Do you get along with your type irl? If not, who?

[brain enclosed in flesh]

I find it interesting... because I have one INTP friend, and we totally 'get' each other, but I have a hard time hanging out with him for too long... it's like he reinforces my inadequacies or something, like a bad vision in the mirror.

The people I feel more at ease with, that make me grow as an individual, are more often NFs and SFPs.

What's it like for others?

 

[flow]

Yeah, I actually find most 'intp's boring IRL. I have quite few relatives and friends that are confirmed INTPs, and yes I totally get them and they totally get me, but so what? Why would I want to hang out with another socially uninvolved observer when I could hang out with people who like to actually interact? I prefer the company of ENFPs, ENTPs, ENFJs, and ENTJs to a lesser extent (and they also get me). I love introverts too, but mostly the INFP, INTJ types (I don't really know any INFJs). INTPs are fine and dandy, but I've already got that role filled. Give me some other characters to play with, please! Oh and I don't really care for non-intuitive types. They don't get my jokes, enjoy the same music as me, or generally have anything interesting to say. Sometimes they make me laugh, but alas, I'm usually laughing at them. I'd rather have friends to laugh with!

 

[NeverAmI]

I am not sure I have met another INTP in life, my ex-brother-in-law may have been one. Ultimately he was a major piece of shit but MAN the conversations we had...

I think I would enjoy relating to an un-victimized INTP IRL. I absolutely cannot stand an angst-ridden, victimized INTP.

Before I determined I was INTP I absolutely DESPISED the type, I think an emotional reaction to my own reflections of my past.

 

[Words]

...very similar to yours. Idealists perceivers are easy to be with; They create a relaxing, well-paced(at least i hope so) work-atmosphere. I dislike their tangential idealistic talks though.

I have never met an INTP personally.

I find more growth from being with Ni users though.

 

[brain enclosed in flesh]

Hmm. My husband is an ESFP and we like a lot of the same music (indie rock), although I definitely like more 'weird' than he does, and our senses of humor are pretty different- but a lot of that can be attributed to I vs E, as well. Extroverted Perceivers are just more "BLAHHH!" But he's open to my interests, in many ways (not typology!). I have a far harder time with Js. They just seem like such sticks-in-the-mud a lot of the time.

Here's something cool an INFP friend of mine and I just figured out... you know him as SOTH... I noticed that he puts a finger on these feelings/emotions I seem to be having- he expresses the feeling, the visual of it, knows how to shape it into language- and it's like it's not until he articulates them that I realize they exist.

Meanwhile, he says that I notice the pattern of what he is expressing and place it into something conscious... like I notice the reasons, the logical cause and effect... I see the system behind it, but not in a rigid sense, like an extraverted thinker would, more like how a system is echoed throughout nature... just in varying sizes. If that makes any sense.

 

[Trebuchet]

I get along with other INTPs quite well, mostly. I get along best with INTJs and ISTPs, since we find lots to talk about. I don't find other INTPs boring at all, though.

 

[Regan]

i've never met another intp.. but then again i don't socialize much nowadays.
i think we would get along. i'd also like to meet an infp

 

[NeverAmI]

i've never met another infp.. but then again i don't socialize much nowadays.
i think we would get along. i'd also like to meet an infp

Random thought: I met a Regan back in the day on America Online who was intensely interesting; although we lost touch. I wonder what her type was.

 

[Chimera]

Dunno my exact type.
Intps are fascinating when they're interested in similar things as I am.
Infps are very...wholesome to be around until they get upset.
Infjs are excellent until they try to "fix" me.​

Shrug. People are people, types have strengths and weaknesses. I try to look for the best in everyone. I have a soft spot for ENxJs though. Something about them screams "challenge" to me--there's enough in common for me to be interested in them, but enough of a difference that we clash. ​

 

[Wish]

I find it interesting... because I have one INTP friend, and we totally 'get' each other, but I have a hard time hanging out with him for too long... it's like he reinforces my inadequacies or something, like a bad vision in the mirror.

The people I feel more at ease with, that make me grow as an individual, are more often NFs and SFPs.

What's it like for others?

Pretty much this. I've known a couple INTPs and while it was easy to talk to them about things I always felt like nothing was going anywhere, as if I wasn't growing since we never really challenged each other in any significant way.

The people I like to spend the most time around are definitely NFs, especially INFJs, until (like chimera said) they take it upon themselves to turn me into one of their society-fixing projects because I seem interested in their ideas. They'll assume they know what I want for myself better than I do and try to find ways to put me into situations that will improve me as they see fit. Actually, it's pretty awesome having an NFJ to kick you in the butt and get your Fe more in tune with the rest of your functions..

With NTs, the strict observance of proper logic and rationality (though I hold it dear) can really bother me as it just doesn't seem like something that I can learn from. I can love their ideas, but many times it feels like they reinforce a part of me that I want to distance myself from in order to grow. This is also why NFPs are awesome - they are a lot of fun and learning about their Fi's is pretty interesting and, I think, does more to help me grow than with NTs.

 

[cheese]

I think it depends on which parts of their personality they've developed, but yes, although I don't find them boring, generally there is stagnation.

So sad! Do we all not love each other then?


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I think finding another of the same type who (for whatever reason) is also interested in and willing to push for growth could be very beneficial. Sort of like finding a training partner.

Also, I seem to really like and get along with xSTPSs, for some reason. We 'get' each other on a very intuitive (excuse) level. INFJs are incredibly attractive - the Fe calls out and draws in. Dangerous, really.

 

[Shauni]

Meh, all types have their good and bad points. I have met too many other INTPs, but I think my step-dad is one. We don't talk so much, but we get along.

But really, no personality type is completely immune to being self-centered and obnoxious. I think INTPs are the least-likely to be that way, but I've met a couple (and I knew better than to try to get close to them).

I also dislike how in the rare times I'm upset about something (but I tend not to get too "emotional" unless it's picked on or heightened), T types just dismiss me as being "irrational." I've been guilty of doing this to people too, but I especially dislike it when they are doing something that's upsetting, and even though you tell them to stop it, they ignore you and keep doing it anyway. To me, that's a sign of not caring about anybody at all except for yourself. I know to stop doing something if I'm upsetting people (but they have to tell me first...that's the problem I have with "F" types), but some "T" types don't because you're just being "irrational."

"J" types seem to annoy me the most, especially when they look at me as their "pet project" that they can "change." I think I've had the most arguments with ExFJs who try to "change" me.

You know, people can just be annoying, even INTPs. I'm sure I have my annoying times too. But I guess I had so many bad experiences from people in college, where people think they KNOW EVERYTHING and the UNIVERSE REVOLVES AROUND THEM. Many people from many personality types are effected by this mentality.

 

[ckm]

I don't think I know any other INTPs my age. I rarely mix well with other introverts, as I am too introverted to do any ice-breaking. That said, I spent hours talking with an ISTP a few weeks ago, though we're not in contact.

One of my closest friends is (brace yourself) an ESFJ. Others are an xSFx, ESFP and ENTP. If I can find an ExxP who isn't intimidating and obnoxious, we usually get on quite well. I find it difficult to identify NFs, but my psychotherapist ("my" sounds horribly possesive) is an INFJ, and I feel at home with him. That probably says more about him than NFs though.

In general, J types frustrate me most, particularly SJs. Whether I get on with someone or not depends on more than hir MBTI type though.

 

[brain enclosed in flesh]

Maybe I have a hard time hanging out with INTPs because they make me feel illogical and stupid. I'm pretty convinced now that I'm an ENTP. It's like they won't jump on the bandwagon with my silliness; they just critique my ideas vs getting excited by them... this is what I suspect, anyway.

 

[shadowdrums4]

I believe a 12 year old in my neighborhood is an INTP and we get along quite well. I think though that's because I don't look at him as a child so I actually listen to his ideas, and he listens to mine. It's cool when we start talking about ideas on things, but he has a bunch of interest in video games that I can't get into. Likewise, he doesn't share my interest in music as much. We listen to each other on it but we really don't connect like we do when talking about books or strange theories. I watched him on sunday and we had a discussion about fate, alternate realities, and some other stuff. That was cool.

As for the types I normally hang out with, For ten years my closest friend was an INTJ but we don't talk as much anymore. My ex was an ENFP and so is my brother. My ex was the greatest person ever in my mind. He really listened to what I had to say and cared about my ideas. I like INFPs a lot too. My brother is currently dating one. (and I'm still unsure if I am one) I've noticed that I hang out with a lot of Fs. One of my closest friends is an INFP and another is an ENFJ. My ENFJ friend gives me kind of a push to change things, but not overly so. Although my sister (INTJ) the other day had a conversation with her where she said "Screw you and your logic" (She was joking) and my sister laughed and asked how I was friends with her.

Even though she claims to hate logic and thinking, she's highly intelligent and she is more logical than she likes to admit. Otherwise she wouldn't be able to get me to do anything. (Though she does have a tough time sometimes.) I think I've showed her that you can't always convince someone to do something by saying "You have to", and she's shown me that logic isn't everything, and sometimes it's better to just give up the argument because neither of your opinions are going to change. I also like bouncing ideas off her.
I actually explained to her once that because of the trouble with my INTJ friend, I say even less because she told me "Shut up because no one cares" and ever since I don't think anyone cares so I don't want to talk. She promised me that she cared adding that she would be the "Boots to my Dora [the explorer lol]"
The INFP is pretty similar. I bounce ideas off her and she gives me a new way of thinking about it. I guess those are the people I get along with (Seems to be NFPs or NFJs that don't try to hard to change me) I feel safe around them and eventually I probably will open up to them because I see how upset they get that I won't.
The guy I currently consider closest to me is an ISFP. He and my mom (ISFJ) are the only SP/SJs I've ever really gotten along with. I trust the ISFP with everything though I rarely tell him much. (Then again I hardly tell anyone anything so)
I always feel so rambly on here, and get the feeling that you guys really don't care about all this explanation so I'm going to shut up now.

 

[Words]

.I always feel so rambly on here, and get the feeling that you guys really don't care about all this explanation so I'm going to shut up now.

No no, I personally read everything. It's great to express yourself, feel free. There are people who care.

 

[cheese]

Agreed. shadow, I've been reading your posts with interest ever since I stumbled across your entry in the Angry Club thread. Feel free to be free.

 

[Melkor]

Cheese is an INTP and I've always hated her.

Also, I hate most of the forum members.

Come to think of it, I hate everyone....>>

 

[y4r5xeym5]

I don't know any other INTPs in person. My circle of friends composes of mostly INTJs and ENTPs, with some INFP and INFJ thrown in.

I have never understood the INTP hatred of INTJs either. We get along just fine

 

[Crazythinker1]

Cheese is an INTP and I've always hated her.

Also, I hate most of the forum members.

Come to think of it, I hate everyone....>>

Where's the love Melkor?
*Laughing*

 

[cheese]

Cheese is an INTP and I've always hated her.

Also, I hate most of the forum members.

Come to think of it, I hate everyone....>>

Heh, I hadn't even noticed this till someone bumped the thread again...the timestamp's interesting as well.

I think we'd get along fine irl sweetie pumpkin pie. Why don't you fly out and meet me? You could stab yourself and I could sleep.