By god man, she is bossing me around.

[ProxyAmenRa]

A girl at debating has gotten to know me and now she is bossing me around. No, not any old normal conversation she has with anyone. She orders me, to do shit. What a sad state of affairs?

 

[ElvenVeil]

Tell her to stop ?

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Tell her to stop ?

Ohh, umm, I kind of like the girls with strong personalities. o_O

 

[Jennywocky]

Well, if you're a strong enough guy, and you chose her because she's strong too, what's the problem?

 

[Cogwulf]

Do what she says, but do it obnoxiously slowly.

I've always found it the best way to deal with annoying and bossy people, I do what they ask, but I make sure they're dissuaded from asking me to do things in the future.

 

[The Gopher]

Do what she says, but do it obnoxiously slowly.

I've always found it the best way to deal with annoying and bossy people, I do what they ask, but I make sure they're dissuaded from asking me to do things in the future.

Yeah I found that.... I was fired though.

 

[ElvenVeil]

A girl at debating has gotten to know me and now she is bossing me around. No, not any old normal conversation she has with anyone. She orders me, to do shit. What a sad state of affairs?

Ohh, umm, I kind of like the girls with strong personalities. o_O

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Perhaps I am failing to see what you are trying to say?
The bolded part is just none sense to me, so if it is of any importance then perhaps you need to clarify it.

' She orders me, to do shit. What a sad state of affairs?' suggests that you do not like that she is ordering you around, and in the next quote you like it ??
What information is it I am missing to understand what you are saying?

 

[Cogwulf]

Yeah I found that.... I was fired though.

If your boss is being bossy you don't really have a choice.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

I was quite shocked at first that someone had the audacity to order me around!

 

[socialexpat]

Do what she says, but do it obnoxiously slowly.

I've always found it the best way to deal with annoying and bossy people, I do what they ask, but I make sure they're dissuaded from asking me to do things in the future.

True and better to be so, but that makes you a slave if you do as expected... Then again it depends why and what for you should put a bossy person in the dissuaded position. Sometimes you have to accept that and other times simply not.. if it's not really important in your life or if it is not you that suffers from a power tripping chick. That's how i see it.

 

[Jennywocky]

I was quite shocked at first that someone had the audacity to order me around!

Did she suggest thumbscrews and chained piercings yet?
(Then I'd start to worry. Right now, she's going easy on ya.)

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Did she suggest thumbscrews and chained piercings yet?
(Then I'd start to worry. Right now, she's going easy on ya.)

Yeah, my x-gf was the one who advocated the chain piercings. Irreconcilable differences. I'm too much of a stiff for that.

 

[The Gopher]

If your boss is being bossy you don't really have a choice.

Yeah I think it's all in the name. Boss....

 

[kantor1003]

I like girls with strong personalities too, but I wouldn't like to be bossed around. It indicates that they haven't any respect for you, or look at you as something of lesser value (unless this is some weird ass sex/flirt thing between her and you) and I can't see how you can appreciate something like that (again, unless it turns you on sexually. In which case I urge you to visit spaceyeti's bdsm thread).

Oh, and I really liked the thread title, lol

 

[EditorOne]

Unless you're hoping for a dominatrix, I'm not sure I see the advantage of all of it.

Boss/bossy. Doesn't have to mean "bully" or "authoritarian asshat." If what you're being directed to do is clearly necessary for the organization's success, what's the big whup? The "boss" didn't say please? Meh. If, on the other hand, the directive is "go get me a cup of coffee," or "go pick up my dry cleaning," my response would be simply to walk out the door and never come back, unless in a moment of madness I signed up to be someone's personal assistant. I find that concept repugnant, though, so I don't think I'd ever be in that position.
A lot of people given positions of leadership in the workplace mistakenly think they are given positions of discretionary power. Nah. Unless it's a nepotism appointment, the power extends to those things necessary to make the organization succeed. If you've got petty tyrants thundering about the use of too many paperclips, you need to look for another place to work, that's my theory. Save the thundering for when someone is hooking up the fuel rod in the reactor wrong.

 

[Oblivious]

Proxy:
What's even more surprising to you is that you like being bossed around by her.

http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/Tsundere

If she's attractive and intelligent enough, and she bosses you around the most, congradufuckinglations.

 

[socialexpat]

I like girls with strong personalities too, but I wouldn't like to be bossed around. It indicates that they haven't any respect for you, or look at you as something of lesser value (unless this is some weird ass sex/flirt thing between her and you) and I can't see how you can appreciate something like that (again, unless it turns you on sexually. In which case I urge you to visit spaceyeti's bdsm thread).

Oh, and I really liked the thread title, lol

lol, like i said.. it all depends .. if it is really to boss you around and make you feel like you are worthless .. obviously you wont take it in the long run .. unless you endulge in that stuff.. even then one may turn to that same level of bossing around, so to speak.
On the other hand, it can be fun if there's no real harm attached to it, to do one wrong .. Such stuff can be playful meant and jokingly in a way, maybe a bit of a turn on for some..
I can't imagine Kantor if your girlfriend / wife asks you to please her in the bedroom or requests something that she likes, that you would disagree at some point and not be turned on?
See it from your point, if you would ask in a bit of a demanding way, for a simple blow job coming from your girlfriend/wife.
So again, it depends what bossing around means between two people.. As for BDSM .. There is a diffirent perspective in dominating a person under various forms/conditions.

Don't take this personal Kantor.. It's only a reply.

 

[GYX_Kid]

kick her in the balls

by INTP's systematic method of ego-defragmentation, knowing when to use touches of J

 

[EyeSeeCold]

Bossy is good. Not "boss" bossy, but "what are you gonna do about it?" bossy.

 

[Anthile]

Fine, now make me a sandwich. Pronto.

 

[The Gopher]

YouTube - King Of Anything - Sara Bareilles

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Time to flirt with her in front of her boyfriend. XD "So I was reading the 'Theory of History' today and it had strong arguments against the metaphysical doctrine of dialectics." o_O

"So you're a pole dance? I have a pole."

And wtf gopher? That was too far!

 

[The Gopher]

And wtf gopher? That was too far!

Err... in what way?

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Err... in what way?

I am now dead on the inside.

 

[The Gopher]

I am now dead on the inside.

Did I miss something? I don't get it.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Did I miss something? I don't get it.

The high pitch singing and 80s boy band demeanour.

 

[The Gopher]

The high pitch singing and 80s boy band demeanour.

Yeah it not exactly my choice of music either. For a minute I thought that you thought I personally insulted you somehow, then again with that music....

 

[Bird]

Recently, I stopped doing things the people
told me to do and now I am homeless and have
ten dollars to my name (a little more than, but I
decided that I am going to eat today like a fatass).

Weigh the pros and cons very carefully, my friend.
Not knowing the next time you're going to shower
or where the fuck you're going to sleep is quite
terrifying.


However I doubt you not listening to her will result
in these circumstances for you unless you live with her?
Which I am 100% certain you don't.


So here's my question(s):
Why do you do what she says?

What do you want from her?



I would like you to really think about these things (:

 

[kantor1003]

I can't imagine Kantor if your girlfriend / wife asks you to please her in the bedroom or requests something that she likes, that you would disagree at some point and not be turned on?
See it from your point, if you would ask in a bit of a demanding way, for a simple blow job coming from your girlfriend/wife.

This isn't in the bedroom though. If it's a flirty/sexy thing sure, cool, but if it's just her giving out commands it's not (at least as far as I'm concerned).
Take it personally? Have you offended me? I must have missed it then, damn it!
but ok, Fuck you too!
:P

 

[socialexpat]

This isn't in the bedroom though. If it's a flirty/sexy thing sure, cool, but if it's just her giving out commands it's not (at least as far as I'm concerned).
Take it personally? Have you offended me? I must have missed it then, damn it!
but ok, Fuck you too!
:P

lol.
Well true, thanks .. fuck you too and all the best.

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Recently, I stopped doing things the people
told me to do and now I am homeless and have
ten dollars to my name (a little more than, but I
decided that I am going to eat today like a fatass).

Weigh the pros and cons very carefully, my friend.
Not knowing the next time you're going to shower
or where the fuck you're going to sleep is quite
terrifying.


However I doubt you not listening to her will result
in these circumstances for you unless you live with her?
Which I am 100% certain you don't.

Are you actually homeless?

So here's my question(s):
Why do you do what she says?

Nope. XD

What do you want from her?

I don't think I want anything from her.

 

[Humsai]

Girls like having things done for them. At least she tells you want she wants. Be glad that she's not the type that expects you to do something without telling you what it is and then gets upset at you for not doing it. And you're left confused and baffled when she gets emotional and starts acting weird. Try asking her to do things for you.

 

[BitRogue]

I don't see how this is a problem. Girls who know what they want and say so are useful. They give you purpose.

Now heres the turn on...
If you are truly INTP, you will have visualized the outcome of her request instantaneously. If it doesn't sit well with you (or you just feel like pushing back a little) you should be able to tell her in no uncertain terms as to why she doesn't want to go through with her request, detailing various outcomes, their shortcomings and why it wouldn't actually be a good idea and ending with a suggestion for her to rethink the request and come back to you with something more better thought out that doesn't insult both your intelligences.

Or something along those lines.

She'll be a bit taken aback, realize that you didn't actually say no to her, but at the same time you still said no to her, and she'll be fascinated by the fact that she didn't get the control over you that she expected while simultaneously realizing that her brain is reeling from the onslaught of pure logic and rationality of your rebuttal that she will have to go back to her corner and take a minute to digest everything that just happened to her. And she'll like it. (maybe)

 

[socialexpat]

Mhm.

 

[Tyria]

You could always enjoy it while it lasts.

I imagine the novelty of being told what to do would wear off quickly though...

Have you tried to boss her back?

 

[EyeSeeCold]

Fine, now make me a sandwich. Pronto.

Funny.

Recently, I stopped doing things the people
told me to do and now I am homeless and have
ten dollars to my name (a little more than, but I
decided that I am going to eat today like a fatass).

Weigh the pros and cons very carefully, my friend.
Not knowing the next time you're going to shower
or where the fuck you're going to sleep is quite
terrifying.

How are you communicating?

 

[Bird]

Funny.



How are you communicating?

La biblioteca.

 

[Bird]

Are you actually homeless?



Nope. XD



I don't think I want anything from her.

Yes.



Nope?



I don't think I want anything from her.

(: I wouldn't be so sure about that.



Good luck!

 

[^_\\]

so is it some girl or some girl who is actually the boss? Also is she just making you do shit or flirting somehow (or being half flirty to make you do shit)?

 

[Pospero]

Seriously, the girl's testing you that's all. It's what they do, they don't even know they're doing it most of the time.

The challenging ones are just fielding off unworthy attention, if you stand up to them you're worthy of their time.

Girls don't honestly want a guy that they can be the boss of, come girls share the truth with him...

<preparing to be flamed on first post>

 

[ProxyAmenRa]

Seriously, the girl's testing you that's all. It's what they do, they don't even know they're doing it most of the time.

The challenging ones are just fielding off unworthy attention, if you stand up to them you're worthy of their time.

Girls don't honestly want a guy that they can be the boss of, come girls share the truth with him...

<preparing to be flamed on first post>

She does have a SO and he is quite a submissive fellow, if you ask me.

It is interesting to note that some people mistake generosity for being submissive.

 

[Pospero]

They ALWAYS have a SO, they stay until someone better comes along. Don't wait for the single Ms Right to come along, it'll be a long cold wait.

We both know the difference between submissive and generous, be honest with yourself. I'm nobody to you, my opinion is completely irrelevant. Actually I don't know what my opinion is, I don't have enough information. I'm only going on what little I have.

"Most of the mistakes in thinking are inadequacies of perception rather than mistakes of logic". - Edward de Bono