is put in computers of all kinds, that are online.

I find that really stupid. But okay, people seem to want oppression and don't care about the UN recognized human right of privacy. It is in the charter, look it up.

I think you have the right to privacy and that your parents ought to trust you, if you have proven to be reliable. I would however not put anything on connected devices. It is amazing how stupid kids can be these days, posting their drunken pictures in social media etc.

My advice to anya nd all people is to close social media accounts. It is the moral thing to do and it prevents parents from checking up on you.

 

[EyeSeeCold]

It's just setting personal boundaries which is good.

^

I am pretty sure respect for one's privacy is a pretty normal human expectation. And you haven't indicated any extreme tendencies/beliefs of insecurity relating to your privacy.

I am really not aware of too many people who do like people going through their belongings.

 

[Ex-User (9086)]

I was wondering if this is just me or if other INTPs have the issue?

It's not an issue. It is natural.

It is not INTP thing. It is the human right, or a thing that you can protect and can be compared to many other things that people use to protect, such as teritory, resources and information.

I had my parents go through my stuff as a kid and that at the time made more sense as they had to know what I am doing and to direct me, however, I think that it is very vital to maintain the balance of freedom and control that you give to your children, many important things and the elements that define you come from your actions when you are free to decide.

Now it is much easier, it becomes quite the opposite, I choose moments when I share my privacy with them, because there are so few opportunities and no need from my perspective.

Protecting your privacy is a part of protecting your well-being, if it is valuable for you.

 

[Analyzer]

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[Beowulf]

Same exact thing here. I can not stand it when people go through my things especially when they ask to use my phone/computer. In fact im overprotective on all my possessions and get annoyed easily when people enter my room but its a different story when it comes to my technology. Some people don't understand. But i think the ones that don't are the ones who don't use technology the way we do. By we i mean people who are overprotective when it comes to people going through there phones and tablets. I keep a lot of personal things on my devices and im not talking about my favorite pornos. But my thoughts and ideas and journals. Things of that nature. Privacy is human nature but being intp doesn't necessarily help with the situation. It makes it worse as we do keep alot of our thoughts personal.

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[Base groove]

I sorta alternate.
Half the time I'm totally loose about it and the other half I'm insanely tight. Things pile up and pile up and then I delete it all (metaphorically, literally, pertaining to everything from mail, to trinkets, documents, computer files, facebook posts,... then one day... big purge, all is deleted again.) Either way, I'm quite private and will perceive some kind of violation if I believe somebody has prowled through my phone or computer files or whatever, even if I have no sensitive information at that time.


I always get a kick out of something though - I've read through Android forums on different topics from time to time, just to achieve a purpose and move on, but the point is, that on one thread where a user was looking to clear stored phone numbers on his phone that he only ever texted once, he was informed that this was not possible and then had to suffer an inquisition into the nature of his crimes that would lead him down such a path of wanting to delete things off his cell phone. The same thing happened to the guy who was looking for a good app to clear all of his history.

 

[deadpixel]

I can be very protective of my stuff like phone, laptop, and ipod. I hate it when people look through them, its not that I have anything bad on there, I just hate it when you go through my stuff, especially my parents.

I was wondering if this is just me or if other INTPs have the issue?

It depends on why they are going through it and whether or not they had permission to. It boils down to privacy I think, "stuff" could even be something that isnt even physical for me, it could be something as simple as personal space. My mother who is either an esfj or estj was always in my space and I absolutely hated it, possibly more than anything in the world.

If its to visit or say hi that is one thing, but the invasive nature of the intrusion as if im up to no good or if its done in a way that's just to re-assert her authority and make sure that her presence is known, it really pisses me off and is completely unnecessary.