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ISTP Preference
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Before I create the ISTP test here are a few things about an ISTP in the Grip. If you can relate to most of this during portions of your life, you could be an ISTP.
“Securing love or public esteem (Fe) will bring me wholeness. (Personality Junkie - ITP)
Obsessiveness/Workaholism
I often get an idea or a project that I am working on and I am drawn to completing it. The more complex a project, it drives me to complete it I want to know everything about it. This would be a grip experience. It's like an obsession with understanding MBTI and how I can use it. I do not care necessarily about having the knowledge for the sake of knowing it. I do not have the urge to talk about it in theory. I want to know it to use it, so I am completely obsessed with it for a purpose.
ISTP are typically loners. Not because they want to be, its just easier to do what you want to do when you want to do it by yourself. Waiting for other people cause a slow down in getting things done. We may have friends and trusted colleagues but because explaining what seems obvious takes time and and ISTP if capable will want to do it themselves because they learn by doing, communicate by doing love by doing.
Sometimes projects are bigger than they realize and this requires more work to think about it and do the work. If the ISTP is in learning mode, interacting with others is a distraction because how can you focus on learning and creating hands on, while talking about it. Don't bother me I am working. Working and learning is the same thing
Because working and learning is the same thing to an ISTP, they may not know they are in the Grip experience. They all of a sudden recognize they haven't spoken to another person in hours or that its 4 am and they are still working on a project they started at 6PM the previous day. They may need to rely on a trusted ally to punch them in the face and remind them they need to re engage with other people. I am dragging you to dancing or go shooting or go to a medieval event to reachieve balance with other people
Slippery & Elusive Emotions
Fe is in the subconscious, so all of a sudden you start responding to loves songs or reacting to movies about old friends that you served with that died in the war. You start to feel these feeling out of no where. You look over at your kids and you say how awesome they are in your mind. You normally do not hug your kids often but you realize it has been a while since you told them you love them or you gave them a hug. It causes a strong feeling inside.
Every time you get surprised in an emotional conversation with someone you care about, the default setting is that you do not feel anything in the moment. It is like an out of body experience. You are there but no feelings are present. You are just operating based on cues from the other person. You feel rushed when someone asks you how you feel. If you haven't thought about it or prepared for the conversation, you are forced to give the "appropriate" answer. You probably do not feel it in the present moment. It usually takes a few hours for an experienced ISTP to feel something from a surprised emotional moment and it could take a few weeks for an inexperienced person. If an ISTP is telling you they love you it is because they have been feeling it for a long time but never said anything. They will not be able to tell you if they haven't been thinking about it. Force them and you are going to leave disappointed and feel non romantic vibe.
ISTP have deep feelings after they have been processed. When it is time to move on they can usually do this in front of everyone the are around. Deep down they could be still hurting but they do not know where the hurt is coming from. They can compartmentalize this and move on to other people or events. Again, it takes time to process and the ISTP is processing it small chunks at a time. You would never know it by looking at them.
Conflict-Avoidance, Passive-Aggressiveness, & Desire for Affirmation
ISTP are not dicks to people on purpose. They just have a job to do. They will respect your space while you respect their space. Don't get in the way of them doing/learning. They need to experience life first hand so they want to be around the happenings because that's how they learn. This means they will have an even disposition. You may look at them and think they are cold but strike up a conversation with them on something you have in common and you will see them light up.
ISTP's do want to have some validation for themselves, they will often sacrifice their own opinion if they haven't gotten their fill of approval for the month. This may be just enough social approval to get them through. They are not going to go out on a campaign to get approval but because they spend so much time outside a group, the few times they are inside a group they do not want to rock the boat
ISTP go through cycles of needing people and not needing them. This is even stronger when in the grip. Remember, ISTP need to experience the world through their senses.
ISTP tend to be passive aggressive. They do not want to rock the boat. An ISTP could be getting angrier and angrier and all of a sudden snap. They could all of a sudden just avoid you. The will fight you if they have to but won't if they don't. It's easier to just avoid it.
If you think you are a dick as an ISTP, then you are probably and ESTP in an SeNi grip. Physically want to hurt you to prove a point.
Tell people to straight up honest with you. If not it is easy for the ISTP to make assumptions. Those assumptions can cause you to be passive aggressive with the people close to you and cause all kinds of issues. TiNi the skeptic in the tin hat, All kinds of faulty "logic", remember ISTP use the current context to base their logic. It is their default mode. So lies will produce a faulty logical framework. ISTP have a challenge fixing the real issue because the real issue is not apparent. Don't push them to use Ni to figure it out, they will just turn into the skeptic.
ISTP learn by doing/work, so you need to have a variety of experiences in order to grow. You have to experience the world using your senses. Go eat somewhere you have never been, drive different vehicles or read different types of books. It all will give you frameworks to be ready to act in the moment. If you do not experience learn, you won't grow and you will go into the grip.
Practice using your senses and harnessing the abilities that come from using them. Tastes, smells, touch, hearing, visual cues must be trained. This will help you become aware of your environment. You must push yourself to understand the cues for how you feel and so you can recognize the symptoms. Force yourself to be honest with your partners or close friends with your deep feelings. talk though painful topics and these experiences will help you learn how to recognize how you feel much faster and grow in your relationships.
“Securing love or public esteem (Fe) will bring me wholeness. (Personality Junkie - ITP)
Obsessiveness/Workaholism
I often get an idea or a project that I am working on and I am drawn to completing it. The more complex a project, it drives me to complete it I want to know everything about it. This would be a grip experience. It's like an obsession with understanding MBTI and how I can use it. I do not care necessarily about having the knowledge for the sake of knowing it. I do not have the urge to talk about it in theory. I want to know it to use it, so I am completely obsessed with it for a purpose.
ISTP are typically loners. Not because they want to be, its just easier to do what you want to do when you want to do it by yourself. Waiting for other people cause a slow down in getting things done. We may have friends and trusted colleagues but because explaining what seems obvious takes time and and ISTP if capable will want to do it themselves because they learn by doing, communicate by doing love by doing.
Sometimes projects are bigger than they realize and this requires more work to think about it and do the work. If the ISTP is in learning mode, interacting with others is a distraction because how can you focus on learning and creating hands on, while talking about it. Don't bother me I am working. Working and learning is the same thing
Because working and learning is the same thing to an ISTP, they may not know they are in the Grip experience. They all of a sudden recognize they haven't spoken to another person in hours or that its 4 am and they are still working on a project they started at 6PM the previous day. They may need to rely on a trusted ally to punch them in the face and remind them they need to re engage with other people. I am dragging you to dancing or go shooting or go to a medieval event to reachieve balance with other people
Slippery & Elusive Emotions
Fe is in the subconscious, so all of a sudden you start responding to loves songs or reacting to movies about old friends that you served with that died in the war. You start to feel these feeling out of no where. You look over at your kids and you say how awesome they are in your mind. You normally do not hug your kids often but you realize it has been a while since you told them you love them or you gave them a hug. It causes a strong feeling inside.
Every time you get surprised in an emotional conversation with someone you care about, the default setting is that you do not feel anything in the moment. It is like an out of body experience. You are there but no feelings are present. You are just operating based on cues from the other person. You feel rushed when someone asks you how you feel. If you haven't thought about it or prepared for the conversation, you are forced to give the "appropriate" answer. You probably do not feel it in the present moment. It usually takes a few hours for an experienced ISTP to feel something from a surprised emotional moment and it could take a few weeks for an inexperienced person. If an ISTP is telling you they love you it is because they have been feeling it for a long time but never said anything. They will not be able to tell you if they haven't been thinking about it. Force them and you are going to leave disappointed and feel non romantic vibe.
ISTP have deep feelings after they have been processed. When it is time to move on they can usually do this in front of everyone the are around. Deep down they could be still hurting but they do not know where the hurt is coming from. They can compartmentalize this and move on to other people or events. Again, it takes time to process and the ISTP is processing it small chunks at a time. You would never know it by looking at them.
Conflict-Avoidance, Passive-Aggressiveness, & Desire for Affirmation
ISTP are not dicks to people on purpose. They just have a job to do. They will respect your space while you respect their space. Don't get in the way of them doing/learning. They need to experience life first hand so they want to be around the happenings because that's how they learn. This means they will have an even disposition. You may look at them and think they are cold but strike up a conversation with them on something you have in common and you will see them light up.
ISTP's do want to have some validation for themselves, they will often sacrifice their own opinion if they haven't gotten their fill of approval for the month. This may be just enough social approval to get them through. They are not going to go out on a campaign to get approval but because they spend so much time outside a group, the few times they are inside a group they do not want to rock the boat
ISTP go through cycles of needing people and not needing them. This is even stronger when in the grip. Remember, ISTP need to experience the world through their senses.
ISTP tend to be passive aggressive. They do not want to rock the boat. An ISTP could be getting angrier and angrier and all of a sudden snap. They could all of a sudden just avoid you. The will fight you if they have to but won't if they don't. It's easier to just avoid it.
If you think you are a dick as an ISTP, then you are probably and ESTP in an SeNi grip. Physically want to hurt you to prove a point.
Tell people to straight up honest with you. If not it is easy for the ISTP to make assumptions. Those assumptions can cause you to be passive aggressive with the people close to you and cause all kinds of issues. TiNi the skeptic in the tin hat, All kinds of faulty "logic", remember ISTP use the current context to base their logic. It is their default mode. So lies will produce a faulty logical framework. ISTP have a challenge fixing the real issue because the real issue is not apparent. Don't push them to use Ni to figure it out, they will just turn into the skeptic.
ISTP learn by doing/work, so you need to have a variety of experiences in order to grow. You have to experience the world using your senses. Go eat somewhere you have never been, drive different vehicles or read different types of books. It all will give you frameworks to be ready to act in the moment. If you do not experience learn, you won't grow and you will go into the grip.
Practice using your senses and harnessing the abilities that come from using them. Tastes, smells, touch, hearing, visual cues must be trained. This will help you become aware of your environment. You must push yourself to understand the cues for how you feel and so you can recognize the symptoms. Force yourself to be honest with your partners or close friends with your deep feelings. talk though painful topics and these experiences will help you learn how to recognize how you feel much faster and grow in your relationships.